- Jan 17, 2019
I've never heard of the term silo thinking before. Seems you're using it to mean being focused on one thing, the goal, and as a result not paying as much attention to what's actually going on around you, not taking more time to read others. Which makes sense.Somehow seems like you're in a silo thinking mode right now. Feeling strong pressure to succeed and perhaps missing the cues that you're speeding past with gritted teeth.
I googled silo thinking and found a different definition (working in isolation and not communicating with other members of the team at a workplace). Which ironically is also how I've been feeling - isolated and not using the resources available to me effectively. I've kind of always been this way going it alone which I'm starting to really see the limits of.
At least for me I know this feeling rather well at times. Both good that it makes you feel so driven and taking action, and even better if you remember to do something as simple as pause, take a deep breath, hold it for a few moments, and as you release you also feel the tension and pressure somehow release from your mind and body. Still there but detached, distant. Which gives you the room to think with a clearer mind.
You seem to have great self-awareness so this is probably something more natural to you.
Perhaps take a moment to think about what you're doing well, what you still can improve specifically, and what steps you can take to get there?
I've been practicing the concept of letting go which is similar to what you describe. Actually it did help. The next night after I wanted to crash my car I sat in the car before going out meditating for 10 minutes, letting the negative thoughts come up fully and then releasing them. I felt a lot better and went on to have a great night opening everyone and not caring if I got rejected or not. I wasn't really thinking with a clearer mind though, more unclogging the negativity. I'm sure with more practice being able to think clearly would be a by-product.
It's true that it's a lot easier to see what I'm doing well when I let go of the negative thoughts. For instance, being more physical than I used to be, getting better at making my intentions clear (dirty talking, being unafraid to be sexual or make statements such as "I want to kiss you" with complete conviction). Leading. Gold and Stache both told me "you gotta be more decisive when you do things. Don't say "Hey, what do you say we go do X" and instead be more commanding, "Let's go." "Let's do this". "We're dancing". Which I've slowly been implmenting. Still not fully natural without a couple drinks.
I appreciate it!Just wanted to comment with my thoughts.