The first thing I try to do is pre-open – make sure that I’m in her sight first. Something I’m still working on. As for the actual approach, it varies depending on the situation. Generally I like situational openers best. If there is no good situational opener, a comment on what she is wearing/her style/something else about her. Lastly if I can’t think of anything else (she might be beautiful but just wearing normal clothes, nothing exceptional), or she’s walking past and about to disappear forever, I’ll go direct. For the latter two, if we're walking past each other in opposite directions, I'll walk past her and then jog back, as if I've had time to think about it and decided I want to talk to her (as opposed to just straight opening her which might make her think you do this to every hot girl walking past)
Some examples of how I do it:
1. Situational
Infinite options here, it’s different every time
2. Style opener:
3. Direct opener (for when I can’t think of anything else, actually used this word for word with my ex and a lot of others:
For the second and third examples I always frame it with her in the third person – “Thought to myself that girl”. Not sure why I like it, but perhaps it builds more trust when you relay the thoughts going through your head. I like doing it this way.
From here she’ll usually thank you.
Then, immediately I’ll transition to the next golden question (taken from Hectors DG course), simply asking her what she’s doing:
Purpose of this is to demonstrate that you want to talk to her, that you weren’t just giving her a compliment and then going on your way.
Next will generally exchange names, and then roughly try to hit the following points in the course of the interaction (which is around 5-7 minutes) @GrandPooba put this together initially, I have added a couple of things.
- Three deep dives (where she works, what she enjoys, where she's from. Try to make an observational cold read on these to make the interaction a bit more interesting.
- Two qualifiers (single complement on style/appearance, second on personality). Never two on the same topic. Style/Appearance is already sorted on the opener generally, the second is after talking to her for a bit.
- Share some details about yourself so she knows you on some level, so you aren’t just a random stranger.
- Push Pull (if she says something that you might not like even in the slightest bit, exaggerate that you hate it and walk away “conversation over” in a jokey way before returning with a smirk
- We frame (Date idea, idea of us doing something together to plant that idea in her mind)
- Chase frame
- Elicitation of values and deep rapport
- Close physical proximity throughout the entire interaction
- Double cheek kiss goodbye (to establish more physical contact)
- Energetic open yet grounded presence throughout interaction. Deep voice.
I have a lot to improve upon, I don’t hit all these points most of the time (including yesterdays number close. But for me it’s a good benchmark to work towards. Would love to here if anyone else has anything that would be useful to add