Again i can say the amount of times i saw a dude spitting game and wasting time with an interaction that was not going anywhere and could not get hints... I could a spin that with the problem of not knowing the light system...
Exactly, I’ve seen this same issue with guys wasting time with women or just not trying to seduce them. They’re treading water, essentially.
That’s why testing for compliance and/or escalation (
which is itself a test of compliance) is still the answer and finding ways to increase the compliance and build on it.
‘The Light System’ would not be the answer at any point of the seduction because
without knowing her level of compliance - he has no accurate way to understand or assess her genuine interest or her willingness to continue the seduction further.
Women can
appear un-interested, difficult, unpleasant but they’re highly compliant (which means they’re available to have sex with and are actually cleverly hiding their interest).
Women can
appear interested, pleasant, charming, responsive, happy to be there - but be completely uncompliant at every turn - so no seduction or sex can happen (until that compliance issue is resolved
or not). This is the case where women are cleverly hiding their disinterest.
When a seducer is using ‘The Light System’ - he’s not looking at compliance (or lack of) and worse - he’s not trying to escalate or build more compliance or trying to diagnose why he’s not getting more compliance - he’s simply ejecting and moving on.
‘The Light System’ is too simplistic and reductive to be useful for seduction, unfortunately. It doesn’t help save time, effort or help diagnose (live or after the fact) what went wrong or right in the seduction.
It’s prescribing the woman’s interest (and compliance) is a
magical unknown factor that we should accept unquestionably and move on and hope the next approach is a woman who is interested in us for a magical unknown reason (that we can’t know, measure or increase for it to lead to sex or a relationship).