Does age matter in dating ? Examples of "older" puas flourishing in the dating world

[loeloe]

What do you mean by "whether her standards measure up to you"?

"If she's good enough for you"

If she's attracted to you enough and sees you as higher value, she will try to qualify herself. Even if I hadn't pressed on the age thing, she would talk about how she is mature enough, or she will mention that she, her friends or family have been in age gap relationships. And this goes on even for her height, or anything else.

This kind of qualification is something I've never experienced in my late 20s but now I am starting to experience this at 34. I was always a bit insecure about age gaps in my late 20s IF it was with women younger than 8 years. Slowly I've been noticing a wider increase in the age range of attraction towards me.

After repeated exposure, I am very comfortable with my age, bc I really do believe early to mid 30s is within the prime age for man, I've seen too much of it and experienced some of it to believe otherwise. It's hard to f*ck it if you're somewhat fit and have some social.

But like women, I too believe men naturally have a soft wall. I'm trying to get ahead of this and prepare to ride it out for the longest I can. That's why I'm trying to ask what is the experience with men who are 38, 39, and most importantly, 40!!! 40 and then above...

 

[loeloe]

I don't think being older is a negative at all, it's clearly a positive if you're in shape and make the effort, have your fundamentals down. I don't have any roundabout methods, I'm 50+, she's 20, she knows I'm at least 2x her age, there's no hiding it, I don't try, I don't dye my salt n' pepper hair, I don't pretend to be 35 or 40 or 44 [which is still 24 years older].

I have a decade+ of results with hot college & grad school girls that prove this out. Not one of them have ever given a flying fuck that I've been 2x their age. With the vast majority the age issue has never come up even once. For online game, I just match up with the girls with older preference or no filters, in any big city there are 10s and 10s of thousands of them and just screen for what you like. I won't waste my time on a girl who says she has no interest in anyone over 23, isn’t open to finding out different.

Thank you! My senior seducers who share their experience for us...

Sounds like you're still killing it and gives hope that the ride can continue in our 40s.

Did you notice much of a difference from your 30s compared to your early 40s?

 

[Skills]

Why do they usually not bring it up with you?

I speculate probably because they are interested...

 

[Skills]

in your 20s you can wear basically anything and pull young girls. You’re saying you can’t get away with that when you’re older. So being mid 30s has a disadvantage. You have to compensate with good fashion?

I'd rather not have to wear tight fitting clothes and look like a poser. It just adds more resistance to my motivation to go out. Ideally, I want to wear casual comfortable clothing and rely 100% on game. If that's possible.

From my experience, it's possible but its very hard (as an older man). And the numbers are very flakey so you have to go for same day lays. I'm guessing it's because if you give her time to think about it overnight or longer she will talk herself out of it and not meet up. You've gotta go for the lay while the buying temp is high.

brother kj, please talk from actual experience vs

i think, i assume, i guess, i imagine... That is what we call a keyboard jockey or keyboard warrior....

by the way casual comfortable clothes is actually in style lol... The baggy style came post corona cause people wanted to actually be comfortable...

 

[Skills]

Thank you! My senior seducers who share their experience for us...

Sounds like you're still killing it and gives hope that the ride can continue in our 40s.

Did you notice much of a difference from your 30s compared to your early 40s?

what is your obsession with the 40 birthday?? you are 34...

I don't understand seducers obsessed with what would happen in the future, like brother live and enjoy today.... you are 34 you got 6 years to go to 40... again if you turn 40, you will be fine.... there are many guys here over 40 including myself...

 

[loeloe]

what is your obsession with the 40 birthday?? you are 34...

I don't understand seducers obsessed with what would happen in the future, like brother live and enjoy today.... you are 34 you got 6 years to go to 40... again if you turn 40, you will be fine.... there are many guys here over 40 including myself...

Ya I know it's obsessive

I've got 2-3 more years left until I fin grad school, and it's really hard having a balanced life right now. I do what I can, but my time is pretty locked in for at min. 1 maybe 2 more years... so I'm fixed on my prospects when I'm fully fin, which is around 37 or 38

Idk how other seducers are about future, but right now I'm bummed that I'm grinding at what's possibly the best moment of my life in terms of dating

 

[Skills]

Ya I know it's obsessive

I've got 2-3 more years left until I fin grad school, and it's really hard having a balanced life right now. I do what I can, but my time is pretty locked in for at min. 1 maybe 2 more years... so I'm fixed on my prospects when I'm fully fin, which is around 37 or 38

Idk how other seducers are about future, but right now I'm bummed that I'm grinding at what's possibly the best moment of my life in terms of dating

i know exactly who you are lol... welcome back irt... I missed you

 

[Teevster]

what is your obsession with the 40 birthday?? you are 34...

I don't understand seducers obsessed with what would happen in the future, like brother live and enjoy today.... you are 34 you got 6 years to go to 40... again if you turn 40, you will be fine.... there are many guys here over 40 including myself...

The one thing that sucks in your thirties is dealing with women arouned your age. They get ao aggressive (not in a good way) and generally very bitter and nasty.

Instead I do either younger(20s) or older (40s) women. Much better that way.

 

[Skills]

The one thing that sucks in your thirties is dealing with women arouned your age. They get ao aggressive (not in a good way) and generally very bitter and nasty.

Instead I do either younger(20s) or older (40s) women. Much better that way.

the late 20s and 30s they are usually provider hunting and boyfriend hunting (and they seen more angles, a bit harder to game), so they are a bit difficult to deal with, early 20s are still blooming, 40s have a lot of relationship experience, and not that big into the "lets get married, have to get married, have to procreate etc..."

All ages have their pros and cons, I fuck them all... I don't discriminate... And obviously eventually they fall into frame or they are out!

 

[loeloe]

i know exactly who you are lol... welcome back irt... I missed you

I’m not IRT brother

'Does age matter in dating'

From late 20s to mid 30s, not really in my experience. Possibly a little, but I couldn't tell or haven't noticed much difference in attraction

Can anyone else who has experience in his late 30s or early 40s share their opinions to this matter? Hoping we're honest and not flexing or bs'n, and not being vague or broad with the age band of women, it should be 18-24

It's not that you can't game these women at an older age, I think many of us are wondering, do you attract less women at these later ages? And if so, subtle or pretty notable difference?

 

[KnownUniverse]

brother kj, please talk from actual experience vs

i think, i assume, i guess, i imagine... That is what we call a keyboard jockey or keyboard warrior....

brother, I cant read women's minds so sometimes I guess what the reason is for their behaviour such as flaking.

I don't trust anyone that pretends to know everything.

 

[KnownUniverse]

From late 20s to mid 30s, not really in my experience. Possibly a little, but I couldn't tell or haven't noticed much difference in attraction

Can anyone else who has experience in his late 30s or early 40s share their opinions to this matter? Hoping we're honest and not flexing or bs'n, and not being vague or broad with the age band of women, it should be 18-24

Most guys can't tell when women are attracted to them. You don't know until you approach her and try escalate. Guys think because a girl smiles at them as she passes that she was attracted to him. Or if they are being ignored that the chick is unnattracted to him. Nope. You only know how she feels when you interact with her and shoot your shot.

It's not that you can't game these women at an older age, I think many of us are wondering, do you attract less women at these later ages? And if so, subtle or pretty notable difference?

The closer you are to her preferences the easier she is to pull and vice versa.

Are you asking if women have a preference for men nearly twice their age all things being equal?

 

[gameboy]

It can't be done guys. Forget about dating hot young girls once you're in your 30s. Go and get married with some old fatty already.

...leaves more HBs for the rest of us

 

[Will_V]

It's not that you can't game these women at an older age, I think many of us are wondering, do you attract less women at these later ages? And if so, subtle or pretty notable difference?

This kind of discussion is a waste of time. For one thing you can't measure women's interest empirically. You could only compare results, but unless you do the exact same thing for decades (which nobody does) then you can't extricate the effects of pure age from other factors, such as loss of interest/libido, changes in habit and routine, changes in self-concept and presentation, changes of mental state and self esteem, impact of various life events, changes in life direction and focus, etc etc. And that's even if you can be objective about it, which nobody can anyway.

The truth is that people only engage in such discussions to find a rationale for a preexisting point of view, to find some concept to support their ideas that can't be empirically refuted, so that they can engage in neverending internet debates and feel good about themselves.

At the end of the day if you want a girl you have to find a way to give her the experience that excites her and engages her and arouses her. That is what you should be focused on, everything else is nonsense. Do you have to adjust things this way or that way as you get older? Maybe. That's the question all you cynics should be trying to answer, in practice and through trial and error. Because no matter how many examples you get of guys having sex with younger women, it won't put one in your bed. You have to do that yourself.

 

[Skills]

brother, I cant read women's minds so sometimes I guess what the reason is for their behaviour such as flaking.

I don't trust anyone that pretends to know everything.

you don't need to trust anyone, but we do not "think, assume, especulate"

when we post we post from experience.... if we want to ESPECULATE, we say "my theory is" or "i am speculating based on my experience" we don't think, assume etc... is kj.. nobody pretends to know everything, but some speak from actual experience, experience means dick in pussy multiple times as older with younger...

 

[KnownUniverse]

nobody pretends to know everything, but some speak from actual experience, experience means dick in pussy multiple times as older with younger...

I know a lot of guys like that. Then they reveal they are living in colombia or filipines. Their opinions mean squat to me. I get my info from a wide variety of sources - from guys who are struggling and succeeding.

 

[Skills]

I’m not IRT brother

'Does age matter in dating'

From late 20s to mid 30s, not really in my experience. Possibly a little, but I couldn't tell or haven't noticed much difference in attraction

Can anyone else who has experience in his late 30s or early 40s share their opinions to this matter? Hoping we're honest and not flexing or bs'n, and not being vague or broad with the age band of women, it should be 18-24

It's not that you can't game these women at an older age, I think many of us are wondering, do you attract less women at these later ages? And if so, subtle or pretty notable difference?

cool story! keep the cope till you get banned...

 

[Skills]

I know a lot of guys like that. Then they reveal they are living in colombia or filipines. Their opinions mean squat to me. I get my info from a wide variety of sources - from guys who are struggling and succeeding.

Noone of the posters here live in filipines and Colombia... Facepalm... USA mainly a couple in Europe

 

[average_daygamer]

I see women significantly older than 18 do this. My ex did this and she is 28. I saw women in their 30s do it in London...

Are you really simple? You are missing the point again, as usual.

 

[HeartOfChaos]

Are you really simple? You are missing the point again, as usual.

Maybe stop intentionally (or unintentionally) insulting half the posters on this forum?

What point is that? My point was that the key chain is a trend. It’s most popular with teen and early twenties women, but it carries over to older generations as well. You have to get with the times, or you get left out.

And it’s always good to upgrade your wardrobe and change styles every now and then - for yourself, not for the women…