- Jun 11, 2018
Everything seduction is easier said than done, and every style of game has pros and cons. Consider also that I chose my words carefully... I didn't necessarily say that I'm fully switching to social circle game. I used some social circle examples, yes, but I didn't mean that as I'm fully switching.This sounds nice in theory, but is easier said than done. We all know the limitations of social circle game. If you're a Hollywood star, sure, women will approach you. But 99% of guys must go out, approach and make the first move to get the best quality mates.
I do agree that having an interesting life, pursuits, passions and long-term goals is very important, but I realized I could still work cold approach into my schedule. I can go out 4 times a week, 1 hour each session to do 8-10 sets. Pickup is one of the skills in my portfolio. Therefore, it feels congruent for me to game. After all, pickup is the manifestation of going after what I want.
My point was this: If you're an "unattractive" man that can't even get hooks from young hot girls when you go out and cold approach, you're just wasting your time by continuing to try. Instead, make a change that makes you look "better." For instance, rather than cold approaching by yourself, do it after people have seen you having a good time with your good looking friends. It's just creating a situation that gives you a boost. Now when you do a cold approach, you're not some random stranger that can only be quickly assessed by your physical appearance. Instead you're that cool guy they already saw who has cool friends.
This is even something you can do exclusively cold approaching. I think there's a term for it... Basically you befriend some meh girls when you first get to a venue, then you use them to open hotter girls. You create the illusion you have female friends, even though you went to the venue along and you just met these girls...
Regarding your last point - I wouldn't tell anyone there's only one correct way to game. It's just too nuanced with an infinite number of variables. One key word I used in my post is "desperate." If a guy is cold approaching without ANY desperation, and is getting results he's happy with, then that's good! There's nothing to change.
I would say in general it's probably best for a man to eventually get to a point where more opportunities are presenting themselves to him, rather than him having to perpetually chase for opportunities. But I think this has to do with passions, pursuits, and purpose, and isn't a game style.
Basically what I mean is, if a man really pursues his passion/purpose hard, then eventually that's going to open new situations to him... like maybe he's going to speak at many conferences, or become a leader in an industry, or get interviewed a lot by the press... He will have so many new opportunities like this to meet new men and women, that he will no longer have to, or be able to, schedule two hours a week to chase pussy at the mall.