First Question

[lukeblaze]

Hi guys, I'm new to the forum but not to the community in general, it's my first post and I'd like to ask for help with a question:
First of all, I am 24 years old and despite having some experience, my results are not consistent. I have some insecurities mainly in terms of appearance (weight and glasses), although some girls say I'm attractive I´m working on my fundamentals at the moment. The only problem is that I live in a small town so I would like to know if I should focus on my fundamentals until I can move or if I should practice even in a small town and how I should do it.
I leave here my thanks for the future answers.

 

[Gram]

Well done getting after it. The best time to start was yesterday and the second best is now.

Others may have different opinions but I am strong believer in fundamentals so I recommend starting now. It will improve your confidence and overall demeanor, and set the foundation for when you move. Not only there many articles in Girls Chase but I found the girlschase.tv Fantastic Fundamentals videos to be good structure. They will give you incremental areas of focus, many of which you can do on your own (e.g. you don't need to be in a big city with strangers to practice.)

 

[Conquistador]

appearance (weight

My advice is to not worry too much about it, and simultaneously go for slow and steady cutting via calorie deficits/intermittent fasting or whatever method works for you.

and glasses),

Glasses really aren’t a big deal so long as they’re stylish, but you should still consider getting contacts. For me, it was a life-changing moment.

even in a small town and how I should do it.

Natural game in a small town is fine, although after a while you might develop a reputation as a player (this can be managed by discretion + keeping girls around for longer). So long as you’re not making lots of direct approaches I wouldn’t worry about it.

 

[Gunwitch]

Hi guys, I'm new to the forum but not to the community in general, it's my first post and I'd like to ask for help with a question:
First of all, I am 24 years old and despite having some experience, my results are not consistent. I have some insecurities mainly in terms of appearance (weight and glasses), although some girls say I'm attractive I´m working on my fundamentals at the moment. The only problem is that I live in a small town so I would like to know if I should focus on my fundamentals until I can move or if I should practice even in a small town and how I should do it.
I leave here my thanks for the future answers.

I cut my teeth in an area with 40 or 50 thousand people total and it was no trouble (run into same chick at a club etc). I don't know how small you are talking? I get guys complaining that they are in a suburb of Los Angeles with 200 thousand people (so I'm always skeptical of "small"), small to me is like 5000 people to where it might need a strategy.

Any way you slice it though unless you are being very overtly direct and making bold uncalibrated sex advances you should be able to damn near game in an 10 person office setting. To expound on that @Surveyor said. Good game verbally looks like you are just having a conversation, it should all be covert things you are slipping into her mind. An observer should think nothing is out of the ordinary if you're doing it right.

It's only the guys running up like a peppy little pranksters on a youtube video, that burn venues, clubs, classes, any small place to the ground.

In all game, even if not being extra careful not to blow up a spot, just at least remember the old joke:

"Two bulls are up on the hill staring down upon their herd. The young bull says to the old bull "Hey let's run down there real quick and fuck one of those cows!"

The old bull says "Nah, lets walk down.......and fuck em all"

Just don't be the guy at the only local store spam approaching asking for numbers, or the guy who tries to kiss women in the breakroom or anything hinky and you should be fine.

If anything if its "everyone knows everyone and everything" small, like 1500 people small, if anything were to change it should be people saying "lukeblaze has kinda come out of his shell" or "I never talked to lukeblaze much but did the other day, I didn't know...." vs "lukeblaze seems to really be thirsty lately, he's been asking everything with a pair of tits out on a date".


Gun

 

[Karea Ricardus D.]

If you're in a small town and if you will be there for more than 6 months I'd focus on social circle game over cold approach. Specifically, I'd focus on building your own social circle rather than joining others'. Take shots at approaches as a bonus.

 

[lukeblaze]

I cut my teeth in an area with 40 or 50 thousand people total and it was no trouble (run into same chick at a club etc). I don't know how small you are talking? I get guys complaining that they are in a suburb of Los Angeles with 200 thousand people (so I'm always skeptical of "small"), small to me is like 5000 people to where it might need a strategy.

Any way you slice it though unless you are being very overtly direct and making bold uncalibrated sex advances you should be able to damn near game in an 10 person office setting. To expound on that @Surveyor said. Good game verbally looks like you are just having a conversation, it should all be covert things you are slipping into her mind. An observer should think nothing is out of the ordinary if you're doing it right.

It's only the guys running up like a peppy little pranksters on a youtube video, that burn venues, clubs, classes, any small place to the ground.

In all game, even if not being extra careful not to blow up a spot, just at least remember the old joke:

"Two bulls are up on the hill staring down upon their herd. The young bull says to the old bull "Hey let's run down there real quick and fuck one of those cows!"

The old bull says "Nah, lets walk down.......and fuck em all"

Just don't be the guy at the only local store spam approaching asking for numbers, or the guy who tries to kiss women in the breakroom or anything hinky and you should be fine.

If anything if its "everyone knows everyone and everything" small, like 1500 people small, if anything were to change it should be people saying "lukeblaze has kinda come out of his shell" or "I never talked to lukeblaze much but did the other day, I didn't know...." vs "lukeblaze seems to really be thirsty lately, he's been asking everything with a pair of tits out on a date".


Gun

Yeah, looking that way, my city is not that much small. It has, like 63 thousand people, so... Anyway, I don´t do direct daygame, or direct game at all, because I know it would be highly innapropriate, but I do like the methodolgy of the Natural Lifestyles, do you think is a good way to start?

 

[lukeblaze]

By the way guys, thanks, your replys are giving me a lot of good ideas.

 

[Kaida]

I cut my teeth in an area with 40 or 50 thousand people total and it was no trouble (run into same chick at a club etc). I don't know how small you are talking? I get guys complaining that they are in a suburb of Los Angeles with 200 thousand people (so I'm always skeptical of "small"), small to me is like 5000 people to where it might need a strategy.

Thats good to hear. I’m heading to college in like 2 weeks (38,000 people) and in college I thought I’d have to be playing it super safe. I havent done much cold approach at all so I’m planning to really cut my teeth in college.

My style right now is very bold, so I’ve had a lot of moments in high school where people remember and talked about me negatively because I tried my shot too obviously with them (I’ve also had a lot of wins from the boldness… you win some you lose some)

What guidelines do you think I should follow while heading into college so I can be just as effective without developing a bad rep?

 

[Bill]

Thats good to hear. I’m heading to college in like 2 weeks (38,000 people) and in college I thought I’d have to be playing it super safe. I havent done much cold approach at all so I’m planning to really cut my teeth in college.

My style right now is very bold, so I’ve had a lot of moments in high school where people remember and talked about me negatively because I tried my shot too obviously with them (I’ve also had a lot of wins from the boldness… you win some you lose some)

What guidelines do you think I should follow while heading into college so I can be just as effective without developing a bad rep?

When approaching women you will see again, don’t go bold or gamey. People seeing you getting rejected or hitting on many different women can effect your reputation. Most social circle guys from what I’ve seen actually mostly recommend only hitting on women when they get choosing signals, or just friend zoning women then only hitting on their friends they meet through them,

 

[Gunwitch]

What guidelines do you think I should follow while heading into college so I can be just as effective without developing a bad rep?

That's where the calibration comes in. Unless you do something notorious on a campus of 38k or are spam approaching direct game, you should go unnoticed. At least while practicing, getting better and better calibration. If you feel you can use more bold or persistent game for a needed lay, just do it off campus, go to a lake, or a a park where none or not many from campus hang out.

You can always do it all too, it isn't an either/or situation, you can build a social circle too. It will bear slower fruit than cold approaching of course and have to be fully calibrated always/no bold moves, damn near letting them come on to you. Being seen obviously cold approaching could make a social circle worthy of hot chicks in it shun you also. Again where being covert as all hell, "seen him talking to a girl" vs "he was asking like 15 girls for their numbers earlier what the hell?" comes in. It also in a campus setting makes you more appealing outside your social circle to be in one vs looking like an outlier of some kind. But I mean being in really good shape, and rich, and playing in a popular local band, and dating a model and....., at some point you are an outlier to be doing cold approach pickup, and mastering it is it's own way to a sex life (and hobby). A sex life that's easier lower hanging fruit than difficult chatgpt recommended paths to getting laid. You got lucky enough to land here, a place loaded with esoteric politically incorrect, off the beaten path tools. More and more new guys are brainwashed against them though, but that's another topic.

Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater on social circle, ALSO don't "wait til" to get to playing this game. I've seen social circle game patience, turn into incel shit when a guys not ideal material for a social circle worthy of hot women. "Well once I get to college, then once I can get a social circle with some hot girls, but I need to learn how to ski better first, cause that's the thing around here all the popular guys and girls do, but I gotta get up money for passes and equipment, and I need a job first, I can't seem to find anything because I don't have a car and all the jobs are a good 2 miles off campus and........"

When you coulda just let it happen organically and got in where you fit in, and been cold approaching the whole time.

Seen this literally 1000 times over decades in this community. Is a fine line between patience and procrastination. Cold approach lets you know if you are thumbin your ass or not, much clearer.


Gun

 

[Don Giovanni]

I agree with @Gunwitch last post 100%.

I would just add that you can also go on short “spam approaching trips” to bigger cities where no one knows you and approach 20-50 girls in a day, just to get it out of your system then get back to your small town and be more calibrated of course.