From lame ass to badass. My transformation

[kristian]

Because I am enjoying the process, instead of looking for results, my mind seems more at ease in interactions. I also retain more of the lessons from my outings and girls love the attention I give them. I think this game is moving beyond the technicalities and becoming more spiritual. It's all about silencing the ego and enjoying the moment.

I've also realized a couple of other things; my vibe is changing. I have a certain feeling in my interactions with women, it is very difficult to explain, it is a kind of warmth. Not I friendly warmth but more a sensual one. When I see a woman and its ON there's a certain chemistry going on between us. It's thick and the world seem to stop for a brief moment.

The second thing that is happening is that I am increasingly getting "the look" from women. What do I mean exactly? It's a little difficult to explain, but it's a kind of vibe or a recognition, so to speak. It's like some women recognize my sensual vibe- almost like an understanding between us.

Let's take the girl from yesterday (the French beauty I wrote about on my journal). She gave me a look as we were hanging out, it's not a "let's see if you are a friend or boyfriend candidate look" (the kind I've gotten before) but more like a "let's hope you are the real deal lover candidate/fuck-boy look". It's almost like an understanding between the girl and I. And when I asked her about my approach, she told me it was the first time she went to an instant date with a guy and was repeating it throughout our whole date. Is this the secret society a lot of advanced seducers talk about? Is this how we recognize each other?

And how often do girls meet guys with this special vibe? It seems like lovers are very few and far between. Many get very excited and somehow a little intimidated. I need more data points on this to truly understand this new dynamic.

 

[kristian]

So truly explain what I mean with this vibe I will write a little about two encounters at work.

The new girl with emo clothes

As I began this morning I had to talk to customer service at work. A new girl is learning how to do things and will be there for a couple of months. I walk in with something I needed to get a handle on and see this girl staring at me and smiling slightly (I am getting better at recognizing IOIs).

Me: Wow, I have to say I like your style. You look like a schoolgirl but also kind of emo. (with voice tone that's clearly sensual).
Her: (Smiles) Thank you. I wouldn't say I am totally emo. But I like wearing black with some bright colors in between.
Me: I guess we both are emos that don't look like emos. We are emotional by heart but look very normal (smiling).
Her: I guess so.
Me: I see that you are new here. I have to introduce myself. Kristian is my name.
Her: Marit here. I will be working for a couple of months and will have to travel after that.

Short conversation but also extremely sensual. As we shake hands I let it linger in my palms for a while and look intensely into her eyes. It's clearly ON, and my last comment about schoolgirl made her see me as a sexual man. Which is new for me.

As I start talking with my colleague about work stuff I see her playing with her hair making her shirt reveal some tattoos. I continue talking to my co-worker and stare at her body making her notice it. She smiles slightly really welcoming my stare. (Wow, I am getting horny just writing about this interaction, haha).

The one with glasses


And this is another interaction. But this girl, in contrast to the first one is one I've worked with for a while. I thought she friend zoned me by now, but my new interaction turned her ON! (So I can reset everything if I just get myself sexual, even with girls that don't see me this way? Again, I need some data points on this.).

I start putting the plates from the dishwasher (I tend to clean a little when I am tired of doing office work). She comes over and starts helping me.

Her: Wow. Let me help you. I need to do something physical now.
Me: Me too. That why I love doing this. Getting physical is a good way of keeping my sanity. (As I touch her belly and thighs with both my hands before releasing them after 3 seconds).
Her: Yes. I don't know what kind of physical activities you are talking about.
Me: (After a break, building tension). I like, walking, dancing, lifting weights... Among other things... (smiling slightly).
Her: (smiles back). Do you walk a lot?
Me: Yes I do. Getting physical is a blessing...
Me: So are you coming to my concert this Saturday?
Her: I don't know if my husband is free to take care of the kids yet. When is it?
Me: Around 20:30. It's only half an hour.
Her: Oh, that's nice. That means I can let him take care of the kid so I can see you. But I don't know if my daughter can take it. She is one year old and I am the only one who makes her stop crying.
Me: But you need some time away. Come on, a quickie won't hurt anyone. And besides, you'll go crazy only living the family life.
Her: That's true. Half an hour with you won't hurt.
Me: I will give you all the passion I can give and send you back to him. He wouldn't even know you were away.
Her: if you promise me to give it all.
Me: That's what I am all about.

And voila! A totally normal conversation became extremely sexual. She was even biting her lips while staring intensely at my eyes. We did not even laugh so no diffusing the tension here at all. I walk away and realized that this has everything to do with my vibe.

Additional thoughts


So how do I get this vibe. And how can I bring it whenever I need it? To be honest I don't know. This is very recent and I still haven't seduced anyone yet. But it also feels a lot more natural to escalate intimately from here.

Things to improve
*Pushing the limits when I am cold approaching with this vibe.

Things I did well
*Turning conversation sexual.
*Escalating only with voice tones, sexual innuendos (almost no touching, which surprices me).
*Deep diving in a smooth way.

 

[foggy]

Good to hear that your vibe is blooming. Keep up the good work kristian!!

 

[kristian]

So I went out again. To put some work on my fundamentals, see how my inner game is and get a number or two.

The first cold approach went well. This was a girl that gave me eye contact and smiled back before I pre-opened her. I start a conversation and she tells me she on the phone. I look at her, get her name and tell her I will approach her another day when she is not as busy on her phone.

I later realize I could have made her end the conversation with her mother (and that would be a huge investment on her part if she did that).

And then I got two harsh rejections in a row. Like girls just ignoring me completely (wich doesn't happen very often these days). Those two weren't girls that gave me any approach invitations so I wasn't expecting anything special. And I had bad fundamentals (high pitched voice, no pre-opener, not committing enough when talking).

Again. The basics, Kristian.

So I spent the next hour meditating and getting myself back again. I went to an open mic night and got a lot of IOIs (from girls that were taken). Two phone numbers (no pulls because of bad logistics or could it be own excuses?) and a girl that introduced herself to me talking about our last encounter. The thing I did not remember her (I meet dozens of girls every week). So she kind of auto-rejected (she was also smoking hot).

But no worries. I wasn't feeling it that much. I am tired and that made my game a little sloppy. At least I am getting some results, even on a "bad" day.

*At least I can meditate myself out of hash rejections.
*My natural vibe make girls approach me on their own volition.
*I can get some results, even on a bad day.
*Sexual vibe is easier to exude when rested and mentally on top.

 

[kristian]

Good to hear that your vibe is blooming. Keep up the good work kristian!!

Thank you, man.

Been reading your journal and I love how dedicated to the fundamentals you are. I am going through the same thing right now, realizing youre never better than the basics. A humbling experience to go through, tbh.

 

[kristian]

So I have been going through the grindstone once more again, approaching girls on daytime, going out twice a week and pushing interactions forward as much as possible. I haven't been as methodical with my writing as I wish I could (been busy working a lot lately) but I've had some a-ha moments here and there.

*Going from being a bad boy (like I've been in previous relationships and dating periods) to a more genuine self is a little difficult. A am a lot more sexy, but since I can't pretend to be a boyfriend or chase girls I could have had if I did so, I am finding myself through an adapting period right now. The good thing is that girls that leave me (because they find a better boyfriend prospect) respect me a lot more. I guess being honest and willing to lose girls to keep your integrity is rare these days.

*My vibe fluctuates a lot. I am still experimenting what makes me ON and OFF and I am doing big changes in my life to be on top mentally and spiritually. I cut out drinking almost completely and I am a lot more aware of what I am eating, how I sleep and my thought patterns.

*I am always checking in when I am in an interaction with a woman. It's good to know what I am feeling from time to time, since a lot of game has to do with emotional transference.

*But since I am an empath (I used not to be so in my bad boy days), I usually feel what the girl is feeling, more often than the other way around. I am working to turn the tables and make her feel my feeling, which seems a little harder.

*And I am pushing myself a lot lately. It's better to try and fail instead of not pushing the limits. It has given me some rejections, though (which always hurt a little) but I am at least moving forward with someone every day.

So Natasha found a boyfriend (I kind of saw it coming from the way she has been through text lately). Tomorrow I will have a meeting with Miss J, again. I am experimenting a little with some truths to see if they work properly or if there is something I can do differently. Let's see what happens then.

 

[kristian]

How do you become a lover, Kristian?

By undoing as much bullshit about women, sex, attraction and dating as possible. Limiting beliefs are the only things that hinder me from becoming my best self. And women want me to be me in order to be truly free.

Once I live it 100 %, all my insecurities about women will fall apart.

And I will be able to devote my time and energy on creating music and figuring out business.

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So my vibe is changing a lot lately - because I let Miss J go, thus opening my heart for new opportunities. We had a meeting a couple of days ago and were contemplating getting back together. Long story short: We are both too scared to ignite the passion again. We both know how much work we do when we are together and know it will take too much energy. So as for now, my main goal is game, new experiences, and women. Miss J I can get back together with another time - if my heart still flutters for her in the future, that is.

The lessons she taught me (because she is on the narcissistic side):

*Show her that you don't need sex from her. Fall in love with her for what she is and use your sexual tension and transference to ignite it in her.Then lead her.
*She must never become your mission. In fact, she hates it. She wants to be the queen in your kingdom. And a king doesn't lose his mind for any particular woman.
*Only that way she can be free to be herself, she will love me for it. Because a lover is truly scarce in this world.

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So I went out again. And this time I went to an open mic bar. I was completely in tune with my body, aware that my confidence in life (and women) has everything to do with my thoughts. So instead of fighting the emotions (as I always do), I choose to accept them, go through them without giving them any connotations.

This calm vibe made women seek me out a lot more. Again, I wasn't doing it for the women because I as soon as I do, my ego (and then my bullshit) starts taking over. Women want me for me, remember?

They give me that look. We lock eyes and I smile genuinely. I often imagine them gaming me, trying to show me how cool they are and trying to impress me.
They look away and look again. I can have that look with 3 or 4 women simultaneously, creating our own bubble where I basically say "I see you".

From then I don't mind doing my own thing. One or two of them is eventually going to bite. Either by me walking over to introduce myself, or just minding my own business. I found out they often will approach me on their own volition.

Conversation is key here. When I am talking to them I ask myself: What I'm I feeling right now? If it's something negative, then I go into my breath and minding what she is saying as well. Or if I start thinking about what to say I try to let everything be about her. The key here is; fall in love with what she is, what she believes in. Seek to understand. Seek to find the gold she has.

From that point on touching is good. Reward her by falling in love with her. Do it for her, not yourself or validation.

In hindsight, I see that I could have been a little more aggressive to seduce or get some of these girls home. But that's about pushing the limits as far as possible. More going out is needed to get even more confidence and experience on the field is needed.
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Lay or not: I am falling in love with the game. And every woman I ignite a conversation with.

 

[kristian]

Just before I get burned out I tend to rest for a couple of days with almost no approaches at all. It clears my mind and I continue this journey with more energy and inspiration.

So I spent time resting and reading. And having fun with my improved fundamentals (like more looks and approach invitations from girls).

Limiting beliefs and game

I also realized how my mind works in conversations with women. I often back off, thinking the girl in front of me doesn't want me, or that she isn't that interested. These limiting beliefs make me end conversations/flirtations before it starts. Like the girl I had eye contact with earlier today, she gave me a brief IOI and I managed to stop her. The conversation went well because I did interpret her little sign as positive (a quick glance). I continued pushing a little even if she was standing out there in the rain. And then a guy appears - who I thought was her boyfriend, but wasn't at all. I decided to don't mind that:

*It was raining.
*Her Norwegian was bad.
*The guy that appeared wasn't her boyfriend.
*That she was shy.
*That I thought she was going to leave when our convo became silent for a moment.

Those were things I would have put in negative consideration, but I didn't. I also realized I could have pushed it even more forward by asking her to comply (specially after her "hitting" me for a joke).

In the library, another girl looked my way. I looked away because I did not want to be seen as a creep. I later realized I could have smiled. Again limiting beliefs made me see obstacles instead of opportunities.

Not easy for a girl

So in both cases, I rejected the girls. The truth is I did not reject them. I rejected myself in front of them and this coming from a guy who push the limits more than 90% of the guys out there. Imagine how other guys eject.

And all girls can do is send out signals hoping guys would catch them. It makes me question the whole game then. How many girls have I rejected this way?

Challenge for the next days:

*Staying with the girl.
*Pushing forward.
*Rewarding her for complying giving me signs of interest.

And of course listening to that inner voice and its limiting beliefs. Expanding what is possible will be a thing to work more on the upcoming weeks.

Can't wait to see the results.

 

[Ambiance]

@kristian

"Assume attraction". You won't quite believe it at first, but before you know it you will, and before you know it you'll actually be right. Let me tell you, it is a whole nother world when you go around and you just know that all these different girls there want to have your babies.

Ambiance

 

[kristian]

Ambiance

I know and it's been quite humbling to discover how many chances I really let go. Now what I have to work on is attainability since that's the main thing in my arsenal to work a lot more on.

*I have enough sexual vibe to make girls know what I am about so I don't get the "let's just be friends" excuse anymore, either she is down or not.
*My deep diving abilities are a lot better than they used to be. How do I know this? Girls tend to talk around 60 - 70 % of the time now, and I am a lot better at eliciting values.
*I can also be more playful and I am comfortable with tension (sexual and social).

However, and there's a big however here. I still miss escalation windows. This is mostly because I believe girls don't want me as they actually do, that I need more value. I now realize that value is good enough as it is. I need to work on attainability and study about escalation windows.

*Like the girl today that I said I wanted to walk out with (as we were leaving the dancing studio). She later tells me (on FB-chat as we speak) that she went out of the changing room to seek for me. In the meanwhile, I disappeared from that place because I thought she forgot me. Again a girl I reject because I thought she did not want me or forgot about me.

*Or the other girl from the dancing class that I again rejected. She wanted to invite me to an event later today (by hinting). And I managed to not make a conscious effort to listen. Because she auto-rejected me last time and I thought my chance was ruined. It wasn't. And I ignored her. Again.

*Or what about the 16 yo girl I day gamed yesterday who said; "I just have to tell you I am 16 years, though". I rejected her but now realize she was putting it out there so I know what I was getting into (in Norway sexual age is 16 so I am not a criminal for picking her up ).

*And then we have all those signals I got yesterday as I night- gamed and today on my way out. Girls even orbit me in the hopes for me to talk to them. Often to no avail.

Lord have mercy!! How many girls have I rejected?

This attainability thing might be the missing piece to make sleeping with girls consistently. I thought I got a good handle on this, but now (mainly because I am a lot more attuned to my body and mind thanks to meditation) I see that I am rejecting girls left and right. I also see that I am hot. I see that. But in conversations with girls I still miss those windows.

Girls, I am really sorry for not seeing how much you dig me. I will work on this and make it easier for you. I am really sad for not realizing how amazing you are and seeing how much you crave my love (and cock).

Let's continue diving into this concept. I believe THIS might be the final missing key. At least I hope so.

 

[kristian]

So I got laid again; Finally!!

But it wasn't a cold approach-date. It was a Tinder date (yeah, I gave this a lot of thought and decided to download the app anyways in order to get some reference points about dates).

She is a 27 yo comedian. Curvy, blue eyes, blonde hair. We spent some time talking back and forth about our day las Sunday before I pulled the trigger asking her out. The cool thing with Tinder is that I say I am not used to it. That there are a lot of weirdos here and so on. Then girls reply by agreeing to it. First of all, we build a connection. And secondly, I make myself different and by saying there are weirdos, I might come across as pre-selected. I lastly give her my number saying it's better than talking on Tinder (again pre-selection). Then everything revolves around logistics and making the date happen.

As I meet her I see she was wearing makeup and nice clothes (good sign) and she was also pleasantly surprised by my looks (a very good sign).

Next thing was key here; My main goal was to have more reference experiences, nothing more than that. "What am I feeling right now? How does this sensation affect the interaction?". Those were questions I asked myself throughout the date. And since a lot of the interaction has to do with emotional transference I had to be in as good shape as possible. If I feel "negative" emotions, I tend to just feel them throughout. I can't resist them so I have to accept them.

This worked because she went from defensive (by her body language) to open. And when we started talking about past relationships, things changed drastically. We connected and I was better able to escalate.

*Talk about mundane things.
*Feel the feelings. Even the "bad" ones.
*Transfer good emotions.
*Touch on high points.

As I managed to touch her hand I understood we could start making things more sensual. I had to see if she was down to moving and she was.

Another thing: Since I am working on attainability I spent most of the time talking about her. Only to say things about myself that were relevant to the conversation. Eg. about my music career to connect with her about her comedy career and the struggles we both go through. Of course, my fundamentals are on point so I was working on being as humble as possible. Things like "well, I will do my best to live off music, but it's a hard business. The only thing I can do is give it my best".

I am a slim guy and since she is a little curvy I spent time talking about eating unhealthy now and then and how much I love it, making her laugh and less self-conscious about her body.

Those things, combined with good fundamentals made her fall for me. We kissed. A lot. And after telling her how cool she was (genuine compliments work wonders and you tell her why you like her as well) I move her home.

We made love three times in under two hours. I did her long and hard each time (between 15 to 30 minutes), ate her. Kissed everything. Told her things like; "I am yours. You deserve this. Wow, you feel amazing".

I saw myself as the price and she deserved me and my body and cock

And I did not care about condoms either. Fuck that, I am going bareback

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The second thing I am learning more about is seeing girls as "silly and cute" https://www.girlschase.com/content/girls-silly-and-cute
This thing alone has helped me immensely lately since I now get less confused about girls and their nature. Another thing it does is make me see them as adorable and since the game has everything to do with emotional transference, they eventually start seeing me the same way. Again, women become what you make them, very interesting.

Lately, I've been going through my own feelings in interactions with women, especially Miss J and some of her female friends. These type of women are extremely aware of even the slightest neediness. So her female friend, AK has been here and I tried out some new things.

Becoming attainable, seeing girls as silly and cute and emotional transference makes her more open to me. I also found out you can also start from scratch with the same woman you fuck up with. AK auto-rejected me several times before, even became cold to my advances, only to change drastically when I acted as if nothing happened between us when we met last Sunday. So I invited her over today and saw some changes in her behaviour. This, in conjunction with warmth, made me escalate to the point of almost kissing her. She backed off each time I tried and I later realized I could manhandle kissed her (which I feel it's a little too far from my comfort zone right now).

However, if you act as if nothing happened after a failed escalation, she also "forgets it". And that's something totally new.

And before she left, we became a little sexual (touching and kissing on the cheek). I sent her a heart <3 and she replied with a . So no harm here. Not at all.

*I now see "the game". Aspects is slowing down. Patterns are visible.
*Emotional transference is something I am becoming MUCH better at.
*Dealing with tension makes girls more sexual around me.
*I can regulate my feeling in real time.
*And getting a grasp on attainability, which helped me a lot to get laid.


Now, I need to have more quality interactions.

Ps. Since I am better at differencing between chasing and persistence I am able to get dates I would have lost, by persisting and sending an extra message and more social pressure on them.

Can't see what will happen next. It's getting fun this game.

 

[Lover]

Congrats on the new lay bro She sounds like an amazing woman!

I am a slim guy and since she is a little curvy I spent time talking about eating unhealthy now and then and how much I love it, making her laugh and less self-conscious about her body.

Can you share how your conversation about this topic was like? How did you come into this, how it developed etc.

If I want to talk about unhealthy diet, I usually, out of nowhere, say something like "I could really use some delicious chocolate right now" and it's not even a lie in that moment. But eating habits is a topic I'd usually avoid talking about because of girls generally being conscious of their bodies and not living up to society's body image. But I guess it can work because you come across as more relatable and grounded about your diet.

 

[kristian]

a-jay

It has to come out natural and it usually does when you deep dive enough. Sooner or later she will bring it up.

Her: Food is one of my biggest passions, but I should be more careful (laughs).
Me: Especially the kind with a lot of sugar. There's a reason cake and chocolates always disappear withing a couple of days if my flatmate brings those home. I'll end up devouring them. I ate a whole chocolate bar while watching Game of Thrones last night. Love to just don't care sometimes (laughs).

The thing I realized is that she is the one who has to bring it up, and she will if she trust that you like her enough.

Another example, from an instant date with a bigger girl today.

Her (after talking about food, she shared her lunch with me): I know I eat more than I should. And it stores everywhere.
Me (smiling): As long as it does in the right places.

And then we instantly got sexual tension from there. I showed her wanted her and managed to get past her weight objection. I later brought her home, but couldn't get past her boyfriend-resistance and that's totally cool for me. That a girl still wants to be truthful to her man.

However, I have little to almost none experience with bigger women because I am normally more into slim women. But if the girl has a cute face and some awesome qualities I love then I can clearly see myself making love to them.

 

[kristian]

There's a change in my vibe lately. I feel almost invincible when I interact with women. My sexual presence is a lot bigger than it used to be and women catch that, from teenage girls to women in their 50s. It's fun and it makes me feel like THE HOT guy.

*I visualize a lot more lately, concentrating on feeling instead of only pictures. The reason? Feelings can be transmuted and they speak louder to the subconscious making me believe that women want me.

*I am also a lot more aware of what I am feeling and take my routines a lot more seriously (cold showers, meditation, eating and sleeping habits are becoming increasingly important.

*And when I am on top mentally I really do not care about women testing me. I understand that I sometimes just don't answer or just ignore it and continue as if nothing happened.

So one lay, one pull from day game, a date that went super well and many good interactions this week. It has been a very good week overall, after a longer period of failures, fixations on non-receptive girls and even some harsh blow-outs. I guess I am entering a new golden period with my game, cementing some of my newest lessons I got from working on sexual and social tension, a better sense of deep diving, leading and opening on cold approach.

However, I have to remind myself that it all has to do with what I feel at that moment and not identify myself with being a seducer. After all, I am just a regular Norwegian guy, ain't I?

Some openers that worked well:

Me: Hi.
Her: (Smiling) HI.
Me: I saw you at the grocery store a couple of minutes ago and got glad that I see you standing here. I really find you cute.
Her: Thank you!
Me: So I just had to come over and introduce myself.

Another opener that is leading (most probably) to a date this Sunday:

Me: Excuse me. Are you Latina?
Her: Yes I am. How did you know that?
Me: I don't know. I am getting a good radar on finding Latinas, I guess.

And of course, when the fundamentals are on point and I feel good, then the technicalities become a piece of cake. It also has a lot to do with reading the signals with girls.

Bouncing back from rejection, or is it an objection?

I also mentioned my cool date with a girl I knew a little through a distant friend. As we connected more and more (again, deep diving and some sexual tension = no more friend zoned) we started touching a lot and then I went for the kiss. She backed off!!

Me: I find you cute. So I just have to try. (Not apologizing but explaining).
Her: Thank you for trying. (Becoming tense).
Me: So you were saying that polar bears tend to appear almost from nowhere at Svalbard? (about her travels)

And I spent a lot of energy just going into my breath instead of becoming desperate about the rejection. I later found out it was more an objection because she was involved with my distant friend and did not want to complicate things. We continued talking about this and I gracefully handled those (again, not the words here but the feelings behind that means everything).

I later kissed her for real a couple of moments later... And this time she LOVED IT!! We agreed to meet next week.

Teachings from this week so far

So after going through the technicalities many times the past three months I realized that it all has to do with state projection and state projection has everything to do with how I feel.

So managing own feelings is key here. As well to listening to the ego and not taking limiting beliefs seriously.

I haven't done as much night game lately. But will tomorrow and see what kind of lessons I will get from that.

 

[kristian]

Wow!

Wow wow WOW!!!

I can't describe the feeling. Of entering a room and you know it's ON with a girl.

Or when I do a street stop and the girl starts falling in love with my vibe. Or when I see a girl at a party or a club and just KNOW she will be into me if I manage to get 10 minutes with conversation. 10 minutes, that's all I need.

What I say it's not of importance anymore. Techniques are ingrained in my veins after almost 1000 cold approaches.

On the streets.
At the malls all around the city center.
Coffee houses.
Clubs.
Parks.

And many, many rejections later I understand that it has to do with what I am feeling at the moment I spark a conversation with a girl. She will catch on that, and act accordingly.

Then a blowout has almost everything to do with my own insecurities, she is just reflecting it back. When I feel like a 1000 bucks she will love me for it.
The same woman, two different reactions. And it has all to do with what I feel about myself. She reflects it, that's all.

But don't get me wrong here; what I feel inside means almost everything, but I do mistakes still.

Like the girl at the buss stop that was extremelly into me. So much she almost begged me to get her home only to auto-reject me harshly when I introduced her to my female friend (I guess she thought we were together).

Or the crazy, but insanely cute girl I couldn't close 100 % because of logistics.

Another thing; If you want to make a girl like you, then you must like her as much. She must feel your desire to reflect it back. She is a mirror, remember?

And I still say the wrong things here and there, miss escalation windows and so on. It's mostly because I lack the experience in the latter stages of seductions, but that's fine. My fundamentals are good enough to get new leads.

Now what I need to do is one thing;

Practice, practice, practice. I need to see more patterns. I need to push the limits with every outing.

Ok. Enough for now. Let's see what happens later today.

 

[kristian]

So girls stare everywhere I go. And most of my approaches get warm receptions. Girls don't friend-zone me anymore as they know my intentions, making them either want to meet up for romantic/sexual purposes or decline then and there. Nice, at least I am not getting mistaken, which has been a big leap forward in my seduction abilities.

Along with sexual vibe.
Bigger confidence.
A better handle on attainability.

I also get "over" rejections much quicker than before (3 minutes or less) and can continue doing day game without caring. Girls that reject me seem also to respect me a lot for my honesty and forwardness.

I think I might be able to get one date a week if I talk to 5-6 girls every day. The approach to date ratio can be lower but as for now, I am doing a lot of mass approaches, without caring for invitations or not. It's all about getting as much experience as possible, approaching girls in groups, that look bitchy, that are with guys, that are on a rush, when it's raining and so on. So it's all about pushing the limits to get as much data as possible.

It's all about seeing the matrix and understanding everything about "game".

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One little thing here: Ego.

Meeting girls and getting attention is something that happens, but not a part of my identity. I really don't want to have my ego in this because as everything in life, game is one aspect of many. Girls attention is nice, but it doesn't define who I am or my happiness.

One date is lined up this week. And two more are waiting already. Let's see what happen next, so I'll have something more objective to write about.

 

[kristian]

So after a week being in heaven, I finally landed and it wasn't pretty.

This is mostly because all my direct approaches did not work as intended; harsh rejections from all of them. The last one was from three girls at the park who went from warm and receptive to yelling at me for not seeing how cool they are (I think they misunderstood my forwardness and went straight to auto-rejection, girls that reject me do that sometimes).

And then the date I just came from that did not work, because she did not want to "complicate" things by hooking up with a friend of her past lover. So she deflected my advances and told me she wanted to take it slow...

Well, then. I'll just next her, there are plenty of girls who gives me approach invitations anyways.

Now, I have to get myself back on top mentally. And sleep...I need a good nights sleep.

 

[kristian]

A few things I noticed lately.

First of all, I know the best interactions come from women that give me IOIs, and many of them are truly beautiful. I see that I spend a little much time talking to non-receptive girls (walking fast, on another headspace, with other people and so on) and that's okay because I am spending this month getting down vibe and as much experience meeting girls as possible. But I need to talk to those who look my way as well. I've been analyzing why I don't do this and I now understand the reason:

*I don't want to risk to fuck up with a girl that send me IOIs. What does it say about me? If she doesn't hook, does that mean that I am a failure? Again, this is my ego talking here.

*Another aspect that I disclosed was the need to get girls attention. Let's take yesterday's outing and date as an example; my day gets "ruined" when dates doesn't go the way I envisioned it. I see how much I get my happiness from girls attention, and the need to get warm receptions makes me dependent on them for my satisfaction in life.

And those two thoughts hinder my progress, which has been good and fast this month.

From now on I will be more aware of those two aspects and instead approach girls with curiosity and value-giving interactions. Everything else is just a bonus.

 

[foggy]

hi kristian, sometimes I feel like we are at the exact same skill level, or close to it. Maybe. I don't know. It seems like every time I read your journal I find that I am experiencing the exact same mindset problems that you are, and that you are setting the exact same goals that I am setting for myself. Kinda freaky tbh.

 

[kristian]

- Backstory

Thank you for saying this, it's been a crazy ride the last two months. And it has been very fun, I get new lessons every time I go out, and push myself to exhaustion.
I really like how much you're testing out different aspects when you're out meeting women. It's a pretty lonely journey to be honest, but it fun as hell