From lame ass to badass. My transformation

[kristian]

This journal reaching 10 000 views and already having 200 posts here. Wow, I am glad I made it this far.
*Along with having 2 friends with benefits who usually are down whenever I contact them.
*A few other prospects that can end up in something cool.
*A lay or two a month if I continue to push myself hard (although I've been slacking a little lately).
*More solid numbers, improved sexual vibe and so on.

This is the part where I finally feel like I have a little choice. Having access to sex and women is truly a choice now, as long as I continue approaching and working on my skills.
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On feeling incompetent after reaching success
I haven't had that rock star-vibe lately. I still get girls checking me out as much as ever, but I feel a little empty inside. There's more fear in my game than it used to be and I think it has something to do with my increased value. I believe it has something to do with this:

*As I reach a certain level of success (like having a number each time I go out, or getting friends with benefits or receiving more signals from girls) I feel like the king of the world. I feel like I've made it and the new level of success give me date momentum.

*Then the weeks go by and I get used to all those things. My brain starts searching for new levels of success. "Now I can get a date a week and more solid numbers", but I want consistent lays and numbers from more attractive girls. How do I get there?

*I use that momentum to get to "this next level" but realize that I lack in skill and fundamentals to get there. My mind gets fixated on this, forgetting the past success I had at my last level.

An easy way to put it; Once you get used to making 100k your mind starts searching for the next goal and 100k doesn't seem that satisfying anymore.

So when I feel incompetent again, that's when I know I internalized the lessons so far. Now my mind start searching for new lessons and holes in the game and that's where I am at right now.

Sending women a check in-text
So I basically sent 20 girls I haven't talked to in ages (cold approach the last 6 weeks) the following text:

Hey Gina! Sorry, I've been radio silent these past 6 weeks; I wasn't ignoring you, I just got so slammed with my projects that everything outside of work got pigeonholed until life returned to sanity again. Anyway, things've cleared up a bit; how've you been? Let me know your schedule over the next week or two and let's plan to meet up and catch up on things.

And it works pretty well. I got two responses right away since I did this 2 hours ago and one date already scheduled. The message above is from Chase, you can read about it here: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=26&t=65

I think I can get more responses through the night.

Screening out crazy women
That has been a big thing lately.

Does she change her mind too often? Does she mention abusive boyfriends from the past?

Is she very interested in you one moment only to go cold the next? There are many signs to look out for and I am trying to find them all.
But I also meet some sane and cute girls and those are more often career-oriented with higher education. Those girls are also women of word; they can tell you they "let you know tomorrow" and do this. To my surprise.

I need more skills and experience with this but I believe I am uncovering something here.

Let's see if some more girls respond to my check in-text... To be continued...

 

[kristian]

Tired of going through the grindstone

I went out today. Uninspired. I haven't felt that way for but approached anyways, at least I can work on my fundamentals.

So I approached four girls in total. Two sending me signals and I start a conversation, but they eject as I come on a little too strong (which was a sign of auto-rejection).
The other two had a conversation but weren't interested, one of them was entering a relationship, which I respect.

But there was no sparks, no butterflies going on, not even nervousness. And that was a little alarming.

Maybe I am just burned out and need a relationship to retreat to for a couple of weeks? After all, I've been approaching women almost every day since late March when Miss J dumped me.

I think I will just kick back with Miss T for a little while. She knows that I cold approach, that's the way we met and I've told her straight up that I need to share my love - or else I'll just cheat. And I have to be honest.

Another thing. I need to work out again, haven't done this for two weeks, and it's affecting my sexual vibe (because of lower testosterone).

 

[kristian]

Horny, horny, horny fucking horny.

Since I started working out, my sexual lust has increased a lot. And I've only had two workouts since my break for two weeks.

I'm kind of glad I am hanging out with Miss T once or twice a week to quench my enormous desire. It seems she loves the fact that I love to have sex. If you guys don't work out, I recommend you to start doing so. Lift heavy weights, do it twice or three times a week and for no more than 40 minutes each time. My favorite is 5X5 times 3 different compound movements (squats, deadlifts, bench press, Arnold press and bent over rows). It will have a great impact on your testosterone levels.

Making mistakes

Remember I was talking about sending girls the following text?

So Gina, are we still on for this week? I am planning my schedule now so let me know if you can make it this week. - Kristian.

This is a great message because it forces her to make a decision, it tells her you're not playing and that you're able to walk away, which makes you pre-selected.

Instead, I tried something different:

So Gina. Are we still on? I really like you and want to know you, let me know how your schedule looks like.

This is more chasey and it works sometimes, but it's not as effective as the first one. So no more of that. If a girl still doesn't respond to the first message, then you know what she is about (validation and orbiter-hunting).

Social circle girls seem to put on way more breaks

I had this date with a girl I met through extended social circle. At first, things seem to work fine. She was flirty, touchy and was contributing to move our courtship forward. I do as I normally do, talk mostly about her, touch her a little more as the conversation continues and make her buy us food because I bought a couple of drinks for us (I do non-alcohol, but she wanted alcohol for herself).

Then she starts asking me how I know Navid and from past experiences, I try to talk about something else. She asks and probes and then I say I know him through parties a couple of years ago.

She wasn't satisfied with my answer and our "magic" changes. She went from saying I am as single as I possibly can be to Actually, I am kind of "dating" this guy and don't know if I want to be involved. And then she stops contributing...

Me: You see, Carol. I have to go now. I really like you, but see that us two ain't gonna happen. Why don't we just call it a day?

I think she got surprised by my answer...

I also remember I did a huge mistake back in March with another girl I picked up through cold approach. As she tells me she is a member of a specific church I start talking about it, as I wanted us to become closer since we knew the same folks. Big mistake, because she stopped contributing and friend zoned me pretty fast. I even remember how her expressions changed as I was saying I knew the pastor...

Girls are really hyper-aware of such things.

Cold approach girls however

Let me put this in perspective: I was talking to Miss T about us and how we met. She says:

Miss T: It's cool that you are a stranger. Its very exciting, but I did not know if you were crazy or something.

We had sex within one hour of meeting and it's not that she is experienced, she actually only had one sex partner before me. But was willing to sleep with me very fast!

The same with the Middle Eastern girl, she has more experience but she let me move to the bedroom within an hour. Cold approach girls let me get away with things we can dream about with social circle girls. But of course, they reject us harsher if we make mistakes.

I, however, take social circle girls rejections personal. With cold approach girls, it doesn't bother me that much. After all, they don't know me so there's zero social repercussions.

I am still having a little "break" from cold approaching in order to just work on inner beliefs and read about pick up since I feel uninspired. I often find out it's actually good with a break every couple of months, in order to install new lessons and do things you haven't done in a while (like work-out, making songs and meeting friends).

Let's see what happens in a week or two when I am well rested and ready for some more girl-action.... I will still post observations and a casual meeting with girls and maybe even some approaches. But I will not game as hard until I am ready in a week or two.

 

[kristian]

So girls in social circles are harder to seduce and rightfully so, I am understanding how much social status really mean for women.
The lays I've had has mostly been from cold approach or dating sites/apps and even when you're anonymous, you can fuck up if the following happens:

*You mention someone she knows. It puts her reputation at risk.
*She finds out you live in her neighborhood, making it harder to just be DTF.

Oddly enough, I had an approach like this earlier today were the girl I was with went from mildly contributing to suddenly going cold. "You live nearby", she says. "It would be strange to meet you randomly afterward". I read between the lines and understood it had something to do with her reputation if she had sex with someone she could randomly meet where she lives. Understandable.

So instead, talk less about yourself. Do not try to probe for folks "both of you might know".
Seduction is all about moving forward while being attainable and taking care of her reputation at the same time. No wonder it feels like rocket science when you're a beginner.

Telling women the truth part 3
So Miss A is all of a sudden comes back and when she did last Sunday, I made love to her like never before.
She wanted some more, so I made room for her today and we had two hours with lovemaking and playfully hanging out.

Her: So, please. I want you to tell me if you get involved with someone else because I don't want any drama.

I tell her I am not "dating" anyone, which is true. I also tell her I will not be seriously involved with anyone. I even start joking with her, saying I am seeing 10 other girls without making it complicated. She laughs, of course, but I feel I want to tell her the following.

Me: Miss A. I am sharing my love and it doesn't mean I am looking for something serious. I am just having fun right now.

But what if she bails? I don't want to scare her off, but I want her to understand I am not looking around for a girlfriend either. This a tough little nut to crack, especially if she starts asking more...

Some observations
1. The more I work out, the ballsier I get.

The ballsier I am, the more does my vibe exudes. This is especially true when rejections stop bothering you.
The girls I ended sleeping with came just after a string of rejections. So don't give up, see the other girls as practice or warmups. So when you finally meet the girl, you know what to do.

2. Sex is very important. Let me tell you that. Girls really crave for a good lover.

Lately, I am getting compliments from girls after sex. And I start researching and asking what they really mean:
It all comes down to the amount of passion you put into it. Believe me, visualizing and working out makes you a better lover. You really want to give them the time of their lives, by making love to them likes there's no tomorrow.

And as Chase and others point out, being good in bed makes them stick around.

I am getting rested, finally. And the itch to start approaching many girls is getting back. Can't wait to hit the streets again!

And I used to be so scared of it... Now I see endless possibilities.

 

[kristian]

As I've been testing myself a little this week I've come across an interesting pattern; younger girls seem more eager to meet and be led by me. It's been like that with many of my cold approach-lays.

*They are usually women in their late teens to early 20s.
*I used to be better with older gals in a couple of years ago with online gaming.
*The older women (those around my age) seem harder to hook and often excuse themselves.
*Younger women seem glad to talk and often happy when I ask them out.

Why is that?

I think I will explore this a little more before concluding, but it it be my increased value?

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Other than that, I nightgamed a little. Realized two things:
*To have more sexual innuendos and jokes.
*Increase touch and tension a little more.

Two younger women I was talking to could be moved, but instead I excused myself and went home. Too tired to push it forward but understood that I can do this a lot more often at nighttime.

 

[kristian]

A funny thing is happening lately. Some of the prettiest girls, within my main market, are starting to notice me. And they do it by looking at my body language alone because I've been wearing shabby clothes lately.

*Mainly because I work out, I am calm and collected.
*Visualization makes me sexier, as I am getting fundamentals handled by behaving like a guy with female options.
*I have female options, making me behave in pre-selected ways.

These are just some of my observations on the positive side.

*But I still approach girls that aren't investing, mainly because they don't send me any invitations.
*I also skip eight out of ten girls that I could have approached.

Its funny once I start listening to the reasons to not approach: "Shes far away", "Not cute enough", "Too many pimples in her face", "Too cute for my taste". Too cute for my taste? Really?

I also made a good approach on my way home from Ay, a girl I knew had a boyfriend (I've seen them together and another excuse because nothing could happen). It was good because she matched me in interest levels and attractiveness. Not that good because she was already taken.
My ego is taking over again.

So I decide to start talking to girls again, just because I want to learn new patterns, become better with my openers, leading, getting fundamentals to the next level and so on.

The thing that is having a good effect on my psyche; the girls in my life really appreciate my sex, my talks and my vibe. So when I talk to a new girl, a part of me knows that I have a lot to offer, if I make her decide to give me that chance.

And that's nice to know. That you have a lot to offer.

 

[kristian]

You know how it feels when you invite a girl to spend time with you, only to realize that she is friend-zoning you as you sit there with her. She probably tried to do that long before the meeting and you feel a little confused once she denies moving things forward.

My question is, do you push forward anyways or do you throw in the towel? I decided to push it a little bit and see what could happen. I later opted to just call it an end by saying the following.

You know. I like you but I don't feel its mutual so I cant be "just friends".
Her: Okay. I understand.
Me: It felt good to say that.

And then I waved her goodbye.

I like calling things out when it's obviously not working. I don't like, however, to feel a little ashamed of being rejected. That hurts and its often difficult to be outcome independent in those situations. I would like to hear how you guys deal with those situations. I really need some perspectives about those situations.

Going through the grindstone again

Remember I've been complaining about "getting burned out" by approaching women every day? Well, today it changed a lot as I realized there's a lot of things to learn and ways to improve my initial approach. As I was on my way back home, I stumbled across a friend I've been day gaming a little bit with. A very bright young man with balls of steel whos not afraid of rejection. He asked me if I wanted to approach some girls and I went with him. These are the things I realized.

*You can depict within a fraction of a second if a girl likes you or not when you approach. You can even feel the spark in her eyes as you deliver your compliment.
*The more she likes you, the better the compliment is. She can feel your genuine and want to stop and give you a chance.
*Girls that aren't interested won't react positively. They can be stressed out, in another headspace, not finding you attractive, bitchy (many reasons we cant know) and will not be receptive, no matter how you approach.

I talked to around 10 girls this way. 3 of them were good enough to depict their interest levels. I also realized how much I can get away with as I escalate touch.
I couldn't get any numbers though and I feel like I should have just kept the conversation about them and not talking as much about my job and such.

But the cool thing is that I am much better now than I used to be. Its very clear and girls know what I am about so they either reject me or give me an opportunity to escalate.

So I will meet up with my friend and start daygaming from scratch again. Can't wait!

 

[kristian]

The moment you realize your voice need an overhaul. I've been posting many insta-stories on my Instagram lately and when I met one of my talented friends I discovered the difference between him and I fundamentals-wise. He has a deeper voice with a lot more presence. Not only that, his facial expressions were also sexy and all this from a 20-second video where we both talk. No wonder he gets a lot of girls sending him signals and constantly checking him out.

However, he doesn't get laid a lot. His main problem? He doesn't know game and is often not even aware when girls check him out. So they either have to be very aggressive (and girls aren't that forward) or he has to be drunk to move things forward (and then he misses many escalation windows). I've seen him in action and when I point out the opportunities he gets, he get very surprised. And he is not the only one, there are many guys with good fundamentals who don't know how to approach and lead. Aint that weird?

But on a positive note, I think I will start working on my voice tonality. I tend to end sentences with a question and I could also deepen it a little bit more.

Other observations

Dating different girls have some new set of challenges. They all know I cant be exclusive, but two of them want me to treat them romantically when we are out. That's fine but it is also difficult if I am singing somewhere and they all appear. How do I handle this then?

Miss A asked me about it, she wanted me to include her in my interactions at my last concert. I said I did not mean to exclude her, but I was arranging the event and had to attend to everybody since I was the host. But she has a point, though. I cant be stressed out if three girls I am seeing appear at the same time.

Hmmm. New levels require a new set of skills, I guess.

Being turned on as you meet many people

I had a performance at a mini-festival and got time to talk to different women and flirt a lot.
*And I realized I got many girls looking at me. But since I was horny, they were also a little defensive and nervous. This is different from what I am used to.
*I believe it has something to do with my sexual vibe. They aren't treating me like a friend, instead, there is more of tension going on. Something about the way I look at them that makes them more "aware" and awake.
*I also worked on my stares as I engaged in a couple of conversations and could see that a couple of them even got excited as we talked. This was interesting because I am tasting at something I haven't seen before. More like a hidden communication between the girl and I, that is a little difficult to see from the outside.

To do this regularly is, of course, something totally different but I realized there is two things I want to work on.

1. Voice and 2. Sexuality on my daily interactions with women.

To be continued....

 

[kristian]

Nothing special happening lately.

Mainly because I am a little burned out and busy working on new projects.

So I am spending a couple of days just enjoying life and making music. I promise to come back soon. Stronger than ever!

 

[kristian]

I haven't used the Are you single?-approach in a while so I decided to give it a try, after unsuccessfully approaching a Spanish girl and her friend.

Me: (after stopping her and waiting for three seconds, I could see how I built tension). Are you single?
Her: (Starts laughing), Yes, I am!
Me: I just saw you inside the food-store and think you're very cute. So I had to come over and introduce myself. Kristian is my name.

Pretty basic, actually. But my fundamentals were not good at all. After a couple of minutes talk, I ask her for her number and she counters it with FB which I said I did not have. She found my approach "cute" but wasn't that interested.

Just reminds me of another girl in the store who indeed was sending me signals, and another girl I saw as I crossed the streets on my way to work. Or what about the one at the metro-station who was staring me down as we both entered? There are several girls like these who I don't approach and the ones that I do approach aren't interested. Funny how my mind makes me talk to time wasters, ain't it?

On not being desperate

One thing I learned a lot now; I really appreciate the ones I have in my life, but my happiness is not dependent upon them. And that's big, how do I know? For starters, Miss A scheduled a meeting with me today. I was looking forward to meeting up and then she flakes. No biggie, I tell her I appreciate if she does a couple of hours earlier as I also have plans. I also tell her to contact me again if she is still up for it.

The funny thing is, every time she do say she is busy and I am like okay, whatever. let me know if you want to meet up, she is even more interested when she does appear. I don't think she is used to that.

The same with Miss T, if she cant meet up or spends some time not responding, no biggie. I can go a month or two without sex, not that I want that to happen but if it does, well, at least I can approach and learn as fuck.

And then we have Ay who could or not could disappear entirely, well, we will see about that.

And who taught me to stay calm? That was the infamous Miss J.

The one and the only crazy girl who broke my heart. At least I learned a lot from that failure. So thank you Miss J <3 (I did not imagine I would write that).

Okay, now I want to talk to more women. So let start doing so the next days

 

[kristian]

As the days passed me by I tried something totally different: Instead of talking to many girls, what if I talk to girls as little as possible? What if I just ignore my urge to talk to girls that send me signals without regretting a tiny bit?

The results where better interactions than usual, because instead of trying to get something with any girl I was just in the moment. Good responses without any expectations. Hmmm, interesting. I think I will try to just work on this mindset and see the results.

Which got me thinking, chasing after girls because I want to feel good about myself, make me come off as desperate. I never thought about it this way but I've been chasing all this time and that's hard to admit but I think I am getting to a more serious, spiritual phase in this journey.

So yesterday I met up with Ay. We had sex for bit and then I got limp. The reason? She still hasn't got over her ex (no. I am not jealous) and was using me to feel better. When they were together our sex was so much better because she felt good and her feeling good made her more attractive. Now she is just a shell of herself, so I lost attraction. I aborted the session and spent some time helping her as a friend. I think I will just friend zone her.

Listen to me: Friend zoning a girl. Aint that cool?


And then we have Miss A, who all of a sudden is acting distant and aloof. No worries, I can just move on.

But the thing these two girls got me thinking: Miss T seems so much more at peace with herself and confident. She never overreacts or act needy. She is always down for sex when we meet and it's amazing. The coolest thing about her is that she also has passions and projects. That give her an aura of confidence I rarely see in girls. Or maybe I am just getting to a place where girls like her will be getting more common?

 

[kristian]

The thing about not masturbating is that I am a lot hornier and ready. But unlike last time I gent no fap I do have more control over my lust.
That makes me more aware of girls sending me signals and acting upon those signals.

Approaches and fundamentals
I see that I have what it takes to move forward. I am a lot more comfortable with rejections and almost all the girls I approach seem happy or at least find me a little interesting. So there's nothing wrong with my game so to speak. The thing that's lacking is mainly fundamentals now. I see that I have to work on my voice and my physique to attract more girls and I am working on those two aspects.

Remember I was talking about approach as little as possible? It seems to work better than usual because I do approach but I am not "looking anymore" so when I finally do, I have no neediness. They can say they have a boyfriend and I get truly happy for them.

I was at a party yesterday. A movie-premiere a director friend of mine arranged. I have little trouble going somewhere I barely know people. But this time, since everyone was dressed up and girls seem intimidatingly good, I chocked. It was hard to approach and I felt judged. So I disappeared after the movie. And spent the next 20 hours or so hanging out with Miss T.

I also realize I could do some night-game again. We will see if I do it soon.

 

[kristian]

On my way from work to the studio, I got the chance to approach a couple of girls. Walking from place to place give me that opportunity and I can also work on fundamentals, like good posture, a sexy walk and so on.

[*]I missed one opportunity at the beginning. I just wasn't expecting a girl checking me out that early.

[*]Girl number two was interested. I saw her at a grocery store. Approached her on her way out:

Me: Excuse me. I just saw you inside the store as I was going to buy some food. I find you cute so I had to introduce myself. Kristians my name.

She tells me she has a boyfriend (and its true since I checked her facebook, he was on the pictures). She, however, followed my lead for a bit and was working to qualify herself. I wanted to go for an instant date and I could have worked my way if I was more persistent. But I did not have time for that, so I left.

And then I approached the third girl with the "are you single?"-opener. She laughed and gave me props for being that forward. She wasn't interested so I left.

The thing is, as I become increasingly better at approaching I also see how sexual cold approach-girls can be, as opposed to social circle girls. There's no reputation to defend since I am a stranger and I can get away with a lot more if my approach is right and she likes me. So I can clearly see how good cold approach really is

 

[kristian]

Been upping my workout routine lately and started fasting as well. I have a little belly fat and babyface that has been nagging me a little so I think intermittent fasting will be beneficial to shed those last few pounds of fat that store around my stomach.

I also been working a lot on posture and that helps as well. When I do walk the right way, I feel so much more confident and girls seem to notice.

Today has been a busy day, walking from one meeting to the studio. I could have approached a girl or two, but I am instead working on talking to girls as little as possible.

I had a voice telling me to go to one of the local cafes on my way to work because I found one of the girls there cute. That was a good choice because the same girl found me interesting. She even flirted with me, so much that her colleague started to look our way.

On the plus side: Working on fundamentals out there make women notice you, and that makes you even more eager to become better with them. So that's that at least.

I am also experimenting with scent and how it attracts women, I read this article and stopped showering every day: https://www.girlschase.com/content/having-male-scent-fills-women-lust

I also stopped wearing cologne as well in order to let my natural scent come out. I am getting very excited to see what effects it will give as I talk to women this week because I started this new regimen a week ago. But it seems promising so far.

 

[kristian]

Since I went out for a minor business meeting I also go the chance to approach a couple of girls on my way back home.

The first one was simple and easy: She looked my way and even smiled a bit, so when I turned around I made a remark about her outfit asking her if she was an athlete. We talked a little about the weather, where she was going and what she has done so far. I wasn't attracted so I wished her a good day.

A good reminder that there's always one or two girls who show me enough interest to have a good approach when I go out.

The contrast

And then, as I was on my way to meet a female friend I see a cute brunette walking my way. I stop her and she looks at me with expectation.

Me: I saw you walking down the street and I have to tell you I find you cute. Kristian is...
Her: Yikes! I don't want to know anything from you. (starts walking away, clearly repulsed by my approach).
Me: I don't think you believe me at all. Do ya?

I get no response as she passes me by. She later turns around giving me a look of disgust.

Reminds me that there always a chance a girl can reject you extremely hard. She clearly got triggered by my approach and I will never know the story behind that.

I have around 900 approaches so far and that one is one of about a handful that ended in harsh rejections. Just a reminder for those guys who still are on the fence if they should start cold approaching or not.

On a positive note: I think I will devote a day every week to mass approach and try out different things. There are 4 - 5 guys I've seen doing this and I know 3 of them because I always stop cold approaches when I see them and believe me, it's extremely rare. One of them is down to do this more often so that's cool!

Some inner observations

As I continue this journey I am also going a lot more inside and guess what? I am chasing a lot less. That makes me calmer when girls reject me, or I don't miss a beat when she doesn't respond or says "maybe".

I guess going through the meatgrinder is transforming me into a guy who is more comfortable in his own skin. I still get flustered and that many times each week, but I am also more aware when its happening so I respond a lot more than react.

 

[kristian]

Another day of walking from the office, back home, to a meeting and then another meeting. The cool thing about walking from one place to the next is that I get exposed to women.

*Like the girl who was looking my way as I was going out the door. She was clearly looking for someone to talk to as she was trying to find an address nearby.
*Or the girl at the local cafe as I sat and worked on some articles. She sat nearby and worked at the opposite table. She even looked my way, but I was too eager to finish some work I had a deadline on.
*As I sat there, a blond girl looks my way on her way out.

And these are the ones I noticed and the day had just started.

Then I made some approaches. I wasn't keen on talking to anyone since I was in a rush and a little cold socially. I managed to give one genuine compliment to a Russian tourist that couldn't join me to an instant date as she was with her female friend.

After that I got harshly rejected by a girl that clearly wasn't on my market. No worries, I felt great and wanted to see if I could find other girls.

As I bought some juices (since I am fasting today) I flirted with the cashier, I couldn't do anything about it since she had other customers vying for her attention. I go out, get a smile from a cougar, start running after her and deliver my compliment. She shows me her ring telling me she is married, but happy a guy like me had the balls to talk to her.

I meet a friend and while we are talking, several girls start noticing. A girl looks at me as I say goodbye to him I start running after her. Introduce myself, give her a compliment, start talking about her day and deep diving a little. We trade some info (since I couldn't instant date her because I had a job appointment).

Reminds me that there a big difference between girls that send me signals and not and how they receive me. I think I have to be better at recognizing these signals and write about every minor interaction moving forward. Can't wait to see if my date-ratio changes!

 

[kristian]

It's getting really cold here in Norway, a little below the freezing point so cold approaching- girls after 17:00 on the streets it's not that easy. And thinking back from previous years its true. That means its weather has something to say here.

That will not stop me from approaching women because they still send me signs of interest. But I know that sunny days and warmer days are more conducive to approaching successfully.

A couple of observations:

*Hot cougar sending me clear signals as I passed her by with my female friend.
*Young girl looking at me and looking down and away as I enter the bus.
*Hot Asian girl playfully talking to me as I remarked her outfit (she was working in the cafeteria I was a guest on).

But all a little difficult to make a substantial move on. It might be that the time for mass approach is not there yet since I am going inward and working on my masculinity and fundamentals. At least sexiness is being less of a mystery.

 

[kristian]

Writing about all memorable interactions. As promised.

The first one was on my way to a meeting. Girl looking at me as I stare back. Smiles warmly. Looks away. I got taken by surprise so I did not move making an excuse that "she was in a hurry".

Girl two and three at a cafeteria looking at me, then looking away. I thought it was too quiet inside to approach without getting noticed. And making it awkward for her.

Girl four as I go out the metro station. Smiles back as vividly like the first one. I had to run so no talk there.

I see two other girls checking me out as well, damn we are getting to six already.

Girl seven is one I already caught flirting with me last week ( works close to my job). I cold approach her. She really likes me back, digs my vibe. Is a model. Tall, blonde, nice body. Has a boyfriend but doesn't object when I say "we should take a drink sometime". Gives me her number.

Girl eight. A journalist interviewing my boss (I know her a little). I say "see you at Claudio's party" give her an intense stare with a squint in my eyes. She perks up. Flirts back.

Girl nine and ten. Look at me as I pass them by.

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Ten girls. In a cold day and I did not have any plans to approach any. I was just in my own mood, listening to music, singing by myself. And if course more aware of girls signals. Game is slowing down and my fundamentals are making women notice me.

I am, however, fasting more. Working out. Doing things I love. That gives me a vibe, an awareness people - especially girls - look back at.

Miss T just left. Made love to her five times. She feels great. Miss A say she misses me and that she can't wait for exams to be over.

Now I sent an intention to meet a new lover soon. Let's make that happen.

 

[kristian]

While waiting for Miss T last week, I had trouble just relaxing. You see; as a co-dependent, I really have problems when relationships become deep - so I either become a little too needy (which I can sort of pretend not to be) or worse, I can push girls away by "making mistakes" or sabotaging the relationship.

It is like my mind starts to look for the eject button. Something that happens if I see something as a light rejection. She took a little too much time to respond? Or she did respond in a different way? That must be xyz! It's amazing how real those stories in my mind seems.

I guess this is just a part of becoming better with women; actually being able to trust them when they say they really like me as I am.

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Now back to today's interactions. I did not feel good today, so I skipped work - although I ended up working out and doing some work at home instead. After relaxing a bit I went out for a walk before dinner.

*Girls seem to notice me. Even on a bad day. They look at me and then look down.
*I am not "hiding" my glance anymore. I think this must be one of the reasons they react shy and submissive.

On my way back home, this happens: A girl with a dog stares back. I say hi and we start a conversation. Then I deliver a genuine compliment, she likes it and says she lives nearby. Then her male friend appears (I thought she was by herself). I ask them if they were a couple, he said no and then she falls on the ground (slippery, icy streets now). I ask her if she is fine, which she is, but now she is a little embarrassed.

I couldn't number close that one. But I am getting close to the next level.

Things to learn:

*More physicality. Bolder. Faster escalations.

 

[kristian]

Winter depression has been bothering me since last week for no particular reason. I realized it has something to do with lack of vitamin D and sunlight. It's so dark here - only sunlight for a handful of hours before its dark again (usually around 16:00). Mix it with a little cold weather and snow and then everything seems so negative.

And when you feel down - girls don't seem to matter. You lose the drive and think negatively about everything.

But even on a bad day, even when I feel like shit I somehow managed to get a girl interested. She approached me, wanting me to sign a petition. I said yes and started talking to her.

Me: I find you cute.
Her: Thank you.
Me: Kristian is my name.

I later say we should do something soon and she gladly agrees to give me her FB-account and set up a meeting. She then says she is available in December for a drink. I touch her here and there before excusing myself.

And then I realized I could have deep dived her a little more and maybe even pushed for her number. I didn't bother me though since I wasn't in the mood to flirt with girls.

Other than that. Nothing special. I tried to trade info with a girl that works on the same floor as me, and she counters it by giving me her work e-mail. I get it, she is not interested. At least I know.

In the midst of it all; I miss Miss T. I really like her to be honest and I told her my need to meet other women, which she seems totally fine doing. But who knows what shell think in a month or two? She might get tired just like the Icelandic girl I dated this way last year. But for now, I really enjoy being emotionally involved with a girl I am having sex with.