From lame ass to badass. My transformation

[slazenger]

I haven't had that rock star-vibe lately. I still get girls checking me out as much as ever, but I feel a little empty inside. There's more fear in my game than it used to be and I think it has something to do with my increased value. I believe it has something to do with this:

*As I reach a certain level of success (like having a number each time I go out, or getting friends with benefits or receiving more signals from girls) I feel like the king of the world. I feel like I've made it and the new level of success give me date momentum.

*Then the weeks go by and I get used to all those things. My brain starts searching for new levels of success. "Now I can get a date a week and more solid numbers", but I want consistent lays and numbers from more attractive girls. How do I get there?

I'm probably telling you what you already know, but... this is not unlike drug addiction. I've never been into drugs but my understanding is that once you start getting high, it takes more and increasingly potent drugs to maintain that high. It's the same with women and sex. As you keep climbing the mountain you will desire hotter and sluttier girls - going backwards doesn't work. Unfortunately, once you get to the top of the mountain, you just have to do everything you can to stay there... because below you is an abyss to which you cannot return. The only potential quasi-solution is to work harder to keep the really good partners so that you don't have to spend as much time and energy seeking out new ones. Yes, you'll get bored with all of them eventually, but... if they're really compatible it should take a while.

It's an interesting thing about "variety," which is what most heterosexual men seek. Variety is situation-dependent. When you're in a relationship, "variety" is fucking other chicks that aren't your partner - that's the variety most men crave. But when you've got access to lots of hot women and sex - like a rock star, to use a cliche - this "variety" actually gets old and a new "variety" is sought out - in the form of a relationship. This is why you see actors, rock stars, and other high status males getting married. They get tired of screwing different chicks all the time - it gets boring - and "variety" is actually settling down with one chick (or so they believe at the time). Now, eventually, most of these folks get bored with that version of "variety" and they start screwing around again... and divorced. So, the desire for variety is something all guys have to manage... because the definition of variety changes over time (and back again, often).

 

[kristian]

I'm probably telling you what you already know, but... this is not unlike drug addiction. I've never been into drugs but my understanding is that once you start getting high, it takes more and increasingly potent drugs to maintain that high. It's the same with women and sex. As you keep climbing the mountain you will desire hotter and sluttier girls - going backwards doesn't work. Unfortunately, once you get to the top of the mountain, you just have to do everything you can to stay there... because below you is an abyss to which you cannot return. The only potential quasi-solution is to work harder to keep the really good partners so that you don't have to spend as much time and energy seeking out new ones. Yes, you'll get bored with all of them eventually, but... if they're really compatible it should take a while.

I can clearly see what you say here. As a guy who has done a lot of drugs and had relatively many women.

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So as I get acclimated to certain reactions on my way to the top of the sexual pyramid I feel a lot more incompetent with women. As a consequence of these thoughts, I also researched about the Dunning - Kruger effect, which states that better more you know about something, the more incompetent you feel. To a certain point.

That's why the clueless people think they're amazing while experts have realistic expectations about their knowledge. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning–Kruger_effect

Analyzing my game


The need to improve my mid-game is becoming more important. I know how to open correctly and deliver good compliments, but I still lack skills to make a strong enough impression on girls to respond to my texts and agree to meet up - although I already know much better than before how to seduce.

I am great one-on-one. I know how to make an interested girl connected with me. I also know how to touch properly and escalate with tension and sexuality. My seduction skills are good enough to make girls understand that I want them sexually enough to start making love within 10 minutes as we walk the door.

But I don't get to the date-point as consistently as I want. Opening and talking to girls, and even getting numbers is easy - but I fuck up, either within the first text or as we are talking/setting up the tone to arrange a meeting.

I've tried to be more attainable and humble. I tried to increase light touches, but maybe I just need to increase tension? I still don't know and believe I need to experiment a lot more to conclude. Another easier way is to simply pay for a couple of coaching sessions - like someone who can see me approach women and give me pointers on what to improve to be more consistent.

New observations

I went to this concert with a band a friend of mine is a member of and started flirting a little with the girls there.
*They are more welcoming and signal more than usual.
*But more aware of their social circle, making it harder to isolate and escalate right away.

I had a girl sending me signals so I approached. She was also investing a little, but difficult to isolate as she "had to be with her friends". I later realized I could have joined in, flirted with her in front of them and then isolated. So more work on these situations could be needed.

Miss A is a girl who really tests me. Like for real. Her aim is always to put me out of balance, by playfully attacking me after sex.
*Commenting on my body, manliness in a teasing way.
*Acting like she does not care about me or my feelings or saying "other girls must be weak around me".

I normally cut out these types of girls but she gives me a lot of training in order to handle her and her tests. Which often can be pretty harsh. I usually stay calm and handle these (and it's getting better each time) but she always finds a way to poke me and set me a little out of it.

The sex is clearly amazing. By far. And I believe the reason she comes back for more must be that I, unlike other guys she talks to, can pass these a lot more. As a Russian girl, she often says "guys here are not men" and seem satisfied I often stay collected and aggressive to dominate her.

But each time we meet up, and it's strictly for sexual encounters, I always pretend it to be our last meeting. And that gives me an aura of confidence and calmness she always tries to test to the limit. Its fun and the sex is extremely rewarding.

Other than that I feel like I really want to go all the way to pick up much more in January. Many girls are out of town now and logistics have been bad lately, due to exams for college women. January will be much better as I also tend to do better in this month.

 

[kristian]

I just had a break from it all for a couple of days now. No approach at all and I felt good not talking or flirting at all. Both Miss T and Miss A have been busy the last couple of days - and my bosses are on vacation. That means I spend these days relaxing, watching youtube videos about politics, history and philosophy and of course making music and learning some new skills.

You see, because I had some days off, I realized that I want to work a lot more with my music and my voice. Working on myself is giving me a special aura, the kind of vibe that tells people I am going somewhere. Small things doesn't bother me because my projects - and I have increased the investment on myself from early fall - give me a reason to work hard.

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As a result my, approaches seem more natural (mainly because I am very chill) and I am able to make girls invest a little bit more. And if a woman reject me, it doesnt matter that much. There are many out there, and women is not the most important thing in my life now, making me more relaxed around them.

But I still see where I can improve because I am far away from where I want to be.
*Like the girl I thought was interested in me at a cafe. I said something and she replied coldly - next time just slow open a littlebit.
*And then a stunning woman appears and she was looking my way. I did not find a way to open her since she was far from my table and sorrounded.
*At the gym a hot woman appeared, as I was doing my set, both of us realiezed we know each other (a daygame date very long time ago).
*We both tried to talk and move things forward, but I was too much in my head (because she is stunning). It just ended with both of us trying to stay aloof but talking a little bit without pushing it because of ego and fear of rejection. What a mess!

But in the midst of it all - things are moving forward. As long as I approach a couple of girls and social, I am able to make an impact on some girls and get some numbers. As I said earlier, I need to work on two things:
*Moving more agressively.
*A coach to help me get to the next level.

So whats the next level?

Thats a date once or twice a week - and be able to sleep with them 50% of the time.

 

[kristian]

When you're really horny. Like really turned on and in public, some girls seem to notice it. They even become quite curious at you and start looking your way.
I haven't been gaming as much when I am in that state - but the few times I've been there and socially warmed up, I can really do some interesting stuff.

*Escalating in public.
*Or not caring if she likes me or rejects me.

Being horny also makes me persist with some women. I had an interaction like that with my female, lesbian friend who is not attracted to guys at all. But as she lied beside me, and let me touch her I came to the point of fingering her. It wouldn't happen if I did not persist, and I persisted because I was horny, being able to transfer that state to her. We later sat down and talked about it and she, as I did realize it has something to do with:

*The fact that sexual desire can be mechanical. She was horny because I touched her the right way that made her juices flow.
*That means a girl doesn't need to be sexually attracted to you, but she needs to trust you enough to let you at least try and persist. Once she let you, its possible to get away with a lot.

It also reminds me of what an ex-girlfriend once told me.
"Sometimes you're just horny, and if no one is available, the first guy you can find can be enough. You just want to have sex and see it in a pure exchange".

Interesting. How many girls can I have this way?
Maybe I've been too concerned about being someone's first choice, what if I just settle into the 2nd or 3rd choice once in a while?

I want to play a little bit more around with sexual tension and touching around my female friends.

 

[kristian]

A birthday message from Miss J.

"Congratulations, Kristian. So many feelings and things we went through a year ago. I feel like I learned a lot from you and I am very thankful for all the lessons. I hope you're doing well. You have so much to give to other people. I know that."

Just worthless words in my mind. So I reply this:

"Thank you, Miss J".

The moment I sent that message, I wanted to say something else and try to chase. Then I realized the pain I've been through, it's not worth it and I feel good just giving her that reply.

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Then all of a sudden, AK appears again, trying to chase me down for a meeting. She even called me trying to invite me for a drink. I said I couldn't as I just entered the door at Miss T's house. But told her we should schedule something. She agreed. The rest is a mystery.

Speaking of Miss T, I think I hit the jackpot with this one. She really likes me for me. No games. She is always open to new ideas both in life and in the bedroom and is low maintenance. I want to meet her for the long run as long as she is accepting the fact that I have other women in my life.


Miss A is taking a break from me, I believe. And Ay is chasing. I am not longer into her so, for the most part, I try to ignore her calling a little.

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The few times I've been out, my sexual desire has made me a little more direct with women. Not verbally, but non-verbally. I later send these girls flirty messages trying to set up dates one of them is coming to my party, she says.

Other than that, I've lost my appetite for day game. I believe it has mostly something with my ego. So I have to go back to the basics all over again in order to get that momentum going.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Is day game getting too hard?

A birthday message from Miss J.

"Congratulations, Kristian. So many feelings and things we went through a year ago. I feel like I learned a lot from you and I am very thankful for all the lessons. I hope you're doing well. You have so much to give to other people. I know that."

Just worthless words in my mind. So I reply this:

"Thank you, Miss J".

The moment I sent that message, I wanted to say something else or try to chase. Then I realized the pain I've been through, it's not worth it and I feel good just giving her that reply.

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Then all of a sudden, AK appears again, trying to chase me down for a meeting. She even called me trying to invite me for a drink. I said I couldn't as I just entered the door at Miss T's house. But told her we should schedule something. She agreed. The rest is a mystery.

Speaking of Miss T, I think I hit the jackpot with this one. She really likes me for me. No games. She is always open to new ideas both in life and in the bedroom and is low maintenance. I want to meet her for the long run as long as she is accepting the fact that I have other women in my life.


Miss A is taking a break from me, I believe. And Ay is chasing. I am not longer into her so, for the most part, I try to ignore her calling a little.

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The few times I've been out, my sexual desire has made me a little more direct with women. Not verbally, but non-verbally. I later send these girls flirty messages trying to set up dates one of them is coming to my party, she says.

Other than that, I've lost my appetite for day game. I believe it has mostly something with my ego. So I have to go back to the basics all over again in order to get that momentum going.

 

[kristian]

Is day game getting too hard?

Not at all. Daygame, at least for me, is a cyclical thing. I work on the fundamentals, then I have fun just talking to girls, then I get better at it before the results come.

But after a while I want even more results, just getting numbers or a date or even lays isn't enough. My mind starts looking for consistency and better quality. And instead of enjoying every interaction, I start thinking too much about results. This final stage lasts for some weeks before I accept that I have to come back to the basics again.

So I am accepting that, but my mind doesn't want to, so there's an inner fight, stealing the fun out of it.

I'll be back sooner than later, though. Better than before. For each cycle there's always an improvement.

The weather here is also a factor, too dark and cold now. And girls are just rushing in the streets having no time for me. I guess this is an excuse to not work as hard.

Thank you for pointing it out!

 

[Alcman]

I'll be back sooner than later, though.

You better be!

 

[kristian]

Having an honest discussion with a woman after getting nowhere with her.

Me: You, see Johanna. I really like you and I liked you from the moment I saw you (PAUSE). The thing is that you make it really hard for me to know you. I've been trying to ask you questions, giving you many chances to tell me about yourself.
But when you rebuff me and act disgusted at my questions, you're making it really hard for me.
Her: Oh, I am so sorry. I like you too.
Me: So why are we going in circles then?

This is the turning point but at the same time, it was a little late to save things. I tell her I want to dance and I am going out with my female friend and find a discotheque.
II ask her to join us, she says she won't. I let her go.

I loved that conversation.

And then we went out to dance. I got stares here and there. No actual conversations, mainly because as I was high on LSD and wanted to just be "in the moment".

The cool thing about psychedelics: It's a rare occurrence, but going out makes everything a little more interesting. As a guy who has tried a lot of drugs, LSD is my favorite. Mainly because I learn many new things when I am going out - and no one notices it, not even my female friend who was hanging out with me for many hours (I never tell people when I am on acid).

A little observation

I see a girl and give her a sloppy introduction (cold approach) the other day. There was no pre-opening and pauses in between or anything.
Then she looks at me in disgust and says "no, I don't want anything from you".

That hurts.

So I see another girl and do everything right this time. This one loves it, but cant stay as she was running late for work.

This means I can get over one bad rejection by doing my best the next time.

Another observation
I've been stopping girls I like, without any invitations.

As long as my attraction is real, they like you back....

I will continue doing this.

A couple of things:
1. Meditations
2. No-fap makes me horny and aggressive. That's good.
3. Visualizations.

And lastly...

Being completely okay with a woman saying no. There are so many other cool things happening in my life that I can be all by myself and still enjoy the moment.

 

[kristian]

Still approaching girls every day.

Having a good impact and moving forward whenever I can, but still a little impatient since its soon two months since my last new lay.

I feel I am getting closer, I need to continue this until I meet a new girl again. I want four in a row.

Let's send that intention!

 

[kristian]

Oh God!

I am going through a little dry-spell woman wise (still have girls down for sex, but no new lays since November), but I am having much fun trying out new things.

*Went to a meeting today and when my customer left the cafe, I approached a girl sitting there, making it an instant date then and there.
*There was a girl that I also talked to. Her father arrived and she went weird, so I warmly excused myself.
*On my way to the studio I also approached. This time a married one. The cool thing with foreign women (this one was from Iran and the first one from France) is that I can throw in some Spanish words. They seem to love it and it makes it easier to escalate. Sadly, she did not want to have an instant date then and there and wouldn't give me her number.
*Lastly I talked another girl on my way out of a food store. We started talking, and then I started asking what she was up to. She was saying she was on her way to home and I thought she was going to take the bus but no. It became weird because I did not come with anything to say. So I let her go.

One the upside.

Spanish works very well. Especially in combination with touching.

Logistics are important, see what she is up to and make moves from there. Questions like: Is she waiting for someone? Where is she going? What is she up to? Is she married/in a relationship? This is crucial as I now am good enough to make an impact on many girls (none of the above sent me any invitations).

I had a couple invitations but made excuses not to approach - that's not good.

My sexual desire is at least growing a lot. So it's just a matter of time!

 

[kristian]

So I went to the gym today, after almost three weeks of absence - and my sexual vibe, being dialed up, made three girls notice me as I enter the room. A blonde girl passed my way and smiled at me. I tried to figure out if I could say something and made an excuse to wait a little bit more.

Then I see a brunette looking my way. Several times. In-betweens sets I started complimenting her for working out hard despite being tired (she was yawning). I find out she a foreigner and we start chatting a bit before I say I found her cute, asking her if she is single. She tells me her man is from Portugal and when I start speaking Spanish I see she gets excited. I wish her well and continue my workout.

As I go out to change clothes, the blond girl is leaving the gym. Damn! She even smiles again. I start dressing up really fast and run out of the gym trying to find her. She cant be found, damn. Missed opportunities.

Then a new girl passes by, and she smiles at me. Three women are also walking behind her and notice me running after her. I pre-open (with bad fundamentals) and put a lot of pressure on her. She rejects me and runs away, and the three women start looking weird at me, haha.

That hurts...

But then I went for a roundabout on my way home. Only smiles, but no cute girls to talk to.

*Logistics are important.
*Never forget the basics (pre-open, smiles, voice tonality and so on).

Kudos for being forward!

 

[kristian]

I see her and this time I decide to approach the right way. She did not send me any invitations but I liked her so I went straight up.

Me: (After pre-opening). I just saw you pass me by, (pause) and I had to tell you (pause) that I find you really cute.

She starts smiling and I transitioned from there asking her what she does. She tells me about her studies and her work. She then asks me what I do, and when I said I sing, she smiled warmly asking me even more. I reached the hook point.

And by this time. Just before I was going to give up she appeared. I was glad I ignored my feelings and approached her (after having several failed attempts through the day.

Me: So what are you up to now?
Her: Nothing special, actually. I'm just going to a store and look for some clothes (escalation window).
Me: Why don't we go and grab a coffee?
Her: I already had coffee. (test)
Me: A cup of tea then... Or a soda...
Her: (smiles, I passed the test) Where do you want me to take a coffee?
Me: There's a place nearby actually.

As I was walking with her she says she has a bf. I ignore this and start talking about the weather and so on. She asks me where I live and when I say Tøyen and try to get her there, she says it a little too long (bad logistics I guess). I was thinking I could move her later on. I buy her a coffee and find us a cozy couch and we start talking about music.

After a while, I start touching her arms. Her thighs. She doesn't move. She doesn't protest.

Her: So how often do you do this? (test)
Me: Do what?
Her: How often do you stop girls like this.
Me: So you think I am a player, huh?
Her: Maybe?
Me: I don't believe in Tinder or online dating. I do not go out at night-clubs. Do I do this every day? No, but when I am inspired and see someone I am attracted to I can start talking. You see, I love women. And when I saw you I just had to talk to you.
Her: (smiling)

Then her sister starts calling and as she was talking to her, I started touching her hands. The place was too crowded and light to just start kissing, so I figured out I could do it outside.

Me: let's go to my place.
Her: I cant. If I do we will end up having sex. I and my BF are trying to figure out things. I have to be honest with you. I like you, but I won't cheat on him.

Which is totally understandable...

After going to the bathroom, we walk outside. Hand in hand. I follow her to the store. Hold her tightly in my arms as I kiss her goodbye on her cheek. She said she loves how approachable I seem (I guess I am attainable) and how direct I am. I say I would love to check out on her in a couple of months. If she is single we could be lovers, I say. She smiles. Then I wave her goodbye.

All this in one hour.

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I think I needed this. Next time I would move a girl closer to my place and been more persistent. Other than that, I think I pushed myself out of my comfort zone

 

[kristian]

One of my main challenges is quieting the ego - as I often feel stops me from approaching when I become attached to results.

I had a day off yesterday and as I went out I felt a little unease, I wanted girls to like me and did not notice that.

So the first two girls did not give me any love - despite doing things technically correct. I wanted to give up by then because felt bad. However, I wanted to know if it was possible to work on my resilence despite my lousy state.

I went to the central station to regain my thought and BAM a girl looks at me with desire. I did not approach at all. Her sign was loud and clear.

And after feeling sorry for myself, I talked to a blonde girl. Says she has bf.

Then a black girl, who give me signs. I approach and she runs away (haha).

Then a couple of girls outside. One of them hooks and tells me she has been on a romantic trip with her boyfriend. It was nice though, but she had to get home (she from out of town).

Then two in a row. Both like my approach but nothing fruitful happens.

Then I walk around the streets. Ignore a girl whos clearly sending signals and talk to one with bad logistics at hand - and that wasn't interested.


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When you feel bad about yourself, few thing works. The attraction is the same, weirdly. And tracking back, I also see that the reactions are also the same. But I act differently - like not pulling the trigger, or not being persistent or caring if she rejects. Things like that.

So it all comes to what I am thinking when I go out. Especially after a day with some success.

 

[kristian]

Two things I learned from yesterdays and today's flirting:

1. Since my sexual energy is turned up, I can transmute that to many girls. Something I started seeing pretty recently. Its shown in the way they look at me - and it feels quite different than how girls saw me before.

However, far from every girl can be turned on by my presence and the ones that do, do because I made them invest before I did it.
*Like the petite girl I started working a little bit with yesterday. As I asked her questions and made her invest I could see that it became easier.
*Or the tall, blonde girl today. I took many pictures of her prior to talking with her, so transmuting my sexual energy was much easier.

Note: I am turned on, but ignored the girls when they entered the room. I was being nice, but neutral. Then I started working on them.

I went out yesterday and had a couple of okay interactions, but I was too much in my head (due to lack of experience going out alone at nightclubs). So this did not work as well. My main strength is day game and I want to have consistency seducing women.

2. I think I found a way of getting to know girls that work better.

*As you walk the street try to get eye contact with her. Then smile.
*If she smiles back and/or looks down. You turn around. Then pre-open.
*Deliver your genuine compliment (with pauses and transition from there.

Being happy and game

Even though I have not had a new lay in two months, I am getting closer to making a bigger impact the girls I talk to.

I believe it has a lot to do with my inner happiness as a result of following my dreams (making music, working on my finances and so on).
I am more at ease with things and that makes girls invite themselves into my life.

The other main thing is my increased sexual lust due to more meditations and visualizations (of me in sexual encounters).

These two makes me have a bigger impact, I believe. The former makes me carefree, the latter makes me more aggressive.

Now I have to continue trying to find more missing bits and pieces, until I reach my goal: Being able to seduce two to four new women a month.

 

[kristian]

So yesterday was a day I had many cold approaches and was even able to have one instant date, thanks to my increased libido and sexual transmutation.

Crazy girl and logic vs emotions
As I left the gym, energized and ready, I see a girl just standing by the bus stop. I pre-open her and introduce myself, she even remembered me since this was a girl I cold approached a couple of years ago when I was new in the game and did not have a clue.

I say I am going the same way as she since she was looking for a sim card. As we start talking, I realize she is crazy. She began telling me about domestic abuse and that she lives in a center for abused women. I ask her how she is and she tells me she is not "in a good place" psychological-wise - but I manage to flirt with her and make our encounter an instant date (by asking her if she wants a coffee).

As we sit there, I cant make her invest emotionally anymore (we where flirting before entering the coffee shop) and I realize it might have something to do with her being logical as she was trying to figure out how to install the sim card. I try applying some social pressure on her. I try helping her and I try deep diving a little as she sat there (and at the same time not appearing chasey), only for her to ignore me. After 30 minutes I follow her outside, hug her goodbye and leave on good terms. It was clear to see that she wasn't in a good place mentally to be seduced.

Then I went for walk - on my way to Miss T.

Another blast from the past
I spot another girl I daygamed earlier (and this one 8 months ago or so).

She recognizes me instantly and we start talking. Because logistics were bad (on my way to Miss T), I did not put too much emphasis on making this an instant date, but instead spent my time deep diving, asking her questions about her day and transitioning from there.
*As she says she is walking to look for a place where she can write, I start asking her about this, her writing goals and comparing it to my journey.
*I also found out what she does for a living (teacher) and spoke about kids and how much you learn from them.
*For each time I ask her something, I also "reward her" by touching even more, and increasing my sexual tension - by looking more intensely in her eyes.
*Then I invite her out, she says okay and we agree to meet up this Wednesday

I continue walking and see another girl looking at me. I smile, just like I did in the description in my last post and pre-open her. It turns out we went to junior high together and I manage to number closer her. I still feel she won't respond, to my initial message, but you can never truly know...

Girl with female friend - and how to make friend like you
Then I see a couple of girls on the opposite street, they start walking behind me, and as they pass me by, the girl I liked the most was looking at me. I introduce myself, saying I find her cute, and we start talking about what they were doing then and there.
*This time I decided also to talk to her friend, not alienating her as I've done before.
*I started the conversation about what they were up to and their friendship, inviting her friend to help out. Thanks to this she gave us some leeway as I transitioned to what my girl does for a living.
*I deep dived her and we talked about her work and her future plans.

"Okay, Ada. I have to walk this way now. But I find you cute and want to meet you. How about we get together sometime and grab a drink?"

She responds she would love to, but also says she is dating someone else. I say that's okay and we exchange numbers.

Other than that, I spot a cute petite girl and do my thing. I find out she has a boyfriend so I leave it at that.

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As a side note. As I passed a guy by, he became triggered by me and started yelling in my face. I stayed my ground, neither fighting or flighting and just continued walking as he did not exist. Then he shoved me a little from behind, but I did not care.

Inside I was nervous, but I stayed very calm in an extremely tense situation.
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I think being better at reading girls signals and smiling at them before pre-opening has given me a little extra edge.
And it seems like I learn something new every time I gCan'tt. Cant wait to do this again!

 

[kristian]

At least I am talking to and opening several girls every day. A few observations:

*It is becoming increasingly easier to see which girls can be open. It has a lot to do with their body language as they walk the streets. If the walk slowly and is looking around, they can be opened easier. If they look back at you, then its even easier. Especially after looking down or smiling back.

*I still skip several girls a day. The real stunners, the ones that send me invitations that don't I respond to and so on. It often has something to do with my own beliefs. That need to be revised.

*If I plow through, with a girl that cant escape (of course being polite and positive) she has to respond well. Then I can ask her if she is single or not.

Fun date with taken girl

So today I had an interesting date. With a woman, I had daygamed before (mentioned her a couple of posts ago).

As we were talking - and as I was touching her back - she suddenly takes my hand and moves it away. A big test so I just did so and continued talking as if nothing happened. I try to ignite sexual tension between us but there's something off this time. She looks back with the same intensity but nothing happens between us.

Her: I have to say. You're really forward. You don't scare women that way? (another big test).
Me: (looks at her for a very long time). I love women, and I tell them I desire them either verbally and non-verbally. Its often a combination. But let's get real here if I show it too much, then where is the fun?

I passed the test and continued being very forward. She says "she hasn't met someone as direct like me" and find it refreshing. We later talk about inter-gender relationships, leadership by men and courting in general. She agrees that guys have "lost their sexuality" and was concerned about #meetoo and the negative consequences.

- A smart woman. But is taken so my attempts to seduce did not work. Neither did her attempts to friendzone me, so I guess we where even?

Me: (After declining her friendship offer), you see. I can pretend to be your friend, but I still want you as a woman.

She becomes more intrigued than ever and let me escalate a little more. We start touching and as I followed her to the metro station, we held hands. I tried to invite her home, but she was steadfast in meeting her female friends.

So we left it at that.

 

[kristian]

So after feeling off the whole day yesterday I finally decided to go for a walk in the evening. A couple of blocks away from me I spot a cute girl walking with her friend. I did not want to approach at all, after all, I was too much in my own world.

But then I walk many blocks and every time I turn around, I see them right behind me. I couldn't take it anymore so I had to walk to them both.

Me: Hi there, I was walking by you guys a many blocks ago, and every time I turned around I see you right behind me. I find you very cute, so I had to come over and tell you that. Kristian is my name.

One can often feel how the rest of the interaction is going to be right off the bat. You see it in her eyes and how she reacts. Just like with Ada, I also included her friend and started talking about them both and their friendship. Her friend smiled as well but had to go home, so I had this girl all to myself.

It turns out she is on her way to a Tinder-date. We talk a little bit about that and I say "if it doesn't work, we should meet up". She agrees and we start talking about common things (she also speaks Spanish and I also mentioned being a musician, making me sound more interesting and loverish).

Me: Well, MIss H. I have to leave you soon since you're getting close to your date and I see you in another headspace. But I will send you a message tomorrow and check out on you. (smiles).

The interaction made me feel good so I made a couple of approaches after that. Nothing special happened but I wanted to capitalize on my great vibe.

 

[kristian]

Its been a cool night, with many lessons I am too tired to write about today (but will do tomorrow).

*Like Linn, a girl I picked up on the street. She smiled at me and signaled me early on.
*Or the two blonde girls looking my way. One, in particular, was into me, only for me not to know how to handle the situation, as she was with a group of friends.

*Or how girls rebuff you when you go outside. And when you're out with male friends, girls seem to be more "on guard".

*I will also follow up with new girls, and see if I can land a date or two the upcoming week. I am also too horny so I might just online game a little.

To be continued...

 

[kristian]

The importance of talking to girls that like you. And not wasting time on non-receptive ones.


Because of family issues - and my work with music, I haven't been able to write as much as I wanted to the last two days.

Yesterday I realized that I can see within the first minute if a girl is going to hook or not. It is how they see me when I enter their reality. This, in addition to how much they want to invest and body language, like dilated pupils (mixed with touching hair and neck) will tell you if she wants to move forward.

I always test this- and the girls that aren't interested often just want my "Facebook" and not want to hand their number.

Linn, the girl from yesterday, followed my lead after a short conversation. She also agreed to meet up after investing for 20 minutes.

Then I went out and see a couple of blonde girls looking my way. One of them was even looking at me many times. She was surrounded by many guys and I made excuses not to walk up and say something. Instead, I spent my time with a butterface that wouldn't give me her number (although she was excited when I touched her).

After that, I went to a nightclub to meet up with a couple of friends. I started a conversation with two female swimmers (smoking hot) only for them to turn their backs when I wanted to introduce them to my friends (I guess many guys in a nightclub together is a lot worse than going out solo).

Seems like I can't concentrate anymore...

One more thing, I started talking to girls that are into me today, after not doing it as much yesterday (only Linn I did that to and it worked). It was fun and I should have continued a couple of more hours. I will talk to many more girls next time I go out to daygame on the weekends (which are great days when the sun is out).