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kristian said:I haven't had that rock star-vibe lately. I still get girls checking me out as much as ever, but I feel a little empty inside. There's more fear in my game than it used to be and I think it has something to do with my increased value. I believe it has something to do with this:
*As I reach a certain level of success (like having a number each time I go out, or getting friends with benefits or receiving more signals from girls) I feel like the king of the world. I feel like I've made it and the new level of success give me date momentum.
*Then the weeks go by and I get used to all those things. My brain starts searching for new levels of success. "Now I can get a date a week and more solid numbers", but I want consistent lays and numbers from more attractive girls. How do I get there?
I'm probably telling you what you already know, but... this is not unlike drug addiction. I've never been into drugs but my understanding is that once you start getting high, it takes more and increasingly potent drugs to maintain that high. It's the same with women and sex. As you keep climbing the mountain you will desire hotter and sluttier girls - going backwards doesn't work. Unfortunately, once you get to the top of the mountain, you just have to do everything you can to stay there... because below you is an abyss to which you cannot return. The only potential quasi-solution is to work harder to keep the really good partners so that you don't have to spend as much time and energy seeking out new ones. Yes, you'll get bored with all of them eventually, but... if they're really compatible it should take a while.
It's an interesting thing about "variety," which is what most heterosexual men seek. Variety is situation-dependent. When you're in a relationship, "variety" is fucking other chicks that aren't your partner - that's the variety most men crave. But when you've got access to lots of hot women and sex - like a rock star, to use a cliche - this "variety" actually gets old and a new "variety" is sought out - in the form of a relationship. This is why you see actors, rock stars, and other high status males getting married. They get tired of screwing different chicks all the time - it gets boring - and "variety" is actually settling down with one chick (or so they believe at the time). Now, eventually, most of these folks get bored with that version of "variety" and they start screwing around again... and divorced. So, the desire for variety is something all guys have to manage... because the definition of variety changes over time (and back again, often).