Break Ups Got suddenly dumped by an one year LTR girl with depression

[Skills]

Re-reading all the texts I sent, I once again realise what a social retard I am

As i said in my break up video...

Everyone becomes a social retard, needy, game goes out of the window... Your mind is not right fight flight, PTSD etc...

Happens to everyone..

 

[mirror]

Re-reading all the texts I sent, I once again realise what a social retard I am

Chill.. probably you are fine. You just need a tad more confidence right now. Try to focus on the positives

 

[mirror]

"let's think about things and see if we can reset when you get back", and every time she was like " " - she isn't even declining outright...

Can you ask her about this? Maybe some other people confused her too (youknow girltalk and friends with 'useful' advice and stuff)
But i dont think a girl that sends hearts is not into you.

But it's good you are reflecting and learning from things.

 

[mirror]

She said it on day of break up and a few days ago when I was trying to re-initiate after RakeHell's advice. Didn't sound like it was ultimatum. More like a statement.

Play by play in days before break up was written by me on page 7.

1) Basically she was away all June, came in July, saw her as normal, did many nice couple activities together packed into a tight schedule as she said she was going to go home again soon.
2) No real signs of drama under surface - except her being caught up in various family matters and me needing to ask her repeatedly to extend her stay here for longer - to quote from her "There is not much for me to do in London now.. I know you are here, but...." - this nonchalant attitude if she stays here to see me for longer or flies to her parents surprised me (and I should have acted here)
3) She asked me if I want to attend her masters degree graduate reunion event about 10 days before break up - which I declined, very foolishly as I wanted to concentrate on work...
4) Day of break up: I met her in evening after she spent the afternoon with her friend that she invited me to meet previously...

Ok, i do agree with the people here after reading all this. You are very emotional about it. That's all fine, but not helping you think clearly right now. Take a break, do some fun things, then you can decide what the next course of action is.

 

[HeartOfChaos]

Can you ask her about this? Maybe some other people confused her too (youknow girltalk and friends with 'useful' advice and stuff)
But i dont think a girl that sends hearts is not into you.

But it's good you are reflecting and learning from things.

Right now pinging her and asking her about this is a bad idea.

Ok, i do agree with the people here after reading all this. You are very emotional about it. That's all fine, but not helping you think clearly right now. Take a break, do some fun things, then you can decide what the next course of action is.

Agree that she emotionally detached?

Well right now she is still away, I think, and I'll also be away for next 2-3 weeks, so yeah, no point in acting right now. But of course doesn't help to decide in the long term.