To recap about me from my previous posts: 28 year old virgin woman actively going out to meet guys with the end goal of finding a husband.
After almost two months of regular gym visits, finally something interesting things happened with one of the guys there that I’d appreciate some male opinions on.
He looks about mid-20s, very built physique without looking too pumped up (like from steroid use), and obviously a regular gym goer for years. But he’s glued to his phone almost the entire time of his 2 hours+ workouts (because he does like 3 super heavy lifts and then rests for ages while scrolling).
I don’t have a rational reason for why I chose to dedicate time observing him except that I like his looks. So for 6 weeks, I subtly tracked his schedule, sat somewhat nearby when my own workout routine put me in his general area, and glanced over every now and again to check him out.
Since he didn’t interact with anyone else and rarely looked up, I was content to just enjoy the eye candy he provided.
So last week, the gym offered a “bring family and friend for free!” week. He brought his brother. I was already at the abduction machines when I noticed them approach and choose the machines further away from me. Nothing strange about that type of gym etiquette. I glance at him whenever possible, careful not to get caught, and do my workout.
Afterwards, I always do some cardio, so I went on the treadmills. They’re positioned in front of windows which let me check on both guys in the reflection (it was already dark out).
Eventually they get up and Gym Guy—who’s been guiding and teaching his non-gym going brother this whole time—tells him that cardio is next and gets his brother onto the treadmill right next to, with Gym Guy choosing the one beside his brother. This wouldn’t be unusual except 1) the other treadmills were free and 2) gym etiquette says to leave one machine empty in between strangers which is an unspoken rule everyone follows.
Since this is the closest proximity we’ve had so far, I’m excited to stare at Gym Guy up close in the window reflection, with him mostly looking down at his phone or exchanging some words of encouragement (and discipline) when his brother wanted to stop early.
Their designated 30 minutes pass. Gym Guy meanders off first towards the disinfectant (it’s mandatory to disinfect every machine you used), they clean their treadmills, and Gym Guy throws one last glance back at me as he took a sip from his water bottle.
I filed this away as him noticing me.
Soon after, I moved to the Leaning Cycling Machines where his brother walked past first, leaving in his outside clothes, and Gym Guy meandered past minutes later to keep working out downstairs. He didn’t make eye contact.
The next day around noon, I’m back at the gym for my usual routine at the Leaning Cycling Machines. Gym Guy arrives soon after as well and walks past me towards the changing rooms.
Now, when he returned in his gym clothes, he had his water bottle between his lips and made eye contact for the first time. And not fleeting eye contact that could’ve been accidental, where you quickly avert your eyes once the other person meets your gaze. When I looked up, he held my gaze. I didn’t look away at all, and after a good second he looked back down at his phone and meandered off.
I didn’t see him for the rest of that session because I stayed upstairs and was focused on an older guy who actively flirts with me.
Six days pass without me seeing him which is mostly consistent with the routine he seems to have.
This Monday, I chose to wear something more attention-grabbing for the first time: a red crop top, but with long darker pants to not deviate too much from my usual outfits. I also put some nice perfume onto the clothing and added a subtle lipgloss and makeup. Right after my first exercise downstairs, I notice him doing Preacher Curls right by the disinfectant bottle. Of course I choose to walk right past him, put some disinfectant on a paper towel and return right past him again. Since I was facing him this time, I quickly checked him out. He was mid-set and didn’t make eye contact. I cleaned my machine and walked right past him again to leave the area for my next exercise.
He didn’t show up upstairs at all that session, so no cardio machine action there.
I thought maybe he has a biweekly schedule and he’d be upstairs on Wednesday (yesterday), but he neither showed up at noon nor evening at the gym at all.
Regardless of whether he’s attracted to me or not, I just want him around for eye candy because he’s built like a brick-house and hot.
I have two other guys there who are similarly attractive, but haven’t noticed me/made eye contact with me yet, also another guy I meet up with outside the gym, so I’ll be fine either way.
But I’m curious if these could be signs of him being attracted but awkward/shy/already in a relationship.
If you need more details, I’ll provide as much as I can!
Thanks in advance!
After almost two months of regular gym visits, finally something interesting things happened with one of the guys there that I’d appreciate some male opinions on.
He looks about mid-20s, very built physique without looking too pumped up (like from steroid use), and obviously a regular gym goer for years. But he’s glued to his phone almost the entire time of his 2 hours+ workouts (because he does like 3 super heavy lifts and then rests for ages while scrolling).
I don’t have a rational reason for why I chose to dedicate time observing him except that I like his looks. So for 6 weeks, I subtly tracked his schedule, sat somewhat nearby when my own workout routine put me in his general area, and glanced over every now and again to check him out.
Since he didn’t interact with anyone else and rarely looked up, I was content to just enjoy the eye candy he provided.
So last week, the gym offered a “bring family and friend for free!” week. He brought his brother. I was already at the abduction machines when I noticed them approach and choose the machines further away from me. Nothing strange about that type of gym etiquette. I glance at him whenever possible, careful not to get caught, and do my workout.
Afterwards, I always do some cardio, so I went on the treadmills. They’re positioned in front of windows which let me check on both guys in the reflection (it was already dark out).
Eventually they get up and Gym Guy—who’s been guiding and teaching his non-gym going brother this whole time—tells him that cardio is next and gets his brother onto the treadmill right next to, with Gym Guy choosing the one beside his brother. This wouldn’t be unusual except 1) the other treadmills were free and 2) gym etiquette says to leave one machine empty in between strangers which is an unspoken rule everyone follows.
Since this is the closest proximity we’ve had so far, I’m excited to stare at Gym Guy up close in the window reflection, with him mostly looking down at his phone or exchanging some words of encouragement (and discipline) when his brother wanted to stop early.
Their designated 30 minutes pass. Gym Guy meanders off first towards the disinfectant (it’s mandatory to disinfect every machine you used), they clean their treadmills, and Gym Guy throws one last glance back at me as he took a sip from his water bottle.
I filed this away as him noticing me.
Soon after, I moved to the Leaning Cycling Machines where his brother walked past first, leaving in his outside clothes, and Gym Guy meandered past minutes later to keep working out downstairs. He didn’t make eye contact.
The next day around noon, I’m back at the gym for my usual routine at the Leaning Cycling Machines. Gym Guy arrives soon after as well and walks past me towards the changing rooms.
Now, when he returned in his gym clothes, he had his water bottle between his lips and made eye contact for the first time. And not fleeting eye contact that could’ve been accidental, where you quickly avert your eyes once the other person meets your gaze. When I looked up, he held my gaze. I didn’t look away at all, and after a good second he looked back down at his phone and meandered off.
I didn’t see him for the rest of that session because I stayed upstairs and was focused on an older guy who actively flirts with me.
Six days pass without me seeing him which is mostly consistent with the routine he seems to have.
This Monday, I chose to wear something more attention-grabbing for the first time: a red crop top, but with long darker pants to not deviate too much from my usual outfits. I also put some nice perfume onto the clothing and added a subtle lipgloss and makeup. Right after my first exercise downstairs, I notice him doing Preacher Curls right by the disinfectant bottle. Of course I choose to walk right past him, put some disinfectant on a paper towel and return right past him again. Since I was facing him this time, I quickly checked him out. He was mid-set and didn’t make eye contact. I cleaned my machine and walked right past him again to leave the area for my next exercise.
He didn’t show up upstairs at all that session, so no cardio machine action there.
I thought maybe he has a biweekly schedule and he’d be upstairs on Wednesday (yesterday), but he neither showed up at noon nor evening at the gym at all.
Regardless of whether he’s attracted to me or not, I just want him around for eye candy because he’s built like a brick-house and hot.
I have two other guys there who are similarly attractive, but haven’t noticed me/made eye contact with me yet, also another guy I meet up with outside the gym, so I’ll be fine either way.
But I’m curious if these could be signs of him being attracted but awkward/shy/already in a relationship.
If you need more details, I’ll provide as much as I can!
Thanks in advance!
