Re: STICKIED - LR: HBRockerChick
strat,
I think until you start to experience success (and understand the process well of what it takes to get women to bed) it can help to somewhat suppress some normal emotions you have when you feel attraction to a girl. The reason for this being that you can tend to be lead "astray" from the sexy, fundamentally-sound person you're trying very hard to become and end up getting too "excited" during a conversation. It pretty much happens to every guy when he first starts out getting dates with girls: he finds one that he really connects with, begins to get emotionally involved in the conversation, and in the meantime, he suddenly hasn't realized that he gave up his sexy vibe and started focusing on making the girl "like" him rather than want to sleep with him. A lot of these encounters end up in boyfriend-zone territory.
Now, that's not to say you shouldn't be engaging in story-telling and providing feedback to what she has to say -- you don't want to be a robot -- but you need to suppress any emotions of great excitement or great depressions/cynicism. These are usually emotions that never go over well with a girl that you are trying to take as your lover.
I have another post here where I explain to a member how letting your emotions take over in a conversation can kill your vibe.
Once you start taking women to bed however, you'll be able to better calibrate which emotions are the ones to display at the correct times. The higher your empathy, the easier this will be. The lower your empathy, the longer it will take to calibrate this.
- Franco
strat,
I think until you start to experience success (and understand the process well of what it takes to get women to bed) it can help to somewhat suppress some normal emotions you have when you feel attraction to a girl. The reason for this being that you can tend to be lead "astray" from the sexy, fundamentally-sound person you're trying very hard to become and end up getting too "excited" during a conversation. It pretty much happens to every guy when he first starts out getting dates with girls: he finds one that he really connects with, begins to get emotionally involved in the conversation, and in the meantime, he suddenly hasn't realized that he gave up his sexy vibe and started focusing on making the girl "like" him rather than want to sleep with him. A lot of these encounters end up in boyfriend-zone territory.
Now, that's not to say you shouldn't be engaging in story-telling and providing feedback to what she has to say -- you don't want to be a robot -- but you need to suppress any emotions of great excitement or great depressions/cynicism. These are usually emotions that never go over well with a girl that you are trying to take as your lover.
I have another post here where I explain to a member how letting your emotions take over in a conversation can kill your vibe.
Once you start taking women to bed however, you'll be able to better calibrate which emotions are the ones to display at the correct times. The higher your empathy, the easier this will be. The lower your empathy, the longer it will take to calibrate this.
- Franco
We should grab those drinks we talked about soon. What’s your schedule like this week? (I go straight for the date since I built comfort during the instadate)