Bro reading confused me but I’ll try answer anyway.
There have been girls that I liked as a person, but I think they got the impression that I only wanted to fuck them
Add subtle validation points to your interactions.
e.g. “You hungry? Let’s order/cook food”, good conversation before diving into sex, listen to her/deep-dive, cuddle after sex
Obviously don’t go overboard depending on how casual you want to keep it. Also make sure it’s in a chill casual way.
So, how can one tell that the girl feels qualified enough?
She’ll keep seeing and sleeping with you without any: “what are we” or “where’s this going” conversations
Are there some easy benchmarks one can look out for?
How comfortable she is with investing in you. If a girl doesn’t feel qualified she’ll fall into auto-rejection.
if she’s happily: texting 1st, doing things for you like cooking, buying you gifts, mending clothes, ironing shirts, organising concerts
- then you’re in a good place.
^^^ all of these a real examples btw
Don't get me wrong, in the long run I care about all the normal things, but in the beginning I'm running on feel
I get the impression you’re the more romantic wishy washy feelings type. Which is fine
but just know you may come across vague which is why girls may be wondering where they stand with you.
Initially, I don't care if she can cook, or if she is super cool. Don't get me wrong, in the long run I care about all the normal things,
so like most men, for long term situations your standards go up. Girls might be sensing they’ve got a “ceiling” with you. My first points will help with addressing that
All the best man x