How does a 49 year old virgin make up for what he missed?

[Dylweed]

Maybe they aren't. But these porn stars see something in these men. These porn stars are like "I want to be in this guy's audience." That alone is cool enough that I want it for myself.

And I think it would fill the void. It only follows that if I was a nobody in my twenties, in the social environment that people in their twenties find themselves in, I should try to be a "somebody." I should try and make up for all the "nobody time" I endured.



I'm pretty sure the intrigue of famous somebodies would sate me. The question is, how is that done? And can I achieve it? Good questions I think. I came here because I thought Skilled Seducers could answer that for me.

And I appreciate your concern for this "burden" of virginity I'm saddled with, but to lose my virginity on sex I don't wanna have? I don't think it's the answer. But I thank you for your concern.

Dude, I was 22 when i lost my virginity. I hated being a virgin. The idea of getting old and looking at old photos of me as an attractive young guy but knowing i never actually fucked any hot young girls in my prime absolutely terrified me. I felt i was gonna be virgin forever if i didn't take massive action. So i tried absolutely as hard as i could to fuck a girl. It was a race against time. I finally did, fucked a girl I'd consider a 6/10. I'm so glad i did it. Yeah the sex wasn't all that amazing. I honestly was kinda let down after it, thought sex was over hyped. But then i was super happy to not be a virgin anymore. And having sex with that girl lit a fire under my ass. I fucked 8 girls in the next 8 months after that. Some of them were so hot. And i couldn't have done it without banging the 6/10 girl that i wasn't into. That was 8 years ago and to this day i do not regret losing my virginity to that girl. Oh and btw now I love sex.

 

[Gaturro]

Sigh... I don't have any notions of "going straight for the top." I specifically said I'll sharpen my game! I'll fuck whatever unfuckable slags you say I have to fuck! I'll go through any and all steps I have to if it'll lead to what I actually want. I'm not looking to "skip" anything.



This is exactly why I'm concerned about getting shitty advice. Simply having a good profile or being popular on the Internet won't necessarily get me what I want. What I need is to be popular with the RIGHT people. For some reason among all 6 million people in your audience, none of them is a porn star or fitness model. No one's sliding into your DMs like "Hey I'm famous and important like you are, let's be friends." This is why I don't think I should haul off and, like, become a famous cartoon drawist.

And again, I never said I was against approaching, just that some men don't have to. But you say you've slept with girls "like" the ones I mentioned? So are they famous on Instagram or something?

Yes, I've received that kind of DMs in the past. And to be honest, porn stars and fitness models are girls just like the ones who live next door. Most of them have nothing special and they're overrated as fuck.

Given your age, for THAT specific niche (porn star / fitness model), you could probably seduce a MILF with proper game and fundamentals. Things you can do to increase your odds: become the owner of a very big nightclub, or gym owner, or just be in a position of power.

If you wanna go the famous route, if you were young, the best niche nowadays would be to become a TikTok star. But being 49 years old and a virgin, you might as well become a meme... common sense dude.

I think a mod should close this thread because all the advice he needs has been given. I'll make an instagram fundamentals thread because I think it could help a few guys and I believe I have enough experience to make one. But just having a cool instagram won't make you famous. There's lots of talented people who can't even become famous...

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EDIT: Now that I remember. I'll tell you what I did to get intimate with a pornstar. I was actually a virgin (I mean, I wasn't, but I had only fucked a prostitute for, like, 5 minutes).

First of all, I had a YouTube channel with lots of subscribers. 70% male.

I liked some of her tweets and she started following me. I followed her back. I used to post funny tweets and she liked some.

I sent her a DM, and after a few messages I told her we should make a video for my YouTube channel. She teased me about making a "hot" video, and I said we should play a game, but each time you die, you have to take off one piece of clothing (and vice-versa).

She came home on a Friday night in January. I picked her up on an uber, and on the ride home me she told me she was talking to a famous football player. She told me he was ugly, but she doesn't care if he is because he's full of money.

During the game she ended up naked, then after the video she got dressed again.

She stayed at home after the video for like, 4 hours, and we talked about lots of things, plus I had some alcohol. I think all the tech I had read up to that point was Mistery, Blackdragon, Goodlookingloser and Girlschase.

At one point a mosquito bit her, she killed it and blood came out. So I told her it had probably bit me before, so if I got AIDS she'll have it too, so it's totally cool if we fucked because nothing would happen. She said something like "what the fuck did you just say?". I repeated my words, grabbed her hand, and took her to the couch.

Now, this was the first time I got someone on my couch without paying, so I was never able to get my dick hard... (to be fair with Gaturro Jr., I had drank some alcohol, slept only 3 hours the night before, because I drank alcohol as well haha, and had performance anxiety).

You don't want this to happen to you with your dream girl, so yes, of course you want experience...

 

[Rakehell]

@Gaturro

Hey man not to undermine your post but this is all pretty self identifying. Don’t know if you care about discretion but I wouldn’t want this bleeding onto your platform considering the underlying views on all this.

 

[Gaturro]

Hey man not to undermine your post but this is all pretty self identifying. Don’t know if you care about discretion but I wouldn’t want this bleeding onto your platform considering the underlying views on all this.

i don't really care now but maybe i will in the future. thanks I just edited the posts and now they should be less self identifying. thank you

 

[FrothySolutions]

Dude, I was 22 when i lost my virginity. I hated being a virgin. The idea of getting old and looking at old photos of me as an attractive young guy but knowing i never actually fucked any hot young girls in my prime absolutely terrified me. I felt i was gonna be virgin forever if i didn't take massive action. So i tried absolutely as hard as i could to fuck a girl. It was a race against time. I finally did, fucked a girl I'd consider a 6/10. I'm so glad i did it. Yeah the sex wasn't all that amazing. I honestly was kinda let down after it, thought sex was over hyped. But then i was super happy to not be a virgin anymore. And having sex with that girl lit a fire under my ass. I fucked 8 girls in the next 8 months after that. Some of them were so hot. And i couldn't have done it without banging the 6/10 girl that i wasn't into. That was 8 years ago and to this day i do not regret losing my virginity to that girl. Oh and btw now I love sex.

I don't feel that way. I'm not looking to lose my virginity as soon as possible. I'm looking to pay myself back as much as possible. The only fear of time I have is that I might run out of time to do that. If I haven't already. If I have, if it's already truly too late and I'll never achieve my payback, I don't care about my virgin status. There is no joy I could derive from sex if I can't pay myself back what I owe myself.

Yes, I've received that kind of DMs in the past. And to be honest, porn stars and fitness models are girls just like the ones who live next door. Most of them have nothing special and they're overrated as fuck.

Given your age, for THAT specific niche (porn star / fitness model), you could probably seduce a MILF with proper game and fundamentals. Things you can do to increase your odds: become the owner of a very big nightclub, or gym owner, or just be in a position of power.

If you wanna go the famous route, if you were young, the best niche nowadays would be to become a TikTok star. But being 49 years old and a virgin, you might as well become a meme... common sense dude.

I think a mod should close this thread because all the advice he needs has been given. I'll make an instagram fundamentals thread because I think it could help a few guys and I believe I have enough experience to make one. But just having a cool instagram won't make you famous. There's lots of talented people who can't even become famous...

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EDIT: Now that I remember. I'll tell you what I did to get intimate with a pornstar. I was actually a virgin (I mean, I wasn't, but I had only fucked a prostitute for, like, 5 minutes).

First of all, I had a YouTube channel with a million subscribers. 70% male.

I liked some of her tweets and she started following me. I followed her back. I used to post funny tweets and she liked some.

I sent her a DM, and after a few messages I told her we should make a video for my YouTube channel. She teased me about making a "hot" video, and I said we should play strip FIFA. Strip FIFA consists in playing FIFA, but if I score, you have to take off one piece of clothing (and vice-versa).

She came home on a Friday night in January. I picked her up on an uber, and on the ride home me she told me she was talking to a famous football player. She told me he was ugly, but she doesn't care if he is because he's full of money.

During the game she ended up naked (it's still on YouTube haha), then after the video she got dressed again.

She stayed at home after the video for like, 4 hours, and we talked about lots of things, plus I had some alcohol. I think all the tech I had read up to that point was Mistery, Blackdragon, Goodlookingloser and Girlschase.

At one point a mosquito bit her, she killed it and blood came out. So I told her it had probably bit me before, so if I got AIDS she'll have it too, so it's totally cool if we fucked because nothing would happen. She said something like "what the fuck did you just say?". I repeated my words, grabbed her hand, and took her to the couch.

Now, this was the first time I got someone on my couch without paying, so I was never able to get my dick hard... (to be fair with Gaturro Jr., I had drank some alcohol, slept only 3 hours the night before, because I drank alcohol as well haha, and had performance anxiety).

You don't want this to happen to you with your dream girl, so yes, of course you want experience...

First, can we see your YouTube channel? At 6 million subscribers you're essentially a public figure.

And I'm willing to become a meme if it'll earn me the audience of porn stars. I'll Bagel Boss it. He became famous enough that women of status pursued him too.

But as far as you, what you did was show up and start liking her content. And because you're 6 million deep on YouTube, she was intrigued. Okay. NOW we're getting somewhere. I'd really like to see this YouTube channel.

 

[ljrozz69]

GROW UP.

 

[killerman]

Imagine a man who hasn't known the taste of clean drinking water for years. How do you make it right? Maybe you give him clean drinking water. Or maybe you give him crisp champagne. As "interest" for the years he went without clean drinking water. Imagine a man who hasn't known the feel of cotton for years. Maybe you give him a t-shirt. Or maybe you dress him in silks and satins for the rest of his days. As "interest."

What could be done for a man who years, decades, without the touch of a woman?

That's me. My 49th birthday was a few days ago and I've still never been intimate with a woman. In any way. And after a while I stop wondering how to get intimate with "a woman" and start wondering what I can instead do/experience to make it up to myself for going all these years without so much as a kiss. Because the way I feel right now, being with just any one pretty woman is not gonna be enough. I don't even think I want that. An average woman would've been fine if I was having sex at a normal age. But because I'm an old person now, what I want is something big and special. Something that is a fair trade for all the years I was getting nothing. Something that will make those years "worth the wait." Otherwise I'll never be happy.

I've talked to people about this before, yes one of those people was a therapist. I've heard a lot of different things. For instance, how much right do I have to be dissatisfied with my life, really? For instance, if I was... 19. And I was like "I can't believe I'm still a virgin at 19 that's it I need something special," it'd be ridiculous to lament being a virgin at 19. That's perfectly normal. So okay, how about... 21? 22? 25? 30? 35? 40? At what point does your plight become something to write home about? At what point have I earned the right to say "My life is officially substandard?" For when my life is officially "substandard," I can demand satisfaction. And if my life is substandard, if I have passed the threshold where I've gone an unusually long time being a virgin, just getting to be with some woman wouldn't make up for all the sex I should've had over the past decades.

Why don't I just break the seal? Be with "some woman" anyway? Get what I can manage to pull? Because I feel nothing for those women. It's not their fault, these are perfectly fine women. But I can't just stiff myself on the payback I owe. It's insulting. And I can't bring myself to settle for less. So when I see perfectly fine normal women, I feel no interest. I want something special. But I'm not quite sure what would slake my thirst.

And I wonder if this forum/community can even help me with that. For one, can any of you even imagine what it's like to be nigh-50 and sexless? Can you even imagine what it would take to make up for that? It's like trying to imagine unfathomable hunger and telling yourself "I would eat a sandwich." You clearly don't understand unfathomable hunger. You don't understand, you could never eat enough sandwiches.

For two? This community seems less about scratching the itch for feminine company, and more about being a good man. And feeling good about how good of a man you are. What people get excited about around here is not getting to be with hot chicks, but being successful at pulling. Girls are not a reward to people here. Being a good man is. And while that might sound nice, I only care about being a good man as far as it'll get me the woman/women I need.

If I could turn back time and go through my 20s again, go back to school and climb the social ladders there, that would make up for it. But that's impossible. So I... guess I would need to know what the closest thing to that is. But I can't settle for mediocrity. I feel nothing for it. Every day I'm surrounded by people I feel nothing for and don't care about. Things I feel nothing for and don't care about. No I don't want a goddamned hobby. I feel nothing for rock climbing and cliff photography, I'm insulted by the thought of it. The only thing I care about right now is finding the sexual engagement that will excite me again.

You need to improve yourself. End of. What you've been doing has not been working and so you need to improve yourself. There's a great youtube channel called Entrepreneurs in Cars. He preaches "Do the work". Maybe you're socially awkward, I'd say find other like minded people who are into what you're into and make friends. There's a site called Meetup.com. Approach some girls, but DO NOT tell them you're a virgin. Pretend you're experenced. What are your looks like? If you're balding get a hair transplant, or shave it all off. Women do not like the balding look, they prefer full wad of hair or none at all. My biological father has been bald for the last 20 years but he's still had a huge amount of female attention despite it. Girls dont mind bald guys, especially if theyre muscular, that can be a great combo. Start a skincare routine to improve your skin. Do you go to the gym? What's your physique like? Put on as much muscle as possible, women love a strong, well built, muscular guy. And it's SEXY as fuck. It shows dominance, strength and power and oozes sexiness. Not necessarily bodybuilder schwarzenegger style, but think Brad Pitt in Troy, the guys on covers of erotic romance novels. What's your income like? If it's not 6 figures aim for that and if you cant earn that as an employee try and start a business on the side so you can build up to it and eventually leave your employee job. It's not even that pricey in this day and age. You can create a business online, selling courses, teaching people skills, eg courses teaching people how to play guitar, coding, fitness, teaching languages. There are many options. What's your dress style like? Maybe you need to dress with better fashion, get a better hair cut etc

The thing is you need to do the work, it's not easy, it takes a lot of grind and hard work. No one has it easy. I was a virgin in my early 20s despite being tall and quite handsome, especially as soon as i got a good hair cut and got rid of the long hair. Some people can pull it off really well and it increases their SMV, but for me I looked terrible with it and it literally took off 4 or 5 points off my Sexual market value and girls were WAY more interested afterwards. But because I was socially awkward I still passed up so many opportunities. Things didnt start improving until I started approaching girls, and now Ive put some serious muscle on, it's a lot easier to get sexual success. The thing is you need to be brutally honest with yourself and start fixing those areas you're lacking in. And even if you're short 5 foot 5 it doesnt matter. Make up for it by being the short super muscular dude who dressed with better style than 99% of guys out there. There are plenty of women shorter than 5 foot 5 so you'll have no problem there. And a short 5 foot 5 with tons of muscle looks REALLY muscular. You can do it. But you need to do the work. In all areas. If you need any advice I'm here to help.

 

[FrothySolutions]

You need to improve yourself. End of. What you've been doing has not been working and so you need to improve yourself. There's a great youtube channel called Entrepreneurs in Cars. He preaches "Do the work". Maybe you're socially awkward, I'd say find other like minded people who are into what you're into and make friends. There's a site called Meetup.com. Approach some girls, but DO NOT tell them you're a virgin. Pretend you're experenced. What are your looks like? If you're balding get a hair transplant, or shave it all off. Women do not like the balding look, they prefer full wad of hair or none at all. My biological father has been bald for the last 20 years but he's still had a huge amount of female attention despite it. Girls dont mind bald guys, especially if theyre muscular, that can be a great combo. Start a skincare routine to improve your skin. Do you go to the gym? What's your physique like? Put on as much muscle as possible, women love a strong, well built, muscular guy. And it's SEXY as fuck. It shows dominance, strength and power and oozes sexiness. Not necessarily bodybuilder schwarzenegger style, but think Brad Pitt in Troy, the guys on covers of erotic romance novels. What's your income like? If it's not 6 figures aim for that and if you cant earn that as an employee try and start a business on the side so you can build up to it and eventually leave your employee job. It's not even that pricey in this day and age. You can create a business online, selling courses, teaching people skills, eg courses teaching people how to play guitar, coding, fitness, teaching languages. There are many options. What's your dress style like? Maybe you need to dress with better fashion, get a better hair cut etc

The thing is you need to do the work, it's not easy, it takes a lot of grind and hard work. No one has it easy. I was a virgin in my early 20s despite being tall and quite handsome, especially as soon as i got a good hair cut and got rid of the long hair. Some people can pull it off really well and it increases their SMV, but for me I looked terrible with it and it literally took off 4 or 5 points off my Sexual market value and girls were WAY more interested afterwards. But because I was socially awkward I still passed up so many opportunities. Things didnt start improving until I started approaching girls, and now Ive put some serious muscle on, it's a lot easier to get sexual success. The thing is you need to be brutally honest with yourself and start fixing those areas you're lacking in. And even if you're short 5 foot 5 it doesnt matter. Make up for it by being the short super muscular dude who dressed with better style than 99% of guys out there. There are plenty of women shorter than 5 foot 5 so you'll have no problem there. And a short 5 foot 5 with tons of muscle looks REALLY muscular. You can do it. But you need to do the work. In all areas. If you need any advice I'm here to help.

108 posts is understandably a lot of work for very little reward, so I understand not reading this entire thread first. But we've established that I'm willing to do the work. I just... I don't understand what in my opening post even suggested I didn't want to the do the work. Why the FUCK am I here if I'm not looking to learn what "work" I need to do? Where is everyone getting this idea that I don't wanna work???

 

[killerman]

Also what are your interests? If you dont have any find something you're passionate in and focus on that obsessively. Spend all your free time concentrating on it and strive to become part of the top 1% at it. Could be mastering a musical instrument, becoming a great writer etc etc. Women love winners so by becoming successful and your passion you'll attract the women. Women are a representation of your success so if you want a 9 or 10 out of 10 woman you need to become a 10/10 guy who's successful.

 

[killerman]

108 posts is understandably a lot of work for very little reward, so I understand not reading this entire thread first. But we've established that I'm willing to do the work. I just... I don't understand what in my opening post even suggested I didn't want to the do the work. Why the FUCK am I here if I'm not looking to learn what "work" I need to do? Where is everyone getting this idea that I don't wanna work???

but we mean do the work as in do the work on yourself in the real world, not writing internet posts. I get it, you need to communicate on forums and understand why you're not getting the results you want but you need to improve yourself in the real world. like i asked before, what's your physique like? income level? looks? all these things are important to attracting women.

 

[killerman]

Self-fulfilling prophecies? But I mean, what actual practical physical steps do guys like this take, where the end result is Onlyfans models are following them and filling their feed with "Damn Papi " and harassing them for dick?

The problem is you're trying to attract 10's despite being a virgin. It's like being a complete beginner and trying to learn Malmsteen or Dream Theater solos on guitar. It is simply not going to happen. If i were you I'd be trying to hook up with 5s or 6s. The kind of guys who are hooking up with 10s are all either multimillionaires/billionaires, EXTREMELY good looking, have crap load of status like more than 100,000 instagram subscribers or a combination of these factors. Basically you need to bring something serious to the table. In your position I'd go for 5s and 6s. I know you want the instagram models but theres no shortcut to success, it's like anything in life, it takes THOUSANDS of hours to become an expert advanced guitar player and anyone who's made high 6 or 7 figures as an entrepreneur has worked 10+ hours a day for at least a few years on their business. You need to put in serious graft and it's the same with the hottest women.

 

[Chase]

User went from “49 year old sexless virgin ready to explode not sure what I want only want the hottest girls want to make up for lost time” to “I just want Internet sluts to follow me so I’ll be somebody.”

97.468% chance he’s a troll.

In the off chance he isn’t, this is not a “how to become a social media influencer” site nor a “how to be popular on social media” site nor a “how to get heaps of Internet sluts you’ve never met in person following you online because you’re just so fascinating” site, so user is far off-topic regardless. Nobody here is doing that, and if no one is doing it, it also means no one here can answer these questions, or wants to.

Thread locked; account banned.

Chase