How many times a week do you go day gaming?

[Calibration]

How many hours on an average do you day game in a week or how many hours/day and days/week do you go out? What are the best times of the day to go out?

 

[Will_V]

I'm very on and off now as I have stuff going on in my life that must be dealt with and takes up time, but I'm ramping it up as I need my bed to stay warm this winter ..

I've found going for a 1.5-2 hour walk and doing 4-6 approaches is good (you can do more/faster but for me it starts to feel spammy, I like to consider an approach afterward in my mind and feel all the feelings to properly process and learn from it).

Best time is Friday evening where I live, there's just a good vibe, lots of girls about getting off work ready to release some steam. Saturday is good too. Other days are fine but normal.

If you find yourself spending hours walking around doing nothing, either you're not in a place where girls are at or you're not taking opportunities. There really should be a good opportunity to meet a girl every 5-15 minutes if you're in a decent place and aren't looking for a unicorn.

 

[Regal Tiger]

When my ego can take the hits I'll go out anywhere from 4-7 days a week.

Minimum 2 hours. Personal record was a Saturday for 9 hours, but then I had to stop for a few days because my feet had blood blisters

Wish I could answer your other questions, but I suck at daygaming lol

 

[Calibration]

If you find yourself spending hours walking around doing nothing, either you're not in a place where girls are at or you're not taking opportunities. There really should be a good opportunity to meet a girl every 5-15 minutes if you're in a decent place and aren't looking for a unicorn.

Thanks.. That was insightful. Place where I live in, doesn't have a lot of girls (without tourists and international students currently). I'll have to walk 5-6kms if I have to find around 5 girls who are attractive to me & approachable (not walking too fast or look grumpy or around a lot of people). Perhaps I need to move to another country but it's so hard to move places. I'm caught up between making this decision and waiting for tourists and students to return.

What are the best times during weekdays?

 

[foggy]

Sometimes I go for like 30 days straight, one time a couple years back I even went for 60 days straight. But the longer I go for the less I get out of it.

Like in the 60 day sprint I told myself....ok you gotta approach 1 girl a day! Well .. I got bored and lazy and would approach then eject shortly after just to say I got my 1 approach in

In a recent 30 day sprint my goal was to have one solid interaction a day that was better than the previous day....well I hated myself when I inevitably ran into state problems and got rejected over and over for a long time! After being in like the most optimal state and building a fuck ton of micro momentum where I was getting closer and closer to pulling girls of my target quality.

But, tbh, I learned a lot from that sprint that will prevent me from getting rejected like that ever again at low points. Its just that when im going at it day after day i don't really have the time to digest things properly even if I'm writing fieldies. These fieldies were great in hindsight though

So ya like going forward I plan to do it 3-5 times a week. It's necessary to have time off. Never again will I go for extended periods of time.

As for length of time infield , it can take a while to get in state and warmed up so I'm out there at least a couple hours. Usually go home after my state has peaked and I've learned something of value to implement the next day

 

[Will_V]

Sometimes I go for like 30 days straight, one time a couple years back I even went for 60 days straight. But the longer I go for the less I get out of it.

Like in the 60 day sprint I told myself....ok you gotta approach 1 girl a day! Well .. I got bored and lazy and would approach then eject shortly after just to say I got my 1 approach in

In a recent 30 day sprint my goal was to have one solid interaction a day that was better than the previous day....well I hated myself when I inevitably ran into state problems and got rejected over and over for a long time! After being in like the most optimal state and building a fuck ton of micro momentum where I was getting closer and closer to pulling girls of my target quality.

But, tbh, I learned a lot from that sprint that will prevent me from getting rejected like that ever again at low points. Its just that when im going at it day after day i don't really have the time to digest things properly even if I'm writing fieldies. These fieldies were great in hindsight though

So ya like going forward I plan to do it 3-5 times a week. It's necessary to have time off. Never again will I go for extended periods of time.

As for length of time infield , it can take a while to get in state and warmed up so I'm out there at least a couple hours. Usually go home after my state has peaked and I've learned something of value to implement the next day

Very good points about not getting too focused on figures. There are times when you need to immerse yourself and other times when you need to chill and do something else for a while. I noticed that any time I started aiming to do X approaches I'd start approaching girls I wasn't really attracted to, it would start to feel weird, and my state and obviously the results would go downhill.

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I think one of the biggest things in daygame that many newer guys forget is to be enjoying and desiring the approach itself, it has a massive effect on the outcome. I've never had a harsh rejection from a girl I really felt charmed by, all the worst rejections were from spammy approaches with piss poor vibe and thinking I could just go in and say some nonsense while feeling crap about myself or annoyed with the world and it would all somehow work.

As I always remind myself, creepiness is the combination of intent and negative emotion, neither of which are bad by themselves but together are an instant warning to her to move away. And it's no wonder.

The goal is always to want to meet, talk and seduce her, for it to be harder not to than to do it. If you enjoy soccer, it doesn't take effort to walk onto a field and start kicking a ball around, it's hard not to. If you enjoy writing or painting, it's hard not to do it, the mind is filled with words or images that beg to be formed. Any form of authentic self expression requires real effort to stop. So it's necessary to find a way to approach that co-opts the expression of something real and powerful about what women mean to you as a man, then it becomes hard not to.

For me being seductive with women is so instinctive I have to check myself if I'm in a situation where it's out of place. As soon as I look at an attractive woman the gears start moving, I only have to decide if I want to continue or not. I still have AA, of course, but my posture, my movements, my expressions and eye contact are already engaged in the seduction without effort, and not approaching feels like an abort rather than a decision not to start something to begin with.

 

[Calibration]

I've never had a harsh rejection from a girl I really felt charmed by, all the worst rejections were from spammy approaches with piss poor vibe and thinking I could just go in and say some nonsense while feeling crap about myself or annoyed with the world and it would all somehow work.

True.. I've experienced the same

For me being seductive with women is so instinctive I have to check myself if I'm in a situation where it's out of place. As soon as I look at an attractive woman the gears start moving, I only have to decide if I want to continue or not. I still have AA, of course, but my posture, my movements, my expressions and eye contact are already engaged in the seduction without effort, and not approaching feels like an abort rather than a decision not to start something to begin with.

Do you do anything to get into state before leaving home or in field?

 

[Will_V]

True.. I've experienced the same

Do you do anything to get into state before leaving home or in field?

I meditate, that's the main thing. It's an absolute must imo. (I just wrote a post on it here).

Sometimes I listen to sexy music, but the main thing is to be chill, to know what I want and not be tangled up about it. I want to go out and learn something even if every answer is a no, I want to feel the rush of looking into her eyes as we both share a moment that I created on the spot, out of nothing, and to see the tug of desire and curiosity there. I want to enjoy the way she moves with the ebb and flow of tension between us as we both try to understand what we're feeling as we learn about eachother. I want to smile and stand still a moment to enjoy the feeling when I fuck something up completely and realize it doesn't matter, the good moments were still good, and they were all mine to create.

I don't know about a lot of guys, but for me approaching is not just about getting a woman, it's about the experience of watching myself and my capabilities come together in a moment brought about by nothing but my own desire. That to me is satisfying in its own right, and to be able to share this experience with the feminine sprite makes it something special.

Basically I would say, to get in 'state', know yourself, accept yourself, and move with your desires, with curiosity as to the outcome. After all, that's what you want her to do as she comes with you and becomes one with you.

 

[Don Giovanni]

Never again will I go for extended periods of time.

Why? You think it’s unproductive at some point? I’m sure it can be exhausting… I know I need to emotionaly recharge sometimes.

I’m planning to go for 30 day nightgame challenge in June and I know its going to be a physical and mental challenge.

 

[Kvothe]

Careful to avoid Goodhart's Law here