How You Doin'?

[HoofHearted]

I'm so glad I found this (it's kinda the reason why I'm here).

My feedback to OP is to go see a spinal specialist immediately. It must be wreaking hell on your lower back, walking around with such gigantic balls all the time.

But this is such a grind. My mans, who surely deserves a crown, clearly been through the shit in this process.

My question to the more experienced guys helping him-- is this just the reality of cold approaching? It looks like squeezing blood from a stone! What does it look like when *you* do it, by comparison?

Anyways, I cheer you on, you bigballed mofo, and I can't offer any real feedback because you're doing what I only so far have hoped to do. I wish you old age, and a peaceful death via drowning by pussy.

 

[Regal Tiger]

I'm so glad I found this (it's kinda the reason why I'm here).

My feedback to OP is to go see a spinal specialist immediately. It must be wreaking hell on your lower back, walking around with such gigantic balls all the time.

But this is such a grind. My mans, who surely deserves a crown, clearly been through the shit in this process.

My question to the more experienced guys helping him-- is this just the reality of cold approaching? It looks like squeezing blood from a stone! What does it look like when *you* do it, by comparison?

Anyways, I cheer you on, you bigballed mofo, and I can't offer any real feedback because you're doing what I only so far have hoped to do. I wish you old age, and a peaceful death via drowning by pussy.

Lol thanks mate

 

[switchblade]

Such tenacity!! Keep going.

 

[Beck Bass]

is this just the reality of cold approaching?

I can't write about daygame, as I have like 3 or 4 approaches and nothing to show for from that, but at the start of night game it felt a lot like that, I remember. There was a freebie here and there, but, for the most part, it was just rejections and weird interactions lol
Even now that I have a girl and I'm trying to get other girls on the side and maybe a threesome it feels like I'm a beginner, because I'm kinda relearning to game in another way, with other constraints.
Eventually I think you get the hang of it, and then it's "smoother sailing". Still, you never gonna be the god demichad that never gets rejected and takes a girl home everyday, this game is of assymetric returns, shit is random. But as you get more experienced, you get better results.
You gotta find a way to make game sustainable, have fun approach, then you're golden, because you really need the experience. Of course theoretical knowledge is valueable, but only in practice you really "learn", or at least have the proof that what you thought in your mind works in real life, so that's why you need to make it part of your lifestyle, something you can do regularly.

Also it's a numbers game, that's the bigger truth, the more you do it, the more you get from it. As you learn, your close ratio goes up, but if don't keep on gaming, that doesn't mean anything. Also you can lose momentum and that can hurt you a bit (not so much as when you start, as now you have the knowledge and some results to back it up, but if you're rusty you're not as sharp, you gonna fuck up things you wouldn't otherwise).

And congratz to @Regal Tiger on sticking on his transition to daygame, you were more of an online guy before, is that right? I wanna start daygaming but I'm a lazy motherlover, hopefully I'll get the drive to do it soon. It's really inspiring to see how you're putting in work into this, I'm sure soon you shall find some results to be glad for.

 

[Regal Tiger]

Such tenacity!! Keep going.

Thank you, I'll probably start up again next week after taking another break. Had another annoyance that I had to take another break

 

[Regal Tiger]

I can't write about daygame, as I have like 3 or 4 approaches and nothing to show for from that, but at the start of night game it felt a lot like that, I remember. There was a freebie here and there, but, for the most part, it was just rejections and weird interactions lol
Even now that I have a girl and I'm trying to get other girls on the side and maybe a threesome it feels like I'm a beginner, because I'm kinda relearning to game in another way, with other constraints.
Eventually I think you get the hang of it, and then it's "smoother sailing". Still, you never gonna be the god demichad that never gets rejected and takes a girl home everyday, this game is of assymetric returns, shit is random. But as you get more experienced, you get better results.
You gotta find a way to make game sustainable, have fun approach, then you're golden, because you really need the experience. Of course theoretical knowledge is valueable, but only in practice you really "learn", or at least have the proof that what you thought in your mind works in real life, so that's why you need to make it part of your lifestyle, something you can do regularly.

Also it's a numbers game, that's the bigger truth, the more you do it, the more you get from it. As you learn, your close ratio goes up, but if don't keep on gaming, that doesn't mean anything. Also you can lose momentum and that can hurt you a bit (not so much as when you start, as now you have the knowledge and some results to back it up, but if you're rusty you're not as sharp, you gonna fuck up things you wouldn't otherwise).

And congratz to @Regal Tiger on sticking on his transition to daygame, you were more of an online guy before, is that right? I wanna start daygaming but I'm a lazy motherlover, hopefully I'll get the drive to do it soon. It's really inspiring to see how you're putting in work into this, I'm sure soon you shall find some results to be glad for.

Yeah, long story short but Daygame's my only real option right now

I do miss online game because I spent 2 years learning and mastering it

 

[Regal Tiger]

Haven't done any approaches. Finding it exceptionally difficult to even want to go out and try... thinking I'm burnt out again

There is a girl at work who might be interested. She's on vacation right now but we have loose plans to meet up after she gets back. Probably like a... 6/10 chance something happens I'm thinking.



Also finding it hard to figure out what I want right now. Which means I need to step back and try to figure out my goals and aspirations again. Honestly I keep rebounding back and forth between extreme motivation and extreme apathy. So I'm going to focus on some things that I enjoy, I bought a 40 dollar course about hypnotism that I plan on going through today to get me moving forward again. On my next paycheck I'm going to try and do some ads for stuff...

Not sure when I'll return to women but it needs to be soon because it's going to start getting cold in a month or two and I won't be able to approach after that...

 

[Regal Tiger]

Still absolutely no desire to go out and approach. Walked around a little today and it briefly came back and then immediately gone again just as fast lol

Also work chick never followed through. Got a text about how she couldn't make it but maybe next time. I never responded to her since it was clear that she wasn't interested from her text. That was on Monday. Saw her at work today and she was kind of cold towards me, not sure why since she's the one that cancelled/not interested... weird

Another work chick, who I think has a boyfriend is fun to flirt with though. Also, her mom came in today and her mom is smoking fucking hot lmao


Edit For Thoughts:

I think a big reason why my desire is gone is that I worked so fucking hard and all I had to show for my effort was a girl who I could easily get from Tinder. We hung out twice

Sex was fantastic but still... twice... so much work, effort, rejection, pain and bullshit for two orgasms of a girl who is basically your typical party girl

Maybe this is something that's clashing with what I was unconsciously expecting? I don't have any expectations that I'm aware of but maybe there's something underneath my awareness

Or maybe I just think that all of that bullshit wasn't worth it so why go through that again?

I'm not too sure

As I was thinking about this for the past week though I thought about trying some TRE I think it's called. Got to thinking about these past few years and how I feel like they've stolen a big part of who I used to be as a person

Honestly made me tear up

Because I feel like I'm changing again just like I felt a few years ago. I don't particularly care for the changes I experienced back then but they're kind of necessary for my survival. I'm a little worried about what part of my identity I'm throwing away this time...

 

[Regal Tiger]

Weird thing happened at work. Saw a girl, and.most people would say she is cute. But she looked so insanely nice that I wanted to approach her and if I wasn't at work then I would have

Weird....

 

[Beck Bass]

I think it's normal, you will want to approach cute nice girls... I do get the burnout thing though, give it sometime and let the will of meeting women find you again, generally it comes back strong eventually

 

[Regal Tiger]

Notice that my drive is basically non-existent. Do, however have a second date with a girl from work tomorrow. Same one that I assumed wasn't interested when she cancelled on me

Also had a coworker send me a link about worst places in America for dating. Depends on which site you land on but where I live is consistently one of the worst

Which actually made me feel better. If this place sucks so badly then how will I do when I move again?

 

[Regal Tiger]

Coworker was a waste of time :/

 

[Regal Tiger]

My drive is returning... but it's cold outside now and I don't want to venture out lol


Also some moron just hit my car in the parking lot. Without a drivers license. Or insurance. Or money... so today is going well so far

 

[Regal Tiger]

I just plain feel weird lol

A cross between motivation and apathy. Feel stuck. Think I need to come up with a game plan and stick to it


Not sure why but I keep getting my hopes up for a girl at work. Coworkers are trying to set us up a little. She flirts a lot, sometimes on her own. Noticed that I've been feeling down and brought it up but didn't quite know how to phrase it and then got embarrassed about it later

Buuuut then I remind myself it's just harmless fun for her. It's not gonna go anywhere. Weirdly enough that makes me feel better. Not sure why...

 

[Regal Tiger]

Small update for anyone still following along in my day game journey

Still feel weird overall, plus still trying to figure out life. For those that know then you know...

I'm not on here as much but I just read through the best seducer thread and man oh man what a wild ride! Haha some hilarious stuff on there, and I definitely agree with Sully's idea about gifts to encourage voting lmfao


It's indeed cold outside so I more than likely won't be making an approach for a good while. Did the same thing last year but I've been doing a lot of soul searching lately in the mean time. It's weird but women aren't as high up on the list. Not sure if this is some kind of ego defence mechanism or what (to be fair it could be something in my subconscious trying to keep me away from all that rejection, shit stings after a while)

Trying to get back to my mental health podcast. I enjoy doing it and it's fun. It does good things for my mental


Overall though I think my day game woes will come down to vibe. I felt like I was into something on the approach with the girl in August in the report (which I think was the last time that I was actually active). Im still keeping all that in mind. When it's not as cold out I'll give it another go and see what happens

Did I mention that I hate the cold? Lol