I Wanna Be The Very Best Like No One Ever Was

[Jacksonville01]

Summary

Thursday 8th May

I was in two minds about going out today since the weather wasn’t great, but I’m glad I did. I kind of “cheated” and went back to doing direct approaches, mainly because I’ve been feeling the lack of results since switching over to indirect.

It’s been a while since I opened direct, and I do miss the straightforwardness and the time it seems to save. That said, I still feel like if I had gone indirect today, the results would’ve been the same or possibly even better.

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Approach Stats

Total Approaches: Around 8
Numbers: 1

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Noteworthy Interactions

Au pair Girl
I saw a girl sitting on a bench and approached her by saying I thought she was cute and wanted to say hi real quick. I teased her about looking like trouble, which she denied, and then started telling me how she looks after kids and does volunteer work etc. It was an okay interaction — not much chemistry. I asked if she’d want to hang out again, and she said no.

College Girl
I spotted a girl walking through the park in the same direction I was going. She had a really unique outfit that stood out. Since I walk quite slowly and she was ahead of me, I let her walk on while I thought of something to say about her style. About five minutes later, I hopped on my bike, caught up to her, and approached.

I told her I’d noticed her outfit earlier and that it had a kind of hippie vibe. She responded positively and said it was for fancy dress her friends were doing at school. That made me wonder about her age, so I asked. She said she was 18. She then asked how old I was, which i always tell a girl to guess to get more investment. She guessed 25, and I teased her for trying to flatter me before telling her I’m actually 37.

We ended up walking together for about ten minutes and had a solid conversation that touched on a few different topics, including some light, borderline sexual ones. Toward the end, I told her she had a fun vibe and she blushed which I teased her about. I used Skills’ Investment Close and asked if she’d want to hang out again, and she said yes, so I took her number.

I told her we should grab a coffee sometime and also mentioned a posh spot I know that she’d like. She immediately asked if I’d be paying, and I clarified that it’s a private communal garden I have access to. I hugged her goodbye, and as I got on my bike to leave, she jokingly said, “Don’t die on your bike!”


Text Follow-up:
Texted her about two hours later

Me: "Was fun meeting earlier : ) - [My Name]" @ 8.11pm

Her: Yh it was. Highly interesting." @ 9.26pm

 

[average_daygamer]

Nice one on the 18 year old.

I find it a lot trickier mentally to get my head around if they are still in sixth form than if they are at uni.

Normally if they are at sixth form, I don't want to be creepy and ask if they are 16,17 or 18. I know 16 or 17 is technically still "legal" but not old enough to be considered legally an adult, so we like to stick to that, even though they look like an adult.

So if they say they are in sixth form I auto eject from the interaction, even if they could have been 18 because I can't handle the cringe factor of trying to find out directly.

Her reply to your message is also interesting. "Highly interesting" haha, I've never heard a chick writing something like that before.

 

[Jacksonville01]

Nice one on the 18 year old.

I find it a lot trickier mentally to get my head around if they are still in sixth form than if they are at uni.

Normally if they are at sixth form, I don't want to be creepy and ask if they are 16,17 or 18. I know 16 or 17 is technically still "legal" but not old enough to be considered legally an adult, so we like to stick to that, even though they look like an adult.

So if they say they are in sixth form I auto eject from the interaction, even if they could have been 18 because I can't handle the cringe factor of trying to find out directly.

Her reply to your message is also interesting. "Highly interesting" haha, I've never heard a chick writing something like that before.

yea when she said she was 18 I hesitated for a sec then made a split decision to carry on the interaction. She seems cool with it so I'll stick it out for the XP and see where it goes

 

[Jacksonville01]

Summary

Friday 9th May

I went out for another daygame session today and continued from yesterday by only doing direct approaches. There weren’t any particularly noteworthy or long interactions, but it still felt like progress. My approach anxiety is definitely improving, although I still held back from approaching a few girls I wish I had gone for.

I felt a lot more social today. I’ve started smiling at almost every girl I walk past. I also gave a compliment to one girl, though I didn’t follow up with anything after. I’ve decided I’ll start complimenting more girls.

Later on, I met up with a few friends and noticed I felt a lot more socially confident than usual, even introducing myself to people I didn’t know and telling jokes.

I also read Chase’s recent article about how tourists are easier to pick up. I live near a well-known spot that attracts a lot of tourists on the weekends, but I haven’t properly daygamed there yet. Mostly because I hate walking and usually prefer taking my bike out—but will start daygaming there more often.


Approach Stats

Total Approaches: Around 12
Numbers: 0

 

[Jacksonville01]

Summary

Saturday 10th May

I went out for another daygame session today. I fucked a girl last night (not through cold approach), so was in a good mood.

Unfortunately, my hayfever was acting up badly—I was constantly sniffling and sneezing throughout the day.

Despite that, I felt more social than usual. I gave out 3 or 4 compliments, one of the girls gave me something to follow up on, which led to a short interaction.

I did a mix of both direct and indirect approaches.

My confidence is improving—I approached a two-set, which I hadn’t done since getting back into daygame this summer.

I noticed I could do with slowing down my speaking pace and reactions a bit more.

I had a couple of ok five-minute convos, but nothing particularly noteworthy.


Approach Stats

Total Approaches: Around 10
Numbers: 0


Texting update

Update on the texting convo with the 18 year old college girl

 

[Jacksonville01]

Summary

Sunday 11th May

Today was a good day overall. I feel like I'm steadily improving each time I go out. My conversations and teases are flowing a lot more naturally, and I feel noticeably more confident and social. My approach anxiety is also improving.

The first approach I did today ended in a number close. I don’t think I gave any passing-by compliments today. I approached 2 two-sets, and most of my approaches were indirect—except for one, where I opened a two-set directly.

One thing I’m noticing is that it's harder to hook girls when I go indirect on those walking towards me. Sometimes they slow down and we exchange a few words, but most of the time they just keep walking.

I could also do with improving the way I get a girl’s attention before I open. I usually say “excuse me” with a little hand wave, but I sometimes do both too quickly if I’m not thinking about it beforehand. So basically have my fundamentals in mind before approaching - slow speech and movements/reactions


I shortened my "You Remind Me of an Ex" opener from previously.
The rainbow ruses I've kept the same but have primarily been using the troublemaker one. I find that I mainly use the first part of the rainbow ruse and the conversation starts flowing from there, I could maybe introduce the last part later in the convo, I don't have to say the whole thing in one go

You Remind Me of an Ex Opener​

"You kind of remind me of someone…"/” You kind of reminded me of someone as you were walking by..."
“This [Say a nationality she looks like] girl I used to date…"
"You have that same [troublemaker / innocent / reserved / approachable] look to you…"


Approach Stats

Total Approaches: Around 15
Numbers: 1


Noteworthy Interactions

Russian girl

This was my first approach of the day. I saw her while riding past in the park, then chilled on a bench to wait for her and she ended up taking a seat on another bench near me. I opened with my “You Remind Me of an Ex” opener and followed up with the first part of the troublemaker Rainbow Ruse.
She responded by saying I was “very poetic”— which is the second compliment I’ve received on my Rainbow Ruse.

We ended up talking for about 15 minutes, and it went smoothly. There was a good vibe between us and there was laughing and teasing throughout. I used Skills' investment close and got her number. She's in London for a week and said she’s free to meet up on Tuesday or Wednesday.

I reached out for a handclasp and said goodbye. She mentioned she’s 41 years old, though she looked younger — which probably makes her my oldest number close so far.

I text her about 3/4 hours later

Me: was fun meeting earlier : ) [my name] @5.48pm
Her: Hey [my name ] ; )
Was nice meeting you too @6.49pm
Me: hope you didnt get upto too much trouble after I left
how was the rest of your adventure? @ 8.10pm
Her: [She sent 2 pics of inside a church]
Has quite an adventure
Canteen in a church...@10.14pm

Will text her again tomorrow


Goth girl

I saw her walking in the park, heading in my direction. She sat on a bench, and I opened her with my “You Remind Me of an Ex” opener, followed by my Troublemaker Rainbow Ruse. She seemed very closed off—minimal eye contact and closed body language. The old me would have ejected at that point, but I decided to pursue the interaction.

The conversation started off a bit awkward, but she began to open up a bit more as we talked. We found a few things in common, like anime and gaming, but overall the conversation felt more like a chat between friends rather than something with romantic potential. We spoke for about 10 to 15 minutes.

I asked if she wanted to hang out sometime, and she said no, that she hasn’t got the time.

I’m starting to notice that I can tell during an interaction whether it’s going to lead to a number close or not, and in this case, I knew it wasn’t going to happen even before I asked.


American Filipina girl

I saw two girls sitting on a bench in the park. I almost walked past them due to approach anxiety, but I pushed myself to go for it. I opened one of the girls directly and told her I thought she was cute. I was too in my head to think about doing a more genuine compliment-style opener.

She smiled and was receptive. I said I just wanted to come say hi, but I wasn’t sure because they both looked like trouble. They both laughed, and we ended up having a good conversation for about 5 to 10 minutes. I made sure to involve the friend throughout while teasing the Filipina girl.

She mentioned she was only in town for 2 days, and when I asked if she wanted to hang out sometime, she said she had a boyfriend.

I feel like two or more sets can be easier in some ways because the girl seems more comfortable when her friend is there, and the presence of others gives more convo opportunities.

 

[Jacksonville01]

Summary

Monday 12th May

Only left the house today for 30mins to go doctors. Saw a girl as I was leaving the doctors. I opened her directly but she said she was running late for an appointment and couldn't stop