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You don’t have to be their first choice in order to sleep with them.1. How do i become a woman's first choice guy? Am I just doomed not to be because of my poor natural fundamentals?
You’re getting dates from online, which is 99% looks based, therefore I would say you’re not that bad looking.
Cold approach is uncompromising. It’s an experience I would recomend to everyone, but if you think you’re not ready, don’t.2. I am still meeting women using dating services. Do you think that I might have different experiences with day game? My coach recommended that I stay away from daygame because it would destroy my self esteem, but I'm happy to try it if it might be better.
And dude, give yourself credit. You brought 2 girls to your appartment in last 1,5 months. I call that progress! Even if they wanted to leave after 5min, maybe you get next girl to stay 15min? Or maybe you just TRY to kiss the girl when you get to your appartment?
4. If women are coming back but getting uncomfortable within a minute or two, before I even get them a beverage, how do I troubleshoot this?
Show them your appartment, go take a piss so she gets time to breathe.
But before that you should set non judgemental frames. Touch should be established, you should get sex on her mind.
I won’t go into every little detail but ideally something like when you’re in your more intimate date location, sitting next to each other, when she laughs you put your arm on her thigh and squeeze it or around her shoulders and pull her in. Then just leave it there. Then you tell her that you think it’s unfair women are shamed for acting on their sexualities, like girls getting called sluts and guys kings when they sleep with a new person, its just unfair. Then you invite her to your’s. When you come in say that you have to take a piss and that she gets comfortable. Then just be casual, offer her drinks, put some music on, be fun, sit next to her and continue the touch where you left it. I like to brush a girls hair back, look her in the eyes, hold her chin then kiss her (micro moves, you get chance to back off on each step instead of blowing the whole thing). Then from there on…
Just an example. Lots of articles on how to escalate, sexualize on here. I think thats your biggest issue besides your personal mental health issues (it’s fine).
5. How do I internally handle the brutal and punishing experience of trying to get a girlfriend? It's amazing how much guys seem to suffer for this, and I need to fire myself up somehow.
Don’t look for a girlfriend. Look to improve with girls.
I know it hurts. Makes you feel like you’re not good enough. DO NOT equate your success with girls to your self worth. Believe me, if you stay on this long enough, you will get laid. But you mental health issues wont go away, sorry. It’s kinda related but not the same thing.
Also get something that makes you happy in life. Do stuff for yourself. I get a good feeling just from cleaning my apartment, working out, getting a nice shave sometimes, a walk in the park, even visiting my family lol.
As to how to look at girls… I would say try to have fun with it. If you can’t do that yet (it’s fine) look at it as your experiment. A hobby, side project. But do not look for a girlfriend. That will come with the process.
Overall I would say read on escalation, sexualization and KEEP AT IT. Also you got good input from everyone else.
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