I went on a second date this afternoon with the girl from Tuesday.
We met at a gelato shop. Got gelato. Walked to the park and ate it. Ate it and talked. It started raining, so we walked to a bookstore. Looked at books and guessed the dates they were written (these were old books). Walked back to my apartment. Escalated. Got on the bed, with shirts off, and rubbing her vagina. But she said she didn't want to have sex day. We kept kissing a bit, and then stopped. She said she had to go and get something to eat (she hadn't eaten all day). She left.
This was interesting. She was definitely compliant enough. I didn't really have much time to plan logistics, but it worked out alright to meet at the gelato shop, walk to the park and sit, then go to the bookstore (which was on the way from the park to my apartment), then go back. The rain was annoying. It's hard to do outside walking type dates when it is raining. I didn't want to go to a place to eat food, because eating food with a girl stinks, plus I didn't want to plan it. I didn't really have a plan, kind of just made it up as I went. That worked out.
She was compliant enough, as we saw. However back at mine, when I went to kiss, and then escalate, she sort of went with it, then of course gave the LMR. The one spot when I felt like I wasn't quite "controlling the pace" was, we were kissing on the couch, and she said like we're sitting up really straight, should we move to the bed." I said sure, and we went. However, when we were there, she said she didn't want to take off her pants, and gave that LMR. Maybe I could have said like "let's stay on the couch for now". Then escalate there, and get her pants off, then say "let's move to the bed." That way, you're sort of using the move to the bed as an agreement that you're going to have sex. Regardless, you would control the pace more, which I believe is helpful.
With the girl from a few weeks ago, it was something similar. After kissing on the couch, she said let's move to the bed. We did, and then she gave LMR. I'm thinking to myself, why did we move to the bed, if you weren't ready for sex? That was another instance where I felt like I should have controlled the pace more. Go 10% slower than she wants to. That's good that she suggested the bed, but you don't have to give that to her right away. Stay on the couch, escalate more, maybe get the pants off, then move to the bed. In any case, control the pace, and go 10% slower than she wants to.
The conversation flowed easily enough. That is, I felt like I was having fun, and making jokes, and having fun with the conversation. That is good. Fun is good. Fun is all you can do. If you have the vibe, and just vibe and move things forward, that is basically all that game is. Keep the vibe up and move things forward.
This girl liked to joke and tease a lot. A lot. It was kind of like the teasing that I would do, as a guy. It was mildly amusing, but a bit tiring after a while. I wonder if this falls into the category of girl who isn't getting what she wants, so adopts the male dating approach, of teasing and so forth. It was somewhat fun. I was amused. At the same time, I would just prefer that a girl acts femininely. But I guess that is neither here nor there. It was just odd to see. She seemed like she went on a lot of dates. Odd.
We met at a gelato shop. Got gelato. Walked to the park and ate it. Ate it and talked. It started raining, so we walked to a bookstore. Looked at books and guessed the dates they were written (these were old books). Walked back to my apartment. Escalated. Got on the bed, with shirts off, and rubbing her vagina. But she said she didn't want to have sex day. We kept kissing a bit, and then stopped. She said she had to go and get something to eat (she hadn't eaten all day). She left.
This was interesting. She was definitely compliant enough. I didn't really have much time to plan logistics, but it worked out alright to meet at the gelato shop, walk to the park and sit, then go to the bookstore (which was on the way from the park to my apartment), then go back. The rain was annoying. It's hard to do outside walking type dates when it is raining. I didn't want to go to a place to eat food, because eating food with a girl stinks, plus I didn't want to plan it. I didn't really have a plan, kind of just made it up as I went. That worked out.
She was compliant enough, as we saw. However back at mine, when I went to kiss, and then escalate, she sort of went with it, then of course gave the LMR. The one spot when I felt like I wasn't quite "controlling the pace" was, we were kissing on the couch, and she said like we're sitting up really straight, should we move to the bed." I said sure, and we went. However, when we were there, she said she didn't want to take off her pants, and gave that LMR. Maybe I could have said like "let's stay on the couch for now". Then escalate there, and get her pants off, then say "let's move to the bed." That way, you're sort of using the move to the bed as an agreement that you're going to have sex. Regardless, you would control the pace more, which I believe is helpful.
With the girl from a few weeks ago, it was something similar. After kissing on the couch, she said let's move to the bed. We did, and then she gave LMR. I'm thinking to myself, why did we move to the bed, if you weren't ready for sex? That was another instance where I felt like I should have controlled the pace more. Go 10% slower than she wants to. That's good that she suggested the bed, but you don't have to give that to her right away. Stay on the couch, escalate more, maybe get the pants off, then move to the bed. In any case, control the pace, and go 10% slower than she wants to.
The conversation flowed easily enough. That is, I felt like I was having fun, and making jokes, and having fun with the conversation. That is good. Fun is good. Fun is all you can do. If you have the vibe, and just vibe and move things forward, that is basically all that game is. Keep the vibe up and move things forward.
This girl liked to joke and tease a lot. A lot. It was kind of like the teasing that I would do, as a guy. It was mildly amusing, but a bit tiring after a while. I wonder if this falls into the category of girl who isn't getting what she wants, so adopts the male dating approach, of teasing and so forth. It was somewhat fun. I was amused. At the same time, I would just prefer that a girl acts femininely. But I guess that is neither here nor there. It was just odd to see. She seemed like she went on a lot of dates. Odd.
