Legend of King Kaida

[TomInHo]

Ye money has nothing to do with it

Question for you though. You say you are fucking a lot of these girls. But girls you are fucking consistently are you ever doing non sexual things with them?

Like going to see a movie together, hanging out in the park, going out to do something fun

Or are all your interactions just texting them to come straight to the crib to fuck?

For a lot of girls if you seem like a player and you show no signs of being open to more than just a booty call, a lot of women won't press too hard and keep you in the fun box

They are also more likely to fall off because you sub communicating it's a purely casual relationship

If you really want a girl to start viewing you as a BF it works better if you do non sexual things with them

To be practical let me give you an example

If have an FB and want to keep her there, I don't offer much non sexual attention at all

I will usually do the following to set the right expectation

- Never text to just banter or catch up
- Only text to setup logistics
- Bang every time I see her
- Don't let her stay over
- Deny some of her requests to see me because "I'm busy"
- Never go out in public
- Never talk about the relationship
- Never future project about us ever being together
- Decline all her attempts at emotional progression

I do that because if I only want sex I need to show that through my behavior. Women ain't dumb and they can read between the lines

But if I do want things to progress emotionally with a girl I will do things a lil differently

- Text every once in while just to flirt or catch up
- Bang every time I see her
- Sometimes do something outside with her to create memories, before or after we bang
- If she texts me will be more open to setting up meets
- If I am busy will give her an alternative time to show I'm still interested
- Not deny her attempts of closeness as often
- Allow her to talk about the relationship and fantasize about us being together

When running rotations it's not only about sex. You also have to manage your girls emotions and I notice that guys that have issues in rotations struggle with this the most

Many guys fail because they don’t consciously align their communication to what they actually want from each girl

They just go by "feel" and then worry about the inevitable drama they get because of misalinged expectations

A big part of being a good leader is being intentional of the expectations you set through your behaviors not how you feel

Because people can not read your mind, they can only respond to how you behave

 

[Skills]

Ye money has nothing to do with it

Question for you though. You say you are fucking a lot of these girls. But girls you are fucking consistently are you ever doing non sexual things with them?

Like going to see a movie together, hanging out in the park, going out to do something fun

Or are all your interactions just texting them to come straight to the crib to fuck?

For a lot of girls if you seem like a player and you show no signs of being open to more than just a booty call, a lot of women won't press too hard and keep you in the fun box

They are also more likely to fall off because you sub communicating it's a purely casual relationship

If you really want a girl to start viewing you as a BF it works better if you do non sexual things with them

To be practical let me give you an example

If have an FB and want to keep her there, I don't offer much non sexual attention at all

I don't
- Never text to just banter or catch up
- Only text to setup logistics
- Bang every time I see her
- Don't let her stay over
- Deny some of her requests to see me because "I'm busy"
- Never go out in public
- Never talk about the relationship
- Never future project about us ever being together
- Decline all her attempts at emotional progression

I do that because if I only want sex I need to show that through my behavior. Women ain't dumb and they can read between the lines

But if I do want things to progress emotionally with a girl I will do things a lil differently
- Text every once in while just to flirt or catch up
- Bang every time I see her
- Sometimes do something outside with her to create memories, before or after we bang
- If she texts me will be more open to setting up meets
- If I am busy will give her an alternative time to show I'm still interested
- Not deny her attempts of closeness as often
- Allow her to talk about the relationship and fantasize about us being together

When running rotations it's not only about sex. You also have to manage your girls emotions and I notice that guys that have issues in rotations struggle with this the most

Many guys fail because they don’t consciously align their communication to what they actually want from each girl

They just go by "feel" and then worry about the inevitable drama they get because of misalinged expectations

A big part of being a good leader is being intentional of the expectations you set through your behaviors not how you feel

Because people can not read your mind, they can only respond to how you behave

Yes imy point in spending time... Kaida just increase the bf possibility a bit go from 90 lover 10 bf possibility all the way to 30 or 40 even 50 is ok if you looking love and shit just don't go overboard... I don't understand at 20 why you would you want this tbh but i hope you get it... Maybe you getting a bit burnt out... that happens after some fucking streaks, is normal...

 

[Kaida]

But girls you are fucking consistently are you ever doing non sexual things with them?

Like going to see a movie together, hanging out in the park, going out to do something fun

Or are all your interactions just texting them to come straight to the crib to fuck?

You’re right. I only text them come over to fuck.

Thats mainly due to advice on the site saying that if you want to start a relationship it should be at bare minimum for the first 3 months. I.e only fuck and give good conversation and nothing else. That way you set that as the expectation for the rest of the relationship. I started reading girlschase at like 13 years old so a lot of it feels almost dogmatic

While it is good advice, I think I’m at the point where I need to stop running all my actions with girls through the “girlschase.com” filter in my brain and start being more flexible. Especially when I want relationships.

- Bang every time I see her

Okay so this still a rule regardless of what you want with her

I don't understand at 20 why you would you want this tbh but i hope you get it... Maybe you getting a bit burnt out... that happens after some fucking streaks, is normal...

Yeah, probably burnout. I have a slight hunch I’m gonna wanna be single again very soon tho lol

 

[gameboy]

Cuddle them a lot after sex. Spend the night together. Have breakfast in the morning. Text once in a while just to ask how her day is going
2nd date take her to a movie or something... easy peasy gf

 

[Skills]

Cuddle them a lot after sex. Spend the night together. Have breakfast in the morning. Text once in a while just to ask how her day is going
2nd date take her to a movie or something... easy peasy gf

yes you can have them sleep over and take them to breakfast in the morning, will totally accelerate the courtship.... i have done this..

 

[gameboy]

- Bang every time I see her

Not really a strict rule for a girlfriend, can have platonic meets too

 

[Kaida]

Might've fried this one

Girl I'm seeing casually is 24. I lied about being 25.


I've had sex with her 2 times at this point, both were hours long, pretty much all day hang out sessions.

She was very into me as well. She even cooked beef ribs and mashed potatoes for me the second time I came over, that shit took an hour plus to finish making.

She was pretty much doting on me the whole time, doing whatever I said enthusiastically.

Came and sucked my dick unprompted, then left and brought me back a plate of food and all that. Very high compliance.

After 3 rounds of sex (she let me come inside her every time) we were cuddling and talking and the conversation went to age. I was thinking she was invested in me enough that I could just tell her i'm 20 it wouldn't cause any problems.
And it didn't, at the time.

She just acted a little surprised and we had sex again after. I thought it was cool.

Then a week later (yesterday) I facetimed her and could feel the energy shift.

She wasn't listening to everything I said as readily.
I asked what was wrong and this was the convo:

Spoiler: Convo

Her: I just don't feel like this can go anywhere anymore

Me: What do you mean?

Her: Well, for one, I just found out your so much younger than me. I wouldn't say I feel punked but like... something similar to that. Its so weird cuz I was just calling you daddy just to find out im older than you. It's like we're not even on the same level anymore and it's throwing me off.

Her: I'm happy I found this out a bit earlier before we got too deep... I'd feel so silly if I was really tripping over someone younger than me.

Her: And on top of that you're only here for the summer then you're going back to school. I

Me: Do you feel like I changed before and after? I'm the same guy before the number came out my mouth.

Her: No you're the same guy it's just I know you're probably not looking at being serious at all right now. You're 20.

Her: There was even something you said last time that stuck in my mind about "summer fling" or something like that and that really made me realize that you're not looking for anything real
(why tf did I say that bruh)

Me: I see what you mean. And you're right a lot of people my age think that way, but you have to treat people as individuals

Me: Me personally I've already gotten a lot of that out of my system, and I've come to dislike hookup culture a bit. You know what I mean?

Her: yeah

Me: It's quite empty and can drain you and lead you down a hedonistic path. I don't mind gradually growing into something serious with the right girl.

Her: I agree. It's just your so young and I don't know...

Me: Would you say we have a great vibe?

Her: Yes

Me: and good chemistry right

Her: Yes

Me: I agree. I really like you and I think you're a great girl, so I think we should talk this out in person.

her: Okay

Me: Wednesday at 2?

Her: Sure.

Cant lie if this girl went to my college and was close to my age she'd probably be my girlfriend no cap.

Hopefully my silver tongue pulls thru on wednesday, really like this girl.

I have a feeling that even if I manage to have sex with her she may still not want to mess with me anymore if I don't reframe everything correctly.

And I already predict a compliance problem

I don't even know what to do I'm really winging it