Legend of King Kaida

[Kaida]

I’m going to start a journal to keep me accountable and to document my journey. Wish me luck!

I wont take offense to any valuable criticism. All feedback is welcome.



About me:

HS Senior
Virgin
Only kissed 1 girl

I used to have terrible social anxiety and social skills when I was 14. I remember getting scared when any stranger would look at me or ask me a question. I used to be very quiet and not speak out, never disagree with anybody, and never have any goals other than being the best in my friend group at Overwatch.

I went to a very small and nerdy school with only like 500 students. Everybody was awkward and lame.
When going to other places, I used to be baffled at how conversations were made. I never knew how guys could talk to girls (or even other guys!) and actually make something happen with them, especially in school.

Now, I’d still call myself below average in all departments lol. But I’ve made some major, major improvements. Over the past 3 months I’ve been grinding even harder, and Imade a lot more progress than I made in the previous 8 months.

I know I will reach my goals eventually, but I want it sooner rather than later. It will all come together in Jesus name.


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Current Weaknesses:

Approach/Flirting Anxiety.
- I can approach any girl and ask for directions or whatever (so its not just social anxiety) but its the flirting and escalating that gets me anxious.

Getting Complacent
- I realize that if I find a group of guy friends I value and they value me, I stop pursuing great social skills as much. My motivation drops. I combat this by moving onto a different group if I feel the current group “accepts” me so that I’m still constantly practicing and refining myself. Cant do this all the time tho



Moving things to the next stage

- So many guy friends around me I see talking with a girl for and they are able to escalate to the point of walking down the hallway with each other and texting and stuff.

Granted, most of them arent getting sex, and are probably working extra hard and giving up commitment just to be with the girl. So I don’t get too jealous. But still, I feel that if I could get a girls trust and investment like they have I’d be banging her. I just need to learn how to get that trust and stuff in a school environment.

Actually getting GOOD places to game
- A lot of the experts like Teevster said that even the really cool guys usually bang girls that are out of school and only bang 1-2 girls in school. They meet them through parties and cold approach and stuff.

Meanwhile, I dont have the invites or the means to go to parties (likely the best way) and I don’t have many cold approach locations that I could constantly pull from. I really only have the gym and that’s still a somewhat social circle environment. I cant go in guns blazing like I want.


Goal: Get to the point where I easily get respect from men and attraction from women and turning that attraction into something.

 

[Kaida]

Current Mini-Goal: Increase Sex drive so I am addicted and motivated to pursue real life women

Aug 14 2022 (5 Days NoF):



While doing my morning workout, I notice significantly more drive to finish. My rest between sets is WAY shorter, as I am finishing with 6-8 minutes left instead of the 14 seconds 2 days ago.



I have a stronger sex drive (not quite animalistic yet) and I am getting hard throughout the day.



Aug 25 2022 (16 days NoF):


I’ve just recently noticed that I’ve been on track with my goals A LOT longer than what I was when I wasn’t on NoFap. I’ve been able to focus on refining my social skills all day rather than before where I’d only remember it for like half a day and lose motivation.



My sex drive is now more replaced with a drive for women in general and not as much as just sex. I’ve been focusing solely on killing social anxiety and being loud, not maximizing my sex appeal yet.

Havent had a wet dream in a while either which is super weird.(probably due to my focuses at the moment, if I really want to I can up my sex drive) Edit: In one of my dreams I literally remember seeing porn on my phone but then saying no and turning it off.



Sept 29th - Oct 2nd (47 Days of Nofap)

I’m much more comfortable simply talking to women, but my sex drive feels like it pretty much isn’t there. I cant bring out a sexual state anymore. So I tried fapping once to see if I could revive my sexual state, but turns out it was a bad idea because I ended up binge relapsing like 8 times in the past 4 days.

This was the longest streak I’ve ever had of 47 days. Now I’m thinking that even though I had a super long streak, I forgot to repurpose that sexual energy into the girls of real life. That’s why my sex drive did not receive the boost it should have after almost 50 days of semen retention.
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Granted, it is probably much harder to stay on NoFap if you’re trying to keep your sex drive alive without fapping. Its like blowing a balloon till it’s full, but never letting it pop.

Instead, what I did was just not blow at all and just let the balloon be limp. That must be why my sex drive was not where it should have been.


The best but not-so-easy way in my experience to increase my sex drive is to just have a sexual encounter with a girl. When I made out with that one girl, I was on 22 days on nofap - my second longest streak.

It was similar to this recent streak as my libido was there but not quite animalistic. Even during the makeout I wasn’t super excited sexually even though I really love touching girls.

But the days after the makeout, holy fucking shit. I literally felt like a horny gorilla. I was having blue balls in my room by myself just snapping girls.

At some point there were 3 girls who invited me over and my mind was going at mach 10 trying to find ways to get there even tho they werent even cute like that. My moves were much bolder as well. I ended up getting back into fapping and ruining the streak.

Time to start up again, this time I’m going to hold my sex drive at a high point but repurpose it into flirting with real women. It’s going to be much harder but I’ve gotta try.

I’ve just gotta convince myself that fapping = No pussy and Flirting and touching girls = Pussy. Time to work

 

[Kaida]

I need to get to the root of my inconsistency

There are some days I’m in a highly charismatic state. My flirting is the right mix of sexual intent, mystery, and validation. My body language is on point, and my mindset is strong. People notice and flock towards me, women begin asking me questions, offering to give me massages and throw themselves at me.


But there are some days (like yesterday) where my flirting is weird and off (no mystery / no sexuality / all validation) and my body language and mindset is not as strong. People are meh about me and women dont have as much attraction. Sometimes I’m even seen as weird/tryhard.

These two states of mine can gradually switch out multiple times a day. Its like theres something that shifts in my mindset that causes it.

Granted, since I’ve been focusing hard on socialization for the past ~5 months or so, my baseline has increased significantly. Even on my worst days now I’m better at socializing than I was on my good days back then. My days are more consistently good in general as well.


This weird inconsistency has a huge effect on my interactions. I know if I can get to the root of this I will be able to stay in my good state longer and bring my baseline up way faster.



The cause I think is most likely is that I’m simply not in touch with my emotional self expression enough. As of a few months ago my emotions were determined by the others around me.

I didnt even know what jokes I personally found funny. I would just laugh if I noticed others were laughing. I checked other people for cues on what emotions I should be feeling rather than what emotions I do feel.

And when I did feel an emotion I didnt express it in full in fear of offending people or being seen as uncalibrated or awkward.

(Its partly why I never understood people who said things like “I couldnt help it they made me mad”. To me it was so simple, just dont get mad in the first place)

I’m much better now. The thing I started doing that helped a little bit was really getting in touch with emotions and reacting to my automatic emotional response, so I get used to expressing my emotions confidently.

May sound a little weird to you guys who have been expressing emotion like this all your life, but an exercise I did was to watch funny videos and only pay attention to my automatic emotional response. If I didnt laugh out loud almost automatically, it wasn’t funny.

This seemed to help pretty well. I’m going to start doing that again.


Another possible cause is that I’m thinking in a “what do they like about me” way instead of a “what do I like about them” way.

90% of my focus now is going to go to squashing this inconsistency so I can speed up my progress.

 

[Kaida]

I’m going to start this journal up again, because theres so many times I go out and girl shit happens but I dont feel like writing a full FR on it. And just to put my thoughts down or whatever. I’ve improved a lot already but this’ll just make it faster.

Enjoy! I love when people chime in and give advice or pointers. I’m a young guy (18) and I know absolutely zero experienced guys irl so I appreciate all advice I hear. I'm also very good at implementing advice.


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Today I went to a large pool party that was packed full of baddies. Beautiful black girls with fat asses everywhere. You rarely find parties this deep that are during the day. It was all going so well, but then I did something so annoying that and pissed myself off for hours...

The thing I love most about pool parties though is that I get to take my shirt off. Hehe

I'd imagine you get the same type of reactions when you're dressed in a really high status way while in a club, which is one of the reasons fashion and knowing how to dress is my top priority. While I did have a chain, bracelet, and earrings on, my plan was to just show the abs.

It was technically a social circle environment so I stayed chill and subtle with my interactions. Last time I went crazy in a social circle I fucked up my rep bad.

I remember Wick and Chase talking about using your peripheral vision to withhold validation, so even tho I've been kind of doing that naturally, I focused on that a lot today.

Lots of AIs and IOIs. I'm getting much better at catching girls signals as well. I wont even move my body or my eyes, and my attention will snap to a girl checking me out.

It's not just speculation either, cuz they'll do something later to confirm their interest. Two of the girls I marked offered me a sip of their bottles unprompted, and another two catcalled me as I walked by.

But, like a dork, I continue to just walk by the girls instead of capitalizing. My state at the beginning of events can get really bad. When I'm anxious its like my mind is unable to read the multiple layers behind what someone says, and I miss basic social cues and hints even though my social skills are above average.

Most of the time I get out of this funk after maybe 2.5hrs of social momentum, but this time was different.

I've never drank alcohol before (only small amounts), so this was an experience. People always talked about how they're more bold with girls and shit, but I never really believed them.

But once those 2 shots hit on my empty stomach, I was on a diff level. All anxiety left my body. My vibe went up 10x and made me much more attractive. I could feel how smooth my facial expressions, voice, and movement was. IOIs increased even more because I was smiling and having obvious contagious fun.

I did confident shit I would never have done otherwise. With one girl I literally just pointed at her to get her attention and then pointed at the seat next to me and she sat down lol.

I can see why people can use alcohol as a crutch. I was taking meticulous mental notes of the things I was doing in this state, so I’ll see if I can transfer it to my sober self later.

(I dont think I’ll get addictedthough. The feeling wasn’t really enjoyable to me, its more like a tool)


Heres the thing that pissed me off so much:


I was just chatting up a chick and letting her feel me up for preselection when I noted a hot black girl, that follows me on insta, peeping at me repeatedly from across the whole venue.

Over the course of the day she checked me out like 10x times no joke. She was definitely my type too.

She was with like 3-4 friends the whole time tho. I dont have experience approaching in groups so that made me nervous.


I walked by her group to see if she would open, since that way I’ll be more welcomed in the group. I didn’t look at her at all or try and throw out any validation.

I walked by her a total total of four times, and every time she threw out an AI, and I still never approached her like a wimp .


Not too long later I saw her beginning to leave with her friends.

When I tell you my heart sank. I began thinking of a way to intercept her, but she was gone quick.

I was spitting probably the best game of my life with other girls off the alcohol and I still couldnt just talk to her?? With how much she liked me her friends would have probably left us alone.

And, as I found out on insta, she doesnt even go to college here. She lived in my city for highschool (so shes connected to the large social circle) but goes to college in washington.

So she had no other reason for signaling me other than she wanted to fuck.

I was furious at myself for the rest of the day. I hate that feeling of “what if…”. Even if I had bombed the approach I’d be happy I approached and have something to analyze.

Even though I knew the escalation window was probably looong closed, I was frustrated so I wanted to salvage maybe something.

I swiped up on a picture she posted with her at the party. I was like “ohh u looked familiar” & she just responded “??!”



This cant happen again. A hot girl left it wide open for me and I bailed out of fear of her little girl friends. I had to punish myself

At first I did 100 pushups when I got home as punishment. I dont do pushups often, so once I saw how easy that was, I fasted from food for the entire day.

It was hard, but that shit really can never happen again.

Next time I gotta do something, especially if shes leaving it wide open like that. At least I gotta wink at her.

 

[Kaida]

I think I just hacked my state.

Today, I went to a grad party and had the usual social brain fog / low momentum at the beginning. Wasnt long before the thing I taught myself yesterday started kicking in and my state skyrocketed.


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Yesterday I hit a few shots and started spitting the best game of my life, but I still had enough sense to think of ways to maintain it. I dont want to have to rely on a drug to get me girls.

So I took detailed mental notes of how I felt, how I walked, how I talked etc. I focused on the calm confidence I projected, and how my emotions were infecting everyone around me. I started meditating on the feeling, getting into it as deeep as possible to really amplify the effect.

I then put my hand in a sign (thumb between my other four fingers) and mentally connected the hand sign to the state I was in.

The idea was that even if I’m sober, I can just put my hand into that sign again and reaccess this charismatic and confident state. It’s kind of like mixing Kareas X-Factor and pavlov conditioning.

Worked much better than I thought it would.

As soon as I hit that party today and I felt the SBF, with one hand sign it was like I was on fire again. I immediately started chatting with that same charisma I had yesterday.

I started getting a good amount IOIs as well. Too bad the place was jam packed and it would have taken a while to take advantage of them.

But no excuses, I should have still approached at least one. There was one right next to me shooting me IOIs (not necessarily AI’s) and I didnt approach. Wasn’t as bad as yesterday though, but still. I’ll punish myself with 200 pushups.

I could only stay for 30 minutes anyway cuz my curfew is 11. Kind of annoying but it is what it is.

Just know once I’m hit college in August with no curfew and more cold approach opportunities, I’ma be devious.

 

[Kaida]

Outing yesterday was cool. Went to a outside cookout / party of 24-26 yr olds. Did a few (easy) approaches. Approach anxiety is still very much real.

I only approach when what exactly to say comes to me, and it’s usually when I’m talking to a group of guys and I transition to the girl. I need to work on just approaching anyway. I did 3 approached in 4 hours



Approach 1: 26 yr old 5’9 darkskin. Bit of a masculine voice and vibe.

She was fanning her face because it was hot outside. I stood next to her and playfully told her to fan me as well. She laughed and complied.

Used Chases trick and let her think I was 24. Talked about sports, what she majored in etc. My body language wasn’t as strong as it normally is but she was still fucking wit it.

Moved her to a seat nearby to make her commit. Exchanged instas. Talked some more about surface level shit. Touched her a good amount, had my hand on her thigh.

I told her I was leaving in a week (more like 3 weeks lol) so we should do something before I go. She agreed and said to just text her.

I think I dragged the convo too long because she ended it first after a bit.

Notes:

• end the convo once it comes to natural end
• Get more investment, I doubt this is going anywhere cuz I didnt get enough
• Work on deeper, more engaging conversation (major weakness)

Approach 2: Cute 5’5 24 yr old

Her group of friends (mostly boys) were walking towards me. I started a convo with the dudes with a compliment. They were cool.

Smoothly transitioned to small talk with the girl. The dudes knew what was happening so they left us alone. This girl was hella cute the way she was looking up at me smiling.

After a little small talk I asked her to move with me to a nearby seat. She followed me and I sat on the seat, but before she sat down we had a little interaction:


Outing yesterday was cool. Went to a outside cookout / party of 24-26 yr olds. Did a few (easy) approaches. Approach anxiety is still very much real.

I only approach when what exactly to say comes to me, and it’s usually when I’m talking to a group of guys and I transition to the girl. I need to work on just approaching anyway. I did 3 approached in 4 hours



Approach 1: 26 yr old 5’9 darkskin. Bit of a masculine voice and vibe.

She was fanning her face because it was hot outside. I stood next to her and playfully told her to fan me as well. She laughed and complied.

Used Chases trick and let her think I was 24. Talked about sports, what she majored in etc. My body language wasn’t as strong as it normally is but she was still fucking wit it.

Moved her to a seat nearby to make her commit. Exchanged instas. Talked some more about surface level shit. Touched her a good amount, had my hand on her thigh.

I told her I was leaving in a week (more like 3 weeks lol) so we should do something before I go. She agreed and said to just text her.

I think I dragged the convo too long because she ended it first after a bit.

Notes:

• end the convo once it comes to natural end
• Get more investment, I doubt this is going anywhere cuz I didnt get enough
• Work on deeper, more engaging conversation (major weakness)

Approach 2: Cute Darkskin 5’5 24 yr old

Her group of friends (mostly boys) were walking towards me. I started a convo with the dudes with a compliment. They were cool.

Smoothly transitioned to small talk with the girl. The dudes knew what was happening so they left us alone. This girl was hella cute the way she was looking up at me smiling

Me: Sit down

Her: Mmm I would but your girlfriend might see… I might have to fight a bitch (I never mentioned a girlfriend lol)

Me: Lol what makes you think that

Her: I dunnooo

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Me: Give me ur insta

Her: Okayyy

Her: (Still not sitting down) Btw how old are you?

Me: How old do I look?

Her: Really young. Like 20

Me: Good guess. I’m 21

Her: Yeahhh I’m 24. (Slowly takes her phone out my hand) Sorry

- I’m guessing there was something in my body language that was a bit off / unnatural which made her uneasy. -

Me: (playfully) Aww really? Just like that?

Her: Yeahh

Me: (shrugs with a smile) Thats cool. Enjoy ur day!

Her: (Walks off)

^ This girl ended up circling back to me by “appearing” next to me by accident while I was talking to friends. She gave me her insta and number.

I found out she was doing something after the party and leaving the city in the morning. So there was no room at all for a follow up date.

I’m really curious on what I could have done instead

Notes:

• Get the girls age first if you can before using the fake age trick so you dont blow yourself out (I doubt my age was the real reason she left, but still)
  
  
• Get MORE investment, increase dominance

• I STILL need more connective, deep conversation. My interactions are not strong enough on the rapport-building side, its almost all my fundamentals and arousal

Approach 3: 5’6 Darkskin Baddie who was getting a bunch of attention

I noticed this fine ass girl at the beginning of the party so she was on my radar for some time.

Her and her friends sat down on a straight bench by the food. There was an open seat next to her that would have been prime to approach.

She was fanning her face with a paper plate because it was hot out. My plan was to go up to her and playfully tell her to fan me as well, basically a compliance opener. It worked on the first girl so I bet it’d work on this one.

I was too invested in this approach probably due to keeping track of her during the whole event, so I had to hype myself up for a few minutes before appraoching.

Here’s the crazy thing…

As soon as I was walking over there to approach, some fat indian dude walks up to her and opens with MY EXACT OPENER.

He didnt deliver it as smoothly, because he was still standing while doing it. My plan was to sit down next to her and tell her to fan me while looking playfully exhausted.

And she actually responds by fanning him and laughing. I was expecting her to blow him off bad.

This dude then sits next to her and is talking for 10+ minutes. The girls are giving him minimal attention while he’s leaning in looking like a mega chaser.

This pissed me off. I just kept waiting hoping they’d blow him off or he’d get the hint. After a while I just got up and decided to curcle back when the indian dude was done.

As soon as I got back tho, another guy was talking to her

I left again to circle back and then ANOTHER guy came in.

and another

and then 2 guys together.

Here this girl was, just sitting on this bench staying still and getting massive attention from guys she wasn’t getting before.

What I think happened is all the guys saw the indian fat dude approach and saw she gave him decent attention, which emboldened them to approach as well.

By time I got around to her, it had been like 30 minutes since I initially should have approached.

I know my strategy should have changed after the saturation of attention she got, but I didn’t really know what else to do other than just deliver the opener I planned on.

After sitting down next to her and telling the fine girl to fan me. I dont remember exactly what she said but she playfully denied.

Then her (fat) friend chimed in and said “Sure we can fan you, for $20” .

I just did a little laugh and put on the bored look. A few seconds later the fat friend reached over and handed me her larger fan.

Thanks, but I didnt want yours

I sat there fanning myself for a few seconds so I dont look like a dickhead who tried to open and failed, then left.

Notes:

• Fucking approach the girl ASAP goddamn it before attention inflation happens

• With girls you know got a lot of attention, start with lower compliance before building up

• Learn how to create early, flirty sparks in conversation that immediately separate you from the rest.

 

[Kaida]

Texted Approach 1 on insta LMAO

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Me: Hey [Name] glad we met yesterday

Her: Hi! Tip for next time: don’t leave your ID on the back of your phone
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No wonder she left so abruptly…

Now that I think about it, the way she tapped my shoulder and left was a little condescending as well lol

Thanks for the tip lady never again

 

[Kaida]

Damn. Girl from the LR apparently got a boyfriend . Havent liked a girl that much since middle school. Hurts man.

What hurts even more is that he’s probably actually fucking her. I count what I did as a full seduction, but I cant even count it as a body in my mind really because I didnt even get inside of her due to her hymen still being intact.

I bet she doesn’t even count me as a body despite us trying 3 separate times to get it in…

Sad man. Cant believe girls move on so fast

Enough sulking. Onwards and upwards

 

[Kaida]

This girl from the LR I posted hit me up out of the blue at 9pm yesterday telling me her parents just left the house and she wants me to pull up…lol.

She obviously is feeling the pressure from the fact that I’m leaving this Friday. I’ve been posting about it and she’s pinged me a few times since then as well.

Thanks to Tominho I finally recognized the ping and used it to warm her up, which made her confident enough to send that risky text to me

Even though my house is pretty much on high security lockdown, with extreme luck I managed to sneak out… only to see a text from her saying her mom came back early (she showed proof) when I’m 5 mins away Logistics man…

She obviously felt bad and immediately rescheduled for Tuesday which is a good sign. But I have a feeling logistics will fall through again because of how unpredictable it is.

I really have to redeem myself from last time tbh. Barely stuck the tip in because she was so tight, and probably made her too tense so she wasn’t well lubricated. I just need to come in with an extremely relaxing vibe

 

[TomInHo]

My man is still in the game

If logistics keen falling through y’all could always do something spontaneous like a car date, park or beach. I’m sure she would be down for whatever she can get to spend more time with you

 

[Kaida]

My man is still in the game

Yessirrskii

If logistics keen falling through y’all could always do something spontaneous like a car date, park or beach. I’m sure she would be down for whatever she can get to spend more time with you

True, car sex would be perfect logistics.

I think she’s avoiding the car because of how it went last time. It was slightly uncomfortable in there (I didnt mind, but she may have) and she probably has some negative feelings associated with it.

If you know a way I can overcome that then I’d be so green @TomInHo

 

[Kaida]

I was at her place a few minutes ago.

Exact same stuff. Lots of LMR, not as much as last time though (either due to her wanting it more or my better handling)

And I didnt fuck brooo

I tried to get it in a few times and it was a mix of LMR and her getting scared of the pain. We were going back and forth from her being a willing to put it in (but we couldn’t, cuz it hurt) and her giving LMR objections.

I feel like I was still kind of pushy (I tried my best to sidestep objections without forcing) but I was still MUCH better than last time.

There was not as much “bad” tension in the air. I made whole thing more lighthearted this time and she was slightly less tense.

Here were her objections (I’ll write my responses in the update):

“I dont really like you enough to fuck” (She said this while fully naked on top of me lol)

“It wont fit”

“You dont like me enough. Other guys text me everyday, do my homework, drive me places, etc”

“I’m ovulating”

“Its not rlly fair to the other guys cuz they try so hard” (she prolly felt bad cuz theres other guys courting her that she hasn’t let hit)


I know that if logistics were good that one night she invited me I would have fucked.

Her texting me that risky text made the dynamic immensely in my favor. But since we were texting back and forth (and I probably made some chasey mistakes), since then the dynamic became more evened out, which made her feel like she could LMR me.

She ended up giving me a blowjob. It was nice, and she was enthusiastic - so that pretty much trumps everything. I’m fine with BJs but I wanted PIV for achievement purposes.

I havent even really fucked a girl before. I ejaculated super fast with my first body, and I only stuck the tip in with this one.

And all week I was thinking of pounding the living fuck out of her

No matter. I leave to college on Saturday anyway. More bitches to conquer in my future

 

[Kaida]

Wow. Been at college for the past few days and it seems like a massive downgrade in girl quality… I hope I’m wrong

Like I’ve literally been out until 2am every day for the past 4 days in some high tier clothes, scouting for bitches.

Still nada. I’m serious when I say barely any have caught my eye. And I’m not one of those guys who says they’ll only fuck beautiful women. If they’re at least fuckable (6 and up) I’ll approach and attempt. But I barely see even passably “cute” girls bro. I also mess with mostly black girls and theres not a lot here

I approached one girl for shits but I deleted her number once I got it. I’m sure she could tell I wasn’t totally into her but my opener was solid

Back in Houston I would have def found fine women by now.


I had no problem with my standards back in H-town. Now its looking like I’ma have to lower them. I hope I dont get the adverse effect of making me more nervous around girls that would previously be mid.


But, to be fair, Im not going to judge for sure until Sunday, since I moved in a week early. (thats when everyone really moves in, only about 20% of the campus has moved in so far) I just hope what I’m experiencing right now isn’t a representation of the larger whole.

Gonna be a massive disappointment if the girls really are mid.

The guys seem really cool tho. I’ve already made a lot if alliances and my reputation is already being formed. Only 4 days in and people I’ve never seen are coming up to me saying my name as if they know me lol. Good start

 

[Kaida]

3rd day since being alone at college and I already caught a body . Lay report incoming

Edit: On second thought, may not write it up because it was mostly online and there wasn’t too much to learn from it. It would take a while to write as well. There was never really any moment she gave me a hard time.

 

[Kaida]

Weirdest thing ever just happened.

Had a girl in my bed a few minutes ago, didnt fuck tho. She was twerking on me all night and one thing led to another and I brought her home, and on the walk home she was talking bout some I want a rice Krispie treat and they’re at my dorm. I just did a temporary lie and said I got some in mine, with a plan to just evade it when we got there.

Once we were in my room and making out, she suddenly stopped and was like “wheres my rice krispie”. Like wtf.

This went on for an hour bruh. We kept making out and she kept stopping in the middle talking bout some candy.

And then I finally brought out the real objection when she said she doesn’t want to go but she wont respect herself if she got with me since she just met me that day. She was adamant about seeing me tomorrow morning instead.

I tried telling her feelings are the only thing that matters, I tried letting her understand that I would still respect her, tried telling her tomorrow isn’t promised, I even tried just stopping everything and turning on some anime for us to watch.

After 2 hours I ended up just walking her home after she promised on her life that she would walk over in the morning tomorrow (her dorm 5 mins from me) She saw I didnt believe her so she even said she’d take one of my shirts and come in the morning tomorrow wearing it. She texted me after saying she’ll wake up too.

Dunno what’ll happen fr. We’ll see

 

[Kaida]

I've had 2 girls in my bed in the past 3 days and I failed to fuck both of them because they didn't feel like I cared about them bruh. They both said the same shit about "It's the first time we're seeing each other", "I dont think you care about me enough", etc. So frustrating.

Attainability has got to be the hardest part of game. I really should write FRs on those

 

[TomInHo]

Didn’t you get laid once already in college?

 

[Kaida]

Didn’t you get laid once already in college?

Yeah, these are two new girls.

About half an ago one of them was over. It was 4 hours of LMR from 9:30 - 1pm . And she still ended up leaving in a fit due to a stupid low attainability move of mine. Apparently this one is a virgin.

She wouldn't let me take off her shirt or anything, only makeouts. Every time I tried escalating she brought up that it was the first time we were linking and she had to respect herself and all that extra stuff. She also said she didn't feel like I cared about her, which I get a lot and am actively trying to fix.

 

[TomInHo]

Oh that sounds like a very simple fix G

• Make sure you are qualifying girls, before you escalate hard, so they know you like them beyond superficial stuff. It's also best to qualify them on things that move the seduction forward faster like being adventurous, non judgmental, passionate, spontaneous, sexual
• Build tons of sexual tension if you can before plowing through
• Also probably need to baby step your escalation and fractionate before they have a chance to resist... classic push pull except you pull back slightly just before she resists so she wants more
• Have a no big deal attitude about sex, like you can take it or leave it and only want it if she does. When you're pretty laidback with your escalation even if you don't close a good amount of of girls will still want to see you again

So pretty much you just need to make some tweaks on qualifying girls, and changing up your escalation style and you'll be straight

 

[Conquistador]

I failed to fuck both of them because they didn't feel like I cared about them bruh. They both said the same shit about "It's the first time we're seeing each other", "I dont think you care about me enough", etc. So frustrating.

Attainability has got to be the hardest part of game.

4 hours of LMR from 9:30 - 1pm . And she still ended up leaving in a fit due to a stupid low attainability move of mine. Apparently this one is a virgin.

She wouldn't let me take off her shirt or anything, only makeouts. Every time I tried escalating she brought up that it was the first time we were linking and she had to respect herself and all that extra stuff. She also said she didn't feel like I cared about her, which I get a lot and am actively trying to fix.

How do your approaches and/or first conversations go? Are you showing interest? Are you spending more time looking into their eyes than at their bodies?

Also, how much do you know about a girl when you take her to bed? Multiple times I’ve heard classmates ask girls basic questions, weeks in, that I asked on our first

Also, instadates in college are great for building more comfort than you’d get from her just stopping by.

I have more to say but PMs might be better.

Read this GC article: https://www.girlschase.com/content/tactics-tuesday-be-anti-player