Yeah i can agree with this (though i had students that only go for kink subculture girls, punisher rip, was like this..., maybe you can edit the article and add some of this, cause you left the sexual aspect for a more complete article, really good work though, i would have never thought of briniging this up like this... I would also nitpict that guys should EXPERIENCE, all the genes, status, confort, and not use this as a COPE, on why they don't go for certain girls...
Good suggestion,
@Skills. I'll add.
edit: updated the last section of the article ("Are There Men Who Don't Fit?").
Agree with your nitpick too. Closed mindedness ("I don't like that kind of girl I have zero experience with") is not a substitute for tastes that come from experience.
However, one thing is true is that cold approach is not scalable at all. How many approaches you make is how many times a woman (or group) will interact with you.
I don't believe you're using that term correctly.
"Scalable" = able to scale up to very high numbers.
For what you're describing, you want something more like "cold approach does not lend itself to repeated exposures to a specific woman over time."
The two are very different skill sets...
- Social circle revolving around making slower impressions over multiple exposures
- Cold approach revolving around making rapid impressions without the benefit of repeated exposure
Cold approach is tougher, at least initially, due to how front-loaded the impression-making is. With social circle you can get away with a flimsy first impression if you "get better over time."
For scalability though, just in terms of raw ability to scale one's numbers up as much as one desires, you have to give it to cold approach.
If you want to go out on the street during the day and approach women until you pick up, pull her, lay her, relax a few hours, then head back out to nightlife and approach again until you pull again, you can do that, any day of the week, with a number of approaches limited only by the number of available women in public in your area and your ability to approach and rapidly make an impression and take it somewhere if it clicks.
Social circle has a lot more limitations on its scalability, even at the upper echelons. Gatherings are only certain times of the week, for certain hours... there is a limit to the dating pool there... you see a lot of the same girls again and again... turnover is generally going to be low.
There are ways to engineer a much more scaled up social circle-ish lifestyle (like being a DJ who DJs five nights a week at a very popular nightclub and has big after-parties at each session), but at that point you are in a lot more of a gray area between social circle and cold approach due to how high the turnover is and how often you will be shagging chicks you've only just met who don't know much about you aside from whatever status signals they've picked up about you plus however good your game + fundamentals are. A "flimsy impression" DJ will do a lot worse in that situation than he will in a tighter, less frequently meeting circle where he gets exposed to the same women repeatedly, due to the more cold-approach-like aspects of the high volume, high turnover scenario where women don't know him nearly as well.
(one caveat: it's also possible you are in an area with a low volume of women in public... I have had coaching clients like that, especially during the lockdowns, where my advice was to stop trying to cold approach and instead focus on throwing parties... when your ability to approach in public is severely curtailed, social circle can actually become more scalable)
Contrast that with what Michael Sartain is advocating is much more scalable. Using social circle or social media to create a funnel for women to see/interact with you.
Again, status-based social circle is very powerful, but it has a number of limitations.
There is a reason why the most prolific status-based social circle guys also cold approached... Russell Brand cold approached, and he is at 1,000 lays... Errol Flynn did parties and used his social circle to get laid all the time, but he also cold approached incessantly, and he claimed 14,000 lays.
Sure, these guys had fame, making cold approach easier, but I have seen street recordings of Jeff Goldblum cold approaching, doing day game and most of the girls he approached did not know who he was... this was at the peak of his fame, too. Recognizing a guy on the screen is very different from recognizing him in-person without the lights and makeup and other peripherals.
It's a bit silly trying to claim one of these is better than the other.
They are different tools fitted to different situations.
It's like arguing the merits of claw hammers vs. mallets.
A skilled craftsman may have his preferences. One or the other may be better for the kind of crafts he's engaged in.
But both continue to exist as tools employed by the craftsmen who use them for a reason.
Chase
