MOST % FAIL THE NEWBIE ASSIGNMENT

[MUGENYI]

Hey there
Am still on day 7 of the assignment and today I searched for some of my fellow's assignments and failed to find a complete one.
Most of the guys to try assignment are on the 1st and 2nd rank.

I don't know how nino did it in 17 days and other guys who are new.

And some new guys on the forum don't go for it anyway.

Is approach anxiety that strong to prevent all the great dudes on this forum to change their lives or it is going to take them years to reach there.

Or there is another issue.

THANKS

 

[Rain]

Hi,

I think @Skills did the newbie assignment, or parts of it, a few months ago or last year? I just vaguely remember him writing about it somewhere on this forum, maybe it was after a long lockdown or something. I could be wrong so don't quote me on that! But whether he did it to begin with, when he first started with game / pua years ago, I don't know.

However, I do not think that the newbie assignment, on this forum, "as it is", would be the only way to get over your approach anxiety/get the person talking to women. It's actually on my to do list to start a thread about that.

I do wonder how other members of this forum got over their AA, when the newbie assignment on this forum may not even have been available to them since it was only created in what, 2012? So if some members here where elsewhere before 2012, then they may have another method to achieve the result.

There would also be people who are not on here, but are on or used to be on other PUA type websites/forums who would have been successful in getting over their AA, but they are probably not going to go to every other PUA forum[eg like this forum here] and write "here's how I got over my AA". So other methods for AA may not be presented all in the one place.

To answer your question about nino, I'm thinking that he did it in 17days because he had the willpower to do it in the 17days. I am not sure that every single person has that type of neurological ability.

 

[Skills]

Hi,

I think @Skills did the newbie assignment, or parts of it, a few months ago or last year? I just vaguely remember him writing about it somewhere on this forum, maybe it was after a long lockdown or something. I could be wrong so don't quote me on that! But whether he did it to begin with, when he first started with game / pua years ago, I don't know.

However, I do not think that the newbie assignment, on this forum, "as it is", would be the only way to get over your approach anxiety/get the person talking to women. It's actually on my to do list to start a thread about that.

I do wonder how other members of this forum got over their AA, when the newbie assignment on this forum may not even have been available to them since it was only created in what, 2012? So if some members here where elsewhere before 2012, then they may have another method to achieve the result.

There would also be people who are not on here, but are on or used to be on other PUA type websites/forums who would have been successful in getting over their AA, but they are probably not going to go to every other PUA forum[eg like this forum here] and write "here's how I got over my AA". So other methods for AA may not be presented all in the one place.

To answer your question about nino, I'm thinking that he did it in 17days because he had the willpower to do it in the 17days. I am not sure that every single person has that type of neurological ability.

I did the newbie assignment after lock down to learn how to cold approach with masks on... really important clarification

 

[Train]

The TRE section of this thread has helped me a lot: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/body-oriented-therapy-and-its-application-to-pu.21753/

I was having trouble with AA for a while and just couldn't open. I did some TRE while thinking about approaching and then suddenly had a breakthrough and did like 4 approaches in like 35 minutes.

I am still testing to see if it sticks. Might be a placebo effect (I doubt this though).

Now I wonder why approaches were even scary because they seem so easy now. Mind you, I would freeze up in the field. Even though I knew approaches logically were easy, they FEEL easy now.

TRE also helped a lot with general anxiety when I did it for over a year. But the AA benefit didn't kick in until I did TRE while focusing on the thought of approaching girls.

I taught myself how to do TRE. May be quicker for you, if interested, to get a TRE specialist to teach you.

 

[Rain]

Now I wonder why approaches were even scary because they seem so easy now. Mind you, I would freeze up in the field. Even though I knew approaches logically were easy, they FEEL easy now.

TRE also helped a lot with general anxiety when I did it for over a year. But the AA benefit didn't kick in until I did TRE while focusing on the thought of approaching girls.

Good to hear it helped your general anxiety as well. Also, that's interesting how it feels easy as well as the logical, and how you had to think about approaching during TRE to have that come about. It's on my potential to do list to try TRE.

So you haven't completed the newbie mission? You probably could breeze through it maybe, but you haven't done it correct?

 

[Train]

Good to hear it helped your general anxiety as well. Also, that's interesting how it feels easy as well as the logical, and how you had to think about approaching during TRE to have that come about. It's on my potential to do list to try TRE.

So you haven't completed the newbie mission? You probably could breeze through it maybe, but you haven't done it correct?

I haven't done the newbie mission but I probably am skipping some lessons right now.

I'm opening currently with "Do you know where x is?" I could probably escalate with some small talk. I don't want to do direct to not burn this venue down.

Also actually infield right now. I had some hesitation in opening but was able to open a girl within 10 minutes. So it's getting better for sure.

 

[MadeOfMetal]

I've been stuck on Day 4 of the newbie assignment since 2017...Lmao
(2 years of that i spent in lockdown and a monogamous relationship, but still...)
I'm a wussy and AA is insane.
I haven't gave up yet though!

 

[MUGENYI]

I've been stuck on Day 4 of the newbie assignment since 2017...Lmao
(2 years of that i spent in lockdown and a monogamous relationship, but still...)
I'm a wussy and AA is insane.
I haven't gave up yet though!

Wow man that's good to hear of your dedication

AA is a real big issue to face especially when you were a nice guy

When I started the newbie assignment I thought AA stops on day 4 but goes all the way to intermediate level and further in situations you are unfamiliar with.
You've got many advices but I want you to try out this one.

You have spent 4 yrs on day 4 and me I know its possible. Of your AA is so immense or your soul is to lazy to push its self try
1. Getting someone or a friend to push you. Bet with him like 5 dollars for every chance you miss. Get any person to back you up.
2. Try @Pheonix's Train your action muscle advice which I found the most advice for AA of making the decision to approach in that moment you see the girl right away.
But Don't spend that much time on that man

 

[dingdong]

@MUGENYI that number 1. advice might work for some but it never worked for me... what worked for me was going out CONSISTENTLY. Telling yourself you had to boot up and go out for atleast 2 hours to do approaching. Eventually the regret, the missed opportunities and the hesitation got more painful than just DOING it. https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/beginner-daygame-breakthrough.23300/

Number 2. is where it was at for me. I remember that day in July where i saw that girl walk past me. I had that same picture in my head from so many times before where she would pass me, i would hesitate, my brain would go "too late" and then i wouldn't approach. But something magical happened in that moment where she passed me, i hesitated, my brain went "too late" but i said "no, it is never too late" and i jogged after her and opened from behind and she said she had a boyfriend haha. Anyways, a FU of an approach, but it was my breakthrough. Not even my first approach, i had done a few VERY high AA approaches to the point i would be out of my mind, fight or flight mode and i couldn't even concentrate, but this one made a toehole and grew from there. From then on i could consistently do daygame approaches that weren't too high pressure (for an example, many people around and watching) and now i'm pushing myself beyond that (doing high pressure approaches, and sticking in. Fight, not flight). always push your comfort zone, keep it fresh. otherwise you get daygame apathy but that's beyond the scope of this post.

 

[Lobo]

Different things help different people.
I didn't do the newbie assignment but I recently started cold approaching over the summer and I'd say what helped me was having a clear goal in mind, which I would remind myself of when I was doing something contrary to that(like wussing out). This also forces you to have more accountability over your results as you are solely to blame if you don't hit your mark.
At the start, I was doing like 1 or 2 approaches an outing, but towards the end, I was hitting 5+ consistently. I believe this is progressive habitualization taking its effect... but in order to benefit from that, you need something to drive you to approach in the first place and build that momentum. So, try asking yourself why it is you want to learn seduction in the first place and build a clear image as to what your future would look like if you pushed through that fleeting hesitation you get before approaching cute girls.

 

[SexualHero]

For people getting stuck at step 4, I would suggest adding a few steps between step 3 and step 4 for example :

Approach 5 girls asking what time is it ?
Approach 5 girls asking for directions
Approach 5 girls asking if they know of any good coffee shop, restaurants, fast food or something similar nearby. Then you can add that your are new in town most girls will ask where you are from etc.. This can lead to longer conversations, so you can relax more around girls.

After this, you should have no problem doing step 4 and beyond. If you still can't do it, then just repeat previous steps as much times as needed.