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KJ Francis

Cro-Magnon Man
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500+ approaches, 7 dates, no fucking. Disastrous waste of time and energy, which has been my reality for so many years
might be worth thinking about attainability. they do seem like fun interactions, but maybe a little too validating for the girl too fast, giving you player vibes ("you're so charming") and making you a bit "too easy".

numbers don't mean anything... gotta ask her out first, then exchange contacts.

worth a read:


cold reading might be good as well
 

HeartOfChaos

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might be worth thinking about attainability. they do seem like fun interactions, but maybe a little too validating for the girl too fast, giving you player vibes ("you're so charming") and making you a bit "too easy".

numbers don't mean anything... gotta ask her out first, then exchange contacts.

worth a read:


cold reading might be good as well
Dude… did u read what I wrote.. I said myself that none of these numbers or date mean jack.. only lays… i realised all this over a decade ago…
 

topcat

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"approach an east asian girl that is now his fb." - well that's great, but I reckon that's just SMV playing out... Certain girls of races/ nationalities and backgrounds are simply much more receptive, nothing more. Field tested over 15 years...
Wrong. He get's white girls too. Both of us are black immigrants and not particularly tall (I'm no more than 5'6).


So what's your current process? That Baltic girl for instance, how did you approach her? What sort of girls (age group, race / ethnicity, looks, fashion sense, location) do you usually approach?
This particular chick was 24. Blue summer dress, a little too conservatively dressed for my liking but pretty overall so I went for it anyway. She was sat on a bench at forst so i circled her to see if I liked her facially enough. She went to go sit on some grass so I rocked up told her I liked her energy, asked about her day, then upon seeing she was open to chat I sat beside her.

Spoke to her for 3 minutes, about her place of origin, how long she'd been in London, what she studied, what her interests were and what she was up to that day. Qualified her on her surprisingly open and adventurous nature, wished her well then went to go catch up with DWW.

Typically I've approached off of IOI's or strike up a conversation with girls that happen to be in my vicinity. But many times and increasingly now I approch completely cold.

If you are experienced,
If your so experienced why are you so shit? Why does your attitude suck so bad? Why don't women like you?

Guys here are having success. What is your excuse?

Sorry man, but your attitude is frustrating. You're extremely closed to new strategies in the cases your old one no longer works. Have you considered actually finding interesting things out about a girl and qualifying her on them?
Showing her why you actually like her beyond the fact she looks nice or is female?
 

KJ Francis

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Dude… did u read what I wrote.. I said myself that none of these numbers or date mean jack.. only lays… i realised all this over a decade ago…
yeah and if you can't time bridge, how do you expect to lay her?

you are coming in too easy. there is nothing in these approaches turning it back to her. it's just fawning over them.
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

HeartOfChaos

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yeah and if you can't time bridge, how do you expect to lay her?

you are coming in too easy. there is nothing in these approaches turning it back to her. it's just fawning over them.

depends… I know what you are trying to say, but I just basically outline the initial opener really, rather than the rest of the conversation which can be very varied and all sorts…
 

HeartOfChaos

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depends… I know what you are trying to say, but I just basically outline the initial opener really, rather than the rest of the conversation which can be very varied and all sorts…
P.s. turning it “back to her” is a natural by product of further conversation that happens organically. Sometimes it can’t happen in 2 mins, sometimes it can…
 

KJ Francis

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P.s. turning it “back to her” is a natural by product of further conversation that happens organically. Sometimes it can’t happen in 2 mins, sometimes it can…
check out the Chase link.

non-verbal distraction, teasing, and contribution space.
 
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