For approach anxiety, I had a coach tell me to approach and I found that I could do it. Then I approached with wings. I found that if I was with a friend approaching, the anxiety wouldn't be there. What really helped me was chatting to my wing about some mundane thing and then deciding to approach, pausing the conversation and then going so no time to think because you go from the conversation to your opener. If approaching alone, it's going to be tougher but there are many standard warm up schemes that you could use such as saying "good afternoon" to a hired gun, asking for directions, delivering a direct compliment and then finally doing a full direct approach. You might be a tougher case though. When I got approaching, it became clear that I didnt have any major social or approach anxiety.
Yeah I might be a tougher case!
I'm sorry to say that I am sceptical of coaches now. My first coach was a scammer. Then I had a coach who cured my AA and helped me to learn the basic street approach. That was good. But all further coaching has just been myself out on a day or night game session with the coach just directing me to do approaches.
Were any of the coaches above from here, or were they from another dating advice website?
I'm definitely not the best looking guy. In my country I'd be below average. But I don't want that to limit me. Or at least the feeling that I get from this thread is that stuff like that should not limit me.
This talks about how you might get knee jerk reacitons from women, eg by using direct approaches, but if you go indirect, you can get around a knee jerk reaction. Knee jerk reaciotn meaning something like.... she only dates tall guys and you're not tall, so instant knee jerk reaction. I can't comment I have not tried this indirect sort of approach myself.
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So many have no concept of how to even do most of what I talk about in the last half, unless they're familiar with my courses and materials, I went ahead and threw this in advanced. https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/trippadvicecom/how-to-talk-to-girls/e/79015717 For those checking this out...
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Yes that's right. I meant to say... "should a guy settle for less (if he wants to settle down and not stay single).
I'm not sure. The quick/easy answer is no, I think someone above said if you settle for less, you might regret it and that's a very good point.
When do you say you tried enough though? Does a man need a "10" to be happy?
A friend I had in highschool liked the same women as me. But he married a fat chick. I asked him about this.... eg why her? He said "It's not about that". So he didn't like average women anymore? His tastes changed or did he settle? I never quizzed him on that. He has kids with her now.
Another friend, married a fat chick, Not sure he liked very similar like me and first friend, but he did point out an average chick that she was a bit cute and same with a an average/curvy chick[who I also thought maybe was a bit cute as well]. But yeah, he got with a fat chick and said "even though shes a bit tubby, I like her". She lost weight, and he has a kid with her now.
A story from a family member, she knew a guy and he married a woman, had a family. The man didn't find his wife that attractive, didn't think his daughters were that special either. He ended up leaving them. He told my family member that he got married to his wife back then because he "didn't think he could do better".
Also, if you look at shows like gogglebox.... there's all sorts of couples on there, or even just goto the movie lobby, a cafe, shopping mall, you'll see couples all around. I wonder, have any men/women settled like you say, settled for less? Because, well I think I'm very looks based, but looking around, the amount of couples despite not good looking women, I wonder did they settle or are the men wired not to go for looks as much as I do?