I just broke it off with my gf of 4 years. It was very turbulent. On and off because of me and my fears. But at the end I was finally able to be true and end it.
I was not living authentically to my own values. Now that is over, this journal is for my overall self development in life and game.
Before this relationship I was in the game for 2 years. A few lays from cold approach (maybe around 20) and maybe just as much from online game. Quite a few I have regretted as they were not girls I really wanted to sleep with.
I've always had trouble approaching and never set time to work on just that. It would be me going out and through motivation by wings or some other circumstance, I would bash through my nervousness and do an approach, maybe 3-5 and then call it quits for the day. I would skip a lot of sets and pick only ones i felt comfortable with and that I thought would go well. So that mixed with 4 years of being in a relationship and not working on my social skills means I have fucked myself hard.
But lesson learned.
Currently using different methods to conquer approaching including:
CBT, before and after, writing down irrational beliefs and rational ones.
Baby step exposure therapy. Asking for directions, time, whatever, and trying to add more each time.
Walking "Meditation". I meditate normally in the mornings, but when i go out I try to bring awareness in and in between approaches.
Today, I mostly just wrote down a list of my values so I can live accordingly and never be confused what to do. All I have to do is ask myself if its congruent to what i believe in.
I'm still feeling super down because of the break up, so I'm taking a short time to heal.
I was not living authentically to my own values. Now that is over, this journal is for my overall self development in life and game.
Before this relationship I was in the game for 2 years. A few lays from cold approach (maybe around 20) and maybe just as much from online game. Quite a few I have regretted as they were not girls I really wanted to sleep with.
I've always had trouble approaching and never set time to work on just that. It would be me going out and through motivation by wings or some other circumstance, I would bash through my nervousness and do an approach, maybe 3-5 and then call it quits for the day. I would skip a lot of sets and pick only ones i felt comfortable with and that I thought would go well. So that mixed with 4 years of being in a relationship and not working on my social skills means I have fucked myself hard.
But lesson learned.
Currently using different methods to conquer approaching including:
CBT, before and after, writing down irrational beliefs and rational ones.
Baby step exposure therapy. Asking for directions, time, whatever, and trying to add more each time.
Walking "Meditation". I meditate normally in the mornings, but when i go out I try to bring awareness in and in between approaches.
Today, I mostly just wrote down a list of my values so I can live accordingly and never be confused what to do. All I have to do is ask myself if its congruent to what i believe in.
I'm still feeling super down because of the break up, so I'm taking a short time to heal.