Today I had an hour's time. I went out and did 5 approaches. I feel a real difference in my anxiety as I am now going out fully ready to get rejected and face awkwardness. I went out with my wing today and he was surprised that I did 5 approaches within 45 mins. He is also a newbie and struggles with AA. But he used to open before I did in many sessions. Today I did 5 rapidly and he was amazed and ended up not doing a single one. So I spent the last 15 mins encouraging him to approach and then we ran out of time.
As for the interactions, I was not very lucky today. I live in a European city where the native language is not English. I speak a bit of the native language but not enough to converse freely. So sometimes you end up approaching girls who speak no English at all. This was one of those days.
My first approach was super awkward. She was really pretty and I was anxious. Opened with asking her if she spoke English and she said no and then I switched to her native language and tried getting into a conversation and she gave me a weird look and kind of turned away. I soaked in the awkwardness for an extra second or two and then left.
My second approach was also awkward again due to the fact that she did not speak English but then the great part of the interaction was that because I started laughing, she started laughing too and the awkwardness dissipated and it became a funny situation for both us. This was great as it clearly showed me the concept of State Transference and how non-verbals are so vital.
My third approach was also with a girl who did not speak English very well, but enough to have a conversation. I opened with saying I liked her style, she got awkward and did not receive the compliment well. But I decided to stick it out and continued talking and then she seemed to open up a bit. But she was terribly conscious of her bad English and I could see that since she was so anxious she could not even understand my basic banter. But I stuck in there for 2 mins and then left.
The fourth girl I approached with telling her she was pretty and that I had to meet her. She understood the pretty part and thanked me but could not understand my conversation after that, so she asked to switch to her native language. I complimented her again in her native language and spoke a bit. I could not continue for too long as I have very limited knowledge of the native language. Again here my energy was lighthearted and fun and she started laughing and smiling as well and it did not get awkward.
The fifth girl was sitting on the bench and she was quite pretty but with lots of make up. I was urging my wing to approach her but he was chickening out so I went in. Opened with asking her if she was French. She said she was English and then I told her I thought she looked pretty and that's why I came over to meet her. She thanked me but was awkward about it. I had a thought of ejecting but I wanted to push through the awkwardness. I asked her what she was doing here and she told me she was a tourist and also mentioned that her boyfriend was inside the store across the street buying something. I did not flinch and continued the conversation just being social and asking her what she liked. At this point I felt her change from oh this is awkward to oh this guy seems cool and not a weirdo and she started talking more freely. By this time I could see her bf walking up to us from across the street, So I wished her a good stay here and we exchanged pleasantries and I ejected. But I did not runaway, I just sat on the next bench. I wanted to convince myself that the boyfriend is not going to be weird or get into a fight or that she is going to complain about me. And nothing happened she just gathered her stuff even looked at me smiled and left with her bf. This is a big step for me to convince myself that I am not doing anything weird or wrong and that these worse case scenarios exist in my head.
As I am counting up to a 100 rejections in this journal, the total number of rejections until now = 7
I have a date in 2 hours with a Swiss traveler whose Facebook I got on Sunday from daygame. I am going to try to take her to two bars close to my place and escalate and try to pull. Will write an FR on that. Looking to have fun and pull the trigger and not overthink like I tend to do on some dates.