Day 1 of bootcamp(Scroll down if you want to see approach descriptions)
Prior to when I had met my coach AG Hayden I was struggling with state control. I felt lonely,despondent and almost miserable. Like why did I come here by myself? I had thoughts of just staying in my room until AG came to Vegas cuz he was out of the state.
I meditated for 15 minutes to clear my mind something
@Tony D taught me and ease my thoughts and it helped momentarily.
But when I went outside on the streets my bad state of mind came back. I saw women wearing shorts in 99 degree weather and I had so many swirling thoughts. Do I approach girls before meeting with him? Should I warmup or is it better I wait for him? I misread his bootcamp details and thought it was going to be 8 hrs,but it was only 4 which was fine because 8 hrs is kinda OD and 4 is plenty good enough. But this means I had so much excess time and I had these false expectations and because of that I didn't plan to do anything else and was walking around by myself. I kind of kept meandering on the strip just checking out places trying not to look depressed. I did VR and it was wack. Sat down to eat at bwings and watched sports for a bit until the meetup for the bootcamp.
AG was running a bit late,but eventually we link up and he comes with Denton Fisher who I was pleasantly suprised to see. At first I said wassup to these guys and they didn't recognize me at first. They are so popular on the strip that people will just say hi to them lol.
We introduce ourselves and we walk around and start off small just saying random things to people for the sake of warming up. I was reluctant and scared at first naturally. My ego didn't wanna do shit. But I saw these guys just spout ridicuolous shit to people passing by like nice shirt, or nice face. I eventually followed suit and copied them by saying dumb shit to people too. He would point out girls for me to talk to and I would do it albeit with some resistance. They would both walk with me and give me feedback at different points. But I would take a deep breathe focus on the moment and say yo and get their attention. I approached so many people this one outing i'm not sure I can recall them all or put a number to it. I'll try my best to do them all or the ones that I felt were important. These are not in order of when it happened just in order of when I can recall it.
Girl 1 (skinny blonde white girl with mom maybe?):Said to her l I think you look cute. She said thank you. We have a brief chat. Talk about where i'm from and she's from. I number close. Avery complimented me on my number close and said I had good eye contact even though I didn't think it. This was my first cold approach number she first suggested snapchat and she asked to put in my number which indicates to me she's may not be serious about meeting up,but whatever.
Girl 2: I approach some girl avery points out and said she was cute. She said thank you. Then she said she was engaged and she'll talk to be friendly,but won't give her number out. I was like that's ok just wanna chat. We was crossing the street and she was saying i'm just gonna leave my friends behind. A min later parted ways.
Girl 3(blonde with group):Avery suggested I say a tv reference to a girl. I say the reference to the girl and there was some confusion because she didn't know the reference and neither did I. Avery jumps in to help and contribute. Eventually dude's brother was like no disrespect guys and kind of ended the interaction and the sister was like nice meeting you guys so we walked away. Avery said they were drunk and I didn't pick up on it at the time.
Girl 4 skinny asian girl with friends : I said she was cute and she said thanks. Talked about some menial basic shit. Her girlfriends whispered stick together and then she ignored what I had to say.
Girl 5 blonde tattoo bitch with two friends walking beside her: I told her "I just wanna say I think your tattoo is badass." She's like thanks. The tatoo is a face and I ask what is that. She says what do you mean what is that in a kind of defensive way. I mean like who is that and she says it's a face of her grandma. Then she walks away. Whatever I didn't actually think your tatoo was badass it's just an easy compliment.
Girl 6: Asian girl with tattoos and her friend:I think I complimented her by saying sick tattoos (even though I don't actually give a shit. Call me manipulative). We have a brief discussion where it's almost like a Q@A. Eventually their friends pull them away to get something and they leave.
Later on we see them again and Avery tells me to approach them again and say do you believe in second chances? Lol I didn't wanna do it cuz then I really felt like a creep predator,but did it after asking if they were waiting on line for a bar. Said the line and they shook their heads.
Girl 7 some tall blond bitch who's a friend of a girl Denton is talking to:Avery suggested I speak to the friend because she looks bored. I make an attempt to talk to her and she was not having it. I said I was from NY and a friend of Denton and she was like ok like idgaf. Funny part is Denton had just ejected and wasnt talking to the other girl anymore and later he said he probably should've closed.
Girl 8 chick with fatass and glasses alongside a friend crossing the street: "hey I just want to say that I think you look finneee" with my best attempt at a smile and genuine sincerity. She said thank you,but I didn't really try hard enough to keep up the convo and almost tripped on some shit and ejected.
Girl 9 women sitting in casino with big thighs(muscle woman according to AG):I didn't want to approach her,but took a deep breath and said hey or yo I just wanna say I think you're cute. She responds thanks. I say do you squat or workout at the gym you have really big quads. She smiles and says no,but i'm actually pregnant. I chuckle and say oh ok didn't know pregnancy makes your legs bigger I thought it was just your stomach and titties. I say have a nice day she says thank you.
Girl 10 brown skinned girl with a nice ass who avery identified as a "slut in a good way": I go up to her and say "yo I just wanted to say I think you're fine" in my attempt at a genuine way. She smiles and says thank you. We talk and avery talks to her girlfriend to wingman who wasn't as cute I think. I tell her where i'm from she says she's from LA I jokingly ask her if there's a migrant movement from Cali to Vegas because a bunch of girls I spoke to said they were from Cali. We have a pretty good interaction she says she was going back to the Cosmopolitan and I joke I thought it was the Cosmopolitan HQ for the blog. Eventually I ask for her number and she obliged and seemed receptive to the point where I think she would legit meetup.
Girl 11 skinny white girl who I was apprehensive of approaching: I just comment and say "yo I just wanted to say I like your outfit" she says thanks and I just walk ahead as if that's all I wanted to do which I sort of did.
Girl 12 white girl with her friend sitting down on a table: I was probably the most scared of approaching because she had a resting bitch face and she was sitting down. I said hey I think you look cute after mumbling the first time. She smiled and said thank you. We eventually start shooting the shit talking about random stuff that I filled in the blanks through instinct ,Avery comes in and wings her friend who I said she looks like Maggie from the Walking Dead which she really did lol. They were gonna go somewhere later in the night and I think 2mm so I didn't try to number close and we wished each other farewell.
Girl 13 some blonde lady with some leaf tattoo sitting in a casino bar with two ladies: I didn't approach at first because I guess I feel intimidated approaching women who sit down and are a bit vulnerable. Also I saw two other badder bitches I would've tried to speak too if they wasn't talking to some dudes. I wait a while and eventually I just say yo I just wanna say I think your tattoo looks sick. She smiles and says thanks. As if I meant it for real lol.
Girl 14 Chubby asian girl with friend: they was waiting on a line and I opened her by saying I think she looks cute. She says thanks we talk briefly and then she and her friend go somewhere I think.
Girl 15 skinny cute white girl: I thought she was walking by herself and I say "hi I wanted to say I think you're cute". She laughed and said thanks. Eventually found out she was walking with her parents and I was like ooh my bad.
Girl 16 spanish looking kinda ghetto girl with nose rings who's a friend of a girl Denton knows: this one wasn't much of an approach,but more of a convo after she had an icebreaker of me standing awkwardly around while her friend was talking. Her friend is one of those shoegirls and she just started. We had a solid convo,but when it came ti number close she was like I could ask my friend to tell her friend to give me her number lol
That was the last girl I remember speaking to. I got a lot done this night more compared to anything I ever did. Had a really good time and I remember wanting to avoid doing the work,but these guys really encouraged me and pushed me to do all this. Honestly a lot of these girls I wasn't super attracted to,but not all girls you approach have to be girls you wanna fuck. I really don't like girls who wear heavy makeup or have crazy looking,bizarre tattoos. I didn't think a lot of these girls were cute like that I was just kind of making them feel good.
Some things he told me that I could've done better and I recognize was to
1. Approach in front of the girl and not behind her diagonally
2. Not always do Q@A and try to tease and make statements.
3. Avoid always going for the boring predictable remark. "Hey i'm starboy" "i'm from nyc what about you"
4. Speak more loudly and clearly. This has been an issue for me my whole life practically so naturally it would effect me here. By the end of the bootcamp however I was speaking as clear as day.
5. Don't try to stop on the sidewalk because girls can feel trapped.
Feel good about what I did. Even if the two girls who's # I got don't respond to any texts I send i'll be ok with it. I feel I could do this again and had great momentum buildup,but even then my ego still would like to avoid approaches.
I also opened a set who I almost didn't because Avery said on my way home I could so some approaches so I did to this one girl and she was too good to be true because she suggested thru text she was a hooker. Bleh.
Besides that great night. Wish I would've approached this lady with a big butt who was just checking in when I came back to my hotel, had so much momentum and she even stopped briefly for a second away from her friends (sigh)
