- Nov 11, 2019
Readers of YaReally’s archive may remember a concept he called “Sacrifice The Lamb” as a way to beat Approach Anxiety and get yourself in state (social mood) pretty quick.
The way it'd work is, right before approaching a girl, you’d approach viewing her as the metaphorical ‘lamb’ you’d be sacrificing to the PUA gods, so that in return they'd bless you with state. Meaning, by treating this girl as a sacrifice, the pressure (to pull, to have the set go ‘smoothly’, to not ‘fuck it up’ ) gets lifted off from your shoulders, giving yourself freedom to totally fuck around and get loose.
And its great. It works. I used it this past Saturday successfully. But I wanted to talk about some nuances, so that you can make it work for you in the best way possible
In my experience there’s one thing that consistently gets me in state. And that is: approaching a really hot girl that intimidates me and having a conversation with her. Simple. But easier said than done lol.
So here’s how we are gonna use the “sacrificing the lamb” mindset to make this really easy.
We’ll tackle the first one. Approaching a really hot girl.
But first let's look to the main reasons why you may be passing up on hot girls in the first place:
- You fear she'll reject you (cause she’s super hot and ur not).
- You can't think of anything to open with (I know how annoying it is, when someone says, "bro just say hi" i share your pain lol).
- Not in state (so even IF you have a canned opener, you can’t bring yourself to just say it, cause you're not in a social mood or now you think the canned opener is shit, and you want to think of something better to open with.
So now instead of viewing her as a real set, see her as the lamb you’ll be sacrificing to be blessed with state. The goal when you are not in state is to get in state. You see a hot girl, you think, "yes perfect there’s my lamb".
Now does it have to be a hot girl?
From my experience I will say ya. This Saturday I approached a cop for conversation about directions and then the election for state but it didn’t do much for me in terms of state. It was only when I approached a girl that intimidated me, and had a conversation with her, that I got state from her.
Keeping with the sacrifice the lamb theme, you’ll notice in some movies, they need a specific body, or blood from a specific person for whatever they’re trying to do to work. So we need to sacrifice a hot girl. The PUA gods want to bless you, but they need a hottie. Not a fattie
....And then you can keep doing this when you fall out of state.
To help EVEN further with not viewing her as a real set, I recommend having separate opening stacks (an opener and a follow up to that opener) for each of them.
One opening stack for 'sacrifice the lamb' sets.
And one stack for 'real' sets.
This way, when you're not in state, and you see a hot girl, you run your 'sacrifice the lamb' opening stack
then when you're in state, and you see a hot girl, run you 'real' set stack.
Now those 3 main reasons for not approaching hot girls (she might reject me, can’t think of anything, not in state) go away.
Ok now lets move on to the second part of what consistently gets me in a social mood: having a conversation.
I want to quote a comment from my good friend, @Train, that I’ve found has been happening with me quite often, when I run my indirect-direct (which as some of you know, starts with me asking for directions) opener when not in state:
This is the trouble with asking for something (time, directions, help with something) openers. It's that it's TOO easy to just get what you asked for and then bounce when your not in state/feeling anxious. And think that it helps in terms of getting loose just because you are approaching sets. It doesn’t.I went to a strip mall. My task was to ask 3 cute girls the time. A blonde girl was walking my direction. I miss that chance. But then I spot another cute girl walking a few steps behind her. Quickly, I just pounce (metaphorically). "Excuse me, do you know what time it is?" She's a bit taken back since it was a bit sudden. But she checks her phone, sweetly tells me. Then I thank her and go.
That felt great! It was a rush! I wanted to do more. So I head to the local college campus. On the prowl (metaphorically) for cute girls. The time keepers. I am walking and spot a blonde from afar. I walk towards the sidewalk so our paths cross. She smiles at me. I almost let her walk past when I ask her the time. She gives it to me! Another approach, check.
You need to stay in and have a conversation with them for a bit is what I find that works.
So its, see hot girl -> sacrifice the lamb opener -> follow up to the opener (this is just me, but I find what works with regards to the follow up is to just ask/accuse her of making shit up/lying to you) + a logistics question (ex: what are you up to right now?). That’s it! And listen even if you run out of things to say, you find yourself starting to get really nervous after 30 seconds of conversation (even if she’s receptive to you lol (and hey it should go without saying, but if she’s receptive and you’re NOT nervous, then by all means keep going, and treat her as a 'real' set), then you're good. you did your job. Notice how you feel now
And If that 'lamb' blows you out before you've got a chance to have a conversation with her (just some 10-30 second back and forth is good enough), find another 'lamb'. Rinse Repeat.
Ok that's it. Happy hunting