Okay, bridges have been built. Good to see. Chase is a master at that. Something I still need to learn. I like fighting. Need to read some more Sun Tzu.
@ hector if the girl is not remotely showing interest in you and is comfortable, don't touch the girl. her thoughts go like this "who is this guy and why is he touching me?". you saying that its context related based on how she reacts is incorrect. the general rule of thumb is directly in sentence one. So creepiness is not fully in the eye of the beholder. point 2, outward sexual comments often women find to be uncomfortable. better to go indirect sexually to pump her arousal levels.its perfectly fine to make comments once your about to get with the girl like "I'm gonna fuck you so hard it hurts" on the basis you've gotten her clothes off.
Are you still referring to the "walk up onto a girl and grind onto her" comment? If so, I laid out clearly in that video that it's not really a thing I see anymore, because of cultural shifts (#metoo, FRA's, etc), but used to do it/have seen it done and it's a high-risk/high-reward kind of move.
Or were you referring to something else?
I don't know where I said to simply walk up to girls and start touching them. Can you specifically point to where I said this?
you saying that its context related based on how she reacts is incorrect
Although I will disagree with this. I've done some pretty risky shit and it works out. Like Chase said, I wouldn't recommend it to most guys and I hold off teaching that to anyone who isn't socially calibrated enough to pull it off, but to be clear, I'm not going around touching random girls. The extent of initial "don't know how she will respond" touching is when I open a girl by touching her on the elbow, or I'll touch the side of her waist in a club and lean in and whisper into her ear.
To my memory, I've had 0 bad reaction to this, other than some initial surprise of "woah, oh hey!" but then they turn to see me and realize I'm not a weirdo and we talk. I use high-risk stuff but also know how to defuse it.
Creepiness is not an objective thing. My girlfriend example was prime. If you walk up to your girlfriend on the street randomly, or a girl you're sleeping with, and you pinch her butt - she's going to turn around like "WOAH" and then smile when she sees it's YOU. Like I pointed out in the video many times, it's WHO is doing it and HOW they do it. If you're out with your girlfriend, go to the bathroom, then come back to her and grab her, she's going to turn and be happy to see you.
However, if a girl is not showing any interest *once we're already talking," then I probably won't touch her no. However, if thing are ambiguous, well I'm going to tap her elbow while I'm talking to her or something small to see how she reacts. If she reacts badly, then she would have never been into me, most likely. I screen hard.
outward sexual comments often women find to be uncomfortable
I'm not surprised you hold this view. Almost every high-lay-count natural I know is blown away by how direct I am, and then they see it work and are like "Oh...shit, that's different." If you want to hang around this forum and exchange ideas, and it will take time for you to build up your credibility, you're going to need to see that everyone has different styles and that you're not a mega-guru. You could have 500 lays and it wouldn't matter. Ran into a few naturals with 500+ lay counts and my skill/consistency is higher, because of a variety of factors. I know of only a handful of guys I'd say without a doubt are my superiors in skill, but that doesn't mean I won't try to understand your viewpoint, but the same must be given on your end - my style is not normal, I've heard through the grapevine of maybe 1 or 2 guys with similar styles. But it works. Chase has seen me pull in-field (I went ultra-direct). Franco has seen me pull in-field in San Diego (and I went ULTRA direct with her, asking her if she's ever had sex in a bathroom, she asked if i had a condom, etc). Alek/Pablo, other writers, have seen my in-field, and ask anyone from my college - I was the most prolific guy in my college.
Your reality is not the only reality. But Chase is a master at bridge-building so glad to see that realities are being transferred (I lack that patience..perhaps a symptom of my age - 26 - but it's more temperament. I'm a hot-blooded guy. Good for seduction, tricky for relationships/friendships).
better to go indirect sexually to pump her arousal levels.its perfectly fine to make comments once your about to get with the girl like "I'm gonna fuck you so hard it hurts" on the basis you've gotten her clothes off.
Ah, I see. I'm very touchy and talk about sex in general very often before going "I'm going to fuck your mouth." Perhaps you thought I'm walking up to girls and the first thing out of my mouth is "I'm gonna rip up your pussy."
I think we agree more than you think, but for some reason, you were looking for blood. Your response will tell me where you're at now. A quick note - I like to fight and don't take it too personally, so if you're cool to reconcile this beef, I am, too.
Hector