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Could use some quick advice on what to do with this one as I still have a small window to make something happen, but anyway here it goes!
I take the bus downtown the other day to go hit the library and I'm hoping to do an approach or two while I'm out there. Usually I just walk around this area though and tell myself how this city is devoid of vagina. Which it really is. But today (By which I mean Friday November 15th) I'm heading to the library and I see what looks like a cute girl walking her dog. The dog is playing on the grass and she is standing next to it waiting for it to finish. I don't have a great look at her but easy indirect open to go and play with the dog. I do this and then she looks up at me and damn she is really fucking cute. Just my type. Pasty Irish skin, flowy golden red hair, bright blue eyes, and a hipster kind of vibe. Anyway we start engaging in conversation. Nothing spectacular she talks about her dog I show her my parent's new dog I just babysat etc. She tells me she has been in town for two weeks and she is leaving after this weekend. She is an actress in one of the traveling plays that was originally on broadway and is now going around the country. We talk about the city and I say "when are you leaving"? She says after the weekend. I had already told her we should grab a drink and she seemed receptive. Then I said "Well if you're around tomorrow night we should grab one no worries if you're busy before your leaving though". She says she would want to grab a drink the only people she knows in town are the cast from her play. I took this as a pretty positive sign that she was actually really interested. When I was walking away she said "Text me".
So I don't text her that day because I figured while my window is short it would be too needy to try and set something up same day. So next day I text her saying we should grab a drink if your free. A few hours later she gets back to me says we should but her show gets out late so it'd have to be around 11. Anyway my text game was good here with comfort and setting it up quick which I do. I commented on her vibe and how "I know her type" which I think is good framing? I don't know what I'm doing but it seems like I'm saying I get all the hipstery actresses like you. Anyway set up the date.
So 11 she comes strolling in to the bar. She looks great. Like even better than I remembered. I instantly start flirting and get her comfortable quick. I do the palm reading thing although I blanked on what to say so I just jokingly said I think you believe in true love. I teased her a lot to get her chasing. She responded really well. I touched her hair. Rubbed her hands all that jazz. So going really well. This bar closes at midnight though so we've got to hit a new place and I think it's way to early to invite her back to my place. That would seem like a big leap. So I say lets go to another bar. She says ya I don't even know you yet! I ask her if she wants the last sip of my beer she complies and says she'll drink my backwash. I take this as a good sign as well.
Anyway, as we exit the bar I feel like the camera should pan to Patrick Warburton as Lemoney Snicket to commentate on the series of unfortunate of events that are about to take place.
There are only a few bars in this area. Most are loud and young so I elect to just go into the first one I see that looks quiet. One of the chill local ones I would never actually go into. So we go in and she says "It's likely people from my cast are here". Of course we walk in and there are a few. She gets all happy starts chatting them up. NBD here. I introduce myself while she talks to one I deep dive the other to convey myself as a socially intelligent high value man. He seems responsive. Eventually we go to sit down.
We start to talk about what we are getting for drinks. She says she wants a cider and I forget exactly what happened here or how the question came up but I said (In what I think was a non-douchey way) "I don't usually pay for first dates". I had made this pact to myself because I kept paying for girls and then I'd never see them again. Plus I read the whole article on here although this might be an exception cause she is just passing through.
She got pretty triggered at this. She said she had to use the bathroom and I thought about just paying for her drink while she was in there but the bartender didn't come over quick enough. Although I don't feel bad about it anyway, like the cultural norm would make a lot more sense if it was 1rst date: split 2nd: split 3rd: man pays. Like chivalry would make sense in that situation so women couldn't abuse this outdated cultural standard but I digress.
She ends up paying for her drink and my drink and is still visibly upset. She does not take off her coat and reveal the cute sholderless shirt she is wearing. She is cold to me. She asks me about it and I calmly tell her I pay for second dates and how it just seems to be an outdated tradition and that I have spent a lot of money on girls who I never see again. I do all this in a calm way. Then her friend starts coming over and talking to her. They are just going on and on forever and she is purposely excluding me from the conversation.
I don't react negatively. I smile and pretend everything is all good. I don't know if this is a test but I'm not going to bitch about it at least. I don't think there is anything I can do here so I sit back with a smirky cocky grin on my face and listen. Trying to convey I'm not upset. And I'm really not that upset. Like this is annoying but I'm improving at stoicism and all that.
Her friend leaves we start talking again it's still cold but better. I try to get her to open up I ask her about her siblings. I open up by telling her I'm introvert and grew up with just my mom and my special needs brother to try and play on her emotions and win me some sympathy. She does bring up some of the flirtatious comments we talked about at the earlier bar which I take as a good sign. Like referencing stuff when the vibe was there if you know what I'm saying.
I tell her I'll buy the next drink she declines, she gets a water. Her friend comes over again and they are gabbing. Eventually it seems like she is trying to get him to leave which is a good sign. She then says you want to get out of here. Her hotel is right up the street. It's cold out. Were walking and the vibe is pretty dead at this point. I figure I kind of have to go for it though. I ask her if she wants to have a beer at my place. She says she's not a first date kind of girl. I say we should grab a drink at this other bar here. She declines. She says she needs to go to her dog. I just act chill about all this. B/c I really don't know how much I can do here. If anyone has any advice it'd be much appreciated. I go into the hotel lobby she says "nice to meet you" and kind of prompted by me I say if you're around tomorrow we should grab drink and she says "Text me tomorrow". We do a quick hug.
So overall, this was weird. I really don't know how much more I could have done here to save this date. She obviously overreacted and acted like a total bitch. I don't know if I should shoot her a text today or not and pray she texts me before she leaves tomorrow. If I don't chase that's great but what are the odds she actually reaches out to me. What should I have done besides acting cool with the world when she started losing her shit and the friends kind of CBed me. This is a high value girl so I think I did a pretty good job overall considering the circumstances and everything. If her friends weren't there I probably could have turned it around better.
Any input is appreciated. Probably onto the next one
I take the bus downtown the other day to go hit the library and I'm hoping to do an approach or two while I'm out there. Usually I just walk around this area though and tell myself how this city is devoid of vagina. Which it really is. But today (By which I mean Friday November 15th) I'm heading to the library and I see what looks like a cute girl walking her dog. The dog is playing on the grass and she is standing next to it waiting for it to finish. I don't have a great look at her but easy indirect open to go and play with the dog. I do this and then she looks up at me and damn she is really fucking cute. Just my type. Pasty Irish skin, flowy golden red hair, bright blue eyes, and a hipster kind of vibe. Anyway we start engaging in conversation. Nothing spectacular she talks about her dog I show her my parent's new dog I just babysat etc. She tells me she has been in town for two weeks and she is leaving after this weekend. She is an actress in one of the traveling plays that was originally on broadway and is now going around the country. We talk about the city and I say "when are you leaving"? She says after the weekend. I had already told her we should grab a drink and she seemed receptive. Then I said "Well if you're around tomorrow night we should grab one no worries if you're busy before your leaving though". She says she would want to grab a drink the only people she knows in town are the cast from her play. I took this as a pretty positive sign that she was actually really interested. When I was walking away she said "Text me".
So I don't text her that day because I figured while my window is short it would be too needy to try and set something up same day. So next day I text her saying we should grab a drink if your free. A few hours later she gets back to me says we should but her show gets out late so it'd have to be around 11. Anyway my text game was good here with comfort and setting it up quick which I do. I commented on her vibe and how "I know her type" which I think is good framing? I don't know what I'm doing but it seems like I'm saying I get all the hipstery actresses like you. Anyway set up the date.
So 11 she comes strolling in to the bar. She looks great. Like even better than I remembered. I instantly start flirting and get her comfortable quick. I do the palm reading thing although I blanked on what to say so I just jokingly said I think you believe in true love. I teased her a lot to get her chasing. She responded really well. I touched her hair. Rubbed her hands all that jazz. So going really well. This bar closes at midnight though so we've got to hit a new place and I think it's way to early to invite her back to my place. That would seem like a big leap. So I say lets go to another bar. She says ya I don't even know you yet! I ask her if she wants the last sip of my beer she complies and says she'll drink my backwash. I take this as a good sign as well.
Anyway, as we exit the bar I feel like the camera should pan to Patrick Warburton as Lemoney Snicket to commentate on the series of unfortunate of events that are about to take place.
There are only a few bars in this area. Most are loud and young so I elect to just go into the first one I see that looks quiet. One of the chill local ones I would never actually go into. So we go in and she says "It's likely people from my cast are here". Of course we walk in and there are a few. She gets all happy starts chatting them up. NBD here. I introduce myself while she talks to one I deep dive the other to convey myself as a socially intelligent high value man. He seems responsive. Eventually we go to sit down.
We start to talk about what we are getting for drinks. She says she wants a cider and I forget exactly what happened here or how the question came up but I said (In what I think was a non-douchey way) "I don't usually pay for first dates". I had made this pact to myself because I kept paying for girls and then I'd never see them again. Plus I read the whole article on here although this might be an exception cause she is just passing through.
She got pretty triggered at this. She said she had to use the bathroom and I thought about just paying for her drink while she was in there but the bartender didn't come over quick enough. Although I don't feel bad about it anyway, like the cultural norm would make a lot more sense if it was 1rst date: split 2nd: split 3rd: man pays. Like chivalry would make sense in that situation so women couldn't abuse this outdated cultural standard but I digress.
She ends up paying for her drink and my drink and is still visibly upset. She does not take off her coat and reveal the cute sholderless shirt she is wearing. She is cold to me. She asks me about it and I calmly tell her I pay for second dates and how it just seems to be an outdated tradition and that I have spent a lot of money on girls who I never see again. I do all this in a calm way. Then her friend starts coming over and talking to her. They are just going on and on forever and she is purposely excluding me from the conversation.
I don't react negatively. I smile and pretend everything is all good. I don't know if this is a test but I'm not going to bitch about it at least. I don't think there is anything I can do here so I sit back with a smirky cocky grin on my face and listen. Trying to convey I'm not upset. And I'm really not that upset. Like this is annoying but I'm improving at stoicism and all that.
Her friend leaves we start talking again it's still cold but better. I try to get her to open up I ask her about her siblings. I open up by telling her I'm introvert and grew up with just my mom and my special needs brother to try and play on her emotions and win me some sympathy. She does bring up some of the flirtatious comments we talked about at the earlier bar which I take as a good sign. Like referencing stuff when the vibe was there if you know what I'm saying.
I tell her I'll buy the next drink she declines, she gets a water. Her friend comes over again and they are gabbing. Eventually it seems like she is trying to get him to leave which is a good sign. She then says you want to get out of here. Her hotel is right up the street. It's cold out. Were walking and the vibe is pretty dead at this point. I figure I kind of have to go for it though. I ask her if she wants to have a beer at my place. She says she's not a first date kind of girl. I say we should grab a drink at this other bar here. She declines. She says she needs to go to her dog. I just act chill about all this. B/c I really don't know how much I can do here. If anyone has any advice it'd be much appreciated. I go into the hotel lobby she says "nice to meet you" and kind of prompted by me I say if you're around tomorrow we should grab drink and she says "Text me tomorrow". We do a quick hug.
So overall, this was weird. I really don't know how much more I could have done here to save this date. She obviously overreacted and acted like a total bitch. I don't know if I should shoot her a text today or not and pray she texts me before she leaves tomorrow. If I don't chase that's great but what are the odds she actually reaches out to me. What should I have done besides acting cool with the world when she started losing her shit and the friends kind of CBed me. This is a high value girl so I think I did a pretty good job overall considering the circumstances and everything. If her friends weren't there I probably could have turned it around better.
Any input is appreciated. Probably onto the next one
