Calls & Texts Warning before Walking Away ?

[RedNeck]

It is more of a general question than a specific girl. I have a cut-off for asking a girl out. I usually ask 3 times before I move on. But here is the problem, some girls think I will stay forever, so when I move on- they were not expecting that- they get surprised. They are not confident enough to ask me out, again. Plus they are afraid I might turn their invitation down. It's more like they want me to ask them a fourth time but since I have a cut off I will never do a fourth time. I want to prevent this from happening.

So I am thinking of using some kind of warning like " Strike #2 , we have only 3 strikes haha". Some version of this to convey " yeah, I will not be around forever". I used it and it worked 50% of the time.

On the other side, it might not land well with some girls. They might be thinking "oh, he is warning me, then fuck off."

I do not know what is the right way. In summary, what I want to achieve is to let the girl know this will be the last time to ask her out. I would really appreciate if the replies stick to the issue at hand.


Thanks,
RN

 

[ulrich]

Have you ever heard of a “ball in her court” message?

Chase has a great article on them.

 

[RedNeck]

Yes, but I still feel some girls still don’t have the courage to reach out .

I left the ball into some girls court. They never reached out but when I gave it one last shot. I took them out and fucked them.

Actually, it has just recently happened to me.

 

[Skills]

It is more of a general question than a specific girl. I have a cut-off for asking a girl out. I usually ask 3 times before I move on. But here is the problem, some girls think I will stay forever, so when I move on- they were not expecting that- they get surprised. They are not confident enough to ask me out, again. Plus they are afraid I might turn their invitation down. It's more like they want me to ask them a fourth time but since I have a cut off I will never do a fourth time. I want to prevent this from happening.

So I am thinking of using some kind of warning like " Strike #2 , we have only 3 strikes haha". Some version of this to convey " yeah, I will not be around forever". I used it and it worked 50% of the time.

On the other side, it might not land well with some girls. They might be thinking "oh, he is warning me, then fuck off."

I do not know what is the right way. In summary, what I want to achieve is to let the girl know this will be the last time to ask her out. I would really appreciate if the replies stick to the issue at hand.


Thanks,
RN

This should not happen with proper texting, the goal of the soft close is to get a feel of where she is at? before you ask her out, you should not be asking her out if the response to the soft close is not positive or lukewarm.... you don't want to work in negative compliance put you in a chasing position, and is major disadvantage you are at her mercy, and is a lot harder to influence her.... I would advise to see some of my texting guides, and post some of your interactions

Simple/basic texting guide

There are 2 types of texting most guys use: 1.- long texting setting sexual frames.- This is hard to do, but is possible to do with experience. I had to rely in this style for 2 reasons: a.-) I relied a lot on physical game, no talking dance floor game and i had a heavy latin accent. b.-) By...

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Calls & Texts - How to soft close, when to soft close and some mistakes I am seeing....

So guys, i see some of you are doing things kind of right, some of you still doing same old bad habits, the guys that are actually listening, have totally exponentially improved results or adapted to their style what i have been preaching, the stubborn ones, same crap.. Anyways guys though the...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[MarioTheDom]

This should not happen with proper texting, the goal of the soft close is to get a feel of where she is at? before you ask her out, you should not be asking her out if the response to the soft close is not positive or lukewarm.... you don't want to work in negative compliance put you in a chasing position, and is major disadvantage you are at her mercy, and is a lot harder to influence her.... I would advise to see some of my texting guides, and post some of your interactions

Simple/basic texting guide

There are 2 types of texting most guys use: 1.- long texting setting sexual frames.- This is hard to do, but is possible to do with experience. I had to rely in this style for 2 reasons: a.-) I relied a lot on physical game, no talking dance floor game and i had a heavy latin accent. b.-) By...

www.skilledseducer.com

Calls & Texts - How to soft close, when to soft close and some mistakes I am seeing....

So guys, i see some of you are doing things kind of right, some of you still doing same old bad habits, the guys that are actually listening, have totally exponentially improved results or adapted to their style what i have been preaching, the stubborn ones, same crap.. Anyways guys though the...

www.skilledseducer.com

I agree

Most of texting these days I see around it's simply boring/ black or white /butthurt.

Texting it's a dance, while some people think it's only for logistics (and nothing wrong with that) if you need to set a date and get tested or it, you can't go nuclear. Walking away is always a loosing proposition unless it's back to the wall situation

Sure you win the battle, but you loose the war.

 

[HoofHearted]

I'm starting to come around on the texting thing

I liked it minimally because minimal interaction = minimal mistakes.

But the concept of the 'soft close' is just more naturalistic. Im gonna start testing it.

 

[RedNeck]

The problem with soft close is some girls are not much of a texter

 

[HoofHearted]

That's true. Conversely what is factual, concise and efficient to a man is usually rather abrupt/jarring for a woman.

There has got to be a middle ground

 

[MarioTheDom]

The problem with soft close is some girls are not much of a texter

It's literally just a line that shows where she stands on the spectrum

Saying it's a problem it's like saying earth might be hit by an asteroid. possible but not that worrying

 

[HoofHearted]

I am testing this now on a lead that went cold.

It's not a great test, bc its not a fresh lead, but it's at least somewhat interesting.

I have to agree with the logic behind 'soft close,' from experience. Dying to see it play out.


edit not to diminish the power of 'get over here and fuck,' i just think its prolly a more specific tool. Soft close is prolly the more general, more often to use tool. I'm checkin this out

 

[ShioriGC]

This should not happen with proper texting, the goal of the soft close is to get a feel of where she is at? before you ask her out, you should not be asking her out if the response to the soft close is not positive or lukewarm.... you don't want to work in negative compliance put you in a chasing position, and is major disadvantage you are at her mercy, and is a lot harder to influence her.... I would advise to see some of my texting guides, and post some of your interactions

Simple/basic texting guide

There are 2 types of texting most guys use: 1.- long texting setting sexual frames.- This is hard to do, but is possible to do with experience. I had to rely in this style for 2 reasons: a.-) I relied a lot on physical game, no talking dance floor game and i had a heavy latin accent. b.-) By...

www.skilledseducer.com

Calls & Texts - How to soft close, when to soft close and some mistakes I am seeing....

So guys, i see some of you are doing things kind of right, some of you still doing same old bad habits, the guys that are actually listening, have totally exponentially improved results or adapted to their style what i have been preaching, the stubborn ones, same crap.. Anyways guys though the...

www.skilledseducer.com

Learned this the hard way, thanks for linking those posts; the concept of negative compliance is such an important aspect of communication, especially in texting.

If you chase too much, she will run away, then you must let her go..

Should you meet a soul rising surface ways
With your unbeating heart wish them well

 

[HoofHearted]

First test with soft close is A+++

One point in the column for soft close.

I once was blind, but now I see

(More testing to be done, but i am mostly looking at the underlying theory/principle of soft close, and i think it bears out)