Hey guys,
I'm actually a women's dating coach and one of the questions I get a lot from the women in our community is... "what do MEN think of this?"
So I wanted to see if you could help some women out. I'm looking to learn more about what you think the biggest challenges are for men in dating women right now.
What do you think? What challenges or frustrations do you have around dating, women, or relationships right now?
Thanks
- M
This is an interesting conversation to have. Refreshing to hear how some woman are pro-actively wanting to understand men more.
I’ll put my empathy hat on & give you challenges depending on “2 types” of guy.
Average guy
Challenge 1: Girls are “Flaky” e.g. they won’t commit to a date to hang out or they will agree before cancelling
Challenge 2: Girls are more emotional and do not tend to communicate logically
E.g. women generally prefer to say “I’ll let you know” when asked out on a date rather than “no thank you” as in their mind it’s more polite
Whereas a typical guy will take that at face value & will very likely follow up. Which leaves both parties frustrated lol as the girl is like “why doesn’t he take the hint” & the guy is like “why won’t she get back to me!?”
Challenge 3: girls can change their mind... A lot
E.g. They are likely to happily enter a casual relationship before changing their mind a few months in and demand “it goes somewhere”
Challenge 4: girls aren’t explicit enough with their interest
It’s a shame I even have to say it but the fact that “resting bitch faces” is the norm says it all.
Average guys aren’t as confident & need more of a green light to make a move.
Attractive guy (the man your audience wants)
This guy has a different sets of challenges and he typically used to be the “average guy”
He learnt to accept woman’s natures, make himself more attractive & push the right buttons to consistently get girls to like him.
Challenge 1: Girls fall for him “too quickly” or demand too much too soon.
Because he’s got so used to girls coming and going as he gained experience it takes him longer to get attached.
The solution here is to be warm, feminine & patient to prove to him over time that you’re different
E.g. if you want him to sleep round but he’s not ready, ease off... Make him a nice dinner/offer a massage and he may get tangled by your web.
In short you’ll catch more bees with honey
Challenge 2: Girls don’t know to keep us around with their femininity
An experienced guy has options so will have zero tolerance for drama, games & excessive sarcasm.
This is synonymous with modern woman/dating though.
Although average guys will put up with it... Experienced guys won’t or at best they’ll keep you in the “casual category”
This is why you see older white man speaking so highly of Thai girls lol. This tends to annoy western woman but they should take a step back & learn what these girls are doing differently
Challenge 3: lack of “girlfriend material” women
For the most part men don’t care about how much you earn or the PHD you’re studying.
As long as you’re positive, feminine & pleasant to be around (all while being attractive) you’re halfway there.
The rest comes from your attitude I.E how you handle yourself (e.g. you like bars instead of getting flat out drunk in clubs)
And most importantly for guys whether you have always been like that?
We know from a mile away if you’ve been in serial relationships or had a lot of ONS & now want to convince us that you’re a virgin lol.
This is longer than I planned but I enjoyed writing it out haha - hope that helps