Why are you here?

[Anonymous]

Me, I've always sucked with women. I always wished my life could be like my friends who got the girls. Every girl I've ever liked I was "the brother" and I got tired of it. I have approach anxiety and i'm hoping chase can help me with this so I can finally be happy. That's why i'm here.

 

[Lanoa]

I spend most of my life being with myself, not knowing what to do with life. I was considered 'intelligent', 'cool' by many, yet I never really felt I did something worthwhile. After being robbed on the street 5 years ago, I stopped going out pretty much for 3 years and gained tremendous amount of weight. I was angry at myself and the world. Only after the realization that it is actually ME who can change my life and that is what I need to do things started to move a bit. Although I failed at my every attempt of losing weight just to realize I was doing wrong all along.

Year ago, I decided to overcome myself, get disciplined and barged into it with all I've got. I began to transform my whole lifestyle to the image I wanted it to be, failing often, but this time staying on the track, working again right after the failure. I lost about 20 kilos. Forced myself to socialize more, got more in touch my dreams and myself as whole. I more or less completely overcame my agoraphobia, problems with speaking to people or stating my opinions, even getting together with girls. I am sure I am not really as good as I want to in any of these skills I practise including those not connected with women, but I know that I am working on it. And it all began by asking questions. About the world and me in it. So that would be why I am here. I am challenging my viewpoints and seeing different opinions, successes and fails, dreams and plans.

I do not necessarily want to sleep with 4 different girls a week or never settle. But who knows, maybe I will in future. Maybe I won't. For now, I see the only way to figure that one out is to face these questions by exposing myself to these different situations and opinions and then reflecting on them, staying honest and true to myself. GirlsChase changed a lot about how I see not only 'the game', but life also. So I would be stupid to miss out an opportunity to join such a community as there is always so much to find out.

 

[Anonymous]

I'm here as part of the journey to discover who I am.
As Above, So Below.
Sincere Regards, Michael.

 

[D3.]

Probably like a lot of other people here.

On girlschase.com/PUA in general: I tried to find something about being good at texting and so on and I came across an article on the main blog. Then I just started reading more articles and it all started making so much sense that I couldnt stop. Suddenly pickup artists didn't seem like dirty, evil people that didn't understand what true love is, as painted by the media, but rather people that know how the social arts work and what love truly is, pinned down like a science.

On the forums: Chase has set up an amazing website, so its totally worth it. Besides, I have had so little time to go out, that after a while I stopped thinking about picking up women and all that in general. I hope that if I keep in touch with other like-minded people I will keep my interests and push myself further

 

[Novacane]

I'm here because although I'm pretty young (I'm 17) why not start now improving my interactions with women and making me confident in general, through Chase's help his writers and people on this blog I can ask questions about any thing I may run in to! I also didn't think picking up girls was a skill more like you either have it or not but through these insights i've learned a lot that not only help me with women but with life in general, so to sum it up I wanted to have some experience under my belt before hitting the real world.

 

[ShotCalla]

ShotCalla here,
I'm here to give advice and help people out, because when I needed help people were there for me and I'd like to do the same.

 

[A Life Loquacious]

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Basically GirlsChase is the only PUA site that has been able to help me and seemed to resonate with my own particular issues with regard to 'women troubles'. I guess the main thing was I wasn't getting the women I really wanted to get with; only the ones who would basically pick me up - which was good for the ego ibut generally resulted in lacklustre sex as there wasn't that much attraction there most of the time.

Most other sites seem to focus on teaching people 'a' method from the ground up; however, I've never really had the same kind of issues with approach anxiety or being a good conversationalist - GC's structure allowed me to analyse my existing 'game' and figure out where I was going wrong. On paper I've always been a 'good catch' - decent and/or interesting job, high social value, fingers in many pies - but what was bugging me the most was the constant friend-zoning, or worse, the feeling that I was self-cockblocking a lot of the time, but couldn't for the life of me figure out why. This became especially evident when I was using sex dating websites and finding that I got friend-zoned by chicks using a website just to get laid. At the same time, in my 30s I was starting to find that even a lot of my more socially inept friends were hooking up with high-quality women and I was ending up going home alone every time. This was frustrating as I was having absolutely no problem getting phone numbers/dates from attractive women, only to find that they started cooling off and/or eventually refusing my advances. At the same time, more direct approaches weren't working either.

GC changed the rules of the game for me by teaching me about attraction drop-off, acting quickly, moving a girl, and key concepts like auto-rejection. It's amazing how much self-negating crap I was doing to ruin my chances, like expecting to wait till date two or three to make a move, only to find that by that point I was 'a friend', and how much time I wasted trying to claw my way out of that when really I should have just made my move earlier on. My eyes were also opened to the number of times girls were actually making it easy for me to get with them and I just totally didn't notice as I was too busy following society's rules of dating engagement to actually notice when I was being handed pussy on a plate.

I'm still not quite as knee-deep in clunge as I was hoping mostly due to my current living arrangements, small town life and other logistical issues, but on the occasions I do make it up to the city and hit the clubs or whatever, I can feel a big difference in the way women relate to me. Still not getting laid on the regular but I have definitely broken a dry spell and added a couple more notches. However, I've also blown a few great opportunities due to last minute hesitation or forgetting fundamentals (take her with you to the bar when you go to get the next round of drinks, dumbass!) because I'm so used to doing everything on my own instead of taking charge of a situation rather than playing the interaction through on her terms. However at least now every fail is a step closer to success as this site has gifted me with the ability to be able to analyse what went wrong and fix it for next time...

 

[thedude]

There are many reasons as to why I am here but in a Nut Shell, I was tired of being the "Nice guy" that got nowhere with women. Never kissed a girl till I was 20 (ps I still am 20) That was 7 months ago. So I decided I needed a change I was searching for "how to text a girl" and found Chases site, amazed at the sites awesomeness I made it my religion, I erased all previous knowledge I had before and replaced it with his. In a matter of 7 months I went from never having kissed a girl to approaching girls, getting numbers going on dates, taking them home, and having them become my lovers. A skill set I thought you had to be born with that could not be learned. Also Completely changed how I dress and lived life, switched from running marathons to Bodybuilding and powerLifting, started dressing smooth and suave. Essentually changed my whole outlook to who I am today.

What entices me and essentially bring me here is that this is one place where people who have come from the same/similar circumstances, and who have the same goals can share information, learn, and give advice in a community that shows nothing but respect for one another.

I suppose I am pretty much in your position Tool except you are 7 months ahead me. I never kissed a girl until I got to college and made a conscious and good effort to be more outgoing especially with girls. But the beginning of my 1st semester of college in September was a month full of hard lessons learned. The first girl I ever made out with I got too attached too and since I was inexperienced and naive I came off as awkward afterward making many mistakes and I learned many hard lessons like asking for advice from the wrong people, not being smart about things I say to some girls and just being despicably obsessed with the girl. All this culminated into a social ass kicking which now is mostly in the past but still lingers on my pride. In the middle of the semester I discovered Chase's blog and read a lot and applied stuff like deep diving and others but I did not really put in an effort to integrate these teachings. But now that has changed.

I am here so that I can succeed and attain my desire's and improve my love life which I believe will bleed over into all facets of my life and make me more of a man and a happier man at that.

 

[Rag]

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I can find myself relating to many of the guys who have posted earlier in this post. I'm here mainly because of the GC-blog. This forum is an excellent place to learn from other people and for sharing experiences.

After reading the blog for a while now, I find that it isn't just helping me improve with women by becoming a better man. It also gives me inspiration to do better in other aspects of my life. And having a forum of people who are in the same boat as me sharing their knowledge is very positive.

I'm quite new to this dating scenery as I've never actually been serious about dating at all. So I'm here mostly to learn as much as I can, and contribute with what I can.

 

[skin_man]

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Am here to develop social intelligence by the interaction of those on this forum. I do not want to be just a taker but one whose experiences in dating and self development would make an impact in someone else's life though this forum.

I appreciate Chase and the rest of the girlsChase crew for this viable platform.

 

[Jay]

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Hey y'all Jay here. I'm here because I have been reading Chase's blog for going on 10 months now (haven't bought any of the products, but I'm a bit of a skinflint and I feel like I'm getting plenty out of the blog), and it has filled numerous holes in my game that always seemed to be just out of my grasp. Before I found the blog I would have classified myself as at a firmly intermediate level of game, I had a lot of success, but also a fair amount of failure due to crucial missing pieces in my game. I wouldn't call myself an expert now, but I definitely have quite a lot of experience in picking up and sleeping with women thanks a large amount to the blog. That is mainly why I have come here. GirlsChase has offered me more truthful and practically applicable game advice than any site or any other person I have talked to, and has led me to quite a few game realizations and techniques of my own that I wouldn't mind sharing on here, and of course there is always more for me to learn.

 

[Chicothat]

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My dudes, Im here to nourish and grow. What goes around comes around and how you do one thing you do everything; its why I'm posting here. Im hoping to find self-motivating individuals that want to serve this community for the sake of nourishment and enlightenment.Chase Amante has opened our eyes to this world and truly I'm grateful. If we create a win/win relationship as an individual with this website; the results will be more eye opening and empowering to us. Together to create a single genius consciousness that is made soley; of the effort we put as individuals. This is why I'm here. Im a firm believer that good things happen to good people and that the universe is truly at our hands. We just need to believe in it and serve the universe for the greater good and that starts with our own relationship within ourselves with humankinds because whats in within you multiplies outwardly. Back to the topic. We should all be here to make this site grow a community and making us grow too.

 

[Seeberman]

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Here to encourage healthy and conscious love based growth in my dating life, learn/help others

 

[stratvm]

Re: STICKIED: Why are you here?

because i learnt more about dealing with women more from the blog in a few weeks than ever in my life. the stuff gave me motivation and successes and through this i began to like to interact with girls and im confident im going to get good with them eventually.

 

[Estate]

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I won't kid myself here...

I'm here because I'd like a girlfriend.

But the truth is, I've had plenty of girlfriends before, I've slept with lots of girls... it's not like I *can't* do it. But truth is, these were never the right girls or the type of girlfriend I truely want and it made me unhappier more than anything.

I really don't want to sleep with a million girls, but I want to see the girl I want across the bar and go right up to her, without hesitation and know what to do/say, how to act, etc... which is not how I would have been before, I would have let the opportunity pass my then probably hook up with a girl I didn't quite think as much of but was what I thought I'd more easily get.

I'm just done with that. I want a girlfriend I can spend the rest of my time with, but when I see her, I will get to meet her, I will get to choose and I'll get to have some fun along the way until I meet her rather than this being a distressing and depressing thing like it is for a lot of guys.

Happy New Year guys, lets make it a great one.

 

[northstar08]

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Made this post a little while ago, but here ya go

To introduce myself, I am a 22 year old guy who recently graduated college with a degree in economics, and I have a shy and quiet personality, can be awkward in social situations, and I have a long ways to go to become the kind of person I really want to be when it comes to attracting women. I am a virgin too, haven't had a very active social life in years, and have suffered borderline depression for a while, but instead of dreading what I missed out on, I intend to look forward and see where I can go from here. I am also uncertain about what I want for a career, but that's a separate matter, and now I'm working part time at an office. Basically I'm trying to get my life back together on a good footing, and improve my social skills and my skills with women.

My goal is to be able to attract and charm any woman I want, and to master these skills by the time I'm 25 (which would be in 2 and a half years). I hope that's a realistic timetable. If any advanced members have any advice to give me in my situation, that would be great. I do have Chase's e-book about getting women to chase, and I have Spellbinding, but so far I haven't started any serious efforts yet. The Newbie assignment looks fun and fairly simple, so I will definitely try to complete that and see where I go from there.

I do know that before anything else, I need to build some solid fundamentals, since I have issues with confidence, which is why I think that e-book which comes with making two quality posts would be so helpful for me. Hope I qualify

 

[Grand Pooba]

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Hey everyone,

I'm here to improve my skills, knowledge, and experience with women, with dating, and with life achievements. I've been exposed to the dating advice community for many years now, and have learned a bit along the way, but have only had about a year of exposure to girl's chase. In that same time, I've found the advice and strategies given to be far more effective than most of the routine-type advice I have previously heard. The information here, at least to me, seems far more natural, nuanced, sophisticated, and effective in building a man's character.

I am 25 and a half years old now, and I spent a large portion of my youth being very social and outgoing. In the last year and a half, I can definitely say this has changed to being more introverted. However, while being social and outgoing, having many friends, being good looking and also having quite a few women chasing after me over the years, I never went for them. In fact, through high school I was terrified of women, and only in college began to look at them in a different way. Yet still, I never did much in the way of dating. I think my rationale at the time was to enjoy a youth with friends and alcohol, and not with women; the 2013 me looks back on this with a bit of disdain..."what in the world was I thinking back then?" My first proper dating experience happened when I was 22! Thus, I find myself very late to this game and looking to catch up. This revelation...more of an epiphany actually...didn't happen until very recently: over the years I have failed multiple times with women who I was either very attracted to, or who were looking to hook up with me and I just failed to see the signs while leaving them very disappointed. This history haunts me, still, and I wish to change the future for the better. I frequently feel like I missed out on a critical part of my early 20's. I finally vowed to change that after a vacation in Miami last year, when a girl I met randomly on the street snatched me into a cab with her, and was throwing hints at me to come home with her for her birthday. I did not pick up on the signals. I definitely felt quite stupid the next morning.

Over the past year, after reading girls chase and also with help from a friend, I have been more successful with women than anytime in my life. But here I am, looking to learn more and be the best!

 

[Little Jester]

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For more than 10 years I've not been active in dating or even looking at woman, caused by depression and later because of having different life goals and coming up with a self protecting mind set "Women, who needs them? I certainly don't. I watch a porno and go do the things I want in my life".
6 months ago I changed my lifestyle again and then I started getting interested in self help / self improvement. I realized I actually do want a nice girl in my life. Deep down any guy does.

I noticed my depression back then among other things was caused by perfectionism. I noticed perfectionism was holding back my self improvement too. Among a few sites, GC slowly helped me overcome it. And now I'm still here catching up on all the approaching, dating and relationship material, because it helps me to arm myself for all the things I still don't have experience in and tackle these new experiences with more ease compared to going in unprepared and learning things the hard way

 

[Enochian]

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I am here cause, I can't stop thinking about her. Found this site through this article and alas! It changed me! I can easily find out what people think of me, what they're like, actually may latest girl I had an MU thing, Is really impressed whenever I cold read and my read is right! LOL! That was after I found this site!

Thanks Chase, and everyone who's responsible for this treasure! Cheers!

 

[Knight]

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I have a similar problem like Eric. When I become passionate about something it usually ends up with me learning as much about the subject as possible, I've Learnt to use that to my advantage but in the past it has been a pain. I forget how I discovered this site but I know I came here by accident and instantly became passionate about improving myself. This has branched me onto many different paths that I wouldn't of found or thought useful before I went through a major change in thinking. I've always been interested in why people do things and always loved advertising and seduction has become a natural partner between them.