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Due to confinement in the times of Covid19 pandemic I realized something that I did not really see anyone talking about .
I have seen discussions saying that texting is bad for seduction and that a guy should not use it that much , as well as articles explaining how to improve your text game .
All of them are top notch things , but I think that no one really talked about about WHY texting is bad for seduction .
In order to understand the why , we have to take a step back and look on the mating objectives of men & women , which are quite different .
The mating objective of a man is sex , and this work perfect because a guy with good seduction skills can impregnate a shitload of women quite fast , and thus spread his genetic material in a very short time .
The mating objective of a woman is bonding , and this work perfect because a woman has only 1 viable egg that can be impregnated , then you have 9 months in which the baby will develop insider the uterus , then you have 2-3 years till the baby will start being somehow independent and not depending 100 % on the mother .
So it is safe to say that the crocodilian brain of a woman is associating sex with getting impregnated , because till recent times ( before anti pregnancy pills were as efficient as they are today ). Even in present days being pregnant and not having someone around to take care of you , while you are in a state were basically you are dependent on someone else even for the most simple things sucks , I do not know how it was 100 or 1000 years ago , but I am quite sure that it was not pleasant at all.
Now that we have an intro about each gender mating objective , we can take the step ahead and talk about why actually overly texting is bad seduction .
The main and most important reason is that it gives a provider vibe , and the woman will start assessing your provider skills very thoroughly and comparing them with the other guys that want to shag her . The problem is that this way is not that efficient , especially when dealing with high caliber women that have high status men around them .
In addition to this , another thing that will happen is that the woman will portray herself as the best version of herself , and not being that transparent with a lot of things that are crucial when looking for someone to start a family with ( if this is your objective ) . Including postponing sex on purpose so she will not look slutty , even though she had sex with guys way faster than she will admit to you anytime soon.
By not using texting too much in the courtship phase , basically you will remain with a lover vibe ( if done right) , which means that you can a skip a lot of the bullshit that comes from having a provider vibe .
I have seen discussions saying that texting is bad for seduction and that a guy should not use it that much , as well as articles explaining how to improve your text game .
All of them are top notch things , but I think that no one really talked about about WHY texting is bad for seduction .
In order to understand the why , we have to take a step back and look on the mating objectives of men & women , which are quite different .
The mating objective of a man is sex , and this work perfect because a guy with good seduction skills can impregnate a shitload of women quite fast , and thus spread his genetic material in a very short time .
The mating objective of a woman is bonding , and this work perfect because a woman has only 1 viable egg that can be impregnated , then you have 9 months in which the baby will develop insider the uterus , then you have 2-3 years till the baby will start being somehow independent and not depending 100 % on the mother .
So it is safe to say that the crocodilian brain of a woman is associating sex with getting impregnated , because till recent times ( before anti pregnancy pills were as efficient as they are today ). Even in present days being pregnant and not having someone around to take care of you , while you are in a state were basically you are dependent on someone else even for the most simple things sucks , I do not know how it was 100 or 1000 years ago , but I am quite sure that it was not pleasant at all.
Now that we have an intro about each gender mating objective , we can take the step ahead and talk about why actually overly texting is bad seduction .
The main and most important reason is that it gives a provider vibe , and the woman will start assessing your provider skills very thoroughly and comparing them with the other guys that want to shag her . The problem is that this way is not that efficient , especially when dealing with high caliber women that have high status men around them .
In addition to this , another thing that will happen is that the woman will portray herself as the best version of herself , and not being that transparent with a lot of things that are crucial when looking for someone to start a family with ( if this is your objective ) . Including postponing sex on purpose so she will not look slutty , even though she had sex with guys way faster than she will admit to you anytime soon.
By not using texting too much in the courtship phase , basically you will remain with a lover vibe ( if done right) , which means that you can a skip a lot of the bullshit that comes from having a provider vibe .