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Social Circles/Platonic Women Friends/Cold Approach/Abundance (Part 2)
Current Obstacle
So here is the current problem. With cold approach and generally the biggest change I am trying to bring about in my personality is to become more SEXUAL, BOLD, FLIRTATIOUS. Cold approach gives me the perfect opportunity to practice this. I open direct, I flirt, I ask girls out, I make sure they know I am interested in them sexually and not in a platonic way. I have even begun to get in some light kino and touching into my cold approach conversations lately. I am heading in the right direction.
But what is coming in the way now is exactly what was beneficial to me before. Now spending platonic time with an attractive girl works against me. It goes against what I am trying to do.
For example its really hard to be platonic and respectful and asexual with an attractive girl at 5pm when hanging out as friends and turn into a sexual guy with other attractive girls I am cold approaching at 6pm!!
I started a language course recently. There is one really attractive girl in it. I told myself that I would not spend one on one time with her and would just focus on the course which is very important to me. But 2 days ago, we did end up having coffee together 1 on 1 because we were hanging out in a group and the others left. During that time, I was not able to hold back and I started flirting with her, I also got in some touching by telling her I would show her self defense moves and then teasing her about her technique etc. This was a bad move. Because now I am again starting to think about how I could take it forward with her instead of FOCUSING ON THE DAMNED COURSE! I want nothing else on my brain when I go to class except learning the language!! Even if she is interested I do not want to do anything with her. Because I am going there to learn and all I want to do is that without distractions!
This is exactly why I started cold approach. To be able to separate my life into compartments. To do all the flirting and seducing and dating separately and not fuck up other aspects of my life.
Not HAVING PLATONIC WOMEN FRIENDS
For me now I think, its going to be a problem and distraction to make platonic women friends. Apart from the ones I already have and whom I hang out with in mixed groups, I do not want to keep meeting any women platonically especially not 1 on 1. Till I become that sexual guy and reach that abundance, I will always get needy if I hang out as friends with attractive women.
I will either try flirting or fuck something up in areas that matter to me (like my language class) or I will be trying to hold back the very instincts that I am trying to develop. Which is flirting, sexualizing, escalating etc.
So here, I am going to make a pact with myself. From now on, if I spend 1 on 1 time with an attractive woman it will only be on a date/romantic context. No getting the cheap hit of female company under the garb of being friends.
Current Obstacle
So here is the current problem. With cold approach and generally the biggest change I am trying to bring about in my personality is to become more SEXUAL, BOLD, FLIRTATIOUS. Cold approach gives me the perfect opportunity to practice this. I open direct, I flirt, I ask girls out, I make sure they know I am interested in them sexually and not in a platonic way. I have even begun to get in some light kino and touching into my cold approach conversations lately. I am heading in the right direction.
But what is coming in the way now is exactly what was beneficial to me before. Now spending platonic time with an attractive girl works against me. It goes against what I am trying to do.
For example its really hard to be platonic and respectful and asexual with an attractive girl at 5pm when hanging out as friends and turn into a sexual guy with other attractive girls I am cold approaching at 6pm!!
I started a language course recently. There is one really attractive girl in it. I told myself that I would not spend one on one time with her and would just focus on the course which is very important to me. But 2 days ago, we did end up having coffee together 1 on 1 because we were hanging out in a group and the others left. During that time, I was not able to hold back and I started flirting with her, I also got in some touching by telling her I would show her self defense moves and then teasing her about her technique etc. This was a bad move. Because now I am again starting to think about how I could take it forward with her instead of FOCUSING ON THE DAMNED COURSE! I want nothing else on my brain when I go to class except learning the language!! Even if she is interested I do not want to do anything with her. Because I am going there to learn and all I want to do is that without distractions!
This is exactly why I started cold approach. To be able to separate my life into compartments. To do all the flirting and seducing and dating separately and not fuck up other aspects of my life.
Not HAVING PLATONIC WOMEN FRIENDS
For me now I think, its going to be a problem and distraction to make platonic women friends. Apart from the ones I already have and whom I hang out with in mixed groups, I do not want to keep meeting any women platonically especially not 1 on 1. Till I become that sexual guy and reach that abundance, I will always get needy if I hang out as friends with attractive women.
I will either try flirting or fuck something up in areas that matter to me (like my language class) or I will be trying to hold back the very instincts that I am trying to develop. Which is flirting, sexualizing, escalating etc.
So here, I am going to make a pact with myself. From now on, if I spend 1 on 1 time with an attractive woman it will only be on a date/romantic context. No getting the cheap hit of female company under the garb of being friends.