In 2020 you wrote this:Kareas articles are what inspired the title of my journal. Hate to say it but I started this journal years ago and while I've had success since starting it I've lost sight of the original goal that I'd specified in the first post. My passion has gone down somewhat, it comes in fits and starts but nowhere near the consistency it was before, which is concerning. Working on building it back up but it's a grind.
His X-factor article series was good but the actual method of developing one's X-factor wasn't really presented in the series for some reason. Instead, it was presented in his article on California Pimp. Well, to be fair, he did actually write some specifics in the X-factor article series as well:This article is my starting point. Keeping things simple so I don't get overwhelmed.
It defines the three pillars of dating success as follows:
1. Your looks
2. The "X-Factor"
3. Your "Game" - Body language, verbal skills, etc)
Contrary to the title, my immediate focus is on number 1 and number 3 as they are things I can immediately work on.
Just like I asked you – could you decide to feel confident now? – you could also decide to feel motivated now. Create the motivation first… then let all other state changes flow from there.
Motivation:
originally taught by Tony Robbins – he calls it a “quality quantifier.
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Practice this exercise and use it to enhance any other emotional state you would like to create… toy with the thoughts in your mind, play around with your focus, until the emotions you’re summoning grow stronger and stronger.
Taking on useful characteristics:
Pick an actor you like, one that is known for his appeal to women, or maybe even a character that this actor portrays.
Then ask yourself:
If you just imitate all of these physiological channels the way you envision your role model would, you will start noticing how your emotional state follows into that reality.
- If you were this character, how would you look at people? How would you look at girls?
- How would you breathe?
- How would you gesture, move and carry yourself? How would you walk, what would your posture be like?
- What would your eyes project – what kind of depth, clarity, focus, lucidity and determination?
- What kind of vocal projection would you have – how powerful, masculine, deep and resonant would your voice be?
- How slow would you move and speak?
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What makes a good actor is that he actually BECOMES his character.
And in article 5, he gives examples of useful states to practice in this, way: Calm and serene, conviction and certainty, masculine and powerful, socially confident, etc. If you're not satisfied with your current results, and your motivation therefore have dropped a bit (which is natural, as per Chase's writings on the winner effect) - why not give course-correcting a shot, and actually try to cultivate the X-Factor directly? I'm willing to bet on your results increasing as much as it skyrocketed Karea's game back in 2010.
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