Cheers Nighthawk. The newbie assignment is here
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Last night I went out solo to the club. My wingman has left town for a few months. I probably could have got someone else to come out, but I decided to get back into solo game. When I was starting out, that's how I used to run things. After going out a bit and looking round online I found a few other guys doing this as well, so it had actually been a few months since I went alone. I felt like I didn't crack solo game consistently before, so I made a decision to go by myself.
Getting back into it wasn't so hard. I was nervous before going out, but not absolutely terrified as I was when I started out. I wasn't in a particularly social mood before going out - it had been a long day at work and my head was full of other people's concerns.
I had a ticket for the club I was going to. If anyone is struggling with going out alone, I recommend buying a ticket in advance if possible as a way to help. You have "buy-in" that way - you've already invested financially in the night, so you have to go, or you'll have wasted your money, right? It also helps to reduce my main anxiety about going out solo now - that the door staff will refuse you entry. It's much harder for them to do that if you've already paid them. As it happens, the club I was going to has friendly door staff so I wasn't too concerned about that.
The club wasn't that busy when I made it inside. I started talking to a guy in the smoking area, but after a while I said to myself that it was time to get going. I went back inside and did what I usually do in clubs now - use 3 x "how's your night going?" openers to get warmed up.
After that, it wasn't overly hard to get to my target of 8 approaches for the night. Going solo makes your mind up for you about whether to approach or not. There really is nothing else to do except put yourself out there. Lately I've been in a bad habit of ducking out when I'm one or two approaches shy of my goal for the night. Not last night - I read Chase's article about the Winner Effect https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-dominant-man-what-you-didnt-know-about-winner-effect and resolved that tonight I would win by getting to eight.
The downside was that only two of my approaches got anywhere at all, and those two didn't really get anywhere that far. I wasn't able to get too much investment in these interactions - both girls I opened direct. They responded well, but were both waiting for friends. When they arrived, I didn't try to get them to stay with me.
Still that's outweighed by the 2 x plus sides:
- Went solo successfully
- Hit my target
I've also made 200+ approaches this year now. I'll get another post up shortly reflecting on how I've done so far in 2014.
Dylan
https://boards.girlschase.com/viewt ... ?f=13&t=34
Last night I went out solo to the club. My wingman has left town for a few months. I probably could have got someone else to come out, but I decided to get back into solo game. When I was starting out, that's how I used to run things. After going out a bit and looking round online I found a few other guys doing this as well, so it had actually been a few months since I went alone. I felt like I didn't crack solo game consistently before, so I made a decision to go by myself.
Getting back into it wasn't so hard. I was nervous before going out, but not absolutely terrified as I was when I started out. I wasn't in a particularly social mood before going out - it had been a long day at work and my head was full of other people's concerns.
I had a ticket for the club I was going to. If anyone is struggling with going out alone, I recommend buying a ticket in advance if possible as a way to help. You have "buy-in" that way - you've already invested financially in the night, so you have to go, or you'll have wasted your money, right? It also helps to reduce my main anxiety about going out solo now - that the door staff will refuse you entry. It's much harder for them to do that if you've already paid them. As it happens, the club I was going to has friendly door staff so I wasn't too concerned about that.
The club wasn't that busy when I made it inside. I started talking to a guy in the smoking area, but after a while I said to myself that it was time to get going. I went back inside and did what I usually do in clubs now - use 3 x "how's your night going?" openers to get warmed up.
After that, it wasn't overly hard to get to my target of 8 approaches for the night. Going solo makes your mind up for you about whether to approach or not. There really is nothing else to do except put yourself out there. Lately I've been in a bad habit of ducking out when I'm one or two approaches shy of my goal for the night. Not last night - I read Chase's article about the Winner Effect https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-dominant-man-what-you-didnt-know-about-winner-effect and resolved that tonight I would win by getting to eight.
The downside was that only two of my approaches got anywhere at all, and those two didn't really get anywhere that far. I wasn't able to get too much investment in these interactions - both girls I opened direct. They responded well, but were both waiting for friends. When they arrived, I didn't try to get them to stay with me.
Still that's outweighed by the 2 x plus sides:
- Went solo successfully
- Hit my target
I've also made 200+ approaches this year now. I'll get another post up shortly reflecting on how I've done so far in 2014.
Dylan