A report from tonight (Friday).
The past few days I've felt down for a few vague reasons. One thing I've been pondering lately is Chase's advice not to read the news. For my job, I have to read the news. Sometimes it can be hard for me to block out the negativity and the culture war going on between certain men and women online. It's not something I want to be a part of right now, but I get drawn into reading about it. I don't really know how to resolve this...I don't want to change career right now, so I do my best to block it out.
So I wasn't feeling great Friday night, but I forced myself out anyway and headed to my usual bar, earlier than normal at 10pm. It was crowded with an after-work type crowd.
My goals for the night were:
10 approaches
Use boyfriend disqualification
Remember to smile
My first approach was to a cute blonde girl sitting with her friend. It was a complete blow-out. I laughed it off though
Girl #2 - she was wearing a straw hat. She came up with her sister (this keeps happening in this bar - girls go there as sisters. Does anyone have any experience of pulling in this situation?) We were making good eye contact. She told me she was a physio. I said to her she must give good massages. She agreed. I asked her whether she liked her job. She said she did. I joked that the best part was rubbing her hands up and down men. She didn't really take that bait. She then asked me to buy her a drink. After some to and fro, I gave in. I now regret doing that. I've realised that next time that happens, I'll say "I buy drinks for girls I know well. Tell me more about [X]"
I also talked to her sister as we made our way downstairs and she lost interest in me. I complimented her on her fringe and we chatted for a bit. I moved her to come sit, but at the last sec she changed her mind and danced instead. At this point I sensed it was over and moved away.
Girl #3 was a bit taken aback by my bold approach, complimenting her on her dress. She too was with her sister...
*** I'm still not feeling great by this point and there are long gaps between approaches *** I decide to change and go to a studenty place I hadn't been in ages. The quality of girls in there is pretty poor in the main to be honest.
Girl #4 she trod on my foot as she was walking towards the bar. I went over to her and opened her situationally. It was an OK approach I suppose, but I didn't compliment her afterwards. As I was doing this I made eye contact with a different girl, so after that I went and approached her...
Girl #5 ...which went fine. Again I complimented her on her fringe. She was sitting on a stool with her friend. There was another stool nearby. I asked her whether she had a spare seat, which was meant as a test to see whether she'd arrange the chair for me. She did. Her friend then got up and left, and she became agitated in that classic girly way when all her friends are missing. We go to the dancefloor and one of her friends is trying to set us up, complimenting me on my scarf (great idea Chase!) and getting me and the girl to dance together. Somehow though I didn't feel the 'it's on' vibe. She left to get a drink and that was that.
Girl #6 was a bit of a throwaway approach. I still wasn't feeling up to much by this point and the quality and quantity of girl was thinning.
I decided to bounce at this point. I went to another bar near my flat.
Girl #7
Girl #8 was from Turkish Cyprus. She was wearing a cool jacket with epaulettes, so that was the opener. She was with her friends and as they went off, she went with her. I didn't try to stop her. I let her go.
Girl #9 again I opened situationally, then went direct complimenting her on her hair. It was a good enough approach. I could have asked her to sit with me here.
Girl #10 was a street approach. I still need to work on my street game. I don't really go direct in street game, whereas I can see that is the way to go.
So, I think I merit some praise for sticking with it tonight. I felt pretty "out of state" for the entire night, but having read Chase's articles I know that state is not really important. It's more important to stick at it and hit your goals.
I did hit them all. I am constantly saying that I'm planning to leave my city in the new future whenever a girl asks where I' m from. I made the 10 approaches. I even smiled a bit
An improvement I'm making on last week is stating interest shortly after a situational opener. I still have work to do here because I want every interaction with girls to be sexual. But my "nice guy" platonic vibe is decreasing I think.
Points to take from this:
- Stating interest soon in every interaction if I don't use a direct opener
- Removing hesitation. I still think way too much. I'm going out on autopilot now, I want to approach on autopilot
- I won't buy a drink for a girl I haven't slept with
The past few days I've felt down for a few vague reasons. One thing I've been pondering lately is Chase's advice not to read the news. For my job, I have to read the news. Sometimes it can be hard for me to block out the negativity and the culture war going on between certain men and women online. It's not something I want to be a part of right now, but I get drawn into reading about it. I don't really know how to resolve this...I don't want to change career right now, so I do my best to block it out.
So I wasn't feeling great Friday night, but I forced myself out anyway and headed to my usual bar, earlier than normal at 10pm. It was crowded with an after-work type crowd.
My goals for the night were:
10 approaches
Use boyfriend disqualification
Remember to smile
My first approach was to a cute blonde girl sitting with her friend. It was a complete blow-out. I laughed it off though
Girl #2 - she was wearing a straw hat. She came up with her sister (this keeps happening in this bar - girls go there as sisters. Does anyone have any experience of pulling in this situation?) We were making good eye contact. She told me she was a physio. I said to her she must give good massages. She agreed. I asked her whether she liked her job. She said she did. I joked that the best part was rubbing her hands up and down men. She didn't really take that bait. She then asked me to buy her a drink. After some to and fro, I gave in. I now regret doing that. I've realised that next time that happens, I'll say "I buy drinks for girls I know well. Tell me more about [X]"
I also talked to her sister as we made our way downstairs and she lost interest in me. I complimented her on her fringe and we chatted for a bit. I moved her to come sit, but at the last sec she changed her mind and danced instead. At this point I sensed it was over and moved away.
Girl #3 was a bit taken aback by my bold approach, complimenting her on her dress. She too was with her sister...
*** I'm still not feeling great by this point and there are long gaps between approaches *** I decide to change and go to a studenty place I hadn't been in ages. The quality of girls in there is pretty poor in the main to be honest.
Girl #4 she trod on my foot as she was walking towards the bar. I went over to her and opened her situationally. It was an OK approach I suppose, but I didn't compliment her afterwards. As I was doing this I made eye contact with a different girl, so after that I went and approached her...
Girl #5 ...which went fine. Again I complimented her on her fringe. She was sitting on a stool with her friend. There was another stool nearby. I asked her whether she had a spare seat, which was meant as a test to see whether she'd arrange the chair for me. She did. Her friend then got up and left, and she became agitated in that classic girly way when all her friends are missing. We go to the dancefloor and one of her friends is trying to set us up, complimenting me on my scarf (great idea Chase!) and getting me and the girl to dance together. Somehow though I didn't feel the 'it's on' vibe. She left to get a drink and that was that.
Girl #6 was a bit of a throwaway approach. I still wasn't feeling up to much by this point and the quality and quantity of girl was thinning.
I decided to bounce at this point. I went to another bar near my flat.
Girl #7
Girl #8 was from Turkish Cyprus. She was wearing a cool jacket with epaulettes, so that was the opener. She was with her friends and as they went off, she went with her. I didn't try to stop her. I let her go.
Girl #9 again I opened situationally, then went direct complimenting her on her hair. It was a good enough approach. I could have asked her to sit with me here.
Girl #10 was a street approach. I still need to work on my street game. I don't really go direct in street game, whereas I can see that is the way to go.
So, I think I merit some praise for sticking with it tonight. I felt pretty "out of state" for the entire night, but having read Chase's articles I know that state is not really important. It's more important to stick at it and hit your goals.
I did hit them all. I am constantly saying that I'm planning to leave my city in the new future whenever a girl asks where I' m from. I made the 10 approaches. I even smiled a bit
An improvement I'm making on last week is stating interest shortly after a situational opener. I still have work to do here because I want every interaction with girls to be sexual. But my "nice guy" platonic vibe is decreasing I think.
Points to take from this:
- Stating interest soon in every interaction if I don't use a direct opener
- Removing hesitation. I still think way too much. I'm going out on autopilot now, I want to approach on autopilot
- I won't buy a drink for a girl I haven't slept with