Gameboy's Journal

[gameboy]

Still bummed about that date experience. I can live with a girl rejecting me, but with a guy actively sabotaging me, it's a different story.

Will text the girl one of these days and see if she's down to meet again, but not holding my breath. Guess the only way forward is to step up my approaching and get better at it.

Did 4 approaches today. First was a warmup walk-by complinent, got me a nice (if a little wary) smile.

2 were in the street, cold-reading both girls' nationalities. Both gave me minimal replies, then ignored me.

The last approach was a girl I really really liked, sitting on the beach. Petite, dark skin, cool style. Nose piercing, which made me think maybe she's lesbian. Lying right next to her there's a guy younger and more muscular than me checking her out, but he doesn't approach.

At first I moved my towel next to hers, but she was on the phone all the time. While I was lying there waiting for her to finish, the tide reached my feet so I had to move further up.

After going for a swim I see she is packing her stuff. I didn't even think about it, I just went over and told her I thought she was cute and I wanted to say hi to her. Reception was much better than I had expected. I found out where she was from and what her plans for the day were. She was leaving early next morning though. Asked her if she'd be down for a drink with me, but she declined very politely. She spoke my native language fluently, so it was easier than most other approaches. Also, it was extra fun to approach her in front of that other guy next her lol.

Little win today: I went up to the hottest girl I found on the beach, opened smooth and without hesitating when the opportunity arose, and went for the close. I should do that more often. Maybe take a bit more time for vibing and actual seduction before going for the close.

 

[gameboy]

I'm getting really good receptions recently. The other day I bought something as simple as two new white t-shirts, and they look so much better than my old ones which are actually yellow by now in comparison. Didn't even notice before. Planning to buy 5 or so more new t-shirts next week.

Current sticking point is to stay in set. Be more present. Allow pauses. Not leave until there is a good reason to (e.g. she's clearly not interested, and not just in my imagination).

I need to turn my self talk to positive. Assume attraction. She WANTS to meet a guy like me. She WANTS me to stay with her, be present with her, let the interaction breathe and not be in a rush. She WANTS to get to know me little by little. She WANTS to meet a cool mysterious stranger. She WANTS to give me her number. She WANTS to hear from me and play the texting game. She WANTS to meet me again and have sex with me.

 

[gameboy]

Things are going nicely.

Still texting with the girl from the date. I'll probably ask her out at some point and see how it goes. However I've been feeling some pangs of oneitis about her over the course of the last week, and I'm wary of falling into that trap. So I'm taking it slow.

Also have some interesting leads from day game right now. I'm getting much better receptions recently. Maybe because I'm improving my fashion, but also my fitness and overall health are improving.

Yesterday I reopened a girl I'd talked to 2 days before, one that was with a dog. She was much friendlier than I expected. Unfortunately I ejected too early again. At same point I said "Well ahve a nice day" and I don't even know why I said it. Maybe I was auto rejecting, because she really is a hottie. I saw her walk into the water just before, real slow. Holy smoke it was a nice rear view. When/if I see her again I intend to be more present and not eject until she gives me a very solid reason too (i.e. bf excuse or something).

Today I just came across another hot girl that I've known for years. I took her number at some point but then I was way too slow in asking her out (that was years ago) and once I decided to go for it, she wasn't responsive anymore. Probably had another guy by then. So today I saw her walking down my street. Deliberated for a few seconds, then turned around my bike and caught up with her. Had a real nice chat, with lots of eye contact. She has the most stunning blue eyes. I was much more present this time, and resisted the temptation to say "Nice to meet you" and run off for no reason. I actually got hard talking to her. I can't remember that happening while talking to a girl in the street lol. Anyway, we connected over a bunch of rather deep stuff, and also shared some hugs and she was actually touching me back while we talked.

She has an exam in a couple of days which she is studying for, so I told her to let me know how it goes since she has my number. She seems down to go for a walk or go to the beach one of these days. Once home, I sent her a text to follow up, no reply so far but it's only been an hour or so. We'll see how it goes.

 

[gameboy]

Feeling more and more confident approaching. Though I still chicken out sometimes if the girl looks too young or is awkwardly positioned. I'm also getting better at staying in set.

The last 2 or 3 days I didn't see all that many truly hot babes around, so I didn't have much opportunity to approach apart from the ones I described above alrady. Or maybe my standards are too high, because the girls from my last journal entry were truly hot (at least 9s) and I didn't find much comparable.

So here's a few of the more interesting interactions I've had over the weekend, mostly not true cold approaches (though I did a few, but I'm not journaling every single approach anymore if there's nothing remarkable worth writing about).

1 - The other day I went to a bar. It was almost empty. But I saw one girl I found cute. She was in a 3F1M group, they huddled tightly together so I didn't approach. But one her female friends, a tall blonde one, opened me and asked me if I want to play table football with them. I accepted.

I was paired with the blondie, and played against the cute one and the guy. The 3rd girl didn't want to play. I told the cute one she looks like a friend of mine, just that my friend has more tattoos. She asked me where I'm from, because of my accent I guess. I told her. She didn't really hook though. Should have told her to guess, would've been more entertaining.

I hi-5-ed and hugged my blonde team mate when we scored, to celebrate. She played along but didn't seem into it. Also tried to do small talk with the group but it didn't really hook either. Suddenly the guy took out a little bottle and handed it to the bonde. She took two noses of it, then the guy took one, and the cute one too. I've never seen people do cocaine right in front of me and in full view of the whole bar lol. It was almost empty so nobody cared... I think that's constitutes cheating at table football at the very least. Then again, even our European leaders do it so who am I to complain...

We played a few sets then they huddled together again, so I gave up on the cute one since I can't really compete against coked up guys. How do you night gamers do it anyway? Or do you just, ahm, adapt to the environment wink wink?

2 - Those of you who've read the first pages of my journal may know that I was stuck saying "hello" to girls for quite a while. Well, a few days ago I got my karma back and got hello'd myself. It was a cute young local girl, probably underage though or at most late teens. She was with a female friend and she said hello to me as I passed by with my bike. Here's how that went:

Cute Girl: Hello!
Gameboy: (stops bike) Hello! ... (looks at her and thinks) Do I know you?
CG: No!
GB: Ah... hahah, okay. So why are you saying hello to me then?
CG: Gotta be nice to people!
GB: Hahha, that's so cute! I love it! I'm Gameboy! (extends hand)
CG: (shakes hand) I'm bla bla
GB. Nice to meet you... have a great day!
CG: You too!

... and I drove off. Passed her by later since I took a detour and our paths crossed again. Waved at her and said bye, and she waved back and said bye excitedly. Maybe she had had a little to drink, since it was Saturday evening on the beach. Anyway, this one was clearly too young for me so I didn't take it further.

3 - not an approach, but a lovely interaction with 2 of the waitresses at one of my favorite cafeterias. We came to talk about age and I told the girl serving me I'm 51. She stared at me in disbelief and looked genuinely shocked. I asked her how old she thought I was and she said maybe like 43, at most... I said you're so sweet!! Then her colleague came in and she asked her "How old do you think he is?" The girl (I think she's lesbian, but she has lovely beautiful eyes and a cute smile) looks at me for 5 seconds and says "35" <3

I walked over and gave her a hug. Made my day! I told them I love them both. I think they were being honest. But maybe it's just senility setting in on my part

4 - Today I was on the beach, pretty much surrounded by girls (and a few guys) but no really hot one. There was one a bit chubby one, with a nice tan and a few tattoos, long dark hair. She looked over at me, so I gave her a smile but she looked back down.

I went for a swim, then walked around a bit but no super exciting girls either. Went back to my towel, and the girl started to look over at me quite a bit, even smiling at me. I smiled back, but couldn't quite bring myself to open. She was just a bit too chubby, and with barely any tits, so not my preferred body type. Her smile was cute though.

What pushed me over the edge though was a moustached guy with black sunglasses who planted himself next to her. As I walked around by I saw him staring at her ass. He never talked to her though, even though he was lying right next to her.

When I was back at my towel, he gave me stares through his creepy voyeur sunglasses. So I decided to show him who's boss and walked over to the girl.

Opened with "Sorry, are you Latina?" she said "Yes!" so I told her I liked her smile and wanted to come say hello. She hooked immediately and asked me where I'm from. I let her guess where I'm from, she got it completely wrong though so I had to tell her in the end. We chatted a bit about how long she's here for and such. Boring factual talk. Should have remembered some of the SOT topics like asking for the Zodiac. Instead, since I wasn't really attracted and just found her cute and wanted to experiment a bit, I asked her how old she was. She's 21. I told her she's a bit too young for me, and that I could be her father. Probably knocked myself out with that, but I wanted to give it a try. She said her father is 60 so I said OK I'm not that old lol.

Decided to go for the close anyway and said I have to get going, but we should grab a coffee some time. She declined with some excuse that she isn't here often. (funny what they come up with lol) I said no worries, I just thought you were cute and wanted to say hi. Shook her hand and told her see you around, for an amiable goodbye.

First approach I did purely to trounce the competetion. (Well, not purely. I admit I would have banged the girl if she'd been down, her being 3 decades younger would've been worth it. But I went for the close too soon and without much qualification, without much of anything in fact. Will do better next time.)

Good fun. And great for testosterone.

 

[average_daygamer]

Finally got to the end of this journal. You are right, it is absolutely brutal for us men.

You aren't getting laid unless you approach and approaching is so fraught.

You start getting push back in nightgame due to your age in your mid 30s so that goes out the window as there are too many security and other people trying to stop you.

Not to mention, it does not feel safe out night due to rowdy working class men outside venues looking for someone a bit different to pick on.

So all you are left with is really daygame.

No point in apps due to the age filter.

If you want those hotties they simply won't see our profiles.

Yet in daygame you have about 1 second to react if they are walking and it takes a lot of blowouts, underaged approaches and other assorted cringe in the process just go get a flaky phone number.

Your progression was interesting to see and the different phases where you for stuck on "hi".

I do this as well, saying "hi" is a great warmup.

And then you got the number close and then the deeper interactions from that.

You know, you could always take some infields using earbuds as they have a built in microphone so we could listen in on your conversation and really get a feeling for what you are doing.

I've done that myself to send to my coach, but this forum doesn't allow attachments to put them up here.

Well done on the progress anyway and I really could relate to the grind reading through this. It does sound like a spot with a lot of middle class girls which are more pleasant to approach rather than the rough chavs we have over here in the UK.

 

[AspiringStoic]

notably [I wonder what's become of him by the way? He disappeared at some point in the middle of his 2nd 30 day challenge... dude are you okay?]),

Hey I just logged in for the first time today since the end of April. Yeah some shit went down. Undergoing a major life change and some issues with family. Will be back soon. Hopefully all this clears up soon and I am back. Hope all is well with you.

 

[gameboy]

Today something funny happened. I was kind of slipping back into a depressed mood since I haven't had much success lately, despite doing 2-5 approaches pretty much every day. The two leads I had (date girl and another one I met in the street recently) also turned unresponsive after some texting back and forth.

Yesterday I approached a girl I felt super attracted to. I found her cute in her demeanour, and very feminine. She's new in the city, and told me she arrived that very day. I went for a soft close, but she rejected my attempt in a sweet way. I turned to leave and walked one or two steps, but decided to turn around and try again. She'd just shake her head in a shy way, look away and give some excuse about being with her family most of the time and what not. So I gave her a hug and left.

Well today, after a long session of walking around and just getting 2 rather weak approaches in, I decided to call it a day and sat down leaning against a tree, thinking what's the purpose of all this.

In my field of view there are more trees. Sitting leaning against one, there's a girl, leaning against another tree nearby, a guy. I didn't even register the two of them until the guy gets up to talk to the girl. I realize it's the same girl I had approached yesterday! He stands there, talking down at her (doesn't crouch like I probably would have). And I watch her reject him the same way she did me yesterday, shaking her head, looking to the side and I think I overheard her saying "no, no" from the distance (or maybe it was her body language).

For some reason that lifted my spirits again. Everyone gets rejected. At least I'm in the game! Which is the point of it all.

 

[gameboy]

Just a quick update since it's late, but I actually saw the girl from the previous post again yesterday. Spotted her sitting on the beach just as I was about to leave, reopened her, and this time she was super responsive. We ended up spending several hours on the beach together. Lots of touch and deep diving, moved her to a better spot with less people around, took some pictures of her (and she of me), and had a good time overall.

She was cool with casual touch (which I did quite a lot of), but resisted any further escalation. She was flying back to her country the next day. I got her number and asked her out for a drink for her last night, but she said she was busy. She really liked my city and says she's definitely coming back soon, and is even considering relocating for good.

So far the number seems solid, but let's see what happens and if she's really coming back. Good interaction though, one of my favorites so far. Plus it's been a fun learning experience that the same girl who rejected me 2 days before, and another guy 1 day before, reacted completely differently this time. In a way it felt like "we already knew each other" this time, even though we'd only talked for a few minutes max the last time.