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YESTERDAY - 1 approach
3F set, Argentinians taking pictures right next to me so I basically had to open. Asked them where they're from and chatted for a minute. The girl that answered me was polite but not really interested.
TODAY - 2 approaches
#1
2F set - 2 Germans. The one I opened I gave her a compliment on her tan, then asked whether they come here a lot. Turns out they are on holiday and leaving tonight. We chatted for a while, but since it was a 2-set I didn't see a chance of closing.
#2
Single girl - A girl I had seen before, but didn't open because of AA. She suddenly appeared next to where I was walking, so I opened saying "Hey did I see you over there before?" She seemed a bit shy and said "maybe". Told her I'm walking around the beach and I saw her before over there (pointing), she was like "Okay!"
I turned away and was going to leave, but then decided to reopen and ask her where she's from. She named an African country. I asked if she's on holiday here and she said "sort of". I felt she wasn't very talkative, so I said "All right, enjoy your stay" and left.
FUN OBSERVATION
The interaction with the German girl was pretty fun, and I walked away smiling. Noticed at least one guy staring at me as I was walking away after I left them. I bet he wished he could do what I just did, hehe.
Later I saw them again doing an acro yoga pose (both on all fours, with one girl on top of the other). While walking by I teased them a bit saying they should try and do pushups in this position. They laughed and said "Yeah".
Again I saw a guy staring at me lol. Not sure if it was the same guy as before, but if it was he changed postition in between.
THOUGHTS
Still need to figure out a way to make myself stay in set longer. With the African girl (#2) I'm not sure it'd have gone anywhere since she just gave me one word answers, but who knows. I could have persisted more. Might have been interesting to inquire about her country. Also gotta remember to throw in teases, cold reads... in essence, actually flirt with the girl.
Also I've been thinking about the situation from last week (previous post), with the girl that was smiling at me and seemed interested, but I just ejected.
Am I actually afraid of success? I don't think it's fear of rejection, because when I try to close and get rejected I generally feel good afterwards. I'm still trying to wrap my head around this. Maybe it's something subconscious I picked up about the girl that I didn't like.
Or I feel the tension becoming too much and that's why I bail. In that case it would just be a matter of practice... But it's a pity letting the opportunities go like that.
3F set, Argentinians taking pictures right next to me so I basically had to open. Asked them where they're from and chatted for a minute. The girl that answered me was polite but not really interested.
TODAY - 2 approaches
#1
2F set - 2 Germans. The one I opened I gave her a compliment on her tan, then asked whether they come here a lot. Turns out they are on holiday and leaving tonight. We chatted for a while, but since it was a 2-set I didn't see a chance of closing.
#2
Single girl - A girl I had seen before, but didn't open because of AA. She suddenly appeared next to where I was walking, so I opened saying "Hey did I see you over there before?" She seemed a bit shy and said "maybe". Told her I'm walking around the beach and I saw her before over there (pointing), she was like "Okay!"
I turned away and was going to leave, but then decided to reopen and ask her where she's from. She named an African country. I asked if she's on holiday here and she said "sort of". I felt she wasn't very talkative, so I said "All right, enjoy your stay" and left.
FUN OBSERVATION
The interaction with the German girl was pretty fun, and I walked away smiling. Noticed at least one guy staring at me as I was walking away after I left them. I bet he wished he could do what I just did, hehe.
Later I saw them again doing an acro yoga pose (both on all fours, with one girl on top of the other). While walking by I teased them a bit saying they should try and do pushups in this position. They laughed and said "Yeah".
Again I saw a guy staring at me lol. Not sure if it was the same guy as before, but if it was he changed postition in between.
THOUGHTS
Still need to figure out a way to make myself stay in set longer. With the African girl (#2) I'm not sure it'd have gone anywhere since she just gave me one word answers, but who knows. I could have persisted more. Might have been interesting to inquire about her country. Also gotta remember to throw in teases, cold reads... in essence, actually flirt with the girl.
Also I've been thinking about the situation from last week (previous post), with the girl that was smiling at me and seemed interested, but I just ejected.
Am I actually afraid of success? I don't think it's fear of rejection, because when I try to close and get rejected I generally feel good afterwards. I'm still trying to wrap my head around this. Maybe it's something subconscious I picked up about the girl that I didn't like.
Or I feel the tension becoming too much and that's why I bail. In that case it would just be a matter of practice... But it's a pity letting the opportunities go like that.
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