Special Girl Great set, great early texting, she ghosts

[Velasco]

She wanted me to say "Yes ofc we're gonna be exclusive before even the first date".

here is the principle behind what's going on here:

File folder on MEGA

mega.nz

2. Infield -> 6. Double Date Part 1 JP.

Watch and listen from 39:44 - 43:00 (a few minutes earlier she is giving him shit about him seeing other girls and neglecting her. You can also see how he handles that (I handle it the same way)).

right now, I would message her a couple days from now and speak like something you saw about her instagram made you change your mind you were wrong about her. You're sorry for being a dick. you understand if she never wants to speak to her again. you had a bad experience with your ex recently and you didn't want to rush into things. you didn't want to tell her cuz you didn't want to look weak in front of her cuz you don't like to feel that way blah blah blah. some pity. don't say, "bro I will look like a total vagina if i do this" cuz in reality this is very manipulative thing to do. only on surface level is weak as fuck. underneath the surface -> https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/strategic-position-of-weakness.23731/#post-124887

 

[Skjöldr]

here is the principle behind what's going on here:

File folder on MEGA

mega.nz

2. Infield -> 6. Double Date Part 1 JP.

Watch and listen from 39:44 - 43:00 (a few minutes earlier she is giving him shit about him seeing other girls and neglecting her. You can also see how he handles that (I handle it the same way)).

right now, I would message her a couple days from now and speak like something you saw about her instagram made you change your mind you were wrong about her. You're sorry for being a dick. you understand if she never wants to speak to her again. you had a bad experience with your ex recently and you didn't want to rush into things. you didn't want to tell her cuz you didn't want to look weak in front of her cuz you don't like to feel that way blah blah blah. some pity. don't say, "bro I will look like a total vagina if i do this" cuz in reality this is very manipulative thing to do. only on surface level is weak as fuck. underneath the surface -> https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/strategic-position-of-weakness.23731/#post-124887

And then i stop seeing other girls?

 

[Skjöldr]

Idk man i just feel like if i cave in she wins the frame battle and then it's just fucked from then on.

 

[Skjöldr]

Okay read the post you linked, makes sense, i did have this in mind but doubted the success.

Would it be too quick to follow up tomorrow? She's leaving for her hometown on Thursday

 

[Velasco]

And then i stop seeing other girls?

no.

my original message

also final note: living in small city, doing daygame as your primer way of meeting girls, is difficult to continue getting new supply of girls this way without eventually getting caught. why i like ny nightlife with it's anonymity. so online game i guess for now, while you are with her.

Idk man i just feel like if i cave in she wins the frame battle and then it's just fucked from then on.

if this is what you got after watching the video i linked and my post in Skill's strategic position of weakness, then i can't help you

Would it be too quick to follow up tomorrow? She's leaving for her hometown on Thursday

yes it would be too quick. and lose its effect. what's with all these girls leaving at unfortunate times hahah. when is she coming back you know?

 

[Skjöldr]

no.

my original message


if this is what you got after watching the video i linked and my post in Skill's strategic position of weakness, then i can't help you


yes it would be too quick. and lose its effect. what's with all these girls leaving at unfortunate times hahah. when is she coming back you know?

Her grandma died so she's going back probably for the weekend. Will be home next week.

This is a very important thing for her seemingly making very little sense, so it shouldn't be too much of a hassle to just say "yeah whatever". I already lied with my age.

The alternative is betting that she will reach out before me. So i have to decide between the likelihood of that and going forth with your suggestion. It would atleast be a learning experience... I think i'm gonna do it. Sending it on Wednesday would be 2 days, is that too soon? If i text her on Thursday it will be 3 days and she can text me on her way on the train, give her something to do.

 

[Skills]

@Skills @Velasco
Any way to turn this around?

Any contacting from here on will be regarded as submitting/chasing, won't it? She reached out before, maybe she will do it again.

Bro sorry to hear about your lost, if there is anything I can do I am here for you and in this case whenever she is ok just give her your Instagram

 

[Velasco]

shouldn't be too much of a hassle to just say "yeah whatever".

where the fuck did i say agree to her terms in this "fine i give up you win. lets do this i guess"??? smh...

now that i know that she is visiting because of her grandma, i would send what I SAID while she is there visiting (cuz she'd be not 100% sad where she'd not want to see anyone, but in a state where she wants to be nice to people. seeing how fragile life is, and can use someone loving in her life). so that when she comes back, you can set a meetup.

just give her your Instagram

and lose this leverage?

She's losing it because i don't wanna let her inside my instagram profile. This hottie is used to get anything she wants. "Why's your profile private? What are you hiding? "Baby ponies" "open it" "nope" "why not? It is annoying me limitlessly" ahaha.

lol

 

[Skjöldr]

where the fuck did i say agree to her terms in this "fine i give up you win. lets do this i guess"??? smh...

now that i know that she is visiting because of her grandma, i would send what I SAID while she is there visiting (cuz she'd be not 100% sad where she'd not want to see anyone, but in a state where she wants to be nice to people. seeing how fragile life is, and can use someone loving in her life). so that when she comes back, you can set a meetup.

and lose this leverage?

lol

Okay so i text on Friday?

 

[Skjöldr]

Even if i give her that whole spiel the question still remains: Will i keep dating other girls? And in that case i will have to give her a no, right? She will ask

 

[Velasco]

Even if i give her that whole spiel the question still remains: Will i keep dating other girls? And in that case i will have to give her a no, right? She will ask

lol obvi. just that daygaming in small city is easy to get caught. why i mentioned online game and why i like ny in my original message. thing is she KNOWS you are gonna keep seeing other girls. what she wants to hear is that you WONT.

for you its a matter of priority: want to keep daygaming and forget this girl. or be with this girl (and learn some relationship shit in additon to steady sex life) for a little bit and see other girls through other means (just know that daygaming will prob end it cuz it klls the plausible deniability) only you can decide. i support whatever decision you make

 

[Skjöldr]

lol obvi. just that daygaming in small city is easy to get caught. why i mentioned online game and why i like ny in my original message. thing is she KNOWS you are gonna keep seeing other girls. what she wants to hear is that you WONT.

for you its a matter of priority: want to keep daygaming and forget this girl. or be with this girl (and learn some relationship shit in additon to steady sex life) for a little bit and see other girls through other means (just know that daygaming will prob end it cuz it klls the plausible deniability) only you can decide. i support whatever decision you make

Fuck it i'm just gonna do it. Sucks ass i blew it tonight otherwise i could've set up a meet before she leaves. Will just message her Friday and see how it goes. Will also leave her time to get in touch on her own if she wants.

 

[Skills]

where the fuck did i say agree to her terms in this "fine i give up you win. lets do this i guess"??? smh...

now that i know that she is visiting because of her grandma, i would send what I SAID while she is there visiting (cuz she'd be not 100% sad where she'd not want to see anyone, but in a state where she wants to be nice to people. seeing how fragile life is, and can use someone loving in her life). so that when she comes back, you can set a meetup.

and lose this leverage?

lol

Oh I see one of these girls... Yeah I forgot about that..

 

[Skjöldr]

Alright so i sent her:

Me: Hey, i thought about something you said and i realized that i was wrong about you. I'm sorry if you think i'm an idiot now. I understand if you don't wanna talk with me anymore, there was just some complicated things... So i didn't wanna rush things too much. I didn't say anything because i didn't wanna feel weak
Her: Something i said that you were wrong about? What was it?

Jesus that text was loaded with intrigue bait, her hamster must be spinning hard now. Got the "It's complicated" idea from Chateau Heartiste.

Anyways, as to what to respond to her. I was thinking going into how she said she felt hurt and not special because i also had approached her friend, even though she found me handsome, fun and cute. Saying how i understand what she means when you focus on one person at a time, because then you can really dive into that person instead of spreading your energy (=bullshit but it's whatever), and that i understand that she don't wanna invest in a person who isn't serious. (=Nonsense)

 

[Skjöldr]

I obviously let her win this little frame battle, but i want to win it on my terms, reminding her how outstanding i am and she wants me all for herself ahaha. And that it isn't a general principle of hers, but because she's so head over heels for me that she wants me to only see her.

 

[Skjöldr]

Update:

Me: That about you not feeling special anymore and i realized, that you aren't possesive, but just wanna focus on one person at a time og get to the bottom of that person, but not if that person isn't serious
Her: Exaaaaaaactly that was my whole point. But you just said i was crazy and not normal (sad tearful qt emoji)
Me: Aww yeah, that wasn't very considerate of HB's feelings by Phoenix, very mean
Her: Yes it actually was
Me: Do you want a consolation duck?
Her: What is it
Me: (picture of carved wooden duck i made 2 days ago)
Me: Made it the other day
Her: It is cute
Me: It's yours if you stop pouting/sulking

Last text was 4 hours ago. Since she went to see her family today i reckon she arrived around that time and put her phone down to be with family. Anyways, the text conversation went a bit stale i guess. Idk if sending her my carved wooden duck was a good idea or not, i think it was a cute thing and shows that i'm competent at stuff and in the background there was blurry paintings which might peak her interest. She's gonna be gone until Sunday i reckon, i haven't asked her how long she's there.

Are there any threads i should cut to?

 

[Velasco]

Are there any threads i should cut to?

no she's text you. your last text gave her some ammo to do so (sometimes the reason girls don't initiate is cuz they don't have a something worthy of getting your attention. for example my birthday is a week before my fb's. and because she knows my birthday there's ammo. she sent "happy birthday *kissing emoji*" along with a birthday gift (some funny video). then because her birthday came a week later, and i hadn't sent her anything, there's ammo. the next day after her birthday she initated, "where was my birthday meme?").

 

[Skjöldr]

no she's text you. your last text gave her some ammo to do so (sometimes the reason girls don't initiate is cuz they don't have a something worthy of getting your attention. for example my birthday is a week before my fb's. and because she knows my birthday there's ammo. she sent "happy birthday *kissing emoji*" along with a birthday gift (some funny video). then because her birthday came a week later, and i hadn't sent her anything, there's ammo. the next day after her birthday she initated, "where was my birthday meme?").

Ah okay, i didn't necessarily mean double text her, but when/if she replies, do you think i should just "zero small talk" her or talk about something else like ask her how being back home is like?

 

[Velasco]

when/if she replies, do you think i should just "zero small talk" her or talk about something else like ask her how being back home is like?

nah just take whatever she gives you as a means to setting something up.

 

[Skjöldr]

nah just take whatever she gives you as a means to setting something up.

Okay, should i close her while she's away for next week or figure out when she gets back and close her the day she gets back?