How to pick up a girl who saw you with your GF? (open relationship)

[Zoro]

So today I was at my favorite cafe. I meet lots of interesting people here. Mostly cool ambitious men working, exactly the kind of people I want in a new social circle I'm building.

Sometimes there are cute girls, but none that really caught my eye to make anything happen yet.

However the barista today, I decided, looked too good to pass up.

I made some small talk to her before, but whatever she was wearing that day was not flattering. Today she had on yoga pants lol.

Anyway, I was there with my girlfriend. She definitely saw us together, as well as me chatting with the people I know there, including my hot friend and her cool BF. All good social proof and preselection.

We had a short flirty moment, but I was mindful of being there with my GF. I personally think I'm playing it too safe. My GF encourages this behavior, and I do it discreetly anyway (my GF at that moment was no where near).

On the next high note I have with the barista I'd like to ask her out, but I'm wondering how I'd handle her bringing up my GF. "Don't you have a GF" or "Who was that girl you were with?" I think would throw me off. I'm not sure of how to answer it.

I also really like this cafe, and want to play it safe-ish. But I think asking her out isn't a big deal either, as long as I handle the GF question.

 

[TheEcho]

Maybe a more experienced guy will put me in my place, but I imagine you just keep it simple. "Yes"/"My girlfriend", and if your gf likes it (it sounds like she does), "She's cool if I'm subtle about it"

 

[gameboy]

Wait, your GF encourage you hitting on hot girls, did I get that right?

When i grow up i wanna be like you!!

But seriously... how did you find a girl like that? Sounds pretty awesome to me.

 

[DonGately]

How on earth would she know or even remember she's your GF? I have several hot, flirty female friends. Some I've slept with some I am currently and some I'm sure I never will.

Remember the basics: if you're with a hot chick that's big social proof as you said. Act accordingly.

'Who was that girl?' -- A good friend.
Works for me anyways.

 

[Zoro]

how did you find a girl like that? Sounds pretty awesome to me.

Not every girl will be willing or able to handle it.

But if you make her feel good and are unwilling to compromise on your freedom (better communicated by your vibe than in conversation), I think that helps.

Wish I could give you more advice, but it's still technically my first rodeo. Pretty sure Chase and some other members here have done one-sided monogamy.

How on earth would she know or even remember she's your GF? I have several hot, flirty female friends. Some I've slept with some I am currently and some I'm sure I never will.

Remember the basics: if you're with a hot chick that's big social proof as you said. Act accordingly.

'Who was that girl?' -- A good friend.
Works for me anyways.

Thank you! I knew I was overthinking it.