Good news on the boner front.
I saw one of my regulars, and had good sex, and was able to stay hard and enjoy it and whatnot. There are a few factors that I believe helped in getting and staying hard. Besides what I think were the big factors, there were about 20 other little things that I changed over the last 2-3 days to see if they would help. With so many factors changing, it can be hard to pinpoint if it was any one in particular. But there were some big factors that I think made the biggest difference.
I guess I will write about them here, as a way of reminding myself, for if it ever happens again.
-- Sleep: I find that I need to sleep no more than 8.5 hours at night. If I sleep more than 8.5 hours, then I actually feel MORE tired, and also less excited by sex. This has been a long-running experiment for me, where it seems that 8-8.5 hours of sleep is best, but if I go over that, I feel worse, and it can even affect my sex performance.
-- Temperature: It is the summer, and has been quite warm lately, including in my bedroom. It seems like this high temperature might negatively affect my boners. However, today it was colder, around 70 F in the bedroom when we were having sex. So that seems like it might help, to be colder. Solution is to blast the AC, to make sure that it is cooler.
-- Mental/Meditation: I meditated for a total of maybe 30 minutes this morning. It seemed like it help clear my head, so I could be more in the moment, and feel during sex, so that I wasn't in my head, was instead just feeling. Which helps prevent thinking about it, and you are just feeling in the moment instead.
-- Looking at pictures of girls on apps: I don't think it is helpful to look at the photos girls put on apps. It is just another version of training your brain to think about images of girls, instead of real life girls. I want to avoid this as much as possible in the future, even when swiping.
-- Eating: Eat a lot of food. Sometimes I tend to under-eat, and it probably doesn't help with metabolism or libido. But I made sure to eat a lot of food, so that might have helped.
-- Moist tongue: This might sound weird, but I made sure to have spit on the tip of my tongue during sex the whole time. It just feels more sexual, when your tongue is moist with spit. Then, you feel the wetness on your dick in her vagina, and you are turned on. I have no idea if this helped, but it seemed to help when we were having sex, to continue to be in it, in the moment, and more or less concentrating on the wet feeling on my johnson, which is pretty hot and arousing.
-- Starting without a condom: I went in raw for a few thrusts when we were starting, when my dick was getting ready. This felt really good, which made me harder. Then I put on a condom, which still seemed to be alright. So this might not have been necessary.
There you go, gentle reader. The random things my brain came up with as to why I could get it hard today, vs before. Those were just the big ones, but I had maybe 20 more things, which I won't go into here.
