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Thread 'Getting flaked repeatedly !!' https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/getting-flaked-repeatedly.28445/
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This is simply introspection .
A lot of my past unhelpful beliefs Are coming to surface which are stopping me getting the success I have been working for since last July .
And that's the reason why I have seen guys with less game getting better results ... Simply cuz they had better beliefs , inner game .
Better self beliefs lead them to take more risks , more actions .
And it's not just in seduction but in my career as well . Seen folks with less credentials succeeding more than me Cuz of belief difference .
And now why do I say that is simply cuz for lot of years I only saw myself as failure ,.someone who was destined to fail and whenever I would start something ... The mindset would be there .
" I don't deserve women "
" I don't deserve beautiful women "
" I don't deserve success "
I had forgotten about the fact that these thoughts were dominating my mind in the backside while I was working , gaming .
Root cause of lot of pain is me believing myself destined to failure .
A lot of my past unhelpful beliefs Are coming to surface which are stopping me getting the success I have been working for since last July .
And that's the reason why I have seen guys with less game getting better results ... Simply cuz they had better beliefs , inner game .
Better self beliefs lead them to take more risks , more actions .
And it's not just in seduction but in my career as well . Seen folks with less credentials succeeding more than me Cuz of belief difference .
And now why do I say that is simply cuz for lot of years I only saw myself as failure ,.someone who was destined to fail and whenever I would start something ... The mindset would be there .
" I don't deserve women "
" I don't deserve beautiful women "
" I don't deserve success "
I had forgotten about the fact that these thoughts were dominating my mind in the backside while I was working , gaming .
Root cause of lot of pain is me believing myself destined to failure .
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BREAKING MY LIMITS AFTER 6 MONTHS BREAK
I restarted doing daygame after 6 ish months last sunday and due to me being busy with classes .. I went to game today .
Last sunday , I was able to do 7 approaches but today a whopping 20 approaches .
From a set of 7 chicks to a girl in my hometown (It's my first time , I direct opened in my hometown cuz of some limiting beliefs ).
It is the first time , I did an intense session ..which I need to do more till some part of my lifestyle changes , then I will be able to do daily but with less intense session.
I was also able to do solo game too .
And all this Happened cuz I was hustling in a social circle filled with women since last 3 weeks . Before that , I kind of fell into a slump . haha.
Had I not been working on my social circle game , I would have trouble opening .
Anyways , my issue was I was running out of things to say , so prematurely ejecting sets and stuttering during open .
I have kind of lost my vibe that I had built back then but still I was able to get 2 instagrams , both flaked lol
Anyways , this time round ...I have decided that I will focus on lot of things that I had been neglecting and to learn from my previous mistakes and have a killer vibe .
This time I won't overcomplicate or overthink .
I restarted doing daygame after 6 ish months last sunday and due to me being busy with classes .. I went to game today .
Last sunday , I was able to do 7 approaches but today a whopping 20 approaches .
From a set of 7 chicks to a girl in my hometown (It's my first time , I direct opened in my hometown cuz of some limiting beliefs ).
It is the first time , I did an intense session ..which I need to do more till some part of my lifestyle changes , then I will be able to do daily but with less intense session.
I was also able to do solo game too .
And all this Happened cuz I was hustling in a social circle filled with women since last 3 weeks . Before that , I kind of fell into a slump . haha.
Had I not been working on my social circle game , I would have trouble opening .
Anyways , my issue was I was running out of things to say , so prematurely ejecting sets and stuttering during open .
I have kind of lost my vibe that I had built back then but still I was able to get 2 instagrams , both flaked lol
Anyways , this time round ...I have decided that I will focus on lot of things that I had been neglecting and to learn from my previous mistakes and have a killer vibe .
This time I won't overcomplicate or overthink .
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It's time for me to begin a new and technical journey .
Have done enough approaches in past 3 sessions to know that I can approach , just fine .
But , I have gotten shit in conversation department ... which actually took me 8 months of constantly going out to get a consistent 50+% approach to hook ratio .
Now , I will be more technical in my daygame and rather than just focusing on approaching and learning game form there . [NOTE: I had a 6 months long break from game and seduction]
And I will learn the nuances of game form the social circle that I have been doing since 1 month , while going on daygame sessions on the side . And it has given me great momentum . Cuz , I am expanding my social circle like crazy and have experienced a bit of social proof too.
Just like how it's is in MMA , you don't learn how to fight by getting in amateur circuit (or Gods forbid .. a professional one ) but by practising in the gym and sparring with partners .
And it's the recent forum post by @Will_V , that has helped me realise this ..cuz as I said , I can open easily but am having trouble creating connections .
Have done enough approaches in past 3 sessions to know that I can approach , just fine .
But , I have gotten shit in conversation department ... which actually took me 8 months of constantly going out to get a consistent 50+% approach to hook ratio .
Now , I will be more technical in my daygame and rather than just focusing on approaching and learning game form there . [NOTE: I had a 6 months long break from game and seduction]
And I will learn the nuances of game form the social circle that I have been doing since 1 month , while going on daygame sessions on the side . And it has given me great momentum . Cuz , I am expanding my social circle like crazy and have experienced a bit of social proof too.
Just like how it's is in MMA , you don't learn how to fight by getting in amateur circuit (or Gods forbid .. a professional one ) but by practising in the gym and sparring with partners .
And it's the recent forum post by @Will_V , that has helped me realise this ..cuz as I said , I can open easily but am having trouble creating connections .
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I feel like a toothless tiger in social circle . LOL
Maybe cuz I am using it to improve my social skills which I never could (as never had any social circle with girls , before ) .
But , even though I am improving my skills and my comfort around women ... still having a hard time with certain things .. as if I am missing something crucial in my abilities .
Maybe cuz I am using it to improve my social skills which I never could (as never had any social circle with girls , before ) .
But , even though I am improving my skills and my comfort around women ... still having a hard time with certain things .. as if I am missing something crucial in my abilities .
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REDO OF THE SPYCE DADDY
Day 1
Finally, I am back in the field for real.
Today, just to get comfortable I thought about doing as many directional approaches as I could without putting any further pressure on me. And I ended up doing 13 indirect and 2 direct. The direct ones sort of came out of me when I saw those girls and also cuz I had built up momentum by that time.
I will go out again this week and my goal would be to not run away after the opener, rather just embrace the awkwardness.
Note: Feels like I have retasted my most favourite drug and I want MORE
Day 1
Finally, I am back in the field for real.
Today, just to get comfortable I thought about doing as many directional approaches as I could without putting any further pressure on me. And I ended up doing 13 indirect and 2 direct. The direct ones sort of came out of me when I saw those girls and also cuz I had built up momentum by that time.
I will go out again this week and my goal would be to not run away after the opener, rather just embrace the awkwardness.
Note: Feels like I have retasted my most favourite drug and I want MORE
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Day 3
I just came back from the field. Was only able to do 6 indirect and one direct. No convos.
The good thing is that even though I was dealing with some kind of panic today , most likey due to the fact that I have stopped drinking alcohol.. but I still went out in the field.
The bad thing is that cuz of me taking roughly 1.5 years break from the game. All my issues related to anxiety, regret and some OCDs have come back again.
So, I will just keep on doing what I am doing.
I just came back from the field. Was only able to do 6 indirect and one direct. No convos.
The good thing is that even though I was dealing with some kind of panic today , most likey due to the fact that I have stopped drinking alcohol.. but I still went out in the field.
The bad thing is that cuz of me taking roughly 1.5 years break from the game. All my issues related to anxiety, regret and some OCDs have come back again.
So, I will just keep on doing what I am doing.
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