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TLDR
- Opened a girl on Sunday with "you must be a tourist" and a warm smirk while she was taking a picture
- We spoke (my flow is step 4 here) and agreed to have a date the next day
- Next day, I'm her romantic tour guide showing her around London
- After our date, she comes back to mine, no LMR & we have a fun evening
Feels great because honestly think I could run this exact playbook every weekend & do 1-4 lays a month off tourists alone.
That momentum will then naturally pass on to local girls too who I'm also getting numbers/dates with.
Long version
Meeting the Girl
The Date
Closing thoughts
Been talking a lot with topcat on this and I think as guys we overcomplicate this a ton. As long as you're not diagnosed autistic & put in enough reps to learn you can "feel" your way through interactions.
Build Comfort - Display sexual interest gracefully - Build a connection - Lay.
Every stage is baby-stepped so that the lay feels like a natural end conclusion instead of some big deal...
May write a larger piece at some point but for now
Oh and last thing, daygame has made me enjoy game again. The process feels more like a romantic adventure than an efficient means to an end.
This girl was grateful for the experience and invited me to Mexico and you know what? If money and time allows - I may take her up on it.
Onward and upwards x
- Opened a girl on Sunday with "you must be a tourist" and a warm smirk while she was taking a picture
- We spoke (my flow is step 4 here) and agreed to have a date the next day
- Next day, I'm her romantic tour guide showing her around London
- After our date, she comes back to mine, no LMR & we have a fun evening
Feels great because honestly think I could run this exact playbook every weekend & do 1-4 lays a month off tourists alone.
That momentum will then naturally pass on to local girls too who I'm also getting numbers/dates with.
In 1 month I did 63 approaches, got 14 numbers or Instagrams, went on 5 dates and 1 lay
Long version
If you've read my abundance blueprint journal you know I've been re-doing my whole approach to game.
Transitioning from mostly nightgame, apps and some daygame to mostly daygame, interest-based events and some nightgame.
Reason for the switch is wanting more "quality" which for me just means emotionally secure, good EQ, happy low drama girls. Bodycount doesn't really matter to me (anymore) but I won't open that can of worms lol.
Can read all about my "failed" dates here where I was basically re-calibrating and learning.
Transitioning from mostly nightgame, apps and some daygame to mostly daygame, interest-based events and some nightgame.
Reason for the switch is wanting more "quality" which for me just means emotionally secure, good EQ, happy low drama girls. Bodycount doesn't really matter to me (anymore) but I won't open that can of worms lol.
Can read all about my "failed" dates here where I was basically re-calibrating and learning.
Meeting the Girl
She was across the road, had tanned cinnamon brown skin, long dark hair, dark grey denim shorts, black running trainers and a baggy white T-shirt. I almost didn't approach because of the inconvenience but because I've been doing a load of approaches I was warm, cut that excuse from my head and went for it. Be rude not too as she was very much my type. Turns out to be 30 which is older than my preference (no more than 25) but she's fun and could pass for younger.
"You must be a tourist" warm smirk, big smile and repeated it because she was on the phone but hung up right away. I then tease her for pausing at some random pavement. She then shares she's visiting from Mexico and we chit chat. I ask her how she finds London (she loves it) and quickly start frames about how travel gives you adventure, anonymity and freedom... I ask her if she's ever been in [tourist location near where I live] she says no and I offer to give her a tour. I ask when she's free and offer tomorrow, she agrees and I say we'll meet there tomorrow at 2PM and point across the road to which she agrees
Very little as it was a day apart. I hit her with "Hii x, nice meeting you 
" she replies "I know" I say hope your food was good (she was going to five guys) and see you tomorrow. She replies to the burger bit but not the meetup confirmation so I get a little jittery but I was overthinking it. She messages good morning next day, more chit chat and inside joke about how she'll go back to Mexico in 2027 because of all the travelling she's doing, and give a causal ping of "P.S still good for 2pm" she replies "Yes" and it's game on
" she replies "I know" I say hope your food was good (she was going to five guys) and see you tomorrow. She replies to the burger bit but not the meetup confirmation so I get a little jittery but I was overthinking it. She messages good morning next day, more chit chat and inside joke about how she'll go back to Mexico in 2027 because of all the travelling she's doing, and give a causal ping of "P.S still good for 2pm" she replies "Yes" and it's game onThe Date
She arrives 10 minutes late after getting lost lol, in that time I buy a few cocktail cans as she mentioned loving alcohol. She arrives in a sexy black dress and running trainers and I'm excited... The date has LOTSSSS of walking. Topcat gave me good advice that you want to spend most the time just sat down talking in a casual setting (which I found to be very true), I lost other lays from walking too much with tourists but this one I got the balance better. We end up having a de-tour to a football stadium before or planned location. I also tell her she gets a limit of 3 pictures per location as I didn't want personal assistant photographer vibes, and she was cool with it. While walking I'm lightly touching her waist as we cross the road, or moving her to the pavement side, arm around her with a warm hug when she says something cute then easing off and not touchign her at all. Basically getting her comfortable. She's easy to talk to and we cover her big family, how much she loves Mexico, her job as a laywer, turns out she's actually smart and has a masters, scholarship for a PHD and still family orientated. It's attractive and vindicates why I love Daygame so much
This is where things got good. Start deep diving her on relationships, her family dynamics and she's overrall healthy but self-admittedly a control freak who doesn't like to be vulnerable, I cold read that it's a safety mechanism and make her feel seen I also make the observation of how she's super feminine in her appearance and demeanour but very masculine and driven in her goals (calling back specific things she told me before) and how it's an attractive mix, she says you know me better than guys who've known me 6 months. Her body language starts facing me more while we're sat on the grass, touching me back in response to my intermittent touching and from there we go back to one last tourist destination
Throughout the date she peppers in how "I'm a stranger" and could kill her. I playfully say warmly, I'm a lover not a fighter and re-instate this is a "judgment free zone" so please stop with a grin and occasionally reversing and saying she may be from the cartel. Looking back it's a small shit-test that I hardly noticed, like with a lot of these things, if you're chill, they'll follow your lead
After the park we go to one last tourist destination and get some food. The sat down conversation got us closer together and we're now hand holding, arms around shoulders but intermittent. Whenever I sense she wants her own space I give it. My vibe is very chill, warm and she comments several times about how i'm just "nice" lol and I purposely build a vibe of familiarity, chillness and causal. The food we get is a burger spot, she has wings and I get fries. On the way to food I talk about how I want her to play me some more of her music and we can do it from my speaker, she says where, yours? I say yeah if you'd like... She says "maybe" which makes me think ahh it's 50/50, I say cool keep walking hand in hand and then she comes back with "we can even watch a film" and I know it's game on
Super easyyyyyy. Because the "couple" vibes had been set before coming back to mine, we could go straight into cuddling/affection which is something that took more time/friction in previous dates because I hadn't set the right frame before the pull. She comes back, I ask her what music she likes (I've found that getting the girl to play her music helps with comfort and her enjoying your space), we play bad bunny, vibe kiss her within 5-10 minutes, slowly ramp up and it's straightforward with no LMR. Post lay she shared how my incidental touching made her know I was into her and the conversation/deep diving is where she went from just physically attracted to into me. Apparently sex with a stranger was also a fantasy so pretty cool I helped her live that out
Closing thoughts
Been talking a lot with topcat on this and I think as guys we overcomplicate this a ton. As long as you're not diagnosed autistic & put in enough reps to learn you can "feel" your way through interactions.
Build Comfort - Display sexual interest gracefully - Build a connection - Lay.
Every stage is baby-stepped so that the lay feels like a natural end conclusion instead of some big deal...
May write a larger piece at some point but for now
Oh and last thing, daygame has made me enjoy game again. The process feels more like a romantic adventure than an efficient means to an end.
This girl was grateful for the experience and invited me to Mexico and you know what? If money and time allows - I may take her up on it.
Onward and upwards x
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