Another quick update.
After my first
daygame lay following this new approach I've made some observations:
1. Me fixating on venues and events to meet girls was largely a big waste of time lol.
Problem is there's limited volume, a finite window to talk to these girls and so much R&D required to find good repeatable events
2. The best & fastest ROI for me to meet girls I'm excited about has without a doubt cold approach daygame.
Perhaps a part of me was simply avoiding doing the real work and instead distract myself.
Credit to Chase, Skills and whoever else said this.
3. Daygame has enough volume to do 10-20 lays a year (if you're in a big enough city)
Where I didn't waste time was finding daygame areas that suit my personality and naturally attract girls I like.
I've definitely seen a benefit of being intentional with locations vs just going for busy high volume places.
Sacrificing volume for vibe has been the right trade for me.
4. Ad-hoc daygame doesn't give enough volume but spam approaching is not sustainable - solution below
The sweet spot solution I've found is:
- 10 approaches a day, 1-2 days a week
- Up to 4 approaches casually while living your life another 2-3 days a week
5. Venues and events is a lifestyle play to gain momentum
Venues and events aren't the best for girls BUT they're good for giving you social momentum which in turn makes you
magnetic getting more girls and living an interesting life in general.
It's a pretty basic numbers game when you get down to it. No magic bullet solutions.
Great you were experimenting though. your conclusions on events makes perfect sense. Seems like a more supplemental thing than a primary thing.
In the end just gotta put the hustle to it. Get the numbers in.
Helps being in a place where you can find at least 10 baddies on a given sarge. 10-12 in a 4-5 hours span is workable. Then the rest you just approach at the grocery store, running errands, all that.
Still not the best volume. But when you have limited time and can't sarge all day everyday that's what you get.
Supplement night game, classes/events/festivals, and apps (in that order) and your numbers go up a bit.
Venue selection helps with targeting a specific demographic. But also can meet women of all walks of life, pretty much anywhere. So high volume places aren't off the table, just less concentration of a particular type.
Could also engineer some social circle things too, can help screen for girls with similar interests. Again just as a supplemental thing. Obviously maximizing social circle game is a whole other beast, and requires focused dedication.
In the end, there's really not much reinventing of the wheel that can be done. Just gotta make due with the resources you have available, and then grind.
That's the thing with pick up. To really get a large volume, you just gotta grind.
Having variation in your pipeline will maximize your odds.
Beyond that, just making sure to land the girls when you have them out. Making every shot count.
Then when it comes to meeting an "ideal" LTR partner, I think you just gotta roll with what you have and work with the raw material, shaping the relationship each step of the way. There's no perfect match. I think having similar values, lifestyles, and interests(not all your interests have to align) is more than enough. Figure out the big non negotiables (don't go over board with this list). Then just pick the gal where things are the most practical for the long term.
The rest is just flying by the seat of your pants. LTRs are a one day at a time thing. You kind of just find your self in one and eventually are like "oh we've been doing this for how long now?"
Honestly, the older I get, the more I think that life is about choosing which limitations suit you best. That's not to say we shouldn't push our boundaries and keep challenging ourselves to see where the line is. But everything is a tradeoff, and our lives are more defined by limitations than we want to believe in our more youthful days.
that's my two cents.
www.girlschase.com
been humbling but putting my ego aside 
