The Guide to Getting Hot Girls (of Any Type)

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Well approach anxiety is when you fear approaching good looking women in general, this is moreso based on approaching good looking women who you find hot but remind you of women you have had bad experiences with.

@DML is correct, this is approach anxiety

Now when I see a girl that happens to be hot, is my type, but looks a lot like women I have had bad experiences with not just on a seduction level but on a social level (being mean to me, being rude, cold, usually going for men who look nothing like me and making it clear they are not interested), I go into analysis paralysis almost. A mindfuck happens where my thoughts get bitter, defensive, and I automatically go into finding every way to find a flaw in her and go out of my way to not approach almost even though deep down I want to.

Even the few times I do approach, I am really so off mentally that it's almost like it turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy but I feel anchored by my past too. I also do not have any good references or observations to build on either.

I almost feel like I would have to overcompensate or something to get her so I avoid approaching altogether even though I may want to. I know my situation is real unique but anyone ever been there mentally?

No matter how many times you say it and how hard you believe it, your situations is NOT unique. It's approach anxiety for YOUR personal "type".

You have a choice to make here:
  1. continue to rationalize that your situation is unique and no one else understands as they haven't been through it (even though several of us have)
  2. Or you could stop theorizing about it, man up and take ACTION. Then if you want feedback report what actually happened in those interactions. Like it or not, you will be just like a newbie with this "type" of yours.
Only one of these choices will move you forward.

I can tell you that one of things women admire the most about ACTION-OREINTED MEN is that they take action DESPITE the overwhelming fear that they feel. THAT is also one of the main reason why most guys fail with women, because they rationalize not taking action and women sense that = unattractive.
 

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I used to actually struggle with this very thing despite doing relatively well with women in my youth. Played sports, developed early, lost virginity at 15 to a pale brunette who was two years my older, and had my fun. Not really sure if the way I went about it is the way to really go about it but it ended up working out well for me. Thought it makes sense for me to also share a bit about myself with y’all for all of this to really make any sense.

The story starts where I grew up, in a large suburb of a major southern city. Upper middle class type of crowd, keeping up with the joneses attitude, spoiled kids, big on high school sports, and very much an Orange County vibe if you are going by culture. Mostly white but a decent number of Asians, Indians, Persians, and some Latinos who were all well to do.

Ever since I could remember, my type has always been olive skinned brunettes or dark haired girls with lightly tanned skin, usually white. My first ever fap was to Shannon Elizabeth on American Pie who was also my first ever celebrity crush, pic below with complimentary gif…




They say familiarity breeds contempt and that describes my experience with my type in my youth. As a guy with black hair and tanned skin who gets told he looks like the current 49ers Quarterback Jimmy G a bit too often, I did great with blondes, pale girls, black girls, asian girls, and almost all types of women but my type. To make matters even more discouraging, I noticed all the good looking women of my type went with the blond haired Thad Castle All American types while guys like me ended up with blondes.

Time and time again, I got burned by my type and I had enough. After getting led on and teased hard by this Greek girl, I said enough was enough. I was not going to spend a second of my time going for my type if I get burned time and time again. I even spent time watching porn that had any kind of girl but my type in it. At the time I told myself that even if I do not ever fuck my type, I will still have lived a fulfilled life.

College came and I went for anything but my type, I still cannot decide if I was bitter or detached at the time. Laid an Asian, then a ginger, then a mixed girl, then a blonde, and then two pale brunettes. Life was just fine, I was getting laid and living the college experience, I was fulfilled.

Then it got to a point where my type became too hard to ignore, thanks to being in college I had to interact with them in classes, activities, events, and going out at night. Social circles are the lay of the land in college and some of the girls I fucked had my types in their social circles. I said to myself that I will just be detached by giving them one word answers and ending the interaction fast.

In my sophomore year, I met a girl a year ahead of me named Alexis in a philanthrophy I worked at. Alexis was an outspoken Arizona girl with a feisty temper who had the look for my type. She had black hair, high cheekbones, a tan, and looked fairly identical to Lezley Zenn (NSFW, pornstar). I act detached towards her at first but her domineering attitude was not having any of it, she called me out on it in front of others to where I had to warm up. We put our differences aside quick and after a couple months, ended up fucking and I even hit it raw, was the best sex I had to that date. Alexis and I would fuck throughout college and even a year after she graduated since she stuck around town.

After Alexis, I ran into a close friend of a blonde I used to fuck on the regular, it was this tall tanned Italian chick who had seen me in underwear with her friend. I took her home that same night I saw her a bar, what started as small talk turned into her feeling my biceps and then all I had to do was escalate.

A month after that, I met a raven haired tanned Romanian girl in class who was a part of some program, slipping my head at the time. We would talk in class but I never number closed and I was still keeping my mindset. I'd end the convos fast but noticed she was giving me attention with every class I had. One night I approach this redhead and find that it is her friend, end the night hitting it off more with the Romanian girl, we are making out but I cannot close. I meet up a week later for a date and it still doesn't happen. Get a text a few days later, I go over and smash.

I slowly started to take my type down from the pedestal but was meeting them through either friends of theirs or social activities. The first five girls I smashed of my type I never cold approached. My 6th was a milf in town who I did approach, she had an athletic body and was there for a sporting event. I take her to her hotel the same night and close, second place behind Alexis for the best sex I had and was my first ever milf.

Until the milf I had never approached my type but after her, I started doing it somewhat regularly.

In my freshman year, I had fucked no women of my type. In my sophomore year, it was 50/50. In my junior and senior years, I was only fucking my type. I usually met women through friends and through girls that were into me, social proof turns this shit into layups. At times when I needed my ego bruised because I was so high on life, I'd specifically approach my type hoping it be a rejection to humble me, it worked in my favor a good deal of times.

If I had to advice on it, I'd say.
  • Prejudice and all that stuff is real, women care, and there is not much you can do about it
  • Find fulfillment in your life first and promise yourself you'll be happy without your type
  • Do well with the women you can do well with because women talk
  • Find good reference points with your type that you can look back on positively
  • If you do not have good reference points, get em, even if it means seeing an escort who has that look
  • Approach women you actually feel comfortable approaching first
  • Think less, do more, and be happy with whatever happens
Even if I was to have only ended up fucking blondes or pale girls, I'd have still been okay with it.
 

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American Pie and muh nostalgia. For some reason I cannot describe, I used to find myself getting harder and having better faps before porn became readily available to the masses. Even though now I might watch anal, creampies, hardcores, and all that shit, it doesn't do it for me like seeing a Shannon Elizabeth or celeb in two piece playing a part in a retro movie and almost stripping naked. Even retro porn was better than the airbrushed crap they have today and I cannot be the only dude who feels that way.

Oh yeah we have to stay on topic.

I can relate too with the whole opposites attract stuff. Being a dude with pale skin but black hair, I draw in natural blondes like no one's business and redheads love the fuck out of me. Come to think of it, even women who can pass for my sisters are kind of into me too.

As for white women with tanned features, I too have seen that they can be quite racist but I think it is more cultural than biological. In European countries where that look is common such as the Balkans, Spain, Italy, and parts of Southeastern Europe; there is a strong far right movement compared to a Sweden or the UK. I've met English, Irish, and even midwestern American girls with that exact look who loved ethnic guys and darker skinned dudes.

In more image heavy cultures where whiteness is valued (Middle Eastern and Southern Europe), you will run into that as well.

I have met Russian, Irish, British, and American girls with that Megan Fox or Emily Ratajkowski look who went for ethnic guys and found them sexy. One Polish girl I was chatting with had that look and really wanted to fuck one of my Latino friends.

Just stay away from Italian, Spanish (from Spain), and Balkan women if you are not a blond haired blue eyed Hitler ideal though.
 

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That is so unconventional of a method that it might just weirdly and strangely work. What is weird is that NaturalMikey (RIP!) and Spezzura remarked on having the same exact problem, being darker featured white guys and struggling with swarthy brunettes the most. At one point, Mikey even considered bleaching his hair blonde so he could get a sexy brunette o_O. I had a chance to read 48 Laws of Power, I think this is the law they talk about.

Law 36: Disdain things you cannot have: ignoring them is the best revenge.

By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.

Now that I do look back on a struggle I faced with blonde bombshells many years ago, what turned it around for me mentally were a few things:
  • It became somewhat common for me to see Indian dudes with hot blondes
  • I started actually meeting hot blondes that were friendly
I think once those two things happened, it leaned the right way for me. I even remember being friends with a brown guy whose girlfriend was a hot blonde and they were really nice to me so that played a role too. My hiccups and limiting beliefs with hot blondes are out of the window and now lean more towards Latinas.

The mentality proposed seemed like sour grapes at first but the more I think of it, the more I realize that it isn't really that. It's more so being appreciative of the life you have and seeing the petty problem for what it really is, a petty problem. I think sometimes if this is one of the main things bothering me in life, I need to get more struggles.
 

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A closing statement I have for this thread is that very often, women who are not at the top of a sexual or beauty hierarchy are often the ones who care more about the outside factors that relate to things like say race. I have Asian friends who are cool guys far from the stereotype, who gives them the most shit? Asian American women trying to fit in with mainstream culture. White women who already embody that mainstream Barbie look are head over heels for these guys. Now come to find, as soon as they are getting the hot white girls, now the same whitewashed Asian girl who would not look twice at them is at times desperately trying to get with them.

The good news here is that very often, the whitewashed Asian girls who have that strong prejudice against my friends are not that good looking. I think I read somewhere that 7s have more insecurities and are actually tougher to game than 10s. One of the reasons is that 7s are likely the type that did things like get their hair bleached or put a ton into fitness while otherwise having plain facial features and the lack of genetics to make up for that looks gap. A 10 just had it all from the start and just wants people who bring good vibes and have value to offer.

You'll find that the 7s and women not at the top are a lot more insecure and acting out of those insecurities. Try to see some women for who they potentially are.

I even found this with certain white women who were insecure about not looking like the blonde haired cheerleader type which is the most desired look down south. Looking back at it, they probably avoided my swarthy ass because they had their own demons they were battling with and being with a more Aryan looking guy solved it for them. I just made the active decision to live my best life and go by the saying that those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind.

Before I knew it, they started falling from the skies, some shit you just can't put in words.
 

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Two things:

You have been asked by other staff members to start a journal for posts like this. We haven't changed our position. Please start a journal and put posts like this in it.

You are suffering from a limiting belief. I live in a medium size Mid-West city that has a major league university as our primary industry. Literally, people from all over the world live here. On my cul-de-sac, the majority is white, but two of the families are Asian and one is Indian. My kid's photos from school, girl scouts, and other parts of her child hood look like a United Colors of Benneton ad. The stores I shop at and restaurants I eat at are hugely multicultural. In my daily life, I regularly see ethnically mixed couples of every possible combination. One of our previous neighbors was a Korean guy whose wife was a natural blonde Mid-West farm girl. She quite literally grew up on a farm. The labs my kid has been a researcher in have people from all over the world in them, and couples of every possible combination. I see it on Facebook every time I check out her page.

The idea that certain girls are unavailable to you because of race or hair color or how hot they are is all in your head. You may need to up your game to get the hottest girls, but that is because they have more choices available to them, and just like you, they want the best they can possibly get.

You should look for articles on how to deal with limiting beliefs. And start a journal.
 

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So I have a dilemma here. As a guy with black hair, light brown skin, and brown eyes; I notice I attract a shitload of redheads, pale women, and natural blondes to me. I match with them a lot on dating apps, hit it off well with them at bars, my approaches are received better, and I even get treated better by them on a social level. Now I also have a good experience with black women who are really cool to me as well. White girls and black girls that are hot are really nice to me and I've even had instances where I might go out and they will give me more leeway on game, it's like I have special value in their eyes and start off on a good foot. At times I feel like white women are even nicer to me than they would be to a white guy, this is particularly true if she is pasty pale.

Here is my problem, I am sexually and physically attracted to Middle Eastern, Latina, and white women more on the tanned side. Black hair, light tan, and brown eyes is the type that really gets me going. Throughout my life though, I have had a very very bad experience with younger and attractive women in that group. I have noticed that the attitude is they take me for granted, tend to give a bad reception from the get go, I rarely match with them on dating apps, and on a social level I get treated like dirt by them (workplace, parties, etc.). I've even notice some who may add my white friend on social media while completely ignoring me if we both met and treat my friends who are white a lot better.

It has always felt like white and black women have wanted what is best for me and tend to want to increase my status from the get go while the kinds of women I am into want to put me in the worst circumstances. Like a white girl wants me to conquer and beat down some racist or bullying white guy while the kind of women I am into who are hot want me to continue to suffer. One side is pulling for me to have a great life while the other to have a miserable one, I can't explain my thoughts in one post.

I know that part of this is racial in the sense that a lot of these cultures look highly on white guys when it comes to sexual and attractive value and tend to look down on minorities in general, yet somehow everyone wants to paint America and the western world as the only racists. In many instances I have felt that they are the ones who actually stereotype me a lot, Latinas do it a lot less while Middle Eastern and Mediterranean women do it a lot.

The thing is I am one of those odd Desi guys who growing up was never that infatuated with the blonde bombshell, maybe at one point I wanted one as a trophy but not even that. My sexual attraction since I could first even get an erection was for women who looked like a Salma Hayek for example.

Lately, I've learned to teach myself to hate women who are Middle Eastern and Hispanic (I intend to vote Republican this year and have listened to a lot of Alt Right content often agreeing with them on the more draconian measures that need to be taken towards people in that part of the world), having romantic fantasies in my head of me with a blonde, redhead or black model. In the past year I have trained myself to be more patriotic towards America and hateful towards the part of the world my type are from.

My problem is, how do you completely get rid of the sexual attraction you might have towards your type?

I have watched more porn with blondes, black girls, redheads, and paler brunettes in recent months especially if they are solo work. At the same time though, the erection is a lot stronger when I look at a hot Latina pornstar or a more olive skin dark haired type.

Do I just give it more time and continue to watch more porn involving the kinds of women who have been nicer to me?
 

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Generally speaking without considering exceptions: Middle Eastern, Hispanic, and "ethnic" women as they call them tend to be insecure of their social standing than white girls who are usually more fulfilled in themselves and their own standing. Social ladder climbing is lower class behavior and at best used by B players in a social situation. The thing about it is that a lot of these ethnic girls will open up to you fast the second they see their white friends, who are higher status than them, going for you.

I get it though, the anger and frustration. As a darker featured white guy, I dealt with Caucasian women who were more on the tanned and ethnically ambiguous end as well as being hot go for blond haired or pasty pale guys in my youth. Even in certain parts of the world like Spain and the Mediterranean, women worship blond haired men and look down on the Cristiano Ronaldo lookalike.

A part of your shortcoming though is not just the sexual aspect of it, it is the egotistical aspect of it. You want to get these girls because they allude you, same with guys on here wanting to get girls who are tough to get or not initially attracted to you. A part of you wants to feel that conquest of getting a group of women that initially rejected you especially if you have always had a thing for them. You want the reality to almost be that these women secretly want you or for these women to come running to you the way white girls or black girls do.

So here is what you actually do, pedestalize the women who do love you which should be easy since white women are into you.

I mean you are fucking the world's envy right now, a beautiful white woman. Men in the home countries of these ethnic women would kill each other and even wreck their own families to sniff the toes of a beautiful blonde, think about that. You are doing well with the very woman these women themselves go to sleep every night envying. They bleach their hair, wear blue contacts, bleach their skin, and even go for the whitest looking guy in the hopes of sniffing the status of white girls.

You have the world's desire queen by your arms, let the peasants gossip :)
 

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I'm not disputing any of your observations about your interactions with various women, but could their response be that you are giving the women you like too much value, and those that you're not interested in you don't attached the same value to?

I used to be a typical "nice guy" in that as soon as a girl showed any kind of interest I didn't want to mess it up so would always try and please her and never put myself first. This shows weakness where as she wants a man who is confident and will take the lead. As soon as I changed my attitude and mind set results changed accordingly. It took some work for my mindset to evolve which also takes time. Then I've had to change my learnt behaviors. I still reflect on things I do and think "that's not in keeping with my new mindset" so it's still a work in progress but successful results affirm the changes.

Where the source of you showing different values to different women comes from is something you need to work through, but it always amazes me how inuatuvely women reflect the values that you want to see in them.
 

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In light of the bombshells / other posts:

1. Get your fundamentals tightened down HARD. The prettier a girl is, the more men are competing for her, and the better an option you MUST be. Specifically, you must tailor yourself to be the kind of man that SHE goes for, focusing on the qualities that you yourself have under your control. So, if you want to date a ghetto black girl and she mostly only goes for black thug guys, quit whining about how hard it is that you're some skinny white guy and go get as dirty and nasty and hood as you can - fix your accent, fix your walk, get muscles, get a couple of tattooed tears, get a little gold jewelry, or maybe a grill. OR, become one of the OTHER type she goes for - maybe she's the hood rat looking for a good man to get her out of the hood, or look for the subsection of ghetto girls who secretly long to explore the exotic world of well-dressed white men - then figure out where you can meet women like this. Find what she wants and become this, through and through. You don't want to change yourself for a woman? Tough. Just like there are women you want, and any woman who wants you is going to have to become that before you pay any attention to her at all, there are also men whom women want, and any man who wants their interest is going to have to become that before they pay him any mind.

Many guys who struggle with a particular niche simply lack a strong personal brand.

So this is great advice because your personal brand increases your overall impact. It gets you easy hookups with girls who like your brand. A well-crafted one may even remove barriers with girls. . . who don't think you're their type. . . but are nevertheless intrigued by your presentation.

Ask yourself what story, does the clothes you wear, tell each girl who sees you from afar? How about when you combine that. . . with the way you walk towards her? What about when you include how you speak. . . during your approach? Or even some of the words you use. And topics or themes you discuss . . . during your ensuing conversation? What about the venues you chose. . . when inviting women out on dates? Does their ambiance and inner decor match your presentation. . . or flow in tune with your process of seduction? How about your apartment, entertainment choice and bedroom? Part of seduction is inviting chicks into your world. . . so take the time to ask yourself if there is a sense of consistency inside it. And if there isn't you really should work towards establishing one. Because this will instantly distinguish and separate you. . . from the masses of nameless faceless guys she usually meets.

Determine which of the classic male identities suits your natural inclinations. . . and is attractive to the demographic you desire. Another aspect of this is if you are very good at lacing conversations with bait. Then you can even send mixed messages and work with a layered personal brand. . . while tempting her to unravel hidden aspects of your identity. Or you might decide to emphasize different ones. . . as you seduce hot girls from different demographics.

2. Next, devalue her looks. If you're mesmerized by women with tight bodies or bleached blonde hair or tattoos or whatever it is, there's an easy fix for getting over this: force yourself to evaluate women by face alone. Every time you catch yourself going, "OH my god... look at her heavenly buttocks! No woman with such bountiful buttocks would EVER date a man like me, whose buttocks are far less bountiful by comparison," give yourself a good knock on the head and force yourself to evaluate her by her face ALONE. Pretty amazing how even girls you froze up around before become EXTREMELY human when you're only looking at their faces. And, see past the makeup, too - big fake lashes and shiny lipstick and rouge on her cheeks all disappear overnight. So long as you are gasping for breath around a girl, sweating bullets, and falling all over yourself, you are shooting your own feet off with those girls. You need to get cool, inside and out, because no matter how hard you try to look cool on the outside, if you're a mess of nerves on the inside, it will show.

3. After this, look for other role models you can mimic. What other guys who are "like you" (whatever that means to you) do well with girls "like her" (again, whatever that means)? If you don't know any or can't find any examples, then you need to a.) get out more and meet more people, because trust me, I personally have met or heard a fair bit about just about every kind of man specializing in just about every kind of woman, and/or b.) move to a city that isn't population 10,000, where everyone's trapped in social circle and nobody's going to give you the opportunity to experiment much socially. If you still can't find any role models, tough cookies, go become a role model for other guys like you with the same preferences as you to follow.

Men typically become mesmerized by how a woman looks. It has been my experience that women become fascinated with narratives.

Girls across the board will latch onto just about any well-crafted narrative. As long as this narrative seems plausible to her. . . she will pour various forms of investment into it. This is how hot girls have sex with guys. . . who aren't good looking hunks. Its also why they make up a larger percentage of viewership for TV shows and social media sites. They often participate more actively in these pillars of mass media than men do too.

And when you tailor your personal brand to the demographic you desire. You cast yourself as one of the main characters in her social narrative.

4. Next, go build up lots of FEMALE FRIENDS like her, FIRST. No, don't just start approaching her. If she's this special, exotic, and wonderful to you still, you don't know anything about her and you won't connect with her. You need female friends of her sort first. Why? To get familiar with girls like her. What's she like? What are her interests? What does she talk about? What kind of men does she date? What kinds of guys does she cry over? What qualities does she detest and run away from? How does she spend her Saturday afternoons? What are her dreams in life? Why did she get that tattoo on the small of her back, or decide to start bleaching her hair, or putting in extensions? How come she has a little dog - why not a cat, or nothing? The goal here is to get to know this demographic of women SO well, that you are COMPLETELY comfortable around them, understand them inside and out, and can walk up to any girl like her with ease, thinking, "Oh, she's just like my friend," and know ALL the right buttons to push to get her interested in you. This feeds back into #1, because before you can become what she wants, you've got to KNOW what she wants.

5. Do it. Do it. Do it. But maybe someone can just tell you that one secret... that one little magic line that makes every conservative Asian girl wet, no matter how intimidating and scary you seem? Maybe someone can just give you that one facial expression that turns redheads from bored with you to insatiable for you? Perhaps, if you just ask enough times, SOMEONE will finally hand you the routine you need to run to at last excite those fiery Latinas who've heretofore treated you like you were invisible? Nope; sorry. There is NOTHING like that. Nothing. Nobody on Earth has it. I don't have it. No one else on this forum has it. Nobody else on any OTHER forum has it. No matter how many people you ask, how many times you ask it, or how many times you rephrase the question, there is no intravenous solution to becoming great with a subsection of women overnight. If you want to specialize, you must know your demographic INSIDE AND OUT. You must eat, breathe, and sleep interaction with her. You've got to spend every waking moment talking to her, laughing with her, interacting with her, flirting with her, and getting to know her innermost secrets. Only by spending enough TIME AROUND HER will you begin to morph your personality into what she and girls like her find most appealing.

This is a straight-forward path towards increasing your relatablity.

During your conversations with these female friends. . . pay very close attention to topics of interest. And the themes that form consistent emotional triggers for the girls in whatever demographic you want to bed. Then ask yourself. . . how you might incorporate these into your seductions.

Maybe you frame yourself as an authority figure in her hobbies and dreams. This is very easy to do. . . after you've already heard them dozens of times before. Perhaps you pace her reality with a social observation. . . you know she'll find interesting. If you want to prevent last minute resistance you can start with a relatable story. . . before steering the conversation towards new perspectives on uninhibited sexual experiences. Not to mention it will be far easier. . . for hot girls to match your sexual states after they feel connected to you. If you want a faster way to get this going then master elicitation.

I'm in the process of formulating a post that incorporates some of these ideas I've mentioned. . . into strategic frameworks for using seduction oriented topics. But yeah these are just some general tips I figured out and applied. . . during a bunch of my “I want to bed xyz type of hot girl” campaigns.
 
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Many guys who struggle with a particular niche simply lack a strong personal brand.

So this is great advice because your personal brand increases your overall impact. It gets you easy hookups with girls who like your brand.

Dear Girlschase members,

You like punk rock girls? Start having a needle up your ass. I mean nose! :p:p:p

Yeaaapppp. Using business terms is perfect and relatable too.
 

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I think the best way to control it is to just continue to consume a lot of porn or any kind of sexual content that involves the women you are trying to be attracted to. Last I checked, way more hot blondes in porn than there are Latinas or Arab women. Continue to consume content that centers around hot blondes and hot white girls, train yourself to zero in on your market. As the saying goes, those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind.

You are also on to something. The least racist areas of the US I have been to and most beneficial for "ethnic" dudes have been places that were mostly white and black. You had exotic value, women were curious, and people were nice to you. My Latino friend slayed hard in Wisconsin where most of the local populace was of German and Scandinavian descent.

Meanwhile, the coastal havens like San Francisco and LA for example are overloaded with self-hating insecure ethnic women who worship white guys and hate their own race. Los Angeles is notorious for having Asian, Latina, and Middle Eastern women that are hot and ignore men of their own race for flings.

I digress but IMO, disdain shit you can't have. Continue to consume alt right content and start to depedestalize and even dehumanize the women who have given you a tough time. Pedestalize and zero in on women who are good to you.
 

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How much of attraction is within your control? Didn't David DeAngelo say attraction isn't a choice? I know we are talking from men to women here not the other way around, but I don't know, for sure, what you can do to change who you go for?
 

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It would be cool if we could use voice messages in these comments. (Just a suggestion)
I really wanted to use one. It's all good tho


I hear you bro.


I used to have an internal bias/belief as well. But then I found a way to conquer it.

I know that we tend to think that the world outside of us is objective and absolute, but I've found that we control much more of it than we realise.. I don't wana start a whole new religion so..I'll just tell you this:


Here in Africa, I grew up with this weird idea that white girls wouldn't be into me...
even tho clearly throughout my life I've had a couple of them flirt with me and be quite interested.

Then I read this book called Psycho-Cybernetics by Dr Maxwell Maltz . Great book

Did the visualization thing he explained a certain way of how to do it


A couple days later I met some cute white girls while I was rapping and they invited me out to a bar with them...

now I've had much more interactions and sexual vibes with white girls and
so much to the point that I've found that white chicks are actually really fond of black guys or lightskin guys, (whatever you wana categorize my body as)

So this could probably help you, if you did that visualizing exercise he talks about,

but instead of seeing yourself hanging out with white chicks in a restaurant like I did, visualize yourself hanging out with Middle Eastern ladies.



Much love bro


*Imagine a bicep emoji inserted right here*


- Paul
 

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I don't think you can really control that, but you can diversify.

For instance I have the unfortunate preference for tall girls, including girls taller than me, that obviously sucks because women strongly prefer men to be taller than them.

What's the solution? Fuck girls taller than me who are otherwise less attractive, face body and so on, and then fuck girls shorter who are more attractive, otherwise.

This year I've been quite purposely alternating in general, fucking girls with a beautiful face but are kind of chubby then fucking girls with a great body but very mediocre face. All physical needs are met, and I'm not banging my head against the wall seeking the unattainable.
 

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I hear you brother.

You like tall girls? Good on you bruv, there's plenty of them around... I fancy asian chicks

I actually measured myself today, I'm 5'3

My previous gf was taller than me.
I've had hot tall girls try to get with me

Nothing is impossible bro. Where there's a will there's a way

Open yourself up to the possibility that a girl YOU might personally feel is "out of your league" , that it might be possible that she herself could even see YOU as "out of HER league" instead...

I've had this happen to me a couple times in the past...

one time that stood out for me was in an icecream shop, she spoke to me like it was love at first sight. Her face looked like it could have been on a vogue magazine cover.

I didn't even understand game at that time but I had a good vibe on that night... (back then that vibe was rare for me to have...but now because I've been working on myself, that same vibe that she was drawn to.. is now a vibe that I have almost everytime that I go out)

Think investment right.

There are no absolutes with attraction brother...it's all biological biases influenced by what we've invested in...even if it's just a plain rock that symbolizes a journey we've invested into obtaining it.

For an extreme example:
That's why we humans value worthless pieces of metal we call medals...

Their ONLY real value in medals, is in the fact that they are "HARD TO GET"...

it takes a true champ to have a certain kind of gold-coloured medal (even tho most aren't even real gold. Just a coinshaped thing, that someone had to sweat their ass off to own)

In the same way... if you learn how to allow hot girls (the tall ones that you like) to win you over, the more time and energy they invest in you, the more they will value you.

They can see you as their "medal" their "trophy"...that they love and adore and keep on earning and keep on working for...and they love it


Also, you can just become internally high status... also build up your reputation with different social circles (I did this in college, it works wonders bro)
You probably already know about preselection and social proof etc...

Just line up as many attraction points as you're willing to put the time and knowledge into lining up...

It's been quite worth it for me. I'm sure it would be for you too man


Don't identify with limiting beliefs (or "naive-realism" as Deepak Chopra puts it)....
all that truly limits us is the extent to which we are willing to take full responsibility for our results (but still being self-loving) and our level of self-belief...

You don't have to believe today that you can score absolute hotties...or be a prize in their eyes..

But you can just start with being open to that possibility that "it could happen for you" in a relaxed way..and continue to go about your day as you're learning game.


It starts from within brother... look for and ask yourself "HOW can I get what I want?" and stay away from "This is why it's not realistic"


If several different broke men can become selfmade billionaires (yes that's billion with a B!)... then you (from what it sounds like in your post I feel like you have a good understanding of game) you can most certainly get the girl of your dreams


Nothing is unattainable...



Just kaizen it...




- Paul
 
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Anything in life is possible, but not everything in life is possible.

Gold medal olympians are the perfect example. Yeah they fight and devote their energies and lives to a purpose and achieve and it really is a testament to the human spirit how much they can achieve.

Yet if one goes down that road the sacrifices in terms of social life hobbies and other elements of balance are immense. Yeah its worth it for that kind of glory, but it is a choice made.

Any man can get a very hot girl, or hot girls regularly if they care to, by becoming a dj or bartender or digital nomad and then devoting years of their life to tightening their game. But there are obvious sacrifices here, in terms of career, hobbies and other pursuits. It's a choice to make.

Of course, ultimately the best is to decide how much time and effort one wishes to devote to women, and then figure out, given these constraints, what is possible and then seek to achieve that, and maximise ones results and happiness in ones Sex life after the decision of priorities in life have beenmade
 
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