Tinder Game

BigPapa

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recently I discovered that I enjoy after a hard day at work to see girl profiles on tinder , you know swapping right and left , helps me relax a little bit

my question is this one though , I do not have problems with matching with at least cute girls , but the problem is that once I send a message nothing happens . Sure it is a big ego boost matching with no problems with above average girls , but it also sucks when they do not say anything back .

I usually open them with something from their bio , or just say something funny , or sometimes with a compliment , or sometimes I just say what I am doing and ask her back how her day looks like .I experimented quite a bit on This and nothing really gives any constant results .

the only one that has results in most of the cases is a stupid thing that I say “ do you know how much force is needed to turn olives in extra virgin oil ? “ then usually she says “no. How much ? “ and I just say “ have no clue either , anyhow just wanted to say hi :) “ and then nothing happens

I do not think is a fundamentals problem , since I get constant matches , but maybe something is wrong with my approach . I do also understand that women use it as a validation tool , but in the same time not really have any good results after the match makes me think that is something wrong with my approach .

what experience you guys have with this ? Did you ever experienced something similar with what I described ?
 

ElderPrice

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Not experienced with tinder. Just food for thought: she probably has 50 other matches texting her about her profile, or asking about her day, or a compliment, or anything standard like that... so you being guy #51 to message her something like that will be boring to her. Your olive oil example seems to possibly confirm that you'll get responses when you text something truly unusual, standing out from the crowd. But obviously you can't keep that going forever and it won't lead to the goal you want.

If I were in your position, I would try this: I would confidently get to the point. You two matched so you both obviously think each other is cute. It's tinder so you're both probably looking for quick sex. Don't hide that frame or position by doing things like asking about her day or her bland profile, especially knowing online app users have microscopic attention spans. I think my first message would be something like this:
"Hey FirstName, I'm going to be working at a coffee shop today. Join me and let's meet." Then if she agrees, grab her number, then text her the details later. I'd try it this way so if she flakes it doesn't affect my day at all.

Again, no experience here, just my two cents on what I would try if in your position.
 

BigPapa

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I tried also direct , but same result .

with the ones that I managed to have discussions with ,after A while they were complaining about the men on tinder like “ all they want is sex “ and other bullshit like that . I want to add though that this girls were below average most of them and I think the only reason that they were talking with me is because I was so out of the league that they just seized the chance to talk with me since I guess it Does not really happen to them so often .

The whole situation does not really make any sense to me to be frank , or maybe it is something that I am missing and someone outside the whole situation can pinpoint better what I am doing wrong
 
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BigPapa

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Update :

I was super liked , we matched , waited like 2h then messaged and nothing happened , like the rest .

dunno , for me tinder does not make any sense now ...

What are your guys thoughts ?
 

ChefDan

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Update :

I was super liked , we matched , waited like 2h then messaged and nothing happened , like the rest .

dunno , for me tinder does not make any sense now ...

What are your guys thoughts ?
Two years of using Tindr, I've only ever gotten two girls out on dates, and they weren't very attractive. I've matched with plenty of hot girls and gotten them into conversations but they have so much leverage (every dude likes them), it's effectively impossible to get a date with them.

I've been overtly sexual ("what's your number I want to put my hands on you") and gotten a number that almost turned into a date (I went too far and then backpedaled and she lost all respect.) I'll say to girls "I am sexually superior to most" and get them to reply with "oh really?" or "mmm?" but nothing pans out from there. Even very hot girls who never responded to my other messages replied when I said stuff like "Care to be my goth GF yet, bitch?" (she replied "ew no" but we talked back and forth for weeks after that) or "Be my pet" (she called me bold.)

While I'd also like some helpful Tindr tips because it could be an incredible resource, the market is so saturated with men liking every attractive woman, that it's pretty much like playing the lottery.

Best thing IMO you could do is play the bad boy and be direct from there. This will separate you from the rest if you stand out and are direct. Most guys will try to be clever and have a conversation. I think this wastes too much time and you should just be straightforward off the bat. Take my advice with a grain of salt. I have virtually no credence when it comes to Tindr.
 

BigPapa

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Well it is about getting a reaction First , then you move things forward .

surely what I am doing is not yielding any results so I will try to do what you said and see if I have any luck . Sounds like an interesting way of doing tinder business. Worst case scenario I will be in the same spot, so I have nothing really to loose :)
 

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What’s up dude

That would happen to me to. These girls just match for validation. Imagine a frat guy on tinder matches a hot girl hes gonna go for that pick up line or say let’s fuck. It’s validation for girls.

They’ve got like 100 matches a second man it’s insane. You’re competing with everyone out there. And they’re getting bombarded with messages. A girls tinder life span is 2 weeks normally.

But this is what I’ve found out from personal experience from using tinder for 2.5 years.

jan - feb is when that whole relationship season is coming to an end, but some girls are interested in meeting up.
March, April, May - i would say dead period, just cuz of weird holidays, exams, yeah
May- it explodes for matches, girls getting out of school come back home, girls move to city for internship, new job, just graduated, it’s awesome
June, July, August, - some to little success.
August September October November December-
Wowowow matches come in like crazy and girls are super responsive. It’s like it all happens at once. School starts, fall starts, people come to city for new job, people come for holidays. But December is probably the best month.

you’ve gotta change the opener,like you’ve gotta believe what you say it’s weird but the girls can sense that energy
 

BigPapa

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I was thinking about the same thing and was afraid that I was looking for excuses haha

guess have to go more direct in my opener , it is not like I have too many things to loose
 

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the compliment opener never worked for me, but I think what you’re doing and commenting about their profile is good, you should try hinge, i think the girls are cuter and respond better and it works with what you’re doing, talking about their profile
 

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Theres 4 types of tinder girls

-1: Girls who wanna fuck right away (doesnt want a chatter at all, and if they do, just a small one)
-2: Girls who want a relationship
-3: Girls who wants attention (like showing their girlfriends they have 1000+ likes from hot guys)
-4: Girls who wastes your time (theyre just chatting to many random guys to waste time)

If your going for the 1st type of girls, just go sexually aggressive while showing sexual COMPETENCE, because obviously, they would want good sex, and not fuck with guys who cant provide that.

Just text them: "wanna skip running around the bushes and get to the point? your just as fucking sexy as me and i want you on every position"
 

Michal

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I used online apps quite extensively in a period from like 2014 to 2018. Tinder seemed best for me, okcupid did not have that many girls in my area and badoo had really poor quality of girls. My usage was like 95% Tinder, 4.9% okc, 0.1% badoo.

I always did the "pick something from her profile". Either bio, photos, pics linked from her insta. And it worked some times or ended with no response other times just like you. While it's very possible that sometimes I sent something really stupid (like "Hello X, the dog is happily smiling, it must mean you take good care of him"), I would say timing was a big factor. I got responses around 8 to 9 am, then sometimes after or lunch but generally the evenings (6pm and then like 21pm) seemed like best times.

The older I got, the less success I had tbh. Dunno why. I tried couple of times with my 2015 pics and it was not the same (most likely due to being out of their filter range). One girl told me I seem like a guy who sees lots of girls. I asked her why, but I do not remember the exact answer. Only something along the line of "you across like that". I just remember I started to be more direct with certain girls and it seemed to be better and I got a bit higher reply rate. I would argue that most people in my country do not view it as a sex app. It's more like - what you look for, you will find. I had a relationship off of that. Some quick 2nd date sex sessions. Or it took like 2 months from 1st message till 1st meet and we ended in bed on 2nd date 1 week later.

I consider it oversaturated. Timing plays a big role, you need fantastic profile nowadays, a message that catches attention and is FUN. And you need to keep it fun, I never had much success going into the "get to know each other" talk. Like I messaged her "Hi X, batman socks huh? Now I know who you root for in BvS :)" and she replied like 15 seconds later. Said yes, asked whether I like Superman. I said I like both. And asked why she prefers batman over superman. And never heard from her. A lot of convos ended after my 2nd message. So if you want to pick something from her profile, pic something that other guys do not pick up on, is fun but you can actually transition from it. Like of a girl has heterochromia, do not comment on that. 80% of the guys do that. 15% send hey or hi. 2% does not even message her and rest tries to be original. We hear hoe guy nowadays send hi, hey or how are you and I doubt that is the case. Everything is more competetive nowadays and guys use lots of tools to get ahead.

I had basic opener when she had absolutely nothing in her profile. Which went like Hey X, welcome to Michal's. Will you be eating or just drinks? And it got me replies in like 70% of the time. Super hot girls with 100 dicks messaging them just replied "vodka thx" or something like that. Cute ones ranged. However, I still believe that no matter how stupid your message is.. if she wants to talk and connect with you, she will reply. But she gets bombarded with lots of guys (saw a video how a 6/10 girl made herself look like a 8.5/10 in the pictures and she had like 1400 likes just in the first hour). It' a numbers game^n. The generic messages might be generic and girls can see through that, but the idea is also that it is easier to run through the convo. Because you used it couple hundred times and know all kinds of answers girls have. While mentioning her horse, sweater, snowboard.. always something unique. Probably once or twice. In that case, the subtext matters. Like that famous infamous "I see you like horses. Well it's your lucky day because you just found yourself a stallion :)" which is cocky and a bit sexual. While my batman socks example is more neutral and more on likes/dislikes.

So I would say experiment. Try other openers.
 

naturalmikey

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first things first separate yourself from every other guy before the first message. i’ve made my name lucifer and had a bio “i am literally the devil and i will steal you’re fucking soul.” most recently i used my real name and my bio was “sometimes i’ll do something and think that’s so raven. other times i’ll do something and think that’s not very raven at all.”

if you’re getting matches there are two strategy i find work. one is i go really slow. that’s the strategy. i say something that relates to her profile then move slow. if she responds quickly i try to get her to meet then. this is how i have the most success. go for the number after like three messages then go for the meet.
 

naturalmikey

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here’s an example of a conversation where i got a girl to come over. she was one of those chicks who has her cashapp on her bio.

“i just sent you one billion rupees but due to foreign exchange regulations it won’t show up until monday. you’re gonna have to take my word for it”

“haha, okay thanks”

“well the least you can do is give me your phone number now geesh. luckily i have fat stacks of indian cash”

“haha oh yeah?
470.xxx.xxxx”

then

“x it's y. i have to be honest i don't have a single rupee. i don't have a whole lot of american dollars either lol”

then a bunch of silly nonsense and she came straight over. be unique and funny and lead
 
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