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I ask this question because I don't think I've ever met a guy who was able to consistently pull hot girls. Sure in high school there were guys who ended up with the more attractive girls, but thats just a big social circle and the best any guy would do was get a hot girlfriend and an occasional hookup. Even the guys who got with girls from other schools it was just through social circle connections/parties/being in the right place at the right time (with the right fundamentals). Same thing in college, even in college bars or parties there would be few guys approaching (even if every approach was warm in this context) it was all just people interacting in groups and most guys just drank, socialized and hoped they'd situationally end up with a girl through people they already knew. In fact the more I think about it, it seems like most of these hookups I've observed in social circle were initiated by the girl (the girl telling her friends she's going for this guy and everyone going along with it; with the guy just having to take rather obvious hints), its rare I see a guy in social circle pursuing the girl and not the other way around (not sure if this is a gen-z phenomenon or this is just how most social-circle hookups work).
Now in post-education city life its the same thing. Most normal guys are in relationships always, and when they get single they download dating apps which go nowhere until they meet a girl by luck through work or social circle. Even in bars I feel like I'm the only one cold approaching, attractive girls are even sometimes confused (pleasantly surprised if they like me) wondering if they know me from somewhere because thats the only reason people chat with each other seemingly. When going out with attractive female friends, they might get approached once or twice by an older guy, never someone close to their age. I once asked an extremely attractive girl who I was/am platonic friends with how often she gets approached and she said never (and she actively goes out to parties and clubs or at least did at the time). Some guys get with a lot of decent girls from dating apps, but they are all just ok looking, trashy, or batshit crazy. But I've yet to meet a guy with enough game to pull hot girls with any level of consistency, outside of unique and temporary social-circle situations. And even those who you think would be pulling hard from their social standing e.g. top athletes at uni, coolest guy in frat, or semi-famous local still only get laid (with a girl you'd want to fuck sober) occasionally outside of relationships.
Could this be a gen-z thing? Are naturals just super super rare (less than 1% of male population) and I just happen not to know any? It seems to me at least like this type of guy for whatever reason doesn't naturally arise anymore.
Now in post-education city life its the same thing. Most normal guys are in relationships always, and when they get single they download dating apps which go nowhere until they meet a girl by luck through work or social circle. Even in bars I feel like I'm the only one cold approaching, attractive girls are even sometimes confused (pleasantly surprised if they like me) wondering if they know me from somewhere because thats the only reason people chat with each other seemingly. When going out with attractive female friends, they might get approached once or twice by an older guy, never someone close to their age. I once asked an extremely attractive girl who I was/am platonic friends with how often she gets approached and she said never (and she actively goes out to parties and clubs or at least did at the time). Some guys get with a lot of decent girls from dating apps, but they are all just ok looking, trashy, or batshit crazy. But I've yet to meet a guy with enough game to pull hot girls with any level of consistency, outside of unique and temporary social-circle situations. And even those who you think would be pulling hard from their social standing e.g. top athletes at uni, coolest guy in frat, or semi-famous local still only get laid (with a girl you'd want to fuck sober) occasionally outside of relationships.
Could this be a gen-z thing? Are naturals just super super rare (less than 1% of male population) and I just happen not to know any? It seems to me at least like this type of guy for whatever reason doesn't naturally arise anymore.

